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  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    I asked first.
  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    edited April 2018
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    I asked first.
    lol at the """"""""NEW""""""" Forum Comedian :lol:
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  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    edited April 2018
    RogueStoner said:
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    That Exam was important to you, wasn't it? Was it a gynecological exam of some kind? 

    :rofl:


    Nice to see such an Important and Serious subject be made a mockery...

    How would you like it when your Partner confides in someone else and not you OffSheGoes35?...how would you like it???...answer that question???

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  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Dude, she made a joke and then asked a legit question respectfully.  It seems unfair to put your reaction on her.

    Based on the many posts you've made about your ex, perhaps you tend to dwell on certain things, words, actions?  All of this could be a wonderful opportunity to learn about yourself.

    Just a friendly suggestion.
  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    edited April 2018
    hedonist said:
    Dude, she made a joke and then asked a legit question respectfully.  It seems unfair to put your reaction on her.

    Based on the many posts you've made about your ex, perhaps you tend to dwell on certain things, words, actions?  All of this could be a wonderful opportunity to learn about yourself.

    Just a friendly suggestion.

    I appreciate your input Hedo...but it seemed to put a mockery on it...I mean how would She like it if her Partner confided in some one else about a Serious matter???

    So having your Partner confide in you instead of someone else is being obsessive???...wtf???...and that's a Serious Question?

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  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    By your Logic OffSheGoes35...your partner confides in other People and not you otherwise that's being Obsessive...
  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    edited April 2018

    What to have for Dinner hehe

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  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    edited April 2018
    So OffSheGoes35...if your Partner confides in you...that means you're being obsessive???...because that's "EXACTLY" what you said...
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    i_lov_it said:
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    I asked first.
    lol at the """"""""NEW""""""" Forum Comedian :lol:
    Thank you. That really means a lot to me. I try really hard.
  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    edited April 2018
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    i_lov_it said:
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    I asked first.
    lol at the """"""""NEW""""""" Forum Comedian :lol:
    Thank you. That really means a lot to me. I try really hard.
    I actually have to admit...you do a *****GOOD***** Job at it...
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  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    So OffSheGoes35...if your Partner confides in you...that means you're being obsessive???...because that's "EXACTLY" what you said...
  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    I'm sorry about the joke, that doesn't really start a good discussion.

    I wouldn't like it if my partner confided in someone else. Did you ask her why she was doing that?
  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    OffSheGoes35 said:
    I'm sorry about the joke, that doesn't really start a good discussion.

    I wouldn't like it if my partner confided in someone else. Did you ask her why she was doing that?

    The Joke I can handle...I'm Australian we like sarcasm and Jokes...just the rest of the part which was really uncalled for...

    I did call her up on it...but She couldn't give me a Straight answer...it just really hurt me...because your Partner shouldn't be treating you that way...

  • OffSheGoes35
    OffSheGoes35 Posts: 3,517
    I have had partners who didn't confide in me so much. It does really hurt when you aren't the go-to confidant with the person who means the most to you. I just hope that you can keep up the search until you find someone with whom you can share that kind of intimacy. Are you going to be okay?
  • northerndragon
    northerndragon Posts: 9,851
    https://youtu.be/eoDDnOUKDQI
    Anything you lose from being honest
    You never really had to begin with.


    Sometimes it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,977
    edited April 2018
    i_lov_it said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    i_lov_it said:
    jnimhaoileoin said:
    i_lov_it said:
    hedonist said:
    i_lov_it said:
    Why would your Partner get another Guy a Birthday Present on the same day of his Birthday and yet get yours a week later?...the same guy who She claims is 'Funny' and who 'She likes'...also the same Guy who she spoke with about her exam behind my back???...also the same Guy she was messaging half of the time when we were having romantic time together...
    Do you think there's anything you can do - for your own sake - to let some of this go?  I ask only because you've mentioned it many times recently, and I know how toxic it can be to cling to personal baggage vs. finding a way to release it...to set yourself free of its weight, even bit by bit.  I hope you can find that place, and more importantly, your peace.
    Thank you for your advice Hedo...it took me awhile to realise it...it's not easy I mean at the time you try to ignore it and push it to the side...I mean She didn't even get me a Birthday Present last year...and on top of this talking to some Guy behind my back about an important Exam and yet not me...and messaging that same Guy while we're having romantic time together...I suppose I got my answer then doesn't make it easy though...
    I'm with Hedo, I don't think bringing it up here and cross-posting on multiple threads is healthy for you. I understand you're trying to process the breakdown of this relationship but I don't think rehashing all the ways she mistreated you is going to help you move on. Clearly you're better off without her and you know that now, so don't let her take up so much of your headspace
    Thank you for your Good advice...it's actually helped me a lot...I just can't believe I was stupid enough to be Fooled by her...
    Love often makes people do stupid things. It's a fact for billions of people. Don't be so hard on yourself! :)

    You mean even if it means being used...strung along and being played for a fool?

