The hard work of surviving emotional depression and anxiety.

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  • Winnipeg Posts: 39,458
    I finally made an appointment with a therapist. I know it seems like such a simple step but I’ve been avoiding this for a very long time. But I’m ready and willing to learn and do the work required to cope and perhaps heal some day. This time, the moment I felt my depression lift in the slightest, I forced myself to start doing the things that help...exercise, eat better, spend time outdoors, etc. Yesterday was bad but overall, I’m feeling better each day. I’m hopeful. 

    Great timing with this thread, Brian. Thanks. :)
    fantastic news. Awesome. 
    Hugh Freaking Dillon is currently out of the office, returning sometime in the fall




  • Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    edited February 2018
    brianlux said:
    Wise words, my friend.  The woman I worked with at our local college's Human Services department taught the concept of helping a person "pick up their own penny". 

    She discovered this metaphor one day while on a picnic with her young niece.  She notice the little girl was sitting near a penny that was on the lawn and she knew the girl would be thrilled to find the penny.  She thought, "I could pick up the penny and give it to the girl but she would be so much more happy if she discovered it on her own."  So she coaxed the girl closer to the penny and when the girl noticed it, she picked it up and with a gleam in her eye exclaimed, "Look!  I found a penny!".  The girl found the penny on her own rather than simply having it handed to her.  She had the confidence of making a discovery one her own (with unspoken subtle guidance from her aunt).

    So this instructor then used that metaphor for helping people find solutions to their difficulties.  She showed how it is far more valuable for a person to "pick up their own penny" than it is to have someone simply offer a prescribed solution.  That kind of counseling is more difficult, but far more effective.
    Very nice metaphor.
    To add to that, the person fixing themselves will feel more empowered and develop a sense of control over their circumstances.
    Both which are vital to overcoming depression and anxiety and any other mental disorder.
    Having a sense of not having control leads to apathy, learned helplessness and ultimately depression.
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  • Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    dankind said:
    The Catcher in the Rye and "A Perfect Day for Bananafish" come to mind.
    Bananafish!  Man, what a story!
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    Very nice metaphor.
    To add to that, the person fixing themselves will feel more empowered and develop a sense of control over their circumstances.
    Both which are vital to overcoming depression and anxiety and another other mental disorder.
    Having a sense of not having control leads to apathy, learned helplessness and ultimately depression.
    Yeah!  For sure.  Well said!
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • Brigadoon, foodie capital Posts: 4,130
    Bumping this because it IS hard work, sometimes literally.
    People wonder why I run so much; I tell them I am like a shark, I have to keep moving.
    I went for a run today, 10+ miles, sunny, beautiful day. I came home and as my heart rate dropped, so did my mood.
    All those who seek to destroy the liberties of a democratic nation ought to know that war is the surest and shortest means to accomplish it.
  • Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    Bumping this because it IS hard work, sometimes literally.
    People wonder why I run so much; I tell them I am like a shark, I have to keep moving.
    I went for a run today, 10+ miles, sunny, beautiful day. I came home and as my heart rate dropped, so did my mood.
    Good job curmudgeon- movement is life!  I have to move a lot to day to keep on track.
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • Posts: 14,887
    edited March 2018
    Bumping this because it IS hard work, sometimes literally.
    People wonder why I run so much; I tell them I am like a shark, I have to keep moving.
    I went for a run today, 10+ miles, sunny, beautiful day. I came home and as my heart rate dropped, so did my mood.
    Truth. Why must we struggle 24 hrs a day. I for one am on the ledge as i sway with the wind ... which way to fall windowsill
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  • None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    This is a great thread ...

    i went through anxiety and depression program...

    this is correct, a pill alone will not solve the problem, people who suffer from anxiety and depression need counselling and CBT education.

    suffering from these ailments are treatable ... but only if you trust the process.  

