I just...don't know what to do (girl problems)

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  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    NY PJ1 wrote:
    how the hell are u ?

    haha, he WASN'T a pearl jam fan :).
  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Hahaha... yeh, I'd this crush on a guy I worked with a few years back and my 'friend' told him :mad: so he said it to me but I got really embarrassed and jokingly told him not to be so bigheaded that I wouldn't touch him with a barge pole... and my housemate at the time saw what was happening and came up behind me and put his arms around me. I was soooo grateful and thought it was a job well done that I convinced this guy I didn't like him :confused: what a fucking weirdo I was :D

    I was an idiot too because I assumed he would think I was ugly. I mean he was cute, there's no way I could have stacked up right? but then later on in college he was with this one girl who totally wasn't cute at all and I was like man...

    I actually think that guys assume that we girls always assume we're a good catch and aren't afraid of rejection, and that, if we act like we're not interested or we are standoffish it's because it's true. But that's really not the case, we are totally afraid of being rejected too. we have fears that you don't find us attractive too. All these guys on here say that the girls they like just want to be friends, but that's not necessarily the case...it's highly probable that they are just afraid/ashamed of liking you.

    dammit, now I'm reminiscing about all my college crushes...I haven't really had a crush since then. those were the days.
  • HailHailVitalogyHailHailVitalogy Posts: 5,414
    Ok, so for all of those saying she needs to rebound, I disagree. I don't think she even thinks of me as a hook up to rebound on.

    As for the timing thing....I was coming down to visit friends in June and she was going to give me her apartment to crash at...is that another sign?

    I wrote this last night because I was up until 5am thinkin about it
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  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Ok, so for all of those saying she needs to rebound, I disagree. I don't think she even thinks of me as a hook up to rebound on.

    As for the timing thing....I was coming down to visit friends in June and she was going to give me her apartment to crash at...is that another sign?

    I wrote this last night because I was up until 5am thinkin about it

    that's not a sign. college kids crash at apartments, that's what they do. if you were like 10 years older maybe it could be considered as a sign.
  • HailHailVitalogyHailHailVitalogy Posts: 5,414
    that's not a sign. college kids crash at apartments, that's what they do. if you were like 10 years older maybe it could be considered as a sign.

    no i mean, stay the whole week with her
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  • GreenTeaDiseaseGreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    no i mean, stay the whole week with her

    hmm yeah that's still not saying much. I think she likes you, but from the other stuff, not that.
  • stylo17stylo17 Posts: 1,001
    hmm yeah that's still not saying much. I think she likes you, but from the other stuff, not that.

    agreed.
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  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    what's a fake date? does that mean you can spend money on dinner for example but don't expect to bungle in the jungle later? don't expect any kisses?

    I'm glad I'm old and married.
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  • AllieAllie Posts: 2,908
    SENROCK! wrote:
    'how do you want it? how do you need it?'
    I thought it was 'how do you feel?
    I love that song

    California Love is my all time favorite Tupac song (even though it's a collaboration with Dre). That is my song.

    And STICKBOY!? HOw are you!? Welcome Back!

    Thread Integrity: Nobody made a Britney spears joke yet?
    "...like a word misplaced, nothing said, what a waste.."
    "Sometimes life should be consumed in measured doses"
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  • stickboystickboy Posts: 2,981
    Allie wrote:
    I thought it was 'how do you feel?
    I love that song

    California Love is my all time favorite Tupac song (even though it's a collaboration with Dre). That is my song.

    And STICKBOY!? HOw are you!? Welcome Back!

