I pick her up, she's late so when she gets in I joke and say "fashionably late like a real date" so she laughs. The next thing she says is "a lot of people are jealous of you" so I say of course they are im with you and she laughs shes like no Jacob is jealous (the guy that she was with after the breakup) and Adam (her x-bf) always thought u had a thing for me but whatever lets just have a good time...so that kind of set the tone for the rest of the night.
Went to dinner, we kept talking...kept holding up conversation...and then she gets a text from Adam saying he misses her and all this shit...so she almost cries and shes like what terrible timing. So she then tells me I don't know what it is I have with guys, every guy im involved with is like in love with me and i can tell you this cause i love you joe and know you wont judge me....so again, tone for only friends thing
We start driving back and im like so what should we do now? shes like well I got a paper due at midnight so I think im just going to do that, and maybe go to jacobs room...so i was like hmmm ok whatever...dropped her off and she told me that this was the best night shes had with a guy in a long time
basically....just friends vibe from her to me, and i guess thats the way its going to be, just sucks dick man
you have the same problem I had when I was your age. It's about confidence and how you respond. I told you before, you need to step up, and start saying things and doing things thats gonna make her say fuck those guys Im hanging with Joey. "I love you joe and know you wont judge me"?? thats where you turn around and say "I love you too so I dont wanna see you crying or get hurt over those 2 fools, so why dont we change the subject or go dancing"
C'mon joey, I gotta do everything for you?
Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
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you have the same problem I had when I was your age. It's about confidence and how you respond. I told you before, you need to step up, and start saying things and doing things thats gonna make her say fuck those guys Im hanging with Joey. "I love you joe and know you wont judge me"?? thats where you turn around and say "I love you too so I dont wanna see you crying or get hurt over those 2 fools, so why dont we change the subject or go dancing"
C'mon joey, I gotta do everything for you?
obviously you do, haha
we burnin before msg?
2003: Uniondale, MSG x2 | 2004: Reading | 2005: Gorge, Vancouver, Philly | 2006: East Rutherford x2, Gorge x2, Camden 1, Hartford | 2008: MSG x2, VA Beach | 2009: Philly x3 | 2010: MSG x2, Bristow | 2011: Alpine Valley x2 | 2012: MIA Philly | 2013: Wrigley, Charlottesville, Brooklyn 2 | 2014: Milan, Amsterdam 1 | 2016: MSG x2, Fenway x2, Wrigley 2 | 2018: Rome, Krakow, Berlin, Wrigley 2 | 2021: Sea Hear Now | 2022: San Diego, LA x2, MSG, Camden, Nashville, St. Louis, Denver | 2023: St. Paul 1, Chicago x2, Fort Worth x2, Austin 2 | 2024: Las Vegas 1, Seattle x2, Indy, MSG x2, Philly x2, Baltimore, Ohana 2
Me personally, I would step back and not hang with her much anymore. Don't just blow her off but don't be around her all the time or when she wants. She will pick up on it and then ask you why you guys don't hang out much anymore and then you tell her that you started to have feelings for her but you needed to step back because you didn't want to ruin the friendship adding to her man problems she was having at the time.
By her reaction you will know what questions to ask.
"I am ahead, I am advanced, I am the
first man to buy all of Stones
underpants" E.V. during DTE 7-9-03
..and you KNOW this MANNNNN!!!! I got a few people I wanna take care of and light up so Im comin thru with some FIIAAH!!!
Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
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good then we can get some BENS for the munchies and you can tell me how to go about this, hahaha
Im a try and see maybe we have a BBQ at my sis house one of the nights b4 whichever show she and her hubby decide to come, and we get LIT! If we do then we can all jump on the LIRR down here and get to Penn ST. in like 20 mins...if not then we can always start the festivities maybe at my place, we'll see
oh yea...sure we can talk and I'll explain to you what I mean and you'll see and understand the difference
Aah, fuck it, I’m just gonna go home, turn on the fuckin’ TV...
Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
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Me personally, I would step back and not hang with her much anymore. Don't just blow her off but don't be around her all the time or when she wants. She will pick up on it and then ask you why you guys don't hang out much anymore and then you tell her that you started to have feelings for her but you needed to step back because you didn't want to ruin the friendship adding to her man problems she was having at the time.
By her reaction you will know what questions to ask.
