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  • mydogmookieblaylock
    mydogmookieblaylock Posts: 2,996
    STAYSEA wrote:
    supersonicyears wrote:
    Ok, I have a question for the men here. I went down to the local bar after shopping last night and sat with someone I recently became friends with. He said he's upset because he's having a hard time attracting the kind of girls he likes and asks me to tell him how he appears to me and what he should do. Whenever I've seen him he dresses in jeans, shirt, leather biker vest complete with harley davidson logo and his medals from the military. He has long hair and wears one of those doo rag thingy's. I tell him he's a nice guy, looks like a biker so he will definately attract biker girls. He gets upset and says you think I look like a biker? I wear this because I ride my motorcycle. I said yes I know that. He said, what do I need to change my appearance. I told him no, to be himself and the right girl will come along. He was still a bit upset by what I said????? Do you guys not want the honest answer to the questions you ask? :?


    Offer to take him clothes shopping and have him try on a few things you think would look good on him.

    They are guys and not like us girls. They don't have the support . Shopping is a lost concept and they get scared. He will feel comfortable having a few things to wear or a few grooming tips from you when he wants to feel attractive.
    I would take a hammer to my own nuts before i did this...... #justsaying
  • stuckinline
    stuckinline Posts: 3,407
    supersonicyears wrote:
    Ok, I have a question for the men here. I went down to the local bar after shopping last night and sat with someone I recently became friends with. He said he's upset because he's having a hard time attracting the kind of girls he likes and asks me to tell him how he appears to me and what he should do. Whenever I've seen him he dresses in jeans, shirt, leather biker vest complete with harley davidson logo and his medals from the military. He has long hair and wears one of those doo rag thingy's. I tell him he's a nice guy, looks like a biker so he will definately attract biker girls. He gets upset and says you think I look like a biker? I wear this because I ride my motorcycle. I said yes I know that. He said, what do I need to change my appearance. I told him no, to be himself and the right girl will come along. He was still a bit upset by what I said????? Do you guys not want the honest answer to the questions you ask? :?


    Supersonicyears,

    This dude is definitely into you. He most likely got upset when you said, "the right girl will come along". He is hoping YOU are the right girl for him.
  • Dissidentman
    Dissidentman Posts: 15,378
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  • rollings
    rollings unknown Posts: 7,127
    Dissidentman wrote:
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    he''s wearing a really wrinkly long-sleeved tan shirt right,

    RIGHT?! :shock:
  • supersonicyears
    supersonicyears Posts: 2,619
    stuckinline wrote:

    Supersonicyears,

    This dude is definitely into you. He most likely got upset when you said, "the right girl will come along". He is hoping YOU are the right girl for him.
    :fp: He got upset about me saying he looks like a biker. I'm not the girl for him. We are just friends. Men and women can be just friends.
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    want to be enlightened"
  • mydogmookieblaylock
    mydogmookieblaylock Posts: 2,996
    supersonicyears wrote:
    We are just friends. Men and women can be just friends.
    This just isn't true.
    See the TV series "How I Met Your Mother" for proof.





    ...... oh my god ..... You are Robin!
  • supersonicyears
    supersonicyears Posts: 2,619
    mydogmookieblaylock wrote:
    supersonicyears wrote:
    We are just friends. Men and women can be just friends.
    This just isn't true.
    See the TV series "How I Met Your Mother" for proof.





    ...... oh my god ..... You are Robin!
    Only if Eddie thinks his Dad is Bob Barker. ;)
    "In the age of darkness
    want to be enlightened"
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,866
    mydogmookieblaylock wrote:
    supersonicyears wrote:
    We are just friends. Men and women can be just friends.
    This just isn't true.
    See the TV series "How I Met Your Mother" for proof.





    ...... oh my god ..... You are Robin!
    It can be true. My best friend in the world, who I've been friends with since I was 13, is a guy. I was the groomswoman at his wedding. He's like a brother to me. And I get along great with his wife and 2 kids as well. In fact, she dropped us off at the bar on my bday, and then picked him up from my place in the morning, where he passed out on my couch. She brought him a breakfast sandwich. ;) It is possible.... It's just rare!
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Dissidentman
    Dissidentman Posts: 15,378
    PJ_Soul wrote:
    mydogmookieblaylock wrote:
    supersonicyears wrote:
    We are just friends. Men and women can be just friends.
    This just isn't true.
    See the TV series "How I Met Your Mother" for proof.





    ...... oh my god ..... You are Robin!
    It can be true. My best friend in the world, who I've been friends with since I was 13, is a guy. I was the groomswoman at his wedding. He's like a brother to me. And I get along great with his wife and 2 kids as well. In fact, she dropped us off at the bar on my bday, and then picked him up from my place in the morning, where he passed out on my couch. She brought him a breakfast sandwich. ;) It is possible.... It's just rare!