    Thread Integrity: Nobody made a Britney spears joke yet?
    I dunno..I always thought it was How do you need it?!...hhmm..gotta check that

    Im good Allie! its nice to be back on the Death Row message board amongst all my Pac and Dre fans..I think the actual name of the BBS is...JAIL..or Incarcerated, lol...sumthin like that :D

    Looks like Britney is trying to get her shit together so its kinda hard to crack on her esp when she's not even in the Supermarket tabloids...speaking of crack..I think she finally laid off it :rolleyes: AND she's back with K-Fed ..I hope that Chris Crocker freak is happy now nobodys busting on his girl
    Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
    Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
    Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
    ************************************
  • AllieAllie Posts: 2,908
    stickboy wrote:
    I dunno..I always thought it was How do you need it?!...hhmm..gotta check that

    Im good Allie! its nice to be back on the Death Row message board amongst all my Pac and Dre fans..I think the actual name of the BBS is...JAIL..or Incarcerated, lol...sumthin like that :D

    Looks like Britney is trying to get it together so its kinda hard to crack on her esp when she's not even in the Supermarket tabloids...speaking of crack..I think she finally laid off it :rolleyes: AND she's back with K-Fed ..I hope that Chris Crocker freak is happy now nobodys busting on his girl

    I'm glad,
    it's good to see you back
    the walk you were doing-that was amazing

    and lol about Britney,
    but Back with K-Fed? Oh NOOOO


    Ok, and we were both wrong...I don't know if this is 100 percent accurate--I googled it,

    "How Do U Want It?"

    "How do you want it? How does it feel?
    Comin up as a n---- in the cash game
    livin in the fast lane; I'm for real
    How do you want it? How do you feel?
    Comin up as a n
    in the cash game
    livin in the fast lane; I'm for real"





    I am now officially humming that beat in my head....

    Thread Integrity: Now what would Tupac do in a situation like this?

    Tupac RIP :(
    I was working in Oakland when they announced over the radio that he had died... it was a sad day :(


    Edit:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlvS_Uk5yJM
    "...like a word misplaced, nothing said, what a waste.."
    "Sometimes life should be consumed in measured doses"
    6-01-06
    6/25/08
    Free Speedy
    and Metsy!
  • given2fly10given2fly10 Posts: 485
    i got 99 problems but a bitch aint one, if ya got girl problems i feel bad for ya son
    And he still gives his love, he just gives it away, The love he receives is the love that is saved, And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, A human being that was given to fly

    no bed=no brian

    coke sucks
  • stickboystickboy Posts: 2,981
    Allie wrote:
    I'm glad,
    it's good to see you back
    the walk you were doing-that was amazing

    and lol about Britney,
    but Back with K-Fed? Oh NOOOO


    Ok, and we were both wrong...I don't know if this is 100 percent accurate--I googled it,

    "How Do U Want It?"

    "How do you want it? How does it feel?
    Comin up as a n---- in the cash game
    livin in the fast lane; I'm for real
    How do you want it? How do you feel?
    Comin up as a n
    in the cash game
    livin in the fast lane; I'm for real

    [Verse One: Tupac]

    Love the way you activate your hips and push your ass out
    Got a n---- wantin it so bad I'm bout to pass out
    Wanna dig you, and I can't even lie about it
    Baby just alleviate your clothes, time to fly up out it
    Catch you at a club, oh s--- you got me fiendin
    Body talkin s--- to me but I can't comprehend the meaning
    Now if you wanna roll with me, then here's your chance
    Doin eighty on the freeway, police catch me if you can
    Forgive me i'm a rider, still I'm just a simple man
    All I want is money, f the fame I'm a simple man
    Mr. International, playa with the passport
    Just like Aladdin bitch, get you anything you ask for
    It's either him or me -- champagne, Hennessey
    A favorite of my homies when we floss, on our enemies
    Witness as we creep to a low speed, peep what a ho need
    Puff some mo' funk, ya don't need
    Approachin hoochies with a passion, been a long day
    But I've been driven by attraction in a strong way
    Your body is bangin baby I love it when you flaunt it
    Time to give it to daddy n---- now tell me how you want it
    (Tell me how you want it! La-dy, yeahhhyeah)

    [Chorus]

    [Verse Two: Tupac]

