I just...don't know what to do (girl problems)

SENROCK · May 2008

stickboy wrote:

hey ROCKY... Comin up as a nigga in the cash game
livin in the fast lane; I'm for real

WOOHOOO!!! that is one of my favorite lines in there!!!!

stickboy · May 2008

SENROCK! wrote:

WOOHOOO!!! that is one of my favorite lines in there!!!!

hahaha well you guys thanx, cause I got that song stuck in my head for good now! Soon as I read ya posts up there it was the 1st thing that came to mind and I had to continue it, lol

but that Chris Rock shit is so true tho about some women

GreenTeaDisease · May 2008

HailHailVitalogy wrote:

Ok so if there is anyone willing to give me advice, now is the time. Please read the whole thing if you are kind enough to give your advice.

7 more days and I leave school to go back home for the summer.

When school began I found a group of people that branched off a little bit. Within this group was a girl named Brittney, and she was absolutely gorgeous and she had this southern personality that was attractive for a northerner like me. She had a boyfriend since senior year of high school that she was dating. She still dated him up until 3 weeks ago, when they broke up. During the time they were dating we were kind of the "opposite sex best friends".

She began spending time with another guy, that she got into a big fight two nights ago and I don't know whats going on with that. Since her and her boyfriend broke up, we have been going out to get food and going out together a little more. She always comes to me with her problems that she doesn't tell anyone. Then she suggests that me and her go on a "fake date" and get dressed up and do something because she's been stressed and wants to be taken out by a nice guy.

Many people would read into that as her asking me out...but most likely is what she said, a fake date. That happens this Friday night.

I like this girl a lot, and I'm not one for expressing my feelings out face to face because I'm worried about the outcome. I was thinking of writing her a letter and leaving it in her room on her desk...i don't know

It's so confusing, this girl is absolutely amazing. I've never really felt this way about any other girl that I have met. I mean sometimes she flirts with me a lot and does really cute things. For example, last week I went to get food with her and a few friends, and I locked my keys in the car and i was really ticked off...she walks away and buys me ice cream and brings it back....the little things in life!!

I don't really know what advice I'm seeking...I guess how to go about this? She's staying the summer at school and taking classes while I'm home...this timing sucks! But I am coming back down for a week in June and then August...

Actually, I think the the timing is perfect, and here's why.

first of all, if a girl asks you to go on a "fake date" she probably wants to go on a real date with you but is too nervous to ask, or she thinks that you just see her as a friend and doesn't want to muddle that up. she's thinking of you in a "dating" context, but she's not sure how she feels (understandable in her position of just breaking up) or she's not sure how you feel. Secondly, if she brings you ice cream, she likes you. That's totally the kind of thing I did for guy friends in college who I kinda sorta liked a little more than friends. except for me it was cookies. Girls like the idea of "taking care" of guys they like (to a certain degree, no one wants to be your mom).

anyway, it's good timing because 1) she has the summer to sort out getting over breaking up and whatnot 2) you make a move or say something to her at the end of the year, she's got the summer to think about it and then when you get back in the fall, all smoochie smoochie. OR if it doesn't go well and she's really not into...no problem! she'll forget about it over the summer and when you come back to school you can just kinda patch it up and be friends again, you can claim you don't feel that way anymore. perfect! (I timed something like this out my junior year of college, except I made the fatal error of that the guy in question was a SENIOR and NOT coming back...)

Heineken Helen · May 2008

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

Girls like the idea of "taking care" of guys they like (to a certain degree, no one wants to be your mom).

I got that one backwards... in school I used to fight with the boys I liked

never quite figured out why. Think it was so I'd prove that I WASN'T into them... and for some reason that made perfect sense at the time :cool:

Snake · May 2008

Heineken Helen wrote:

I got that one backwards... in school I used to fight with the boys I liked never quite figured out why. Think it was so I'd prove that I WASN'T into them... and for some reason that made perfect sense at the time :cool:

This is why girls are so weird.

Heineken Helen · May 2008

Snake wrote:

This is why girls are so weird.

well if you make it clear you're into them and they're not into you and everyone knows... it can be embarrassing... but that never happened me though

the boys used to do it too in fairness.

there was one that I regretted... but I got 'closure' on that one years later

so no regrets.

Snake · May 2008

Heineken Helen wrote:

well if you make it clear you're into them and they're not into you and everyone knows... it can be embarrassing... but that never happened me though the boys used to do it too in fairness.

there was one that I regretted... but I got 'closure' on that one years later so no regrets.

Yea theres a difference in just teasing the guy and actually making fun of him or fighting. Along time ago (in this galaxy) There was this one girl who liked me alot (why? I dont know) she barley knew me. But she actually made fun of me, and it was both annoying and embarrassing. But she was really immature and all.
SO yea, but I like teasing girls that I like. Its fun and they seem to like it too.

GreenTeaDisease · May 2008

Heineken Helen wrote:

well if you make it clear you're into them and they're not into you and everyone knows... it can be embarrassing... but that never happened me though the boys used to do it too in fairness.
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I did that kind of thing too. I guess it depended on the guy. I had a crush on this one guy all through college, but EVERYONE including him new about it. It was so freaking embarrassing. at one point a guy friend of mine came up to visit...we went to a party and pretended to be a couple infront of this guy, I even introduced him as my boyfriend. pretty much my one goal in life was to make this guy think I wasn't interested in him

. I guess it was just embarrassing to like someone when you knew there was no chance in hell they'd feel the same. I envisioned him making fun of me with his friends behind my back, though I don't think he was the type of person to do something like that in retrospect.

man, he was cute. I wonder what he's up to these days...