    Would he if given the opportunity?
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    PJ_Soul wrote:
    It can be true. My best friend in the world, who I've been friends with since I was 13, is a guy. I was the groomswoman at his wedding. He's like a brother to me. And I get along great with his wife and 2 kids as well. In fact, she dropped us off at the bar on my bday, and then picked him up from my place in the morning, where he passed out on my couch. She brought him a breakfast sandwich. ;) It is possible.... It's just rare!

    Is this the person who nicknamed you 'Boobs'?
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • mydogmookieblaylock
    mydogmookieblaylock Posts: 2,996
    PJ_Soul wrote:
    mydogmookieblaylock wrote:
    supersonicyears wrote:
    We are just friends. Men and women can be just friends.
    This just isn't true.
    See the TV series "How I Met Your Mother" for proof.





    ...... oh my god ..... You are Robin!
    It can be true. My best friend in the world, who I've been friends with since I was 13, is a guy. I was the groomswoman at his wedding. He's like a brother to me. And I get along great with his wife and 2 kids as well. In fact, she dropped us off at the bar on my bday, and then picked him up from my place in the morning, where he passed out on my couch. She brought him a breakfast sandwich. ;) It is possible.... It's just rare!
    always an exception to every rule .
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,866
    Dissidentman wrote:
    PJ_Soul wrote:
    mydogmookieblaylock wrote:
    This just isn't true.
    See the TV series "How I Met Your Mother" for proof.





    ...... oh my god ..... You are Robin!
    It can be true. My best friend in the world, who I've been friends with since I was 13, is a guy. I was the groomswoman at his wedding. He's like a brother to me. And I get along great with his wife and 2 kids as well. In fact, she dropped us off at the bar on my bday, and then picked him up from my place in the morning, where he passed out on my couch. She brought him a breakfast sandwich. ;) It is possible.... It's just rare!

    Would he if given the opportunity?
    No. That would be like fucking his sister!
    We've been friends for 24 years. There has been plenty of opportunity. We go on trips alone together and stuff (when I'm not going on trips with him, his wife and kids, and/or his parents and brother). And no jealousy from our respective partners at any point in our friendship. When they see us together, they just know there is nothing to worry about. But I absolutely admit that it's a very rare and strange kind of relationship. I mean, I have really close friendships with guys several times, where I just really valued their friendship and nothing more... they always eventually fell in love with me (which sucks). I think that is more the norm.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,866
    mydogmookieblaylock wrote:
    PJ_Soul wrote:
    mydogmookieblaylock wrote:
    This just isn't true.
    See the TV series "How I Met Your Mother" for proof.





    ...... oh my god ..... You are Robin!
    It can be true. My best friend in the world, who I've been friends with since I was 13, is a guy. I was the groomswoman at his wedding. He's like a brother to me. And I get along great with his wife and 2 kids as well. In fact, she dropped us off at the bar on my bday, and then picked him up from my place in the morning, where he passed out on my couch. She brought him a breakfast sandwich. ;) It is possible.... It's just rare!
    always an exception to every rule .
    True.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,866
    RKCNDY wrote:
    PJ_Soul wrote:
    It can be true. My best friend in the world, who I've been friends with since I was 13, is a guy. I was the groomswoman at his wedding. He's like a brother to me. And I get along great with his wife and 2 kids as well. In fact, she dropped us off at the bar on my bday, and then picked him up from my place in the morning, where he passed out on my couch. She brought him a breakfast sandwich. ;) It is possible.... It's just rare!

    Is this the person who nicknamed you 'Boobs'?
    No... that's my other close male friend, whose wife I'm also very close friends with. :lol: Okay, I have 2 examples!
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • STAYSEA
    STAYSEA Posts: 3,814
    98 out 100 of my friends are male. I have 2 female friends. The brains work different. I generally clash with other females.

    My first friend I haven't talked to in 14 months. She conned me into going to the mall. I agreed. We were there to buy perfume.

    We must have gone to 60 stores. I smelled almost every thing for sale. Hours later... She decided to buy a bottle of her usual brand.

    I don't get it? Later she bought me dinner. *scores.

    Next time we went to the mall. I had to show up and act like we just bumped into each other to save her from her In laws. Every Halloween she would spend 3 months on the costume. I'd show up in mine. She had to change 4 more times and redo her make up for a few hours. Some times we missed the whole party.

    Every Halloween she knows she wants to dress like a Sluk. She buys something else anyway and changes her mind.

    My point is. She buys the exact same things over and over. She wears the same type of costume over and over. She knows what she likes. What are the extra hours for?

    Guys are mostly at my pace. We are leaving a 9pm. They don't ask me if the eye shadow is a good match for their outfit.

    I forget my point. I'm sorry. :oops:
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    STAYSEA wrote:
    98 out 100 of my friends are male. I have 2 female friends. The brains work different. I generally clash with other females.

    My first friend I haven't talked to in 14 months. She conned me into going to the mall. I agreed. We were there to buy perfume.

    We must have gone to 60 stores. I smelled almost every thing for sale. Hours later... She decided to buy a bottle of her usual brand.

    I don't get it? Later she bought me dinner. *scores.

