A Pearl Jam Fan Needs Your Help In Seattle.

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  • roar
    roar Posts: 1,116
    http://www.seattle.gov/humanservices/emergencyservices/
  • wolfbear
    wolfbear Posts: 3,965
    roar wrote:
    http://www.seattle.gov/humanservices/emergencyservices/
    Good site. :)
    "I'd rather be with an animal." "Those that can be trusted can change their mind." "The in between is mine." "If I don't lose control, explore and not explode, a preternatural other plane with the power to maintain." "Yeh this is living." "Life is what you make it."
  • lucehifener
    lucehifener Posts: 84
    Yea, I guess it's my reality, but I can't stand the idea of being in a homeless shelter. I guess it's a shelter, but fuck. One month ago, I was driving in my car, on the way to work with a cup of coffee, after kissing my sleeping wife on the cheek, and her smiling and going back to sleep.

    Now I'm posting humiliating threads on the PJ forum, asking if I can sleep on a total stranger's couch. This doesn't seem like me to me. I feel ashamed that I got myself into this situation. Granted, I was promised lots of things that were ripped from below my feet, but shit. A homeless shelter?

    All of a sudden I'm the guy in Even Flow, or right next to him anyway.

    I just don't understand how any human being would do this to another human being and justify it as being their "only choice." I could understand if I cheated on her, or called her names or crashed her car, or stole her money, or lied to her about any damned thing, but yet, she can drop me like the way assholes who decide they don't want their animal anymore can go and drop them off at the lake. "Oh, someone will pick them up, or they'll be okay out here."

    She was supposed to be my wife.

    Okay, so I'm flipping out a bit. I just still can't understand this, and I may not ever be able to. People all live in different reality tunnels. What's fine to you seems ridiculous to others, and so on, infinitely. I can accept that, but I assure all of you, I do not want this. I do not want divorce, I do not want homelessness, and I don't even want to be sleeping on someone's couch. I just want to go up in life. I thought I was on my way, but no.

    Now I just want to move up again, and I guess maybe as the old saying goes,
    "beggars can't be choosers."

    I just hope one of you out there can help, so that I don't have to go to a homeless shelter. I know Seattle probably has the best, but shit. It's still a homeless shelter. I don't want to have to tell people, "well yea, I was homeless for a good while there, but those shelters in Seattle took me in." I don't want to have to explain to my work that I'm in a shelter.

    But if I have no choice, I will. I'm just hoping that someone out there can help, so I can at least be around someone cool, and not be a homeless, divorced bastard.
    Austin - Sep 16, 1995, Dallas - Jul 05, 1998, San Francisco - Jul 15, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 16, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 18, 2006, Portland - Jul 20, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 22, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 23, 2006, Seattle - Sep 21, 2009, Seattle - Sep 22, 2009, Portland - Sep 26, 2009, Philadelphia - Oct 31, 2009

  • lucehifener
    lucehifener Posts: 84
    Still? No one?
    Austin - Sep 16, 1995, Dallas - Jul 05, 1998, San Francisco - Jul 15, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 16, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 18, 2006, Portland - Jul 20, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 22, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 23, 2006, Seattle - Sep 21, 2009, Seattle - Sep 22, 2009, Portland - Sep 26, 2009, Philadelphia - Oct 31, 2009

  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    lucehifener wrote:
    Still? No one?

    What exactly do you want?? Just money? Several people have offered various ideas and you've pretty much shot them all down. :( Yeah, a shelter sucks ass...but you don't really have alot of options.
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • lucehifener
    lucehifener Posts: 84
    AmentsChick wrote:
    What exactly do you want?? Just money? Several people have offered various ideas and you've pretty much shot them all down. :( Yeah, a shelter sucks ass...but you don't really have alot of options.

    I haven't shot any down or ruled any of them out. I definitely am not asking for any money. I have a job, and hopefully enough money to last me for a bit. I just hope there's someone out there who can let me crash on a futon or something until I get my first paycheck. I'm going to go to some churches tomorrow to see if any of them can help. I'm just really scared. I've never been in a position like this before, and yea. I'm scared.
    Austin - Sep 16, 1995, Dallas - Jul 05, 1998, San Francisco - Jul 15, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 16, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 18, 2006, Portland - Jul 20, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 22, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 23, 2006, Seattle - Sep 21, 2009, Seattle - Sep 22, 2009, Portland - Sep 26, 2009, Philadelphia - Oct 31, 2009

  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    lucehifener wrote:
    I haven't shot any down or ruled any of them out. I definitely am not asking for any money. I have a job, and hopefully enough money to last me for a bit. I just hope there's someone out there who can let me crash on a futon or something until I get my first paycheck. I'm going to go to some churches tomorrow to see if any of them can help. I'm just really scared. I've never been in a position like this before, and yea. I'm scared.

