are you comfortable being alone?

ZiggyStar wrote:

South of Seattle wrote:

ZiggyStar wrote:

I'm never ever alone. I can go a whole week where I don't spend a single hour by myself. My bf and I work together, live together, play together....ALWAYS together. Not that I'm complaining -- but sometimes it would be cool to have some more me time.

That's why you're here now right? Don't want to be alone . . . over there

Correct!

It was pretty dead there tonight huh.

FinsburyParkCarrots wrote:

I love being alone, and need solitude to write and be creative, but I enjoy socialising and gigging and meeting lots of new people. I suppose that makes me fairly well-balanced.

agreed!
i LOVE my alone time....and i LOVE my together time too!
perhaps b/c we are child-free, we don't seem to have any issues being alone when we want to be and being together when we want to be. sure, there are some things in life that leave little choice, but overall....we both manage our time as WE want, and it really doesn't require many compromises for either of us to 'get our way' regarding being alone, or together. being part of a couple should not really change that. hell, i lived abroad, on my own, for 6 weeks....and hubby was at home. we both have traveled solo, and you betcha do a LOT of things alone, with friends on our own, and yes....are together when we want to be. so yes, i am VERY comfortable being alone, but i am also very HAPPY i have a partner too. balance is key.

Drowned Out wrote:

I had a conversation about this just last night...
I've been single almost three years (after splitting from a 9 yr relationship/marriage).
feels like I'm destined to be alone, and so far I'm ok with that. I haven't met anyone that I've felt was the total package yet....and I refuse to compromise. I would rather be alone than get involved with the wrong person again. After my divorce, more than once I found myself getting involved with people with whom I had doubts about relationship potential from the start....even with honesty about intentions, it still ends with awkward conversations, guilt and hurt. Not worth the hassle just to get laid or have someone to watch movies with. So....until I meet Mrs.Right, i will be alone...this realization has changed my views on casual sex, which sure takes a lot of the fun out of being single :(

I hear that! I'm at the point of being sick with the whole deal, and would like to think the next woman I sleep with will be the one I marry.

But I wouldn't bet on it. :(

I actually have always found a type of solitude from being alone. I've always been a private person in addition to that, and a bit more of an observer than an entertainer in public...unless I'm with good friends and/or have been drinking of course :roll:

I have a huge group of acquaintances, and a handful of very close friends...that's all I ever need, aside from family...but I prefer to chill @ home w/ my girl and my dog...

The previous statement probably answers my take on relationships...I enjoyed being alone, care-free and single while I was in high-school...but once I got out, I didn't really have any interest in seeing how many new people I can meet, or searching for the right person...I found the right person when I was 18 and I haven't let her go since. We've been together for over 2 years now and I don't feel like I've done anything I regret, and I definitely don't feel like I'm miserable and dying to get out of the relationship and go meet new people. I get my alone time when I need it...I just have to say "hey, I'm going out for a bit"

Drowned Out wrote:

I had a conversation about this just last night...
I've been single almost three years (after splitting from a 9 yr relationship/marriage).
feels like I'm destined to be alone, and so far I'm ok with that. I haven't met anyone that I've felt was the total package yet....and I refuse to compromise. I would rather be alone than get involved with the wrong person again. After my divorce, more than once I found myself getting involved with people with whom I had doubts about relationship potential from the start....even with honesty about intentions, it still ends with awkward conversations, guilt and hurt. Not worth the hassle just to get laid or have someone to watch movies with. So....until I meet Mrs.Right, i will be alone...this realization has changed my views on casual sex, which sure takes a lot of the fun out of being single :(

Amen!

i was forced to be alone for the first time awhile back. was awful.
then after awhile i realized its the greatest thing ever.
i havent traveled extensively alone but sometimes if no one is down for an out of town show or beach trip ill fly solo
its pretty theraputic i find

i also enjoy waking up alone rather than next to a temporary fix

comebackgirl wrote:

I cherish my alone time. I need it to recharge. Being around too many people for too long drains the life right out of me.

absolutely!
even being around my husband, i need a break.
seriously, we BOTH need our 'alone' time.....and make sure we get it and respect it. mr. dream usually has a band practice or 2 each week, and i rarely even make plans for those nights....i just like having the time to myself, at home, alone......fantastic.

I used to feel like I always need to be with someone, but I have been single now for about 5yrs and I have grown to like it.I dont have anybody to answer to no body telling me you shouldn't spend your money on posters or concerts. (NAG NAG NAG) Don;t get me wrong I do miss the companionship sometimes and of course having sex. I just haven't met anybody.I dont go out to bars becuase I hate when you try to talk to some one and you have to yell and fck standing I would rather sit down,have a nice dinner somewhere a good bottle of wine and good company