NY PJ1 · May 2008

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I did that kind of thing too. I guess it depended on the guy. I had a crush on this one guy all through college, but EVERYONE including him new about it. It was so freaking embarrassing. at one point a guy friend of mine came up to visit...we went to a party and pretended to be a couple infront of this guy, I even introduced him as my boyfriend. pretty much my one goal in life was to make this guy think I wasn't interested in him .

man, he was cute too. I wonder what he's up to these days...

how the hell are u ?

Heineken Helen · May 2008

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I did that kind of thing too. I guess it depended on the guy. I had a crush on this one guy all through college, but EVERYONE including him new about it. It was so freaking embarrassing. at one point a guy friend of mine came up to visit...we went to a party and pretended to be a couple infront of this guy, I even introduced him as my boyfriend. pretty much my one goal in life was to make this guy think I wasn't interested in him .

man, he was cute too. I wonder what he's up to these days...

Hahaha... yeh, I'd this crush on a guy I worked with a few years back and my 'friend' told him :mad: so he said it to me but I got really embarrassed and jokingly told him not to be so bigheaded that I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole... and my housemate at the time saw what was happening and came up behind me and put his arms around me. I was soooo grateful and thought it was a job well done that I convinced this guy I didn't like him

what a fucking weirdo I was

GreenTeaDisease · May 2008

NY PJ1 wrote:

how the hell are u ?

haha, he WASN'T a pearl jam fan

.

GreenTeaDisease · May 2008

Heineken Helen wrote:

Hahaha... yeh, I'd this crush on a guy I worked with a few years back and my 'friend' told him :mad: so he said it to me but I got really embarrassed and jokingly told him not to be so bigheaded that I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole... and my housemate at the time saw what was happening and came up behind me and put his arms around me. I was soooo grateful and thought it was a job well done that I convinced this guy I didn't like him what a fucking weirdo I was

I was an idiot too because I assumed he would think I was ugly. I mean he was cute, there's no way I could have stacked up right? but then later on in college he was with this one girl who totally wasn't cute at all and I was like man...

I actually think that guys assume that we girls always assume we're a good catch and aren't afraid of rejection, and that, if we act like we're not interested or we are standoffish it's because it's true. But that's really not the case, we are totally afraid of being rejected too. we have fears that you don't find us attractive too. All these guys on here say that the girls they like just want to be friends, but that's not necessarily the case...it's highly probable that they are just afraid/ashamed of liking you.

dammit, now I'm reminiscing about all my college crushes...I haven't really had a crush since then. those were the days.

HailHailVitalogy · May 2008

Ok, so for all of those saying she needs to rebound, I disagree. I don't think she even thinks of me as a hook up to rebound on.

As for the timing thing....I was coming down to visit friends in June and she was going to give me her apartment to crash at...is that another sign?

I wrote this last night because I was up until 5am thinkin about it

GreenTeaDisease · May 2008

HailHailVitalogy wrote:

Ok, so for all of those saying she needs to rebound, I disagree. I don't think she even thinks of me as a hook up to rebound on.

As for the timing thing....I was coming down to visit friends in June and she was going to give me her apartment to crash at...is that another sign?

I wrote this last night because I was up until 5am thinkin about it

that's not a sign. college kids crash at apartments, that's what they do. if you were like 10 years older maybe it could be considered as a sign.

HailHailVitalogy · May 2008

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

that's not a sign. college kids crash at apartments, that's what they do. if you were like 10 years older maybe it could be considered as a sign.

no i mean, stay the whole week with her

GreenTeaDisease · May 2008

HailHailVitalogy wrote:

no i mean, stay the whole week with her

hmm yeah that's still not saying much. I think she likes you, but from the other stuff, not that.

stylo17 · May 2008

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

hmm yeah that's still not saying much. I think she likes you, but from the other stuff, not that.

agreed.

iluvcats · May 2008

what's a fake date? does that mean you can spend money on dinner for example but don't expect to bungle in the jungle later? don't expect any kisses?

I'm glad I'm old and married.

Allie · May 2008

SENROCK! wrote:

'how do you want it? how do you need it?'

I thought it was 'how do you feel?
I love that song

California Love is my all time favorite Tupac song (even though it's a collaboration with Dre). That is my song.

And STICKBOY!? HOw are you!? Welcome Back!

Thread Integrity: Nobody made a Britney spears joke yet?

stickboy · May 2008

Allie wrote:

I thought it was 'how do you feel?
I love that song

California Love is my all time favorite Tupac song (even though it's a collaboration with Dre). That is my song.

And STICKBOY!? HOw are you!? Welcome Back!

Thread Integrity: Nobody made a Britney spears joke yet?

I dunno..I always thought it was How do you need it?!...hhmm..gotta check that

Im good Allie! its nice to be back on the Death Row message board amongst all my Pac and Dre fans..I think the actual name of the BBS is...JAIL..or Incarcerated, lol...sumthin like that

Looks like Britney is trying to get her shit together so its kinda hard to crack on her esp when she's not even in the Supermarket tabloids...speaking of crack..I think she finally laid off it :rolleyes: AND she's back with K-Fed ..I hope that Chris Crocker freak is happy now nobodys busting on his girl

I just...don't know what to do (girl problems)

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