    I don't blame you, I would too. What about your friends/family back home in Texas? You can't find a single one to throw you a few bucks for a motel room? :(
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • lucehifener
    lucehifener Posts: 84
    AmentsChick wrote:
    I don't blame you, I would too. What about your friends/family back home in Texas? You can't find a single one to throw you a few bucks for a motel room? :(

    Unfortunately no. My sister has two young kids, and is barely scraping by with her husband. My mother doesn't really understand my situation, and offered only to send me some gift cards to Jack in the Box, which I will accept, reluctantly, (fast food seems revolting to me most of the time, and I can barely eat anyway.)

    I've been trying to get hold of any family I have, but they're not really an online family if you know what I mean. If I had a phone along with this laptop, I could get more done, but I have no phone, or access to one.

    I sound like such a loser. I never thought this would be possible.
    Austin - Sep 16, 1995, Dallas - Jul 05, 1998, San Francisco - Jul 15, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 16, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 18, 2006, Portland - Jul 20, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 22, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 23, 2006, Seattle - Sep 21, 2009, Seattle - Sep 22, 2009, Portland - Sep 26, 2009, Philadelphia - Oct 31, 2009

  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    lucehifener wrote:
    Unfortunately no. My sister has two young kids, and is barely scraping by with her husband. My mother doesn't really understand my situation, and offered only to send me some gift cards to Jack in the Box, which I will accept, reluctantly, (fast food seems revolting to me most of the time, and I can barely eat anyway.)

    I've been trying to get hold of any family I have, but they're not really an online family if you know what I mean. If I had a phone along with this laptop, I could get more done, but I have no phone, or access to one.

    I sound like such a loser. I never thought this would be possible.

    I'm really sad for your situation. How long did you know this chick before you married her?
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • TrixieCat
    TrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    AmentsChick wrote:
    I'm really sad for your situation. How long did you know this chick before you married her?
    I don't think it matters....the poor kid was duped and dumped. Love knows no boundries and he was in love with her when they married.
    You will land on your feet and learn from this. Just try not to be a bitter person and close your heart to everyone. The only way to truly feel love and be loved is to open your heart and take a chance.
    Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
    And I don't feel right when you're gone away
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    TrixieCat wrote:
    I don't think it matters....the poor kid was duped and dumped. Love knows no boundries and he was in love with her when they married.
    You will land on your feet and learn from this. Just try not to be a bitter person and close your heart to everyone. The only way to truly feel love and be loved is to open your heart and take a chance.

    I think it totally matters. Well, ok...maybe it doesn't. But, it would explain it.
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • lucehifener
    lucehifener Posts: 84
    AmentsChick wrote:
    I'm really sad for your situation. How long did you know this chick before you married her?

    Over a year, and we didn't have so much as a spat until we were married and living with her twin sister and her twin sister's husband. It was like magic the whole time. I figured, "there's no way I'm going to screw this up, and there's no way she's going to just leave me, so we're set."
    Austin - Sep 16, 1995, Dallas - Jul 05, 1998, San Francisco - Jul 15, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 16, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 18, 2006, Portland - Jul 20, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 22, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 23, 2006, Seattle - Sep 21, 2009, Seattle - Sep 22, 2009, Portland - Sep 26, 2009, Philadelphia - Oct 31, 2009

  • turnedmyworldtoblack
    turnedmyworldtoblack Posts: 151
    Ok, i was sitting here drinking beer and had an idea.

    Call a landlord. Not some corporate type shit but someone who is just trying to rent out a few houses or apts or something. Tell him your story, and ask him if you can pay him your first pay check. I have done this, (not to brag but I believe in situations like this I am extremely personable) , plead with him and let him know you will literally be HOMELESS...where a nice outfit or something and just assure him you will not bail on him.

    Do you have anything he could hold onto for collateral? I will even go as far as saying if you give me a number I will call them and ask for you.

    That really could work. With the job coming up and everything you are rebuilding, not just jobless mooching.

    Maybe the guy you talk to has a story where his wife left him or something like that.

    You have nothing to lose by trying. I am confident you could do this. Good Luck. If you need like twenty or something I could give you that. Fuck if you want to tell the landlord you will give him like 50 i'd spot you 50.
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    turnedmyworldtoblack wrote:
    Ok, i was sitting here drinking beer and had an idea.

    Call a landlord. Not some corporate type shit but someone who is just trying to rent out a few houses or apts or something. Tell him your story, and ask him if you can pay him your first pay check. I have done this, (not to brag but I believe in situations like this I am extremely personable) , plead with him and let him know you will literally be HOMELESS...where a nice outfit or something and just assure him you will not bail on him.

    Do you have anything he could hold onto for collateral? I will even go as far as saying if you give me a number I will call them and ask for you.

    That really could work. With the job coming up and everything you are rebuilding, not just jobless mooching.

    Maybe the guy you talk to has a story where his wife left him or something like that.

    You have nothing to lose by trying. I am confident you could do this. Good Luck. If you need like twenty or something I could give you that. Fuck if you want to tell the landlord you will give him like 50 i'd spot you 50.

    That might just work. Try Craigslist...and if worst comes to worst could you use your laptop as collatoral??
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • lucehifener
    lucehifener Posts: 84
    turnedmyworldtoblack wrote:
    Ok, i was sitting here drinking beer and had an idea.

