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  • jnimhaoileoin
    jnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    Today I contacted the Civil Service Employee Assistance Service. They provide confidential (I hope) support to employees and I guess I'm hoping that maybe if I can get up the courage to talk to one of their officers that it might be some small step in the right direction in terms of finding some sort of happiness in my life. To be honest, I'm not entirely sure what kind of service these officers are meant to provide but I guess it's no harm to find out. As long as it's confidential I guess it's worth a try.

    I get the impression from this forum that the idea of seeing a therapist isn't all that unusual to a lot of people in other countries, believe me it would be extremely unusual in Ireland. We don't really do the whole 'talking about feelings' thing here and we certainly wouldn't fancy paying for it! I suppose this is my half-hearted effort at getting a form of therapy or counselling though....
  • Amongst the Ani
    Amongst the Ani @Wobbie Posts: 7,790
    whispering hands said:

    oftenreading said:

    I can't be the only one that uses PJ songs for their computer passwords (ahem...appropriately masked with the addition of numbers/other characters, of course). When you have to change passwords every three weeks you need some sort of system, right? I just finished with Fatalxxxxxxx (with the addition of my usual nonsense string that I now know how to type automatically), now on Smilexxxxxxx.

    I have so done this!!
    I will have to do this. I'm running out of sports figures along with their number and some other quirk. PJ passwords next!

    Tom Brady & Donald Trump, BFF's
    Fuckus rules all
    Rob
    Seattle
  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    jennycoyle said:

    Today I contacted the Civil Service Employee Assistance Service. They provide confidential (I hope) support to employees and I guess I'm hoping that maybe if I can get up the courage to talk to one of their officers that it might be some small step in the right direction in terms of finding some sort of happiness in my life. To be honest, I'm not entirely sure what kind of service these officers are meant to provide but I guess it's no harm to find out. As long as it's confidential I guess it's worth a try.

    I get the impression from this forum that the idea of seeing a therapist isn't all that unusual to a lot of people in other countries, believe me it would be extremely unusual in Ireland. We don't really do the whole 'talking about feelings' thing here and we certainly wouldn't fancy paying for it! I suppose this is my half-hearted effort at getting a form of therapy or counselling though....

    Jenny, I applaud your efforts to seek out some help. It's true: therapy has lost a lot of its stigma here, but only after years of people openly talking about it. I hope they are able to assist you. Remember--you can always come here to vent/share, and you can always pm me if you want. Good luck!
    ELITIST FUK
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    jennycoyle said:

    Today I contacted the Civil Service Employee Assistance Service. They provide confidential (I hope) support to employees and I guess I'm hoping that maybe if I can get up the courage to talk to one of their officers that it might be some small step in the right direction in terms of finding some sort of happiness in my life. To be honest, I'm not entirely sure what kind of service these officers are meant to provide but I guess it's no harm to find out. As long as it's confidential I guess it's worth a try.

    I get the impression from this forum that the idea of seeing a therapist isn't all that unusual to a lot of people in other countries, believe me it would be extremely unusual in Ireland. We don't really do the whole 'talking about feelings' thing here and we certainly wouldn't fancy paying for it! I suppose this is my half-hearted effort at getting a form of therapy or counselling though....

    The stigma you refer to, is based of fear. No one wants to give the impression that anything is wrong. But if you are not happy in your life, or with where it is going.. Then something IS wrong; it's ok to talk to trained counsellors about that. It's their job. They gm have to attend school for that just like a nurse or a doctor would. And there is nothing wrong with expressing those feelings with someone trained to help you sort them out. It will improve your mindset greatly, just to get those things out in the open, and off your chest so to speak. Sometimes just having someone to hear your concerns is a form of medicine itself. I'll make you the same offer I did TA, you may PM me at ANY time. And if I am awake I will answer; without judgement. You are a wonderful lady from what I've read of you, and you deserve to be happy! Let us know how it goes.
  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    jennycoyle said:

    Today I contacted the Civil Service Employee Assistance Service. They provide confidential (I hope) support to employees and I guess I'm hoping that maybe if I can get up the courage to talk to one of their officers that it might be some small step in the right direction in terms of finding some sort of happiness in my life. To be honest, I'm not entirely sure what kind of service these officers are meant to provide but I guess it's no harm to find out. As long as it's confidential I guess it's worth a try.