    It it is hard work suffering from mental health issues, there still to much stigma attached, like we choose to have anxiety and depression, we don’t choose...we learn to cope, it’s a daily struggle for me...even worse for me, in the last 6 years I lost my mother, brother, am off work on long term unpaid leave due to a disability that I’m currently fighting my insurance company to get my rightful benefits that I paid into for 20+ years, then I was hit by a car while crossing the street in December and then on New Years Eve my left me...yes,  pathetic I know, I’m not looking for sympathy.  Im just so grateful that my father has been there for me.  I do not have a big social life...odd as it sounds, I prefer solitary hobbies...

    the op is so correct, it is hard work, in my case hard work wasn’t enough, but I’m going to keep trying my best, I’m far from perfect, I’ll admit it...we all are, all we ca do is try...


    Give Peas A Chance…
  • Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    This is a great thread ...

    i went through anxiety and depression program...

    this is correct, a pill alone will not solve the problem, people who suffer from anxiety and depression need counselling and CBT education.

    suffering from these ailments are treatable ... but only if you trust the process.  

    It it is hard work suffering from mental health issues, there still to much stigma attached, like we choose to have anxiety and depression, we don’t choose...we learn to cope, it’s a daily struggle for me...even worse for me, in the last 6 years I lost my mother, brother, am off work on long term unpaid leave due to a disability that I’m currently fighting my insurance company to get my rightful benefits that I paid into for 20+ years, then I was hit by a car while crossing the street in December and then on New Years Eve my left me...yes,  pathetic I know, I’m not looking for sympathy.  Im just so grateful that my father has been there for me.  I do not have a big social life...odd as it sounds, I prefer solitary hobbies...

    the op is so correct, it is hard work, in my case hard work wasn’t enough, but I’m going to keep trying my best, I’m far from perfect, I’ll admit it...we all are, all we ca do is try...


    Oh man, Meltdown, you've had more than your fair share of hard knocks!  I'm sorry to hear that.  I admire your tenacity in doing the hard work to cope with depression and anxiety and the wisdom to learn how.  That's great that you father has stuck by your side.  Good man!

    I totally agree that counseling is a wise course of action.  I am cautious, however, about counselors in general.  I've had counselors that range from great (especially learning about client-centered therapy with good coping methods being the key) to fair (nice, well meaning people who had limited skill) to terrible (a psychiatrist who guessed that my hearing issues are a form of schizophrenia- which they are not and gave me these meds, then sent me on my way.  The meds spaced me out super badly and on the way back to where I was staying, I very nearly drove off a very high cliff.  The next time I saw him I started talking about how upset I was that my then wife suddenly split on me and he yelled at me saying, "I don't want to talk about that!".  I told him to fuck off and went out slamming the door behind me.)

    So kudos, Meltdown, for hanging in there and keeping at it.  I hope things are getting better for you.  It sounds to me like you deserve that!
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    brianlux said:
    Oh man, Meltdown, you've had more than your fair share of hard knocks!  I'm sorry to hear that.  I admire your tenacity in doing the hard work to cope with depression and anxiety and the wisdom to learn how.  That's great that you father has stuck by your side.  Good man!

    I totally agree that counseling is a wise course of action.  I am cautious, however, about counselors in general.  I've had counselors that range from great (especially learning about client-centered therapy with good coping methods being the key) to fair (nice, well meaning people who had limited skill) to terrible (a psychiatrist who guessed that my hearing issues are a form of schizophrenia- which they are not and gave me these meds, then sent me on my way.  The meds spaced me out super badly and on the way back to where I was staying, I very nearly drove off a very high cliff.  The next time I saw him I started talking about how upset I was that my then wife suddenly split on me and he yelled at me saying, "I don't want to talk about that!".  I told him to fuck off and went out slamming the door behind me.)