I agree. If you just keep it up as you are you'll always be friendzoned. If you lay off a bit and don't always be available then something MAY happen, still unlikely if you've been friends a long time but more of a chance for sure. All in all I'd say you just need to learn to get over it. If you let it eat you up you're only going to end up getting jealous next time she gets a boyfriend.
Paul
'06 - London, Dublin, Reading
'07 - Katowice, Wembley, Dusseldorf, Copenhagen, Nijmegen
'09 - London, Manchester, London
'12 - Manchester, Manchester, Berlin, Stockholm, Copenhagen
Hail,hail The best way to get this girl is to start going out and spending more time with another girl. Hot or cute just not a dog. The jealousy will kick in. Trust me from experience on this.
HailHailVitalogy,
I think you should get involved with her, but just keep it as a friends-with- benefits type of thing.
What kind of benefits? Fake dates to make her on-off BF and ex-BF jealous? Doesn't sound too cool to me. Sounds like he's getting used.
This girl sounds to me like the type of girl who cannot stand to have any lapse in male attention... right from the ex-BF to the "current" one, with a great "guy friend" that she loves to spend time with and make him take her on "dates" and tells him all of her problems and he's so nice and why can't her ex and current BF be more like him... OP, you're in the friend zone. Many men will tell you that it's harder to escape the friend zone than it is to escape a POW camp. IMO, this chick KNOWS you're interested in her... she's picking up on that. She knows that since you dig her, she can have you take her out and make the other 2 guys insanely jealous.
My suggestion would be to let it go... trust me, I've been in this situation and wasted a lot of time and energy on trying to change someone's mind and it was a complete joke. Hated myself for it for a while.
we didnt even say bye to each other because i had a final while she was leaving last week...havent really talked to her (using the advice someone gave me) and she called me today while i was at work and I got the missed call just now...
2003: Uniondale, MSG x2 | 2004: Reading | 2005: Gorge, Vancouver, Philly | 2006: East Rutherford x2, Gorge x2, Camden 1, Hartford | 2008: MSG x2, VA Beach | 2009: Philly x3 | 2010: MSG x2, Bristow | 2011: Alpine Valley x2 | 2012: MIA Philly | 2013: Wrigley, Charlottesville, Brooklyn 2 | 2014: Milan, Amsterdam 1 | 2016: MSG x2, Fenway x2, Wrigley 2 | 2018: Rome, Krakow, Berlin, Wrigley 2 | 2021: Sea Hear Now | 2022: San Diego, LA x2, MSG, Camden, Nashville, St. Louis, Denver | 2023: St. Paul 1, Chicago x2, Fort Worth x2, Austin 2 | 2024: Las Vegas 1, Seattle x2, Indy, MSG x2, Philly x2, Baltimore, Ohana 2
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C'mon joey, I gotta do everything for you?
Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
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obviously you do, haha
we burnin before msg?
By her reaction you will know what questions to ask.
first man to buy all of Stones
underpants" E.V. during DTE 7-9-03
Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
************************************
good then we can get some BENS for the munchies and you can tell me how to go about this, hahaha
oh yea...sure we can talk and I'll explain to you what I mean and you'll see and understand the difference
Watch the nightly news and drink a beer...
Like I could even change the world, yeah right...
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'06 - London, Dublin, Reading
'07 - Katowice, Wembley, Dusseldorf, Copenhagen, Nijmegen
'09 - London, Manchester, London
'12 - Manchester, Manchester, Berlin, Stockholm, Copenhagen
What kind of benefits? Fake dates to make her on-off BF and ex-BF jealous?
This girl sounds to me like the type of girl who cannot stand to have any lapse in male attention... right from the ex-BF to the "current" one, with a great "guy friend" that she loves to spend time with and make him take her on "dates" and tells him all of her problems and he's so nice and why can't her ex and current BF be more like him... OP, you're in the friend zone. Many men will tell you that it's harder to escape the friend zone than it is to escape a POW camp. IMO, this chick KNOWS you're interested in her... she's picking up on that. She knows that since you dig her, she can have you take her out and make the other 2 guys insanely jealous.
My suggestion would be to let it go... trust me, I've been in this situation and wasted a lot of time and energy on trying to change someone's mind and it was a complete joke. Hated myself for it for a while.