But for me it's no different then the last 4 years of my marriage... minus the snoring. This says more about my marriage then it does about being alone.
YES!!
I love having a bed to myself again. We had two closets in my room, his and hers, now "his" is my craft closet (hot, I know!).
But for me it's no different then the last 4 years of my marriage... minus the snoring. This says more about my marriage then it does about being alone.
YES!!
I love having a bed to myself again. We had two closets in my room, his and hers, now "his" is my craft closet (hot, I know!).
It took me awhile to get used to sleeping alone... And then again once I moved (sleeping was one thing we did well! When he wasn't going thru withdrawal).
As for the closets, when he left he took a weeks worth of clothes....and left everything else. After living like he died for about a month I took all his stuff and moved it to a spare room! I had more closet space than I knew what to do with!!! Now at my new place it's All mine!! and the spare room will be my sewing/art room (once I get rid of the boxes...can't bring myself to go thru them all yet)...so sexy!
"I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
But for me it's no different then the last 4 years of my marriage... minus the snoring. This says more about my marriage then it does about being alone.
YES!!
I love having a bed to myself again. We had two closets in my room, his and hers, now "his" is my craft closet (hot, I know!).
It took me awhile to get used to sleeping alone... And then again once I moved (sleeping was one thing we did well! When he wasn't going thru withdrawal).
As for the closets, when he left he took a weeks worth of clothes....and left everything else. After living like he died for about a month I took all his stuff and moved it to a spare room! I had more closet space than I knew what to do with!!! Now at my new place it's All mine!! and the spare room will be my sewing/art room (once I get rid of the boxes...can't bring myself to go thru them all yet)...so sexy!
Make sure you keep enough room for me and my sleeping bag!
I personally would rather be alone than wish I was. I very much love being single and being alone. I have a great group of friends with whom I have lots of laughs and good times. My family is some of closest friends. Do I date? yup. I like meeting new people and sharing laughs but I haven't wanted to deal with the compromise that comes with relationships. Is it boring at home alone sometimes? sure but I'm not lonely. I do love to go out by myself or with friends. Do I want to be alone the rest of my life? no but I don't spend my days, hours and seconds searching for someone to "save" me from being alone. I love where I'm at in life, love the woman I am. I wouldn't have any other way.
substituting woman for man i totally agree....
we tend to agree on a lot, mi amigo
believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
I'm only alone when I want, I am fortunate to have a great wife who share the same interest and passion for such things as music, traveling, fitness, and sharing conversation amongst other things. She does not nag, or is she a control freak, it's like we are soul mates. I could never in a 100 years find anyone with interests that so closely resemble mine. As for outside the marriage most of my social life is at work. I had lots of friends around when I was younger but as we grew older we lost contact with each other (before cell phones and the internet). The ones I have been able to contact are pretty far away. But I've been alone before and it can have it's positive. Before I met my wife I wondered if i'd meet someone. So I would say never give up, there's someone for everyone. I have found the secret to a long relationship is being friends first, being able to communicate and the love of PJ.
I have certain rules I live by ... My First Rule ... I don't believe anything the government tells me ... George Carlin
"Life Is What Happens To You When Your Busy Making Other Plans" John Lennon
i like my time alone, and ive been mostly single for the last three years (not pursuing things with women that i didnt see lasting & the like). but too much time alone is bad. i like my time to myself to think, but damn, i have great friends and i dont see them enough, which is not good cos im a better person because of them. and its my fault because of the hours i work and the college courses i do. when im finished next month thats changing.
i find i get a bit introverted and, well, selfish when im just alone too much. having friends/family around can help balance you out. my friends balance me out in the happiness end of things more than my family. i was in a relationship last year that made me realise im definitely not ready to start settling down, but that having someone is good....if its healthy (be that what it may in your circumstances, fuck-buddy, drinking mate, gf)... im bored with being single
It's kinda strange... but I feel by me getting plenty of alone time, it makes me LESS selfish :oops: I used to get frustrated sometimes when I was always with others that we may not be able to do what I wanted or watch/listen to what I wanted or even talk about what I wanted. But then I can take care of all that in my me time and when I'm with others, I've already satisfied my needs to do whatever so I can give more of my time to them and I'm genuinely happy with going along with just whatever.
Solitary social rehabilitation..... Yes, I just came up with that!
7/2/06 - Denver, CO
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2
I'm an only child from a single parent home so i have spent much time alone in my life, and i have to say i enjoy it. it is great because i have always been forced to get out and do things and meet people by myself. i find it so much easier now to talk to new people in all situations because of it.
"Change don't come at once, it's a wave, building before it breaks"
I'm comfortable with it by now because I'm used to it! But do I like it? Fuck no!, loneliness is the worst feeling in the world. But sometimes, people get under my skin too...I'd like a balance of the two but that's really to find.
What's being *alone* mean? I have a hubby and FOUR sons! I'm never alone.
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*May the Peace of the Wilderness be with YOU*
He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
— Unknown
Ive been pretty much single for the last 6 years after 2 x 5 year relationships and right now I can honestly say if it wasnt for the fact of having kids, I could quite easily stay single.