    Tell me is it cool to f---?
    Did you think I come to talk am I a fool or what?
    Positions on the floor it's like erotic, ironic
    cause I'm somewhat psychotic
    I'm hittin switches on bitches like I been fixed with hydraulics
    Up and down like a roller coaster, I'm up inside ya
    I ain't quittin til the show is over, cause I'ma rider
    In and out just like a robbery, I'll probably be a freak
    and let you get on top of me, get her rockin these
    Nights full of Alize, a livin legend
    You ain't heard about these n
    play these Cali days
    Delores Tucker, youse a mutha---
    Instead of tryin to help a n---you destroy a brother
    Worse than the others -- Bill Clinton, Mr. Bob Dole
    You're too old to understand the way the game is told
    You're lame so I gotta hit you with the hot facts
    Want some on lease? I'm makin millions, n---- top that
    They wanna censor me; they'd rather see me in a cell
    livin in hell -- only a few of us'll live to tell
    Now everybody talkin bout us I could give a f
    I'd be the first one to bomb and cuss
    N---- tell me how you want it

    [Chorus]

    [Verse Three: Tupac]

    Raised as a youth, tell the truth I got the scoop
    on how to get a bulletproof, because I jumped from the roof
    before I was a teenager, mobile phone, SkyPager
    Game rules, I'm livin major -- my adversaries
    is lookin worried, they paranoid of gettin buried
    One of us gon' see the cemetary
    My only hope to survive if I wish to stay alive
    Gettin high, see the demons in my eyes, before I die
    I wanna live my life and ball, make a couple million
    And then I'm chillin fade em all, these taxes
    got me crossed up and people tryin to sue me
    Media is in my business and they actin like they know me
    Hahaha, but I'ma mash out, peel out
    I'm with it quick I'se quick to whip that f-n steel out
    Yeah n---- it's some new s so better get up on it
    When ya see me tell a n---- how ya want it
    How do you want it?

    [Chorus 2X]

    [Tupac]
    How you want it?
    Yeah my n Johnny J
    Yeah, we out

    [Chorus]

    [Tupac]
    Tell me

    [Chorus]

    [Tupac]
    Cash game, livin in the fast lane, I'm for real



    I am now officially humming that beat in my head....

    Thread Integrity: Now what would Tupac do in a situation like this?

    Tupac RIP :(
    I was working in Oakland when they announced over the radio that he had died... it was a sad day :(
    word. same here..I think Googles fuckin up tho..ok, gotta hit Youtube and hear the ACTUAL song now, cause its bothering me, lmao! its GOTTA be How do you NEED it :confused:

    My walk was actually part Bike ride too, so it wasnt all walk from Miami to Savannah! :D

    when I got to NY I found out about the former NYGiant whos walkin FOR REAL throughout the states to raise money for some cause I forgot, but yea..that was a "Wild" week trip and I'm so fuckin ready to do it again but this time maybe head west or try some new scenery and states
    Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
    Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
    Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
    ************************************
  • AllieAllie Posts: 2,908
    stickboy wrote:
    word. same here..I think Googles fuckin up tho..ok, gotta hit Youtube and hear the ACTUAL song now, cause its bothering me, lmao! its GOTTA be How do you NEED it :confused:

    My walk was actually part Bike ride too, so it wasnt all walk from Miami to Savannah! :D

    when I got to NY I found out about the former NYGiant whos walkin FOR REAL throughout the states to raise money for some cause I forgot, but yea..that was a "Wild" week trip and I'm ready to do it again but this time maybe head west or try some new scenery and states
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlvS_Uk5yJM


    It's how do you feel, sorry ;)

    it's still a really cool thing you did
    "...like a word misplaced, nothing said, what a waste.."
    "Sometimes life should be consumed in measured doses"
    6-01-06
    6/25/08
    Free Speedy
    and Metsy!
  • stickboystickboy Posts: 2,981
    Allie wrote:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlvS_Uk5yJM


    It's how do you feel, sorry ;)

    it's still a really cool thing you did
    thanx babe..I got a lot of clarity on that trip but next time I want to try and do it to raise money for some kinda cause like Homelessness or Hunger, etc.
    Im actually looking into this:

    http://www.theovernight.org/

    I see the ads in the subway here everywhere and it caught my attention so I think I might do this
    Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
    Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
    Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
    ************************************
  • Slip KidSlip Kid Posts: 1,175
    trust me, this isn't a problem at all.
    I just don't trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die.
  • stickboystickboy Posts: 2,981
    Allie wrote:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlvS_Uk5yJM


