Ever develop a crush on someone from here?

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  • small town beck
    small town beck Posts: 6,691
    Rockin'InCanada wrote:
    It is just hard to compare that incredible feeling "real" connection vibe you get with people as compared to the internet connection vibe where in all honesty anything that constitutes a crush is what you are envisioning the other person to be just from pictures and quick comments....however as I said its great way to learn about a potential someone....

    I guess I come from the last generation of actual person-person courtship than this online stuff....lol....but the internet allows us to be exposed to many people that you would never have ever had a chance to even talk to more or less meet and that is what I like about the whole thing...expands one's options that is for sure

    I understand this very well.. perhaps a bit too well :o But yes it does expose you to a potential someone that you might otherwise never meet. I was reading that most people date on the internet now and that is how they find people..seems so strange almost how it has changed in the past ten years.

    yeesh I am at work and having trouble conveying my thoughts.. people keep interupting me.. damn work :p I hope what I said made sense :confused:
  • RockinInCanada
    RockinInCanada Posts: 2,016
    small town beck wrote:
    I understand this very well.. perhaps a bit too well :o But yes it does expose you to a potential someone that you might otherwise never meet. I was reading that most people date on the internet now and that is how they find people..seems so strange almost how it has changed in the past ten years.

    yeesh I am at work and having trouble conveying my thoughts.. people keep interupting me.. damn work :p I hope what I said made sense :confused:

    Makes perfect sense and is exactly what I was thinking...I enjoy the fact it opens you up to many new people and its awesome some people are finding true love out there....just different for me I guess....I just love that attraction feeling one gets through the first inital meeting and subsequant first dates....the slight feeling of being nervous of not knowing what to expect next....just for me it seems, not weird that is for sure, just different.

    I did actually meet someone through a chat/message board room (kinda of like this) and she was a great/sweet/very attractive girl (actually she was for me at the time sort of a dream girl) and everything but it came at a time in my life where taking things anywhere was not realistic (she was seven hours away from me and I was in university at the time) and that is what sucked the most is that you have this great medium for meeting people but once reality sets in making it something real is somewhat more difficult...therefore I like the "old school" style of meeting because it is actually there and in all honesty it was tough giving what potentially could have been up....however I do believe that true internet love is possible if you chat up the right person, both parties are in the right stages in their lives, and both want to make it work (which usually involves someone taking a big sacrafice).

    For me I kinda of got burnt because things couldn't progress as I wanted to and instead of developing more emotions and investing more time I had to call it off. Just sad because it was timing that threw things off and that was all. It was actually the first break-up I initiated and it felt horrible.

    Everything aside, regardless if you meet someone you like through the message pit/lounge/night club/book store if you truely believe it can work than it can, just needs time and effort.
  • small town beck
    small town beck Posts: 6,691
    Rockin'InCanada wrote:
    Makes perfect sense and is exactly what I was thinking...I enjoy the fact it opens you up to many new people and its awesome some people are finding true love out there....just different for me I guess....I just love that attraction feeling one gets through the first inital meeting and subsequant first dates....the slight feeling of being nervous of not knowing what to expect next....just for me it seems, not weird that is for sure, just different.

    I did actually meet someone through a chat/message board room (kinda of like this) and she was a great/sweet/very attractive girl (actually she was for me at the time sort of a dream girl) and everything but it came at a time in my life where taking things anywhere was not realistic (she was seven hours away from me and I was in university at the time) and that is what sucked the most is that you have this great medium for meeting people but once reality sets in making it something real is somewhat more difficult...therefore I like the "old school" style of meeting because it is actually there and in all honesty it was tough giving what potentially could have been up....however I do believe that true internet love is possible if you chat up the right person, both parties are in the right stages in their lives, and both want to make it work (which usually involves someone taking a big sacrafice).

    For me I kinda of got burnt because things couldn't progress as I wanted to and instead of developing more emotions and investing more time I had to call it off. Just sad because it was timing that threw things off and that was all. It was actually the first break-up I initiated and it felt horrible.

    Everything aside, regardless if you meet someone you like through the message pit/lounge/night club/book store if you truely believe it can work than it can, just needs time and effort.

    I know I used to think that it was just a breeding ground for loons and stalkers this whole internet dating thing.. and while they are out there the same can be said for any dating situ.... I am not out there looking to meet someone on the internet but I am not discounting the fact that it could happen either. But yeah it can happen for sure. Just have to be careful as it is easy to get burned especially if you are a pretty sincere person not looking to boff everything that posts :p;) Not that that is how you got burned.

    I do love that feeling of attraction and in the beginning.. ooohh.. la la..