    I know what you mean...and ok I will try...it's not easy though...thanks for your kind words :)

    Yes, even then. It's not a crime to let love blind you to some mistreatment. It's called wearing rose coloured glasses and/or ignoring red flags, and lots of people fall victim to this. I know I have. It's just human of you. The good thing is that with each mistake like this, you learn a lesson and bring it into your next relationship. Every relationship is a learning experience. So just think of it like that, and maybe you won't feel so bad. :) Seriously, stop beating yourself up about it. She's the one who did something wrong, not you!
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,977
    edited April 2018
    i_lov_it said:
    hedonist said:
    Dude, she made a joke and then asked a legit question respectfully.  It seems unfair to put your reaction on her.

    Based on the many posts you've made about your ex, perhaps you tend to dwell on certain things, words, actions?  All of this could be a wonderful opportunity to learn about yourself.

    Just a friendly suggestion.

    I appreciate your input Hedo...but it seemed to put a mockery on it...I mean how would She like it if her Partner confided in some one else about a Serious matter???

    So having your Partner confide in you instead of someone else is being obsessive???...wtf???...and that's a Serious Question?

    To be totally serious... I don't know how jealous you were before she spoke to someone else about an exam, but word to the wise: a woman can confide in whomever she likes, and women have more than one reason to confide in someone other than their partner, and most of them are not nefarious reasons. Perhaps you had a good reason to not trust her, and it sounds like it was a bad relationship either way, but the way you're hung up on her talking to another person about something... I just hope you're not going to carry this to future relationships, where you think your GF can't confide in other people when she sees fit, particularly when it's not something personal and confidential... you know, like an exam. Doing that and being unfaithful are often two very different things. It is NEVER good in a relationship when someone starts feeling possessive. 
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    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 15,108
    .... one more day in....hell


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    edited April 2018
    What to have to eat...
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  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    edited April 2018
    PJ_Soul said:
    i_lov_it said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    i_lov_it said:
    jnimhaoileoin said:
    i_lov_it said:
    hedonist said:
    i_lov_it said:
    Why would your Partner get another Guy a Birthday Present on the same day of his Birthday and yet get yours a week later?...the same guy who She claims is 'Funny' and who 'She likes'...also the same Guy who she spoke with about her exam behind my back???...also the same Guy she was messaging half of the time when we were having romantic time together...
    Do you think there's anything you can do - for your own sake - to let some of this go?  I ask only because you've mentioned it many times recently, and I know how toxic it can be to cling to personal baggage vs. finding a way to release it...to set yourself free of its weight, even bit by bit.  I hope you can find that place, and more importantly, your peace.
    Thank you for your advice Hedo...it took me awhile to realise it...it's not easy I mean at the time you try to ignore it and push it to the side...I mean She didn't even get me a Birthday Present last year...and on top of this talking to some Guy behind my back about an important Exam and yet not me...and messaging that same Guy while we're having romantic time together...I suppose I got my answer then doesn't make it easy though...
    I'm with Hedo, I don't think bringing it up here and cross-posting on multiple threads is healthy for you. I understand you're trying to process the breakdown of this relationship but I don't think rehashing all the ways she mistreated you is going to help you move on. Clearly you're better off without her and you know that now, so don't let her take up so much of your headspace
    Thank you for your Good advice...it's actually helped me a lot...I just can't believe I was stupid enough to be Fooled by her...
    Love often makes people do stupid things. It's a fact for billions of people. Don't be so hard on yourself! :)

    You mean even if it means being used...strung along and being played for a fool?

    I know what you mean...and ok I will try...it's not easy though...thanks for your kind words :)

    Yes, even then. It's not a crime to let love blind you to some mistreatment. It's called wearing rose coloured glasses and/or ignoring red flags, and lots of people fall victim to this. I know I have. It's just human of you. The good thing is that with each mistake like this, you learn a lesson and bring it into your next relationship. Every relationship is a learning experience. So just think of it like that, and maybe you won't feel so bad. :) Seriously, stop beating yourself up about it. She's the one who did something wrong, not you!
    Thank you for your great advice PJ_Soul I really appreciate it...very well said too :)
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