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ZiggyStar · February 2010

dunkman wrote:

pinwheel wrote:

and he doesn't pressure me into three ways, but he won't have any sexual relationship with me otherwise. he cooks for me

hi... I'm a horny chef.

pm me :thumbup:

LMAO!

This thread is fucking hilarious....surely it can't be for real?

ZiggyStar · February 2010

dunkman wrote:

oh wait... I meant to ask.. was the three ways with other women or with other men?

Why does she keep ignoring this question? That's the only thing I want to know about the whole situation!

If they're having three ways with her and and two men, maybe the old guy is gay....but having her there with him when he fucks men makes him "not gay". And that's why he won't fuck her on his own....because he's just not turned on by women anymore.

My call is that the old guy is either gay or bi....and struggling with his sexuality! Best to move on.

Case closed. NEXT!

small town beck · February 2010

ZiggyStar wrote:

dunkman wrote:

pinwheel wrote:

and he doesn't pressure me into three ways, but he won't have any sexual relationship with me otherwise. he cooks for me

hi... I'm a horny chef.

pm me :thumbup:

LMAO!

This thread is fucking hilarious....surely it can't be for real?

That is what I thought...hence my earlier comment

i_lov_it · February 2010

pinwheel wrote:

Drowned Out wrote:

pinwheel wrote:

more like real cooking, filet mignon, deserts, foods i've never heard of, cooking from scratch, always packing leftovers for me for lunch.

but i do hear everyone...just sucks

ok he put a little more effort and money in... but my point still stands. Sounds like you know what's up, you're just looking for reassurance that you're headed in the right decision.... Doesn't make it any easier, but once you find something more fulfilling (and you will), you'll realize how abnormal this situation was.

I can't help but think that in a relationship with that big an age gap, at least one of the partners never intended for it to be long term to begin with - which puts you under the 'f-buddy rules': If either of you are misleading the other in regards to intentions, or if you feel that you're not on the same page, you're bound to have trouble. Have you talked to him about all of this?

On the bright side...your willingness to engage in threeways just got the attention of most of the guys on the board

yes i have talked with him about all of this and often actually. that is why throwing it away is so hard.

and we started off as fuck buddies, so the no-sex thing isn't a deal breaker. can't build a solid relationship off of sex. but the three way thing is really getting under my skin. i would be all for three ways if he would want just me more. i'm not rushing things, which is a huge reason why i haven't blown him off.

I'll ***JOIN*** in...

OffHeGoes29 · February 2010

dunkman wrote:

move on...

to be honest... it sounds like you've made him a father figure rather than a partner.

also in Dunk's world... men who are into theatre and not rock music are not to be trusted... it's the 117th law of Dunk's world... right before law 118 which is "never listen to man who refers to his own 'world' and its imaginary laws"

and are three ways what i think they are? and if they are.. are they with other women... and if it is.. this thread is useless without photographic evidence.

no need to thank me for the advice... now i'm off to help a fellow fan with the sudden and tragic loss of their beloved pet dog... which should be a laugh :thumbup:

comebackgirl · February 2010

small town beck wrote:

That is what I thought...hence my earlier comment

well I told Tim we're only having sex if it's a 3-way and since you're in Canada he's just gonna have to go without!

Seriously when someone starts putting requirements and limitations on sex like that you know they're focus is more on getting off than on making any kind of relationship work. Which is fine if that's all you want too, but based on your post I would guess it's not. I just don't think I would let a guy who has such disregard for my feelings matter that much.

Franny · February 2010

mmmm sounds like a high quality kind of guy.... would you take him home to meet the parents??? :roll:

prytocorduroy · February 2010

Black-Corduroy wrote:

mmmm sounds like a high quality kind of guy.... would you take him home to meet the parents??? :roll:

my parents don't need to know about my sex life. that aspect aside, he is the type of guy i would bring home in time. but i doubt that will be happening since everyody seems to be on the same page. i'm on my way but it's not easy since i let myself fall for him.

small town beck · February 2010

dunkman wrote:

i'll ask what every other man on this thread is thinking... what is the deal with women needing all those shoes?

oh wait... I meant to ask.. was the three ways with other women or with other men?

