how to handle a bad trade?

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  • pdalowsky
    pdalowsky Doncaster,UK Posts: 15,259
    Definitely give him one last chance, but after that - if there is no reasonable response, and you see the message has been read, or there is no reply ....then yeah call him out.....

    if it then arrives, you can always apologise, but its certainly reasonable to do this, after all you have been more than reasonable up to now

    but sure one more chance is the right way to play it, he might be having a hard time, and a PJ trade be the last of his worries, shit happens in life, and often gets in the way, but he owes it to you to explain it either way
  • PJ51390
    PJ51390 Atlanta Posts: 728
    pdalowsky wrote:
    Definitely give him one last chance, but after that - if there is no reasonable response, and you see the message has been read, or there is no reply ....then yeah call him out.....

    if it then arrives, you can always apologise, but its certainly reasonable to do this, after all you have been more than reasonable up to now

    but sure one more chance is the right way to play it, he might be having a hard time, and a PJ trade be the last of his worries, shit happens in life, and often gets in the way, but he owes it to you to explain it either way

    I agree, send him a PM and say, if I don't hear from you, I am going to out your sorry ass!
  • DiRtYyELLoWoCeAn
    DiRtYyELLoWoCeAn Medford, Ma Posts: 1,605
    After I read this thread I'd say out him too!
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  • White Discussion
    White Discussion Melissa Texas Posts: 2,818
    Do what you have to do? I love this forum and want people to feel comfortable trading on here. I've managed to get some great stuff and hopefully give some great stuff to others. We do not need for the fear of being screwed on a deal kill trades ;).

    BTW- My Morning Jacket next Wednesday in Dallas, Let's do this :D
  • sctt_perry
    sctt_perry Posts: 224
    White Discussion wrote:
    Do what you have to do? I love this forum and want people to feel comfortable trading on here. I've managed to get some great stuff and hopefully give some great stuff to others. We do not need for the fear of being screwed on a deal kill trades ;).

    BTW- My Morning Jacket next Wednesday in Dallas, Let's do this :D

    I agree this forum is great but any time you piut something on the honor system theres going to be someone who takes their own initiative.
    Hopefully you saved all of your email conversations incase anyone asks for them. You do need to report this though.
    In the future i sugest you try asking for a phone number to call and finalize any purchase or trade. I usualy try and do this with people that are state side, especially if I dont see them post alot.
  • EdsonNascimento
    EdsonNascimento Posts: 5,531
    sctt_perry wrote:
    I agree this forum is great but any time you piut something on the honor system theres going to be someone who takes their own initiative.
    Hopefully you saved all of your email conversations incase anyone asks for them. You do need to report this though.
    In the future i sugest you try asking for a phone number to call and finalize any purchase or trade. I usualy try and do this with people that are state side, especially if I dont see them post alot.

    And what would be a low post count to you? 8? 11? :lol:


    Just kidding - that actually is a good point. I just found it funny with your post count and all.... (not that there's anything wrong with it.....)
    Sorry. The world doesn't work the way you tell it to.
  • sctt_perry
    sctt_perry Posts: 224
    EdsonNascimento wrote:
    sctt_perry wrote:
    I agree this forum is great but any time you piut something on the honor system theres going to be someone who takes their own initiative.
    Hopefully you saved all of your email conversations incase anyone asks for them. You do need to report this though.
    In the future i sugest you try asking for a phone number to call and finalize any purchase or trade. I usualy try and do this with people that are state side, especially if I dont see them post alot.

    And what would be a low post count to you? 8? 11? :lol:


    Just kidding - that actually is a good point. I just found it funny with your post count and all.... (not that there's anything wrong with it.....)

    Yeah I dont usually post unless I have something to say but Ive also never fucked anybody over on here. This is just a way to mitigate getting ripped off.
  • AfghanTwilight
    AfghanTwilight Rochester, NY Posts: 869
    I've known lftdaporch for years and he's good people. This situation is unfortunate.
  • Lftdaporch
    Lftdaporch Posts: 118
    i will pm him and wait and see.
    it is possible to be tied up in the usps hell.
    i called tenclub today to ask about my zombie tee and they sent me tracking info. mailed nov 7th, arrived less than 10 miles from me at the main chattanooga processing center on the 17th and is still sitting there. so i will be patient at this time.

    thank you for all the advice
  • elvistheking44
    elvistheking44 Posts: 4,551
    Unfortunately this issue will not be resolved by outing him on the forums. If it makes you feel better, then go ahead. It does nothing in the way of getting your items.
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    ofthegirl99 wrote:
    Unfortunately this issue will not be resolved by outing him on the forums. If it makes you feel better, then go ahead. It does nothing in the way of getting your items.


    peer pressure can be a wonderful tool, although it doesn't always work. plus it makes for a good thread. :?
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  • Suziemay
    Suziemay Posts: 11,168
    81 wrote:
    ofthegirl99 wrote:
    Unfortunately this issue will not be resolved by outing him on the forums. If it makes you feel better, then go ahead. It does nothing in the way of getting your items.


    peer pressure can be a wonderful tool, although it doesn't always work. plus it makes for a good thread. :?