    That is a cool story you of yours even though it didn't work out and had a kind of shitty outcome but still quite nice. Gives hope that there are still decent fellas left out there for the rest of us :)
  • AllNiteThing
    AllNiteThing Posts: 1,115
    I dig ANY chick who likes PJ and has that same 'crazy' and insatiable appetite that I do for them. Every girl I've met from this board is both unique and attractive in their own way. I can't deny that I have a soft spot for all of them. ;)
    24 years old, mid-life crisis
    nowadays hits you when you're young
  • RockinInCanada
    RockinInCanada Posts: 2,016
    small town beck wrote:
    I know I used to think that it was just a breeding ground for loons and stalkers this whole internet dating thing.. and while they are out there the same can be said for any dating situ.... I am not out there looking to meet someone on the internet but I am not discounting the fact that it could happen either. But yeah it can happen for sure. Just have to be careful as it is easy to get burned especially if you are a pretty sincere person not looking to boff everything that posts :p;) Not that that is how you got burned.

    I do love that feeling of attraction and in the beginning.. ooohh.. la la..

    That is a cool story you of yours even though it didn't work out and had a kind of shitty outcome but still quite nice. Gives hope that there are still decent fellas left out there for the rest of us :)

    Yeah with my story I did forget to mention that I did meet this girl on weekends for a few occasions and things were great...a little awkward at first because you literally know the person BUT having not had that physical meeting makes it weird...lol....but like I said I was in university and was pretty much broke making trips difficult...therefore instead of leading her on into something I realized I had no intentions of makeing a 100% committment I had to call it quits which was sad especially when you meet someone that you have obvious chemistry with.....

    I would never discount the internet as a place to meet people (especially this message board...since I have met some super-cool guys/gals from here) just as someone who grew up with a total different outlook on dating it is hard to jump into the internet style of dating....but soon it most likely will be completely common place.

    There are many decent folks out there....just need to find them...but once one does it makes it so much better. :)
  • Steve Dunne
    Steve Dunne Posts: 4,965
    Between the Show Your Face and the Photobucket thread, I'd say there are a good number of new healthy crushes out there!!! And may I say there are some good lookin Pearl Jam female fans around the world!!!!!!
    I love to turn you on
  • tobbac
    tobbac Posts: 234
    indeed there is...
    You ain't-never seen no one like me
    Prevail-regardless what the cost might be
    Power-flows inside of me, you can't bring me
    Never-fall as long as I try
    Refuse-to be a part of your lie
    Even-if it means I die, you can't bring me
    You...can't...bring...me...down!
  • youngluvofthajam
    youngluvofthajam Posts: 2
    I only have if you count Eddie? I have really never talked to anyone it's strange It's like I here all alone in the world except for Ed's voice
    @$#!eY
  • Steve Dunne
    Steve Dunne Posts: 4,965
    youngluvofthajam wrote:
    I only have if you count Eddie? I have really never talked to anyone it's strange It's like I here all alone in the world except for Ed's voice

    with a bio like that i'm sure you'll have plenty of crushes to come!!! you may also want to post a pic in the 'show your face' thread if you dare!
    I love to turn you on
  • comebackwoman
    comebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Rockin'InCanada wrote:
    It is just hard to compare that incredible feeling "real" connection vibe you get with people as compared to the internet connection vibe where in all honesty anything that constitutes a crush is what you are envisioning the other person to be just from pictures and quick comments....however as I said its great way to learn about a potential someone....
    Ahhh I would have totally agreed with this a while back...in fact I think I made a very similar post back in the day lol :o:p
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • RockinInCanada
    RockinInCanada Posts: 2,016
    comebackgirl wrote:
    Ahhh I would have totally agreed with this a while back...in fact I think I made a very similar post back in the day lol :o:p

    So I assume your opinions have changed?

    I hope no one thinks I am coming off as I am against internet use for dating/meeting people cause I am all for it...just through my past experience with it and teh fact I love meeting new people face to face (as it goes beyond the illusions the internet may create especially if someone is lying about who they really are).
  • comebackwoman
    comebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Rockin'InCanada wrote:
    So I assume your opinions have changed?

