I AM NOW ENGAGED...

The Juggler
The Juggler Posts: 49,599
edited February 2012 in All Encompassing Trip
...your wife's father for his permission to marry her?

does everyone still do this?

i'm at the point where i'm about ready to make a move. the gf has told me she'd prefer me to do it the old fashioned way and ask her dad. i only ever really talk to him when we have dinner or a family gathering type thing and it looks like we probably won't have one of those before i do the proposing thing.

how should i go about this?!

UPDATE:
asked the pop over lunch a few days ago....asked the future wife last night.......BOTH SAID YES.

now i'm gettin' married!

thanks for all your advice people :mrgreen:
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  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    two words

    NUDIE BAR ;)
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • The Juggler
    The Juggler Posts: 49,599
    the wolf wrote:
    two words

    NUDIE BAR ;)


    ya think? :mrgreen:
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  • jamminpearls
    jamminpearls Posts: 7,078
    The Jeagler wrote:
    ...your wife's father for his permission to marry her?

    does everyone still do this?

    i'm at the point where i'm about ready to make a move. the gf has told me she'd prefer me to do it the old fashioned way and ask her dad. i only ever really talk to him when we have dinner or a family gathering type thing and it looks like we probably won't have one of those before i do the proposing thing.

    how should i go about this?!
    Congrats got married in september,best decesion i've made in my 29yrs so far. I'd say go out for a beer and while u let him beat u in a game of pool bingo.
    Go Birds!!!!
  • jimed14
    jimed14 Posts: 9,488
    Word of advice, do it in person.

    Do not text, do not e-mail.

    Just ask him to have a beer some time and chat ... that's how I did it. Heck, my future father in law was more nervous than I was.
    "You're one of the few Red Sox fans I don't mind." - Newch91

    "I don't believe in damn curses. Wake up the damn Bambino and have me face him. Maybe I'll drill him in the ass." --- Pedro Martinez
  • Ms. Wes C.addle
    Ms. Wes C.addle Posts: 2,559
    jimed14 wrote:
    Word of advice, do it in person.

    Do not text, do not e-mail.

    Just ask him to have a beer some time and chat ... that's how I did it. Heck, my future father in law was more nervous than I was.
    I was just about to chime in with the whole 'Dont you dare fucking text him' comment. Personal expirience :x

    I would strongly suggest in person. Putting in a little more effort to do something so special means the world to a girl...
  • The Juggler
    The Juggler Posts: 49,599
    yeah definitely face to face. haha--who would text something like that? maybe i should facebook him? :mrgreen:

    i guess i was just hoping to do it a family function thing cuz i've never ever called him up and had a couple beers with him before. first time for everything i suppose.

    another question---how soon did you guys do this before you actually proposed?
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  • jimed14
    jimed14 Posts: 9,488
    The Jeagler wrote:
    another question---how soon did you guys do this before you actually proposed?

    Don't ask and then wait months to do it ... he'll start to wonder and possibly start asking questions.

    I feel it should be a pretty quick turnaround between asking the dad and proposing, in case her family is horrible with secrets.

    Or, does she already know and this is more for show?
    "You're one of the few Red Sox fans I don't mind." - Newch91

    "I don't believe in damn curses. Wake up the damn Bambino and have me face him. Maybe I'll drill him in the ass." --- Pedro Martinez
  • Jearlpam0925
    Jearlpam0925 Deep South Philly Posts: 17,619
    Dude, if you're serious about this, then just do it. Like ripping off a band aid. Get a hold of his number, ask him if he's free - or hell, just show up at their house - and do it. Tell him your plans, etc. etc. Just be forthright. I know a guy who drove all the way to Blacksburg, Va. just to do this very thing. It's definitely a good move on your part.

    Congrats, by the way with all this. And good luck, man.
  • The Juggler
    The Juggler Posts: 49,599
    jimed14 wrote:
    The Jeagler wrote:
    another question---how soon did you guys do this before you actually proposed?

    Don't ask and then wait months to do it ... he'll start to wonder and possibly start asking questions.

    I feel it should be a pretty quick turnaround between asking the dad and proposing, in case her family is horrible with secrets.