    So kudos, Meltdown, for hanging in there and keeping at it.  I hope things are getting better for you.  It sounds to me like you deserve that!
    Thank you Brian...as you know it’s not easy.  
    Give Peas A Chance…
  • Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    Thank you Brian...as you know it’s not easy.  
    No problem- hey, I get it.  Hang in there, man.
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
  • Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    Bumping this because it IS hard work, sometimes literally.
    People wonder why I run so much; I tell them I am like a shark, I have to keep moving.
    I went for a run today, 10+ miles, sunny, beautiful day. I came home and as my heart rate dropped, so did my mood.
    Yes I agree with you curmudgeoness moving and exercise are so Important both Physically and Mentally...Nice work hope you are doing Good :)
  • Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    That's pretty amazing and addresses something I have thought about for a long time.  I have often thought, "If only there we some way to tweak some of the neurons in my brain."  I've thought about this in regard to five specific conditions I struggle with: tinnitus, hyperacusis, vertigo, anxiety and depression.  The question is, how long before this fiber optics technique will be fully developed and how successful will it be.  Hard to say, but it sounds hopeful.
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    brianlux said:
    That's pretty amazing and addresses something I have thought about for a long time.  I have often thought, "If only there we some way to tweak some of the neurons in my brain."  I've thought about this in regard to five specific conditions I struggle with: tinnitus, hyperacusis, vertigo, anxiety and depression.  The question is, how long before this fiber optics technique will be fully developed and how successful will it be.  Hard to say, but it sounds hopeful.
    I was in an anxiety program this past summer, the nurse I was dealing with swift the university of Michigan were also working better ways to diagnose depression and anxiety and better ways to to know if your  brain chemicals are messed up.  I’m just paraphrasing what she said, hope the info is correct.


    Give Peas A Chance…
  • Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,662
    I was in an anxiety program this past summer, the nurse I was dealing with swift the university of Michigan were also working better ways to diagnose depression and anxiety and better ways to to know if your  brain chemicals are messed up.  I’m just paraphrasing what she said, hope the info is correct.


    So good to know there are people working on this issue.  We could use the help.
    "It's a sad and beautiful world"
    -Roberto Benigni

  • None Of Your Business... Posts: 10,739
    brianlux said:
    So good to know there are people working on this issue.  We could use the help.
    I agree...
    Give Peas A Chance…
  • Posts: 1,226
    With heroin problems,car accidents and loss of time with my children i feel the time has come for me to step up to the plate. 

    Praying for a home run. 

    Really could be the time i just have faith no matter what. 

    Honestly my name isn't Kevin
  • Brigadoon, foodie capital Posts: 4,130
    i_lov_it said:
    Yes I agree with you curmudgeoness moving and exercise are so Important both Physically and Mentally...Nice work hope you are doing Good :)

    I've read several articles over the past week talking about how good exercise -- running in particular -- is for managing depression. There's a story in the latest Runners World, I read about a study on the effects of exercise on depression the other day. and today there's an essay in Slate about managing anxiety and depression through running.

    As I noted when I shared the Slate article today, and as I've noted before on my blog, I've never had a doctor ask me about my exercise habits (I have some chronic health issues, so I see doctors pretty regularly). They'll ask about drinking, smoking, drugs, and they're obsessed with weighing me (I am not and never have been overweight), but they never, ever ask about exercise. If I admit to having issues with depression, they will offer me meds; they do not ask me how I am managing my depression. If I tell them how much I exercise, it's pretty clear that they are not listening and/or comprehending (I work out, hard, for 18-20 hours/ week; this elicits a reaction from most people, LOL).

    On Instagram last week, I wrote: When people ask me why I run so much, I say: Because I can. And because I have to. Today, it took me eight miles to get the anxiety and depression under control. I ran the remaining few miles because I could.

    And, obviously, this isn't something that is unique to me. There are a lot of people out there who are wrangling their personal demons through exercise/ physical activity.

    I also find that there is regular, difficult, mental "work" (effort) required to conquer these things. I liken it to shoveling coal into a furnace; I am always shoveling. If I stop, my mood drops. I'm hoping that, with training, my mood will not require constant maintenance.
    All those who seek to destroy the liberties of a democratic nation ought to know that war is the surest and shortest means to accomplish it.
  • Posts: 1,226
    Shyner said:
    With heroin problems,car accidents and loss of time with my children i feel the time has come for me to step up to the plate. 

    Praying for a home run. 

    Really could be the time i just have faith no matter what. 

    Honestly my name isn't Kevin
    Honestly my name is kevin

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