    I hope no one thinks I am coming off as I am against internet use for dating/meeting people cause I am all for it...just through my past experience with it and teh fact I love meeting new people face to face (as it goes beyond the illusions the internet may create especially if someone is lying about who they really are).
    No - your posts were very clear that you're not against it...and I agree...the internet can be very tricky cause it does provide a sort of barrier...especially if it's JUST the internet...and I also agree with your statement that it can be a great way to meet people. I think it's also possible to get to know someone very well online and I've been pleasantly surprised that you can connect...and then meet in person and realize that the connection was just as you had hoped. So yeah...my opinions have changed :):p
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • RockinInCanada
    RockinInCanada Posts: 2,016
    comebackgirl wrote:
    No - your posts were very clear that you're not against it...and I agree...the internet can be very tricky cause it does provide a sort of barrier...especially if it's JUST the internet...and I also agree with your statement that it can be a great way to meet people. I think it's also possible to get to know someone very well online and I've been pleasantly surprised that you can connect...and then meet in person and realize that the connection was just as you had hoped. So yeah...my opinions have changed :):p

    I used to be adamantly against it...I remember telling my good friends about the girl I chatted to on a message board and showed them her pics and they thought she was bullshitting me because why would an attractive girl like that need to meet people on-line (funny as a I responded back..."does that make me ugly?"...lol) but anyway we just chatted then moved to the phone conversations then we decided to meet...and I was so freaking nervous because I hoped I was not being messed with (because that is what I worried the most over internet dating/meeting)...but yeah so was exactly who she said/showed she was...just the timing in my life couldn't make things work....its weird because I always wonder where (or who, well maybe lol :)) I would be with if those timing things were different....but I am not one for past regrets that is for sure so it does not get to me too much....however people should still be cautious as there are plenty of freaks on the net as well as great people......
  • comebackwoman
    comebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Rockin'InCanada wrote:
    I used to be adamantly against it...I remember telling my good friends about the girl I chatted to on a message board and showed them her pics and they thought she was bullshitting me because why would an attractive girl like that need to meet people on-line (funny as a I responded back..."does that make me ugly?"...lol) but anyway we just chatted then moved to the phone conversations then we decided to meet...and I was so freaking nervous because I hoped I was not being messed with (because that is what I worried the most over internet dating/meeting)...but yeah so was exactly who she said/showed she was...just the timing in my life couldn't make things work....its weird because I always wonder where (or who, well maybe lol :)) I would be with if those timing things were different....but I am not one for past regrets that is for sure so it does not get to me too much....however people should still be cautious as there are plenty of freaks on the net as well as great people......
    Me too...I couldn't understand how anyone could become friends with someone online...but now I know it's possible...and the friendships and relationships are just as real as any you meet in person. I've had a VERY freaky experience myself...so I know there are some freaks out there...but I have also met some freaks in person too haha. And I agre...no sense in past regrets...any connection is meaningful even if it comes to an end...it still had meaning in your life.
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • RockinInCanada
    RockinInCanada Posts: 2,016
    comebackgirl wrote:
    Me too...I couldn't understand how anyone could become friends with someone online...but now I know it's possible...and the friendships and relationships are just as real as any you meet in person. I've had a VERY freaky experience myself...so I know there are some freaks out there...but I have also met some freaks in person too haha. And I agre...no sense in past regrets...any connection is meaningful even if it comes to an end...it still had meaning in your life.

    Yeah it's weird how special bonds can develop over the net without people ever meeting each other (specifically talking about internet friends such as you meet here). Like I said earlier hopefully one day I can meet the many amazing people that post here, I have meet some but there are still many more that I would love to have an actual conversation with....just need PJ to come tour my neck of the woods again I guess....:)

    And I 100% agree with your last statement I rather have had the experience than never had it all.
  • AllIAm
    AllIAm Posts: 1,309
    comebackgirl wrote:
    Me too...I couldn't understand how anyone could become friends with someone online...but now I know it's possible...and the friendships and relationships are just as real as any you meet in person. I've had a VERY freaky experience myself...so I know there are some freaks out there...but I have also met some freaks in person too haha. And I agre...no sense in past regrets...any connection is meaningful even if it comes to an end...it still had meaning in your life.

    i can agree with you too. i have met some awesome people on here (like you :) ) that i wouldn't trade for the world. even though i havent met some of yu face to face i still feel like you are really close to me. I also think that when people meet on here and the attraction rises there are 2 vrey different scenerios. i think if there is intention to meet and see where it goes thats awesome... just some people try to live their entire relationships through the internet. thats weird. not to mention the liars ive come across... whoo it would blow your mind.
  • RockinInCanada
    RockinInCanada Posts: 2,016
    AllIAm wrote:
    i can agree with you too. i have met some awesome people on here (like you :) ) that i wouldn't trade for the world. even though i havent met some of yu face to face i still feel like you are really close to me. I also think that when people meet on here and the attraction rises there are 2 vrey different scenerios. i think if there is intention to meet and see where it goes thats awesome... just some people try to live their entire relationships through the internet. thats weird. not to mention the liars ive come across... whoo it would blow your mind.