    I get the impression from this forum that the idea of seeing a therapist isn't all that unusual to a lot of people in other countries, believe me it would be extremely unusual in Ireland. We don't really do the whole 'talking about feelings' thing here and we certainly wouldn't fancy paying for it! I suppose this is my half-hearted effort at getting a form of therapy or counselling though....

    What a great step, Jenny; I really hope it's helpful for you. Feel free to PM me as well if you ever wish to.
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    I don't like to high-five people. It's not a germ phobia thing: I just don't like to do it. Please don't ask me.
    ELITIST FUK
  • Amongst the Ani
    Amongst the Ani @Wobbie Posts: 7,790
    SD48277 said:

    I don't like to high-five people. It's not a germ phobia thing: I just don't like to do it. Please don't ask me.

    Are low 5's ok?

    And high five!
    Tom Brady & Donald Trump, BFF's
    Fuckus rules all
    Rob
    Seattle
  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    Amongst the Ani said:

    SD48277 said:

    I don't like to high-five people. It's not a germ phobia thing: I just don't like to do it. Please don't ask me.

    Are low 5's ok?

    And high five!
    I will leave you hanging.
    ELITIST FUK
  • oceaninmyeyes
    oceaninmyeyes Posts: 4,646
    RKCNDY said:

    The Waiting Trophy Man said:

    RKCNDY said:

    I have premonitions that come true.

    Really? Like what?

    Like I'll 'see' a conversation happen between myself and another person, it happens exactly as I see it happen. The exact words...

    I've gotten the feeling that the car the person I was with was going to be broken into, it was that same night.

    The one that scared me was when I was visiting a friend, I got a bad feeling about their house, something just felt 'off'. We went on the deck to chat, I got the feeling the deck catching fire. Two weeks later, their entire house went up in flames. The fire Marshall determined the fire started on the deck.

    Weird shit like that. I don't like to talk about it because people think I'm crazy.
    That's not crazy, that's awesome, although I imagine a gift like that can wear on the soul sometimes.

    I was the spelling bee champion of my elementary school two years in a row. Now there's a claim to fame .... oooo, she can spell. :wink:
    And the sun it may be shining . . . but there's an ocean in my eyes
  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    oceaninmyeyes said:


    I was the spelling bee champion of my elementary school two years in a row. Now there's a claim to fame .... oooo, she can spell. :wink:

    Actually, that is awesome. The kids that win the Scripps National Spelling Bee these days get some bank. I nerd out and watch the final day of competition. Probably the only thing I ever watch on ESPN.
    ELITIST FUK
  • Nami
    Nami Newfoundland Posts: 5,999
    i got a 2 perfect attendance awards in school growing up. nowadays i make sure i take my 10 personal days from work...lol
    Hamilton 9-13-05; Toronto 5-9-06, Toronto 8-21-09, Toronto 9-12-11, Hamilton 9-15-11....
  • jnimhaoileoin
    jnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    SD48277 said:

    jennycoyle said:

    Today I contacted the Civil Service Employee Assistance Service. They provide confidential (I hope) support to employees and I guess I'm hoping that maybe if I can get up the courage to talk to one of their officers that it might be some small step in the right direction in terms of finding some sort of happiness in my life. To be honest, I'm not entirely sure what kind of service these officers are meant to provide but I guess it's no harm to find out. As long as it's confidential I guess it's worth a try.

    I get the impression from this forum that the idea of seeing a therapist isn't all that unusual to a lot of people in other countries, believe me it would be extremely unusual in Ireland. We don't really do the whole 'talking about feelings' thing here and we certainly wouldn't fancy paying for it! I suppose this is my half-hearted effort at getting a form of therapy or counselling though....