    Next time we went to the mall. I had to show up and act like we just bumped into each other to save her from her In laws. Every Halloween she would spend 3 months on the costume. I'd show up in mine. She had to change 4 more times and redo her make up for a few hours. Some times we missed the whole party.

    Every Halloween she knows she wants to dress like a Sluk. She buys something else anyway and changes her mind.

    My point is. She buys the exact same things over and over. She wears the same type of costume over and over. She knows what she likes. What are the extra hours for?

    Guys are mostly at my pace. We are leaving a 9pm. They don't ask me if the eye shadow is a good match for their outfit.

    I forget my point. I'm sorry. :oops:

    I think your point was that you prefer guy friends over female friends. I'm the same way, though a guy friend had a girlfriend who was totally kick ass...she didn't care about the frilly prissy shit and she liked me! We were planning on having a 'girls night out' but then he got drunk and said some really mean things to her, so they broke up and I just feel weird to call her to hang out. (sorry to derail the thread supersonic!)
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • STAYSEA
    STAYSEA Posts: 3,814
    STAYSEA wrote:
    I think he's clueless about looking good and since he's your friend he's hinting.

    I've done this for a majority of my guy friends. They feel like a shiny new puppy.

    Post his picture if he gives you the okay. I'll know more.


    This was my point. He's hinting he needs your awesome female skills and advice. Do you feel uncomfortable telling him you think his hair would be cuter if he cut it or his mustache is a little much.

    Some guys are afraid to admit this. If he's looking for women. You rarely get noticed in your uniform.
    If he's not biking, and he's socializing . Perhaps you should give him friendly helpful opinions. Keep it even by asking him to give you opinions on your style.

    I told my buddy the 1980's called and they want their hair back. He accepted my opinion but he will never cut it. I saw a really old picture of him with a shaved head. I told him that looked better to me. He told me I look hot with my black frames and not the blue ones. I still wear my blue frames because the lenses are better.
    Just buddies.
    But if he's hinting he likes you that is a whole separate ball of wax.
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  • chadwick
    chadwick up my ass Posts: 21,157
    STAYSEA wrote:
    98 out 100 of my friends are male. I have 2 female friends. The brains work different. I generally clash with other females.

    My first friend I haven't talked to in 14 months. She conned me into going to the mall. I agreed. We were there to buy perfume.

    We must have gone to 60 stores. I smelled almost every thing for sale. Hours later... She decided to buy a bottle of her usual brand.

    I don't get it? Later she bought me dinner. *scores.

    Next time we went to the mall. I had to show up and act like we just bumped into each other to save her from her In laws. Every Halloween she would spend 3 months on the costume. I'd show up in mine. She had to change 4 more times and redo her make up for a few hours. Some times we missed the whole party.

    Every Halloween she knows she wants to dress like a Sluk. She buys something else anyway and changes her mind.

    My point is. She buys the exact same things over and over. She wears the same type of costume over and over. She knows what she likes. What are the extra hours for?

    Guys are mostly at my pace. We are leaving a 9pm. They don't ask me if the eye shadow is a good match for their outfit.

    I forget my point. I'm sorry. :oops:
    you have 100 friends?
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  • STAYSEA
    STAYSEA Posts: 3,814
    No I was exaggerating. :lol: I have about 26.
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  • supersonicyears
    supersonicyears Posts: 2,619
    RKCNDY wrote:
    STAYSEA wrote:
    98 out 100 of my friends are male. I have 2 female friends. The brains work different. I generally clash with other females.

    My first friend I haven't talked to in 14 months. She conned me into going to the mall. I agreed. We were there to buy perfume.

    We must have gone to 60 stores. I smelled almost every thing for sale. Hours later... She decided to buy a bottle of her usual brand.

    I don't get it? Later she bought me dinner. *scores.

    Next time we went to the mall. I had to show up and act like we just bumped into each other to save her from her In laws. Every Halloween she would spend 3 months on the costume. I'd show up in mine. She had to change 4 more times and redo her make up for a few hours. Some times we missed the whole party.

    Every Halloween she knows she wants to dress like a Sluk. She buys something else anyway and changes her mind.

    My point is. She buys the exact same things over and over. She wears the same type of costume over and over. She knows what she likes. What are the extra hours for?

    Guys are mostly at my pace. We are leaving a 9pm. They don't ask me if the eye shadow is a good match for their outfit.

    I forget my point. I'm sorry. :oops:

    I think your point was that you prefer guy friends over female friends. I'm the same way, though a guy friend had a girlfriend who was totally kick ass...she didn't care about the frilly prissy shit and she liked me! We were planning on having a 'girls night out' but then he got drunk and said some really mean things to her, so they broke up and I just feel weird to call her to hang out. (sorry to derail the thread supersonic!)
    Maybe after some time passes you will be able to hang out with her.
    I have no problem being friends with guys, and I know what you all mean. I don't understand the ones that don't think it's possible. You don't have to be attracted to everyone. You can just be friends.
    "In the age of darkness
    want to be enlightened"

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