men: sexually aggressive women. thoughts.

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  • OutOfBreath
    OutOfBreath Posts: 1,802
    gue_barium wrote:
    are you intimidated?

    I recall my girlfriend's older sister, when i was sixteen, being alone with her,
    smoking some herb, enjoying some music, and then all of the sudden she said:
    Wanna fuck?

    In retrospect, I think I should have.

    But, I didn't. It really threw me off guard. I felt uncomfortable and goofy.

    Anyone else been in a situation like that?
    I would be completely thrown off-guard if someone suddenly suggested that. But I'm a bit shy and traditional in that sense. Not that women should not take an initiative, but there are other more subtle ways than "Wanna fuck?" after all.

    As for women taking the sexual initiative in a relationship, I just love that. For one thing, it feels a bit uncomfortable being the one always pressuring for it, and secondly, nothing helps you feel more wanted and loved than when you get jumped suddenly.

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  • gue_barium
    gue_barium Posts: 5,515
    OutOfBreath wrote:
    I would be completely thrown off-guard if someone suddenly suggested that. But I'm a bit shy and traditional in that sense. Not that women should not take an initiative, but there are other more subtle ways than "Wanna fuck?" after all.

    As for women taking the sexual initiative in a relationship, I just love that. For one thing, it feels a bit uncomfortable being the one always pressuring for it, and secondly, nothing helps you feel more wanted and loved than when you get jumped suddenly.

    Peace
    Dan

    Right, right, i understand that completely.
    I think this is more a question for the newly initiated and the opportunities that arise in this way. And for the hardcore christian moralists who seem to deny that this sort of thing exists in their circles, or that if it does it is about devil-women, and abstinence.
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  • gue_barium
    gue_barium Posts: 5,515
    OutOfBreath wrote:
    I would be completely thrown off-guard if someone suddenly suggested that. But I'm a bit shy and traditional in that sense. Not that women should not take an initiative, but there are other more subtle ways than "Wanna fuck?" after all.

    As for women taking the sexual initiative in a relationship, I just love that. For one thing, it feels a bit uncomfortable being the one always pressuring for it, and secondly, nothing helps you feel more wanted and loved than when you get jumped suddenly.

    Peace
    Dan

    In good relationships there really isn't that pressure that I know from my experience. It's all-access pretty much all of the time.
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  • catefrances
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    gue_barium wrote:
    In good relationships there really isn't that pressure that I know from my experience. It's all-access pretty much all of the time.

    except when otherwise stated. which i guess is covered by your 'pretty much all'. :)
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  • gue_barium
    gue_barium Posts: 5,515
    catefrances wrote:
    except when otherwise stated. which i guess is covered by your 'pretty much all'. :)

    In the male dominated society that we live in, the myth is that men are the
    sexual dominators while women suffer to a less significant role. The reality is is that women, sexually speaking are much more affluent orgasmically speaking than men ever will be.
    So, basically, in a relationship, it is the woman who is sacrificing, orgasm for orgasm... unless you're a guy like me. ;)
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  • catefrances
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    gue_barium wrote:
    In the male dominated society that we live in, the myth is that men are the
    sexual dominators while women suffer to a less significant role. The reality is is that women, sexually speaking are much more affluent orgasmically speaking than men ever will be.
    So, basically, in a relationship, it is the woman who is sacrificing, orgasm for orgasm... unless you're a guy like me. ;)

    hate to burst your bubble gue but i can assure you, not all woman sacrifice. ;):p
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  • gue_barium
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    catefrances wrote:
    hate to burst your bubble gue but i can assure you, not all woman sacrifice. ;):p
    well, that's what i was saying. wasn't it?

    and i'm not taking anything away from the art of erotic love by quantifying orgasms. women, sometimes, i guess in my experience, don't always know what they have going for them in that department.
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  • catefrances
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    gue_barium wrote:
    well, that's what i was saying. wasn't it?

    and i'm not taking anything away from the art of erotic love by quantifying orgasms. women, sometimes, i guess in my experience, don't always know what they have going for them in that department.


    oops i misread what you were saying. i guess i got a bit distracted, ;):p


    hmm... yes... sometimes they don't.
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  • NoK
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    gue_barium wrote:
    well, that's what i was saying. wasn't it?

    and i'm not taking anything away from the art of erotic love by quantifying orgasms. women, sometimes, i guess in my experience, don't always know what they have going for them in that department.

