Dying alone

Thoughts_Arrive · January 2018

http://www.theage.com.au/world/so-many-japanese-people-die-alone-theres-an-industry-devoted-to-cleaning-up-after-them-20180125-h0obbc.html

Pretty sad.
It's happened here in Australia and I take it around the world.
I fear this is what will happen to me when I am older as I am single, not many friends, disconnected from my family.

Spiritual_Chaos · January 2018

Are you single and 75 years old?

Otherwise there are a bunch of Pearl Jam shows ahead where you will find mr/mrs Right. Who will clean up after your dead body

Thoughts_Arrive · January 2018

single and 33.
Can't afford concert right now.

Spiritual_Chaos · January 2018

Thoughts_Arrive said:

single and 33.
Can't afford concert right now.

-84? I'm also single and 33...

rgambs · January 2018

My buddy who is 32 is cleaning up right now, he's got a list of recently divorced ladies age 40 or so vying for his attention.
Get them cougars Thoughts_Arrive!

hedonist · January 2018

It surely is sad (perhaps I'm mistaken, but I thought that the Asian culture, much like middle-Easterners, typically look after their older parents), but to worry about this for yourself...at 33?

There is life to be lived; it helps to find reasons to do so than to be self-defeatist and say why you can't (or won't?).

rgambs · January 2018

hedonist said:

It surely is sad (perhaps I'm mistaken, but I thought that the Asian culture, much like middle-Easterners, typically look after their older parents), but to worry about this for yourself...at 33?

There is life to be lived; it helps to find reasons to do so than to be self-defeatist and say why you can't (or won't?).

I think what Hedo means to say is, GET THEM COUGARS BUD!
But I could be wrong

hedonist · January 2018

rgambs said:

hedonist said:

It surely is sad (perhaps I'm mistaken, but I thought that the Asian culture, much like middle-Easterners, typically look after their older parents), but to worry about this for yourself...at 33?

There is life to be lived; it helps to find reasons to do so than to be self-defeatist and say why you can't (or won't?).

I think what Hedo means to say is, GET THEM COUGARS BUD!
But I could be wrong

Image: https://www.e-know.ca/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/cougar.jpg

tempo_n_groove · January 2018

I'll die alone. Or maybe with a cat?

I'll die with my PJ socks though. I'll always have those, lol!

Thoughts_Arrive · January 2018

rgambs said:

My buddy who is 32 is cleaning up right now, he's got a list of recently divorced ladies age 40 or so vying for his attention.
Get them cougars Thoughts_Arrive!

I tried with a lady 6 years older than me and she saw me as too young.

ConorKavanagh · January 2018

There's plenty of time man. It's never too late to start over. However, it's good that a service like this exists I think. Still sad, nonetheless.

F Me In The Brain · January 2018

I was cougar huntin' in my early 20s. This was before the widespread acceptance if this as fair game and complete with a funny nickname. I was just looking for women who liked me and had enough money to buy me drinks and associated things.
Learned a lot in those days.
Keep looking...if you can't be with the one you love....love the one your with!

mcgruff10 · January 2018

I m 40 and my wife is 42...did I marry a cougar?

mcgruff10 · January 2018

Thoughts_Arrive said:

single and 33.
Can't afford concert right now.

I got divorced at 32, have faith bud. Life gets better!

amethgr8 · January 2018

It's sad that he could not (maybe) move on to the next chapter of life after work, or maybe he didn't want to. Like how the press/society coins it as "lonely" death, maybe he wanted to be alone, maybe he didn't like people. I don't have kids, when I go, I'll go, and wherever I am I will be on the earth where I began.

How old do you have to be, to be considered a cougar? What is the name for older men called that date younger women?

mcgruff10 · January 2018

amethgr8 said:

It's sad that he could not (maybe) move on to the next chapter of life after work, or maybe he didn't want to. Like how the press/society coins it as "lonely" death, maybe he wanted to be alone, maybe he didn't like people. I don't have kids, when I go, I'll go, and wherever I am I will be on the earth where I began.

How old do you have to be, to be considered a cougar? What is the name for older men called that date younger women?

Creepy! Lol

RiotZact · January 2018

amethgr8 said:

What is the name for older men called that date younger women?

POTUS?

CM189191 · January 2018

amethgr8 said:

It's sad that he could not (maybe) move on to the next chapter of life after work, or maybe he didn't want to. Like how the press/society coins it as "lonely" death, maybe he wanted to be alone, maybe he didn't like people. I don't have kids, when I go, I'll go, and wherever I am I will be on the earth where I began.

How old do you have to be, to be considered a cougar? What is the name for older men called that date younger women?