I study a lot at the moment which wouldnt be as easy in a full time relationship.
That being said I could easily slip back into the relationship groove but it will have to find me at the moment...definitely no looking from my end. Ill take a 'casual' though
I think it's time I come to terms with this. I've been fighting it for years (I'm an only child and have always hated it). Since the fail of my marriage and other relationships I feel the need to accept myself and the possibility that I may just be alone in my life.
I think a road trip alone in the future might do the trick.
Has anyone traveled alone or been able to come out of a shell and accept being alone?
I'm about to be in the same boat, minus the only child part...and i'm a little freaked out. and I think road trips are the best. nothing like clearing your head while driving someplace amazing, singing PJ at the top of your lungs.
although...i am beginning to think that being alone can be healthy as long as it's not a "depressed" alone...you know?
You know, this is something I've thought about a lot lately.
For the most part I enjoy being alone, most nights I just hang out at home by myself. I suppose it stems from the fact that growing up I felt like a bit of an outcast in school. I never went to any parties in high school or anything like that.
So I got used to hanging out with myself and enjoying that. People annoy me! While yes I can be a social person and am not shy to talk to new people when I go out or to parties, at the end of the day I'd much rather be by myself.
And the thing is, lately I'm beginning to think I'll always be alone, AKA not get married or anything like that. In all honesty I haven't had a significant relationship in 4 years and aside from the fact that I want (or at least think I want) kids, I'm ok with the fact that its been so long.
I can do what I want when I want, go on trips whenever I choose, and don't have to deal with any 'relationship' issues.
That reflects my thoughts and views exactly. I accepted being alone about 5 years ago. I guess saying I accepted it wasn't he best way to state it. I have embraced the choice to be alone.
I think it's time I come to terms with this. I've been fighting it for years (I'm an only child and have always hated it). Since the fail of my marriage and other relationships I feel the need to accept myself and the possibility that I may just be alone in my life.
I think a road trip alone in the future might do the trick.
Has anyone traveled alone or been able to come out of a shell and accept being alone?
I'm about to be in the same boat, minus the only child part...and i'm a little freaked out. and I think road trips are the best. nothing like clearing your head while driving someplace amazing, singing PJ at the top of your lungs.
although...i am beginning to think that being alone can be healthy as long as it's not a "depressed" alone...you know?
Even depressed alone is better than being depressed in a situation that you know isn't right.
At least you know there is a possibility for change.
*and don't be freaked out... Im here if you ever need to talk
"I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
I think it's time I come to terms with this. I've been fighting it for years (I'm an only child and have always hated it). Since the fail of my marriage and other relationships I feel the need to accept myself and the possibility that I may just be alone in my life.
I think a road trip alone in the future might do the trick.
Has anyone traveled alone or been able to come out of a shell and accept being alone?
I'm about to be in the same boat, minus the only child part...and i'm a little freaked out. and I think road trips are the best. nothing like clearing your head while driving someplace amazing, singing PJ at the top of your lungs.
although...i am beginning to think that being alone can be healthy as long as it's not a "depressed" alone...you know?
The amount of times I've drove home at night singing Why Go or Alive at the top of my lungs in anger after a bad night!
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
I like being alone. I am convinced that is why I am single. It's nice to have someone there with you but I can't handle it 24/7. I need some alone time.
And yes I travel alone. I love it. I have met some great people that way!
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YES!!
I love having a bed to myself again. We had two closets in my room, his and hers, now "his" is my craft closet (hot, I know!).
As for the closets, when he left he took a weeks worth of clothes....and left everything else. After living like he died for about a month I took all his stuff and moved it to a spare room! I had more closet space than I knew what to do with!!! Now at my new place it's All mine!!
Make sure you keep enough room for me and my sleeping bag!
we tend to agree on a lot, mi amigo
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
"Life Is What Happens To You When Your Busy Making Other Plans" John Lennon
Solitary social rehabilitation.....
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2
EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
Wish you were here...
♥~RIP Dad
awwwww *HUGS!*
Oh and your avatar picture, where did you get it?
*May the Peace of the Wilderness be with YOU*
He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
— Unknown
I study a lot at the moment which wouldnt be as easy in a full time relationship.
That being said I could easily slip back into the relationship groove but it will have to find me at the moment...definitely no looking from my end. Ill take a 'casual' though
I'm about to be in the same boat, minus the only child part...and i'm a little freaked out. and I think road trips are the best. nothing like clearing your head while driving someplace amazing, singing PJ at the top of your lungs.
although...i am beginning to think that being alone can be healthy as long as it's not a "depressed" alone...you know?
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
That reflects my thoughts and views exactly. I accepted being alone about 5 years ago. I guess saying I accepted it wasn't he best way to state it. I have embraced the choice to be alone.
At least you know there is a possibility for change.
*and don't be freaked out... Im here if you ever need to talk
The amount of times I've drove home at night singing Why Go or Alive at the top of my lungs in anger after a bad night!
Wish you were here...
♥~RIP Dad
And yes I travel alone. I love it. I have met some great people that way!