    I agree, public shaming does wonders especially if it's just someone who doesn't have their act together rather than someone who has a legitimate reason. It's not my preferred way, but sometimes that's the only way to get someone's attention.
  • mleach
    mleach Posts: 106
    Had the same thing happen to me about 6 weeks ago..Made a trade but would not send the item until I received a tracking number..Dude made every excuse in the world..Told me it was shippped,lose tracking number,USPS shipped it back to him,wife forgot to ship them and every other thing in the book..Finally called him out and he fessed up that they were never shipped..VERY SAD!! Hope its not the same guy..Good Luck..Hope its just stuck in the USPS log jam.
  • CJMST3K
    CJMST3K Posts: 9,722
    mleach wrote:
    Had the same thing happen to me about 6 weeks ago..Made a trade but would not send the item until I received a tracking number..Dude made every excuse in the world..Told me it was shippped,lose tracking number,USPS shipped it back to him,wife forgot to ship them and every other thing in the book..Finally called him out and he fessed up that they were never shipped..VERY SAD!! Hope its not the same guy..Good Luck..Hope its just stuck in the USPS log jam.


    ...a pretty solid argument to call someone out, imo.
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  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    mleach wrote:
    Had the same thing happen to me about 6 weeks ago..Made a trade but would not send the item until I received a tracking number..Dude made every excuse in the world..Told me it was shippped,lose tracking number,USPS shipped it back to him,wife forgot to ship them and every other thing in the book..Finally called him out and he fessed up that they were never shipped..VERY SAD!! Hope its not the same guy..Good Luck..Hope its just stuck in the USPS log jam.


    dig he finally ship?
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  • elvistheking44
    elvistheking44 Posts: 4,551
    Suziemay wrote:
    81 wrote:
    ofthegirl99 wrote:
    Unfortunately this issue will not be resolved by outing him on the forums. If it makes you feel better, then go ahead. It does nothing in the way of getting your items.


    peer pressure can be a wonderful tool, although it doesn't always work. plus it makes for a good thread. :?

    I agree, public shaming does wonders especially if it's just someone who doesn't have their act together rather than someone who has a legitimate reason. It's not my preferred way, but sometimes that's the only way to get someone's attention.

    Public shame and peer pressure do not exist on a message board. The member just walks away and never looks at this board again......no public shame and no peers pressuring them. Hands washed clean.
  • 81
    81 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    ofthegirl99 wrote:
    Public shame and peer pressure do not exist on a message board. The member just walks away and never looks at this board again......no public shame and no peers pressuring them. Hands washed clean.


    it may not help the OP, but at the same time, it chases off the chump so the next person doesn't get hosed.
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  • Suziemay
    Suziemay Posts: 11,168
    ofthegirl99 wrote:
    Suziemay wrote:
    81 wrote:
    peer pressure can be a wonderful tool, although it doesn't always work. plus it makes for a good thread. :?

    I agree, public shaming does wonders especially if it's just someone who doesn't have their act together rather than someone who has a legitimate reason. It's not my preferred way, but sometimes that's the only way to get someone's attention.

    Public shame and peer pressure do not exist on a message board. The member just walks away and never looks at this board again......no public shame and no peers pressuring them. Hands washed clean.

    I'm not suggesting this will work 100% of the time, but I wouldn't discount it as an avenue to pursue if OP is desperate. Plus, it will alert others to stay away from that individual.
  • jamminpearls
    jamminpearls Posts: 7,078
    I've done about 10 trades here and prob the same on ebeans. I've sent stuff to Ny from Pa that took 2 weeks. I've also sent something to Cali that got there in 3 days. I also had a print take about a month to get to Oregon. In all these situations a tracking # was available. Like others have said i'd send him one last message. If he dosen't reply or send u a tracking# then but his name on blast.
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  • mleach
    mleach Posts: 106
    My trade never happened..I got lucky and didn't take it in the shorts......
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