I believe the rule is half your age plus seven.
So if you're 36 years old: 36/2 +7 = 25
Dating anyone under 25 would make you a cougar.

bootlegger10 · January 2018

Pretty morbid stuff. I'm 36 and single. If I don't get married and have kids I won't be relying on my nieces and nephews to take care of me so I'm going to have to save up some cash. I need to factor in the cost of at home care or assisted living in my retirement plan.

Personally, when I get to the point where I can't travel, golf, or get around on my own and don't have a spouse or kids/grandkids to care about, I'm not sure how excited I'll be to hang around and watch Netflix. Easy to say that now at 36.

One thing I am seriously thinking about is early retirement. You hear all the time people dying of cancer, heart attacks or getting dementia shortly after retirement. There are no guarantees. I want to use the money I'm earning now to enjoy life when I'm healthy and not work all the time and use the earnings to pay for doctor bills in the future. If the money runs out there will be government handouts I'm sure.

Thirty Bills Unpaid · January 2018

bootlegger10 said:

Pretty morbid stuff. I'm 36 and single. If I don't get married and have kids I won't be relying on my nieces and nephews to take care of me so I'm going to have to save up some cash. I need to factor in the cost of at home care or assisted living in my retirement plan.
Personally, when I get to the point where I can't travel, golf, or get around on my own and don't have a spouse or kids/grandkids to care about, I'm not sure how excited I'll be to hang around and watch Netflix. Easy to say that now at 36.
One thing I am seriously thinking about is early retirement. You hear all the time people dying of cancer, heart attacks or getting dementia shortly after retirement. There are no guarantees. I want to use the money I'm earning now to enjoy life when I'm healthy and not work all the time and use the earnings to pay for doctor bills in the future. If the money runs out there will be government handouts I'm sure.

Obviously pace yourself, but your approach is solid! There are no guarantees. I tell any of my friends that 'can't afford a mountain bike' or 'can't afford to go to a concert'... that they can't take their money to the grave with them. I tell them to save their money so when they pass early... their widowed wife can shack up with some bum who can go spend their savings on fun stuff.

And hey... I turned 50 this year. I feel 20. I listen to my music loud and I listen to heavy music. I work out as much as I can (running, mountain biking in the summer, cross country skiing in the winter, and the gym when I cannot do any of those things). I golf when I want. I go to concerts when I want. I basically do whatever I want.

What I'm saying is... 50 is young. I wouldn't have thought so at 30, but it is. Hell... I'm thinking 70 is still young. I'm going to keep doing the things I'm doing now until I simply cannot any more.

OP... you gotta get yourself to a better place! I've followed your struggles on these forums. I recognize you are fighting some demons. Don't let them get the best of you. What I would say to you is 'fake it till you make it'. Wake up tomorrow and play the part of a confident, energetic, fun guy... until you become one for real.

hedonist · January 2018

Thirty Bills Unpaid said:

bootlegger10 said:

Pretty morbid stuff. I'm 36 and single. If I don't get married and have kids I won't be relying on my nieces and nephews to take care of me so I'm going to have to save up some cash. I need to factor in the cost of at home care or assisted living in my retirement plan.
Personally, when I get to the point where I can't travel, golf, or get around on my own and don't have a spouse or kids/grandkids to care about, I'm not sure how excited I'll be to hang around and watch Netflix. Easy to say that now at 36.
One thing I am seriously thinking about is early retirement. You hear all the time people dying of cancer, heart attacks or getting dementia shortly after retirement. There are no guarantees. I want to use the money I'm earning now to enjoy life when I'm healthy and not work all the time and use the earnings to pay for doctor bills in the future. If the money runs out there will be government handouts I'm sure.

Obviously pace yourself, but your approach is solid! There are no guarantees. I tell any of my friends that 'can't afford a mountain bike' or 'can't afford to go to a concert'... that they can't take their money to the grave with them. I tell them to save their money so when they pass early... their widowed wife can shack up with some bum who can go spend their savings on fun stuff.

And hey... I turned 50 this year. I feel 20. I listen to my music loud and I listen to heavy music. I work out as much as I can (running, mountain biking in the summer, cross country skiing in the winter, and the gym when I cannot do any of those things). I golf when I want. I go to concerts when I want. I basically do whatever I want.

What I'm saying is... 50 is young. I wouldn't have thought so at 30, but it is. Hell... I'm thinking 70 is still young. I'm going to keep doing the things I'm doing now until I simply cannot any more.

OP... you gotta get yourself to a better place! I've followed your struggles on these forums. I recognize you are fighting some demons. Don't let them get the best of you. What I would say to you is 'fake it till you make it'. Wake up tomorrow and play the part of a confident, energetic, fun guy... until you become one for real.

Hell to the yeah, Thirty. I'm coming on three years ahead of you, husband is over seven years younger than I, and really....fuck it. Numbers mean shit in the end.

It's about the love you make, and hopefully take. And give.

Timelines? They're not dictated.

Dying alone

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