So fkn depressed

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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,759
    That sucks. :( When it starts feeling that way, the sense that you will never feel better can make things worse... Just remember, that feeling is not what's true. This is a good place to come and chat and find understanding I think. And, of course, never underestimate the power of music. :)
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  • Halifax2TheMax
    Halifax2TheMax Posts: 42,646
    Do you see the way that tree bends? Does it inspire? Hey, we all get in the shits every now and again but all you might need to do is check out the way that tree bends. You'd be surprised what it might do for you. And as someone else so eloquently put it, there is one hell of a community here that you can turn to for a good laugh, some serious thought, a tear or two or just some WTFs.

    Be cool, reach out if you need to, PM me your address if you want something to show up in your mailbox that might make you laugh or might leave you scratching your head or maybe it'll just reaffirm what you probably already know. Choice is yours, no pressure. We're here arms aloft.

    Peace.
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Thank you all for your kind words.

    Afroannie, that thread brought a smile to my face.
    Iluvcats, yep that is me, forgot I had that avatar actually, thank you for your wise words.

    I dragged myself outside and went on a quick run, still feel anxious but.
    I've just had personal, family, friend, work issues lately that have gotten me down, been feeling like this for weeks.
    But I've had bouts before.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • peacefrompaul
    peacefrompaul Posts: 25,293
    Thank you all for your kind words.

    Afroannie, that thread brought a smile to my face.
    Iluvcats, yep that is me, forgot I had that avatar actually, thank you for your wise words.

    I dragged myself outside and went on a quick run, still feel anxious but.
    I've just had personal, family, friend, work issues lately that have gotten me down, been feeling like this for weeks.
    But I've had bouts before.

    Hang tough! We're here for you!
  • Meg8686
    Meg8686 Posts: 1,234
    As soon as you don't feel in controll of your own life, the world becomes a bit of an overwhelming place.
    if your in a rut, get out. If your depressed, theres a reason why. if you feel like chatting PM me. I totally beat my depression. Kicked it's ass. I went from not leaving the house to three years, total nervous recluse ... to well, i made some changes and kicked my ass, (pearl jam helped) made a complete career change and a few years down the line life is actually pretty sweet :o:o who would have thought it. Literally, Just had an interview done by the Eden Project in Cornwall about a course I did there, it's only short, but it all began when I beat my depression with pursuing the things i was passionate about. When I was down, the only thing i only ever enjoyed was being outside in the garden, so i went from there...

    This just got posted the other day, so don't laugh, Go to the second paragraph - starting a career in Horticulture & thats me :)
    http://www.edenproject.com/blog/index.p ... re-course/

    Pearl jam helped me make those changes, A live show wil change your life :) Some songs that help me get through the badtimes - Present tense, in hiding, Life wasted & Small town.

    Feel better friend.
    Sometimes I speak of nothing at all.
  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Thank you for your support.
    The only thing I can be bothered doing is playing guitar.
    My passion is music but I cannot write nor sing and I ain't no virtuoso on the guitar.
    I was in the process of a career change but I've hit a mental hurdle.

    Nice article and photos.

    Nirvana helps. I could kiss Kurt now.
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  • Meg8686
    Meg8686 Posts: 1,234
    Funny you say that, I was starting to feel a bit blue the other day so I bought a digital piano :)
    Can't play the thing ... yet, but it's a nice thing to do for a few hours everyday.

    so theraputic, plus it keeps my brain occupied, there are some grat you tube videos made by bored music teacher in their holidays, all the basics. Chords, how to sight read (not that diifcult once you get going) I found some sheet music PDF files and printed them off and so far it's been a nice thing to do with my day, definatley better than sitting around feeling grubbish. I'm not great yet, but getting better :) Shall we both try to learn a song today, i might make that my sunday challenge.

    Mental hurdles eh, tell me about it.

    Remember depression is that little gremlin who lives in your brain constantly telling you your essentially an oxygen thief. This is of course Bollocks. Everyone has talents & unique skills. things that make them shine. I suffered mostly from anxiety. But when good things started happening I still felt anxious, i spent a good 4 years saying No to a lot of great opportunites, family gatherings, reunions with friends, So I started to make a concious effort to start saying yes... Thats when life started to change and suddenly i wanted good things to happen to me and started to pursue it. So ignore that little gremlin or at least try to prove it wrong.