    Thats why vibrators were created. j/k.

    Well at first I would have been thinking "wtf" but after my brain acknowledged what she wanted I would have jumped on it. Blame you're reaction on the weed, you will feel better about yourself.
  • OutOfBreath
    OutOfBreath Posts: 1,802
    gue_barium wrote:
    In good relationships there really isn't that pressure that I know from my experience. It's all-access pretty much all of the time.
    Oh it is, I can assure you. :)

    But as I said, if it would always be my initiative, well, I would wonder whether it was only me that wanted it.

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  • prism
    prism Posts: 2,440
    it's ridiculous when men say that they want a woman that is sexually confident, when in reality a sexually confident woman scares them shitless




    and by confident I don't mean dominate either
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  • gue_barium
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    OutOfBreath wrote:
    Oh it is, I can assure you. :)

    But as I said, if it would always be my initiative, well, I would wonder whether it was only me that wanted it.

    Peace
    Dan

    Honesty is a great thing that way.
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  • gue_barium
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    prism wrote:
    it's ridiculous when men say that they want a woman that is sexually confident, when in reality a sexually confident woman scares them shitless




    and by confident I don't mean dominate either

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  • urbanhippie
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    I think there's a difference between sexual confidence and sexual aggressiveness.

    One is attractive....the other isn't.
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  • prism
    prism Posts: 2,440
    urbanhippie wrote:
    I think there's a difference between sexual confidence and sexual aggressiveness.

    One is attractive....the other isn't.


    oh i know there's definitely a difference...though it's too bad that men are typically too self-centered to bother to notice the difference
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  • prism
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    gue_barium wrote:
    horsefeathers.



    ostrich feathers are much, much sexier
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  • gue_barium
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    urbanhippie wrote:
    I think there's a difference between sexual confidence and sexual aggressiveness.

    One is attractive....the other isn't.

    good point.

    on the other hand, entering this arena in the late teens as most of us do, we are bound to encounter something like that and perhaps not really know the difference.
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  • urbanhippie
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    gue_barium wrote:
    good point.

    on the other hand, entering this arena in the late teens as most of us do, we are bound to encounter something like that and perhaps not really know the difference.

    I agree

    And maybe, this girl, who was not that much older than you I'm guessing, was confusing the two also.

    What I'm trying to say is confidence, like passion, IS attractive. But sometimes, overt sexuality of this kind can be a turn off. Far better to be subtly alluring :)
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  • gue_barium
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    urbanhippie wrote:
    I agree

    And maybe, this girl, who was not that much older than you I'm guessing, was confusing the two also.

    What I'm trying to say is confidence, like passion, IS attractive. But sometimes, overt sexuality of this kind can be a turn off. Far better to be subtly alluring :)

    It was a strange crux of a moment, I guess. In retrospect, like I said, I wish I would have had the werewithal to grasp the situation. She was 20, her sister, my gf, was 15. I had just turned 16.
    Strange days.
    I mean, I don't think her sis would have minded all that much.
    If I had my head on straight... it could have been a pleasant situation.
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  • gue_barium
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    gue_barium wrote:
    It was a strange crux of a moment, I guess. In retrospect, like I said, I wish I would have had the werewithal to grasp the situation. She was 20, her sister, my gf, was 15. I had just turned 16.
    Strange days.
    I mean, I don't think her sis would have minded all that much.
    If I had my head on straight... it could have been a pleasant situation.

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