    Call a landlord. Not some corporate type shit but someone who is just trying to rent out a few houses or apts or something. Tell him your story, and ask him if you can pay him your first pay check. I have done this, (not to brag but I believe in situations like this I am extremely personable) , plead with him and let him know you will literally be HOMELESS...where a nice outfit or something and just assure him you will not bail on him.

    Do you have anything he could hold onto for collateral? I will even go as far as saying if you give me a number I will call them and ask for you.

    That really could work. With the job coming up and everything you are rebuilding, not just jobless mooching.

    Maybe the guy you talk to has a story where his wife left him or something like that.

    You have nothing to lose by trying. I am confident you could do this. Good Luck. If you need like twenty or something I could give you that. Fuck if you want to tell the landlord you will give him like 50 i'd spot you 50.

    You are the ultimate of cool for offering anything to help, and I need not exclude anyone who is posting in the forum, offering to help in any kind of way. THANK YOU for caring.

    This is a really good idea, and it may prove very useful.

    I have just emailed 6 or 7 local churches, and I intend to go to each of them tomorrow to see if anyone can help.

    Like I said, I hate this situation. I never thought I'd end up here, but I feel more hopeful when there are people out there who care. Thank you for caring. It reminds me that the world is not made up of people who don't care.

    It's been so hard to go through this. I've never had a situation that actually brought me to physical illness. I've been throwing up and dry heaving just worrying about it. But I know Pearl Jam fans. For you to like and understand Pearl Jam as much as I do, means that you are probably really good people, and although I'm absolutely embarrassed by this thread, as well as my situation, I just hope I can give an update, a month from now, and tell you all that I have triumphed over everything.

    Not to be a wuss or anything, but I cry to know that you guys care. Thank you, and please keep the suggestions coming. Anything will help.

    A fellow human being,
    Les
    Austin - Sep 16, 1995, Dallas - Jul 05, 1998, San Francisco - Jul 15, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 16, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 18, 2006, Portland - Jul 20, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 22, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 23, 2006, Seattle - Sep 21, 2009, Seattle - Sep 22, 2009, Portland - Sep 26, 2009, Philadelphia - Oct 31, 2009

  • lucehifener
    lucehifener Posts: 84
    An update... I went a church today, one of the ones I emailed last night, and met with the pastor. I explained my situation, and he seems sympathetic. He asked for some references, (which I totally understand, as I could be a total mental case for all he knows,) and said that they may be able to help as soon as the second or third of the month. They can basically pay the first month's rent here, providing that they can verify that I have a job, which they can.

    So if they can help, I'll be staying where I'm at, and taking over this guy's lease for him. I hope so much that they can help.

    I'll keep you guys updated. Thanks again for your care.
    Austin - Sep 16, 1995, Dallas - Jul 05, 1998, San Francisco - Jul 15, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 16, 2006, San Francisco - Jul 18, 2006, Portland - Jul 20, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 22, 2006, The Gorge - Jul 23, 2006, Seattle - Sep 21, 2009, Seattle - Sep 22, 2009, Portland - Sep 26, 2009, Philadelphia - Oct 31, 2009

  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    lucehifener wrote:
    An update... I went a church today, one of the ones I emailed last night, and met with the pastor. I explained my situation, and he seems sympathetic. He asked for some references, (which I totally understand, as I could be a total mental case for all he knows,) and said that they may be able to help as soon as the second or third of the month. They can basically pay the first month's rent here, providing that they can verify that I have a job, which they can.

    So if they can help, I'll be staying where I'm at, and taking over this guy's lease for him. I hope so much that they can help.

    I'll keep you guys updated. Thanks again for your care.

    That's great news!!! :D So glad that you found someone to help you out! :)
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • ajedigecko
    ajedigecko \m/deplorable af \m/ Posts: 2,431
    lucehifener wrote:
    An update... I went a church today, one of the ones I emailed last night, and met with the pastor. I explained my situation, and he seems sympathetic. He asked for some references, (which I totally understand, as I could be a total mental case for all he knows,) and said that they may be able to help as soon as the second or third of the month. They can basically pay the first month's rent here, providing that they can verify that I have a job, which they can.

    So if they can help, I'll be staying where I'm at, and taking over this guy's lease for him. I hope so much that they can help.

    I'll keep you guys updated. Thanks again for your care.
    that is good news.......take care and be safe.

    also....would you be willing to explain to your new boss what your situation is? he/she may be willing to help....you never know.
    live and let live...unless it violates the pearligious doctrine.
  • Lukin66
    Lukin66 Posts: 3,063
    I just read your post, and I gotta say, I'm sorry. Keep strong and try not to get too bitter. I live in the u-district, and while I don't have a couch you could crash on, I'd like to help you out. PM me if you need anything
    deep, deep blue of the morning
    gets to me every time
  • Lizard
    Lizard So Cal Posts: 12,092
    Hope things get better and better for you in the new year........
    So I'll just lie down and wait for the dream
    Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me

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