It seems everyone involved is male? No?

dcfaithful · February 2010

small town beck wrote:

dunkman wrote:

i'll ask what every other man on this thread is thinking... what is the deal with women needing all those shoes?

oh wait... I meant to ask.. was the three ways with other women or with other men?

It seems everyone involved is male? No?

That has been my suspicion all along...

prytocorduroy · February 2010

if it makes a difference, this is a gay relationship. didn't think it was necessary to clarify those details but here it is.

norm · February 2010

pinwheel wrote:

if it makes a difference, this is a gay relationship. didn't think it was necessary to clarify those details but here it is.

no it doesn't matter but i was really confused because i always thought you were a guy

it doesn't sound like this relationship has much future...but if you want a f-buddy then go for it!

small town beck · February 2010

norm wrote:

pinwheel wrote:

if it makes a difference, this is a gay relationship. didn't think it was necessary to clarify those details but here it is.

no it doesn't matter but i was really confused because i always thought you were a guy

it doesn't sound like this relationship has much future...but if you want a f-buddy then go for it!

I agree with Norm...but someone only having sex with you in a threesome is rather a control issue and if he isn't having sex with just you I don't think he is really interested in having a relationship with you...other than physical. I mean sure it is all well and good if you want to have a threesome (hell I am still trying to rope in Clive Owen and Trent Reznor for one

) Do whatever feels right for you

Claireack · February 2010

Claireack wrote:

If he is putting conditions on the sex, it's a big no no. Sometimes you can work past other issues - but to me that sounded alarm bells ringing.

Move on.

I wrote this earlier and it still applies whatever the genders concerned are.

Hope you're working it out.

prytocorduroy · February 2010

small town beck wrote:

norm wrote:

pinwheel wrote:

if it makes a difference, this is a gay relationship. didn't think it was necessary to clarify those details but here it is.

no it doesn't matter but i was really confused because i always thought you were a guy

it doesn't sound like this relationship has much future...but if you want a f-buddy then go for it!

I agree with Norm...but someone only having sex with you in a threesome is rather a control issue and if he isn't having sex with just you I don't think he is really interested in having a relationship with you...other than physical. I mean sure it is all well and good if you want to have a threesome (hell I am still trying to rope in Clive Owen and Trent Reznor for one ) Do whatever feels right for you

seems like all men i know. they want the relationship for the benefits and security but free from sexual commitment. i don't even require sexual commitment--just be safe and pay most of your attention to me.

do most guys really get bored of sex with the same person after a few months? i don't.

thanks everyone, talking this out is making it easier to move along.

Claireack · February 2010

pinwheel wrote:

do most guys really get bored of sex with the same person after a few months? i don't.

I'm a woman so not really qualified to answer. But from my experience no, some men just can't keep it in their pants though.

Wobbie · February 2010

norm wrote:

pinwheel wrote:

if it makes a difference, this is a gay relationship. didn't think it was necessary to clarify those details but here it is.

no it doesn't matter but i was really confused because i always thought you were a guy

I'm totally confused....if it's a gay relationship and the older one is a guy, then pinwheel is a guy too, right? :wtf:

then again, as others have suggested, I'm kinda not buying this thread anyways :roll: . Good reading, tho

.

norm · February 2010

yes pinwheel is a guy

Wobbie · February 2010

norm wrote:

yes pinwheel is a guy

thanks for the clarification....now I gotta go back and start over, to fully appreciate the subtleties of this thread.

dunkman · February 2010

pinwheel wrote:

if it makes a difference, this is a gay relationship. didn't think it was necessary to clarify those details but here it is.

it was highly necessary... I've been imagining threesomes with 2 women involved!! don't get me wrong, i'm not homophobic, in fact i love my house... but it is necessary to clarify as if you want advice, then its information that is vital to the advice received. i.e. if i was a hermaphrodite nun then me asking for relationship advice might not get the best info from a hetersexual aethiest, just as a gay man who has threesomes might not get the best relationship advice from someone who has kids and a wife.

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