    Jenny, I applaud your efforts to seek out some help. It's true: therapy has lost a lot of its stigma here, but only after years of people openly talking about it. I hope they are able to assist you. Remember--you can always come here to vent/share, and you can always pm me if you want. Good luck!
    Thank you very much and WH and oftenreading too :) I have to ring the officer for my department tomorrow to make an appointment, so hopefully I won't chicken out
  • PJSiren
    PJSiren Salem, OR Posts: 5,863
    Until this year...or say the past 9 months or so...I haven't have long hair in a very long time...like over a decade, I cut it to a pixie in college and kept a pixie most of that time...I did have a reverse mullet in there as well...but for the majority of that time it was a pixie and now it's long again...like shoulder length...the sides aren't quite shoulder length yet, but the back is....I'm really proud of myself for letting it grow out...because I've had many failed attempts....
    Music is my Religion and Pearl Jam, my Savior!
    Tattooed Dissident!
  • northerndragon
    northerndragon Posts: 9,851
    I've never finished kindergarten or grade eight.
    Anything you lose from being honest
    You never really had to begin with.


    Sometimes it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    northerndragon said:

    I've never finished kindergarten or grade eight.

    I never finished Kjndergarten either. For OD'd reasons.. How did you manage that and eighth grade?
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,726
    i keep my promises..
    travel once from Greece to Madrid,Spain to look someone in the eyes for 5 seconds and gave her a rose and return the same day back to Greece..cos i promise ill see her eyes one more time before i die
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • Malroth
    Malroth broken down chevrolet Posts: 2,563
    when I am listening to music, I don't like being interrupted.
    whispering hands said:

    northerndragon said:

    I've never finished kindergarten or grade eight.

    I never finished Kjndergarten either. For OD'd reasons.. How did you manage that and eighth grade?
    wait.....you OD'd in kindergarten? never mind what I say.
    The worst of times..they don't phase me,
    even if I look and act really crazy.
  • Who Princess
    Who Princess out here in the fields Posts: 7,305
    dimitrispearljam said:

    i keep my promises..
    travel once from Greece to Madrid,Spain to look someone in the eyes for 5 seconds and gave her a rose and return the same day back to Greece..cos i promise ill see her eyes one more time before i die

    Dimitris, I absolutely believe you would keep a promise like this one.
    "The stars are all connected to the brain."
  • northerndragon
    northerndragon Posts: 9,851
    whispering hands said:

    northerndragon said:

    I've never finished kindergarten or grade eight.

    I never finished Kjndergarten either. For OD'd reasons.. How did you manage that and eighth grade?
    Our house burned down the winter was in Kindergarten so we moved a lot for the rest of the year and I never go re-enrolled. About halfway through my grade eight year I decided getting messed up, hanging out with older people and going to the bar was more fun than going to school, it took three months for my mom to figure out I wasn't in school anymore. As she was more concerned with being with her boyfriend than making sure her 13 yr old went to school I just never went back. I didn't go back until I moved in with my Dad across the province. Due to the fact that this was '91, by the time they got my school records and discovered that I had lied about what year I was supposed to be in I was three months into grade 9 and maintaining an A average in advanced classes. I was given a pass as I obviously knew the material. and didn't need to repeat the year.
    Anything you lose from being honest
    You never really had to begin with.


    Sometimes it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    Malroth said:

    when I am listening to music, I don't like being interrupted.

    whispering hands said:

    northerndragon said:

    I've never finished kindergarten or grade eight.

    I never finished Kjndergarten either. For OD'd reasons.. How did you manage that and eighth grade?
    wait.....you OD'd in kindergarten? never mind what I say.
    No I just suck at typing, ten fingers, umpteen keys, one eyeball.. Typing is NOT my strong suit! That was supposed to say ODD.

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