    Yeah some people seem to thrive in this sort of environment and are intimidated to meet the actual people they are talking to which is too bad. I still believe that the internet is full of people lying (hopefully a minority though)...does not need to be big lies but small ones...I find it is such an easy medium for people to create an image for themselves that is not their reality...hence I guess people who are committed to live their relationships behind a computer monitor....but as for the message pit I truely believe that a large (very large) majority of us posting are not being fake...and that seems true from the posters I have met.....but when people strive to meet each other that is super-cool.

    One last thing with liars is that if the person is lying through their teeth on the internet what does that really say about their true personality as a flesh and blood human?
  • AllIAm
    AllIAm Posts: 1,309
    Rockin'InCanada wrote:
    Yeah some people seem to thrive in this sort of environment and are intimidated to meet the actual people they are talking to which is too bad. I still believe that the internet is full of people lying (hopefully a minority though)...does not need to be big lies but small ones...I find it is such an easy medium for people to create an image for themselves that is not their reality...hence I guess people who are committed to live their relationships behind a computer monitor....but as for the message pit I truely believe that a large (very large) majority of us posting are not being fake...and that seems true from the posters I have met.....but when people strive to meet each other that is super-cool.

    One last thing with liars is that if the person is lying through their teeth on the internet what does that really say about their true personality as a flesh and blood human?

    well i think you answered your own question. if someone is gonna lie to you about how many times they have seen pearl jam or what their original hair color is ok fine... but if they have fabricated every aspect of their life for whatever reason... well they obviously have serious mental problems. i think most people are inherently good. exagerations and little white lies are very normal and nothing to worry about.. you are much more comfy to hide behind your computer than actually saying these things to a persons face. and someone people will say it to your face. to be honest the internet is a blessing and a curse.. it has brought all of us together but also taken us away from going out and living...in some cases...

    now the funny part is i have caught people lying about small things and htey know they are caught... but then they want me to still talk to them and respect them. uhmmmm no.

    but i think if its the right place and time for 2 people and they meet over the board and it develops and they turn it into a reality i find that amazing. because just think of how many couples would never have met 20 years ago when internet wasnt even around. seriously i remember in high school if you met someone online it was considered weird and freakish. but now there are 25 dating sites, myspace, facebook and a forum on anything. so its bound to happen
  • Gary Carter
    Gary Carter Posts: 14,077
    Rockin'InCanada wrote:

    One last thing with liars is that if the person is lying through their teeth on the internet what does that really say about their true personality as a flesh and blood human?
    i agree, i was really close with a board member and turned out she wasnt the age she told me she was. ive met some really cool people on here and have become close to them, but i always keep my guard up cause its the net and friends come and go on here, its the true friends on here that willl be there for u no matter what u are like.ive met some of them in person and it was just like how it was on the net. im still friends with a board member after a year and a half. crushes are cool to have as long as u dont get really into them
    Ron: I just don't feel like going out tonight
    Sammi: Wanna just break up?

  • RockinInCanada
    RockinInCanada Posts: 2,016
    AllIAm wrote:
    well i think you answered your own question. if someone is gonna lie to you about how many times they have seen pearl jam or what their original hair color is ok fine... but if they have fabricated every aspect of their life for whatever reason... well they obviously have serious mental problems. i think most people are inherently good. exagerations and little white lies are very normal and nothing to worry about.. you are much more comfy to hide behind your computer than actually saying these things to a persons face. and someone people will say it to your face. to be honest the internet is a blessing and a curse.. it has brought all of us together but also taken us away from going out and living...in some cases...

    now the funny part is i have caught people lying about small things and htey know they are caught... but then they want me to still talk to them and respect them. uhmmmm no.

    but i think if its the right place and time for 2 people and they meet over the board and it develops and they turn it into a reality i find that amazing. because just think of how many couples would never have met 20 years ago when internet wasnt even around. seriously i remember in high school if you met someone online it was considered weird and freakish. but now there are 25 dating sites, myspace, facebook and a forum on anything. so its bound to happen

    Yeah I remember thinking people were nuts for the on-line dating stuff...now it is the in-thing to do....which is good. It is actually a great medium for people that are a little bit introverted (which is not a bad thing) to meet people they normally wouldn't have the courage to come up and talk to....and I agree with the blessing and curse thought....since I have been known to post in the AMT I always wonder what it would be like to meet those that i seem to disagree with on every topic....I think that fourm is a great example of how people get more "daring" behind their computer....saying stuff they normally would never say toe each other....

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