    Or, does she already know and this is more for show?

    you're probably right. i'm thinking about asking sometime next month.
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  • The Juggler
    The Juggler Posts: 49,599
    Jearlpam0925 wrote:
    Dude, if you're serious about this, then just do it. Like ripping off a band aid. Get a hold of his number, ask him if he's free - or hell, just show up at their house - and do it. Tell him your plans, etc. etc. Just be forthright. I know a guy who drove all the way to Blacksburg, Va. just to do this very thing. It's definitely a good move on your part.

    Congrats, by the way with all this. And good luck, man.

    thanks
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  • South of Seattle
    South of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    The Jeagler wrote:
    Jearlpam0925 wrote:
    Dude, if you're serious about this, then just do it. Like ripping off a band aid. Get a hold of his number, ask him if he's free - or hell, just show up at their house - and do it. Tell him your plans, etc. etc. Just be forthright. I know a guy who drove all the way to Blacksburg, Va. just to do this very thing. It's definitely a good move on your part.

    Congrats, by the way with all this. And good luck, man.

    thanks
    Congrats Dude. Just don't get too drunk with the new father in-law and blow it. :mrgreen:
    NERDS!
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    The Jeagler wrote:
    jimed14 wrote:
    The Jeagler wrote:
    another question---how soon did you guys do this before you actually proposed?

    Don't ask and then wait months to do it ... he'll start to wonder and possibly start asking questions.

    I feel it should be a pretty quick turnaround between asking the dad and proposing, in case her family is horrible with secrets.

    Or, does she already know and this is more for show?

    you're probably right. i'm thinking about asking sometime next month.


    awww...a valentine's day proposal...what a romantic ;)



    as for the asking permission....one word...


    STRIPPERGRAM!!!


    you can thank me later


    :wave:
  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    norm wrote:


    awww...a valentine's day proposal...what a romantic ;)



    as for the asking permission....one word...


    STRIPPERGRAM!!!


    you can thank me later


    :wave:

    great minds ...... norm, great minds.... :lol:
    Peace, Love.

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    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • bmwweirdoguy
    bmwweirdoguy Right of Seattle Posts: 228
    One of the hardest phone calls I've had to make, I barely knew my wife's parents at the time (having met them about 3 times) as they live in Connecticut and we're in Seattle. But I just sucked it up one afternoon after work, phoned their house, and her mom answered. She knew as soon as I said hello and asked if Jim was home...

    Totally worth it, old school or not!
    "Trial and error isn't a bad way to learn how to build an aircraft, but it can be a disastrous way to learn how to build a civilization..."
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    holy shit jeags what are you gonna do if her father refuses you permission???
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • lukin2006
    lukin2006 Posts: 9,087
    The Jeagler wrote:
    ...your wife's father for his permission to marry her?

    does everyone still do this?

    i'm at the point where i'm about ready to make a move. the gf has told me she'd prefer me to do it the old fashioned way and ask her dad. i only ever really talk to him when we have dinner or a family gathering type thing and it looks like we probably won't have one of those before i do the proposing thing.

    how should i go about this?!

    Congrats...been married almost 17 years, best decision I've made, we lived together for 2 years before that and spent the night before the wedding together, no bad luck . No advice though, I just asked my wife, honestly never realized people still asked their future father in laws. Good luck though.

    Just wondering though...why are men nervous about asking their future father in law? and what if he says no? anyone know of anyone who had this happen and the outcome.
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  • DinghyDog
    DinghyDog Posts: 587
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  • whatsgoingon
    whatsgoingon Posts: 62
    I did it he said "no" then it was awkward...true story. We ended up getting married like 4 years later ( been married since April). I didn't ask him the second time.
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,726
    congrats man,i dont know how things works in the state,i m thinking just call him and do both out,here i would probably go for ouzo,we get drunk and tell him i wanna make his daughter happy
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  • pearljgirl2010
    pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    congrats!!! the first time i got engaged, my ex and i decided to surprise everyone together...i'm the only girl in my family, and I thought it would be fun, but i'll never forget the look on my dad's face. i think he really wanted that old-fashioned way, so the next time, it'll be done right!

    good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
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