    It's how do you feel, sorry ;)

    it's still a really cool thing you did
    wow! all these yrs..guess PJ's not the only lyrics I found out I was singing wrong yrs later! lol
    shit...g'head, you can strip me of my "gansta" cred now :/..Im not as official as I thought I was..or other people thought I was, hahaha
    Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
    Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
    Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
    ************************************
  • AllieAllie Posts: 2,908
    stickboy wrote:
    thanx babe..I got a lot of clarity on that trip but next time I want to try and do it to raise money for some kinda cause like Homelessness or Hunger, etc.
    Im actually looking into this:

    http://www.theovernight.org/

    I see the ads in the subway here everywhere and it caught my attention so I think I might do this

    oh wow, that would be amazing
    Homelessness and hunger are important causes too! Esp. people that go hungry, in this country-that disturbs me!
    "...like a word misplaced, nothing said, what a waste.."
    "Sometimes life should be consumed in measured doses"
    6-01-06
    6/25/08
    Free Speedy
    and Metsy!
  • AllieAllie Posts: 2,908
    stickboy wrote:
    wow! all these yrs..guess PJ's not the only lyrics I found out I was singing wrong yrs later! lol
    shit...g'head, you can strip me of my "gansta" cred now :/..Im not as official as I thought I was..or other people thought I was, hahaha

    lol
    I know, I found out from this board that the lyrics in Porch are 'initiatives are taken up by the middle' :eek:

    and what is 'gansta'? ;) J/k.
    "...like a word misplaced, nothing said, what a waste.."
    "Sometimes life should be consumed in measured doses"
    6-01-06
    6/25/08
    Free Speedy
    and Metsy!
  • stickboystickboy Posts: 2,981
    Allie wrote:
    oh wow, that would be amazing
    Homelessness and hunger are important causes too! Esp. people that go hungry, in this country-that disturbs me!
    its about a few days b4 the tour starts so I might start a thread to see who's down and get people in Seattle to get involved.
    Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
    Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
    Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
    ************************************
  • stickboystickboy Posts: 2,981
    Allie wrote:
    lol
    I know, I found out from this board that the lyrics in Porch are 'initiatives are taken up by the middle' :eek:

    and what is 'gansta'? ;) J/k.
    iz how we spellz gansta in da hood! :D

    and speakin of porch waaay back I used to think it was Cuddle in your voice one last time...and it never really made sense to me..how do you cuddle in a voice??
    Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
    Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
    Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
    ************************************
  • AllieAllie Posts: 2,908
    stickboy wrote:
    iz how we spellz gansta in da hood! :D

    and speakin of porch waaay back I used to think it was Cuddle in your voice one last time...and it never really made sense to me..how do you cuddle in a voice??
    HAH! LOL.

    then after that I thought it was 'daily minefields' which also doesn't make sense :) This was before they I had the internets where you could look these things up :)
    "...like a word misplaced, nothing said, what a waste.."
    "Sometimes life should be consumed in measured doses"
    6-01-06
    6/25/08
    Free Speedy
    and Metsy!
  • stickboystickboy Posts: 2,981
    Allie wrote:
    HAH! LOL.

    then after that I thought it was 'daily minefields' which also doesn't make sense :) This was before they I had the internets where you could look these things up :)
    hahah, yea thank god for the internet...shit, like Ed said..for every tool they lend us...a loss of independence. Such a wise man, he is ;)
    Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
    Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
    Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
    ************************************
  • gobrowns19gobrowns19 Posts: 1,447
    Go on this 'fake' date with her and ask if you can 'fake' hold her hand, 'fake' kiss after the date, yada yada yada
    Happiness is only real when shared
  • MerkingBoyMerkingBoy Posts: 249
    It lukz lyk I "thugg'dified" dis thraed! U're al welcum. :cool:
  • given2fly10given2fly10 Posts: 485
    stickboy wrote:
    its about a few days b4 the tour starts so I might start a thread to see who's down and get people in Seattle to get involved.
    im down to help the needy. after all i am a giver :D, haha. in all seriousness its a good idea
    And he still gives his love, he just gives it away, The love he receives is the love that is saved, And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, A human being that was given to fly

    no bed=no brian

    coke sucks
  • HailHailVitalogyHailHailVitalogy Posts: 5,414
    Not so good...