    I don't know if any of this is relevant but heres some other advice I have treasured over the years....

    They can't take your hands away - Dont stare up the steps, step up the stairs - be nice to yoursef-
    If the anxious is the present, unwrap your gift take your time - be excellent to each other -

    & the harshest one of all - No ones going to do it for you - but thats the good part, because if you take control of your own life it will be so much sweeter on the otherside. Oh & your friends are key, surround yourself with all the people you love, i wouldn't be here today without my wonderful friends :)
    Sometimes I speak of nothing at all.
  • Meg8686
    Meg8686 Posts: 1,234
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    Sometimes I speak of nothing at all.
  • iluvcats
    iluvcats Posts: 5,153
    You are welcome, Thoughts Arrive.

    Thanks for the kind words, Ms. Hedonist (I've enjoyed your posts for at least 12 or 13 years now!)
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  • samjam
    samjam New York Posts: 9,283
    Depression is such a horrible feeling and a crappy state-of-being, and I feel for you right now. Just wanted to say HANG IN THERE! And know there's a bunch of people who do care and are willing to talk on here. Also music! Can't stress music enough. It's helped pull me out of pretty rough, dark times (that mofo depression is no agist!). Find the little things that make you happy/smile, try as hard as you can to bring things into a more positive light. Stay strong and keep pushing forward!
    "Sometimes you find yourself having to put all your faith in no faith."
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  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    You know what is good for a dwy in the dumps? A girl's rump. Nice ass always cheers me up
    81 is now off the air

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  • marcos
    marcos Posts: 2,112
    No Code has pulled me through some of the darker days.
  • Paulina87
    Paulina87 Poland Posts: 3,303
    so bad to hear it but it's true we're here for you!!
    Sending lots of positive vibes your way ;)
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  • curlygirly9
    curlygirly9 Vancouver, WA Posts: 1,872
    :( I'm sorry to hear this, but on the bright side, there is a lot of good advice in this thread. Samjam is right, depression is horrible, but it is so common and there are so many who can relate, and that you can talk to, including just about everyone on the board. Keep hanging in there, things will improve and get better! ;)
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  • Get_Right
    Get_Right Posts: 14,164
    Whenever I feel down, question the path Ive chosen, or feel like engaging in self destructive behavior, I just watch 10 minutes of the Jerry Springer show. It helps me realize just how good my life actually is. :lol:

    Then I watch some stand up comedy. It forces me to laugh. Trust me it helps.
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,759
    81 wrote:
    You know what is good for a dwy in the dumps? A girl's rump. Nice ass always cheers me up
    :fp: :lol:
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Halifax2TheMax
    Halifax2TheMax Posts: 42,646
    :wave: :wave: :wave:

    Peace.
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  • Thoughts_Arrive
    Thoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Thank you all.
    Felt better yesterday and most of today.
    It's like it comes and goes, Monday was as if I was never down the past few days then this afternoon I felt a bit grumpy.

    81, I love your words of advice.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    Thank you all.
    Felt better yesterday and most of today.
    It's like it comes and goes, Monday was as if I was never down the past few days then this afternoon I felt a bit grumpy.

    81, I love your words of advice.
    Glad you feel better. When I get down, usually with worry, I always seem to forget
    that it will pass. I wish I could remember that at the time, because it is true.
    I have found its ok to be down, to lay down, give up, cry, beg, pray ...
    succumb

    it's ok for me because it's a part of me and how I cope.
    I think this may help me to live longer, not fighting it or worrying about it,
    there is enough to worry about then how I react to worries.
  • Halifax2TheMax
    Halifax2TheMax Posts: 42,646
    Hope you have a great day today! Also, try not to worry or dwell on those things that are completely out of your control like financial markets, oil prices, etc., etc. Focus on you and those things that you can control or have sway over. And, be kind to yourself.

    Hang in there, thigs will get better!

    Peace.
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