    I pick her up, she's late so when she gets in I joke and say "fashionably late like a real date" so she laughs. The next thing she says is "a lot of people are jealous of you" so I say of course they are im with you and she laughs shes like no Jacob is jealous (the guy that she was with after the breakup) and Adam (her x-bf) always thought u had a thing for me but whatever lets just have a good time...so that kind of set the tone for the rest of the night.

    Went to dinner, we kept talking...kept holding up conversation...and then she gets a text from Adam saying he misses her and all this shit...so she almost cries and shes like what terrible timing. So she then tells me I don't know what it is I have with guys, every guy im involved with is like in love with me and i can tell you this cause i love you joe and know you wont judge me....so again, tone for only friends thing

    We start driving back and im like so what should we do now? shes like well I got a paper due at midnight so I think im just going to do that, and maybe go to jacobs room...so i was like hmmm ok whatever...dropped her off and she told me that this was the best night shes had with a guy in a long time

    basically....just friends vibe from her to me, and i guess thats the way its going to be, just sucks dick man
    2003: Uniondale, MSG x2 | 2004: Reading | 2005: Gorge, Vancouver, Philly | 2006: East Rutherford x2, Gorge x2, Camden 1, Hartford | 2008: MSG x2, VA Beach | 2009: Philly x3 | 2010: MSG x2, Bristow | 2011: Alpine Valley x2 | 2012: MIA Philly | 2013: Wrigley, Charlottesville, Brooklyn 2 | 2014: Milan, Amsterdam 1 | 2016: MSG x2, Fenway x2, Wrigley 2 | 2018: Rome, Krakow, Berlin, Wrigley 2 | 2021: Sea Hear Now | 2022: San Diego, LA x2, MSG, Camden, Nashville, St. Louis, Denver | 2023: St. Paul 1, Chicago x2, Fort Worth x2, Austin 2 | 2024: Las Vegas 1, Seattle x2, Indy, MSG x2, Philly x2, Baltimore, Ohana 2
  • paige_peachpaige_peach Posts: 35
    number one, watch out for rebounding

    number two, you are the 'best friend'

    number three, you don't want to start something when you're about to leave.

    Keep in contact with her and wait until next year. make sure the boyfriend area has been cleared out. Really, I would NOT recommend being steady with someone all through college. You close yourself off to a lot of friendships and possible 'love of your life's.

    Play it cool and keep it in your pants.
  • paige_peachpaige_peach Posts: 35
    gobrowns19 wrote:
    Go on this 'fake' date with her and ask if you can 'fake' hold her hand, 'fake' kiss after the date, yada yada yada
    that's a great wait to get your heart broken if she's not interested...
  • edvedder913edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    Not so good...

    I pick her up, she's late so when she gets in I joke and say "fashionably late like a real date" so she laughs. The next thing she says is "a lot of people are jealous of you" so I say of course they are im with you and she laughs shes like no Jacob is jealous (the guy that she was with after the breakup) and Adam (her x-bf) always thought u had a thing for me but whatever lets just have a good time...so that kind of set the tone for the rest of the night.

    Went to dinner, we kept talking...kept holding up conversation...and then she gets a text from Adam saying he misses her and all this shit...so she almost cries and shes like what terrible timing. So she then tells me I don't know what it is I have with guys, every guy im involved with is like in love with me and i can tell you this cause i love you joe and know you wont judge me....so again, tone for only friends thing

    We start driving back and im like so what should we do now? shes like well I got a paper due at midnight so I think im just going to do that, and maybe go to jacobs room...so i was like hmmm ok whatever...dropped her off and she told me that this was the best night shes had with a guy in a long time

    basically....just friends vibe from her to me, and i guess thats the way its going to be, just sucks dick man

    step back for awhile......just be her friend for now. see how things unfold. now is totally the wrong time to try to get involved with her. let a few months go by before confessing any feelings. timing is everything. it's a tough situation when you are friends with someone and feelings develop. unfortunately there is no right answer. good luck.
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