I think cougars are older, financially well-off women, if i'm not mistaken.
No thanks.
I'm speaking more in terms of someone your own age, or thereabouts, maybe a little richer or poorer, but not much.
yah, i just dont know how old you are, so figured we could stretch the term theoretically. i think youre right though, money often does play a factor in such personalities, since otherwise single women at that age are typically working too much or raising families for said sexual predation(s). i have seen exceptions though.
anyway, nice thread,... should be interesting to see what some other dudes have to say on the matter. [im guessing most are gonna go with "you shoulda fucked her que", but ya never can tell for sure],...
aight, im well beyond the state where im in need of passing out. ciao.
we don’t know just where our bones will rest,
to dust i guess,
forgotten and absorbed into the earth below,..
yah, i just dont know how old you are, so figured we could stretch the term theoretically. i think youre right though, money often does play a factor in such personalities, since otherwise single women at that age are typically working too much or raising families for said sexual predation(s). i have seen exceptions though.
anyway, nice thread,... should be interesting to see what some other dudes have to say on the matter. [im guessing most are gonna go with "you shoulda fucked her que", but ya never can tell for sure],...
aight, im well beyond the state where im in need of passing out. ciao.
I even said i shoulda f***** her. But that's only because I was sixteen and not a whole lot more matters at that point. I wasn't any moralist by any stretch at that age. I wasn't scared off because she was my girlfriend's older sister, either, or that I had a girlfriend. I was just simply scared off by her approach. And the weed may have been making me feel tweakish.
er, i just said that i think there is a human being at the end of every post.
no matter how absurd, really. people get to know themselves in this sort of forum, whether you believe it or not.
i used to think, words are just words. people will make of them what they will, no problem of mine. in the past here in the message pit, i didn't attach the idea that those words might mean something to someone in any sort of real time kind of sense. it's just a message board, and that's true, philosophically speaking, however, in time i've found it is better to acknowledge the person you are replying to is as much flesh and blood as yourself. you know?
er, i just said that i think there is a human being at the end of every post.
no matter how absurd, really. people get to know themselves in this sort of forum, whether you believe it or not.
i used to think, words are just words. people will make of them what they will, no problem of mine. in the past here in the message pit, i didn't attach the idea that those words might mean something to someone in any sort of real time kind of sense. it's just a message board, and that's true, philosophically speaking, however, in time i've found it is better to acknowledge the person you are replying to is as much flesh and blood as yourself. you know?
hmm well i know that everything i say on the pit is a faithful representation of me as a person. if i dont believe something or mean what i say then why bother. and i dont post anything just for shock value. i dont lie in real life so why would i not be truthful on the pit?
so consequently i believe, perhaps naively, that others act the same.
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hmm well i know that everything i say on the pit is a faithful representation of me as a person. if i dont believe something or mean what i say then why bother. and i dont post anything just for shock value. i dont lie in real life so why would i not be truthful on the pit?
so consequently i believe, perhaps naively, that others act the same.
the language has its limits, so much can be told by those pretending to be somebody else, even if they aren't aware that that's what they're doing. that is to say, honesty comes through even in a forum such as this. we're not always perfectly honest all of the time, regardless of how hard we try. in this forum of language as life our weaknesses show and we strengthen our language, hopefully, as to ourselves and its inherit change.
Q: Dude, you're so full of shit.
A: no i'm not.
I recall my girlfriend's older sister, when i was sixteen, being alone with her,
smoking some herb, enjoying some music, and then all of the sudden she said:
Wanna fuck?
In retrospect, I think I should have.
But, I didn't. It really threw me off guard. I felt uncomfortable and goofy.
Anyone else been in a situation like that?
I would be completely thrown off-guard if someone suddenly suggested that. But I'm a bit shy and traditional in that sense. Not that women should not take an initiative, but there are other more subtle ways than "Wanna fuck?" after all.
As for women taking the sexual initiative in a relationship, I just love that. For one thing, it feels a bit uncomfortable being the one always pressuring for it, and secondly, nothing helps you feel more wanted and loved than when you get jumped suddenly.
Peace
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I would be completely thrown off-guard if someone suddenly suggested that. But I'm a bit shy and traditional in that sense. Not that women should not take an initiative, but there are other more subtle ways than "Wanna fuck?" after all.
As for women taking the sexual initiative in a relationship, I just love that. For one thing, it feels a bit uncomfortable being the one always pressuring for it, and secondly, nothing helps you feel more wanted and loved than when you get jumped suddenly.
Peace
Dan
Right, right, i understand that completely.
I think this is more a question for the newly initiated and the opportunities that arise in this way. And for the hardcore christian moralists who seem to deny that this sort of thing exists in their circles, or that if it does it is about devil-women, and abstinence.
I would be completely thrown off-guard if someone suddenly suggested that. But I'm a bit shy and traditional in that sense. Not that women should not take an initiative, but there are other more subtle ways than "Wanna fuck?" after all.
As for women taking the sexual initiative in a relationship, I just love that. For one thing, it feels a bit uncomfortable being the one always pressuring for it, and secondly, nothing helps you feel more wanted and loved than when you get jumped suddenly.
Peace
Dan
In good relationships there really isn't that pressure that I know from my experience. It's all-access pretty much all of the time.
except when otherwise stated. which i guess is covered by your 'pretty much all'.
In the male dominated society that we live in, the myth is that men are the
sexual dominators while women suffer to a less significant role. The reality is is that women, sexually speaking are much more affluent orgasmically speaking than men ever will be.
So, basically, in a relationship, it is the woman who is sacrificing, orgasm for orgasm... unless you're a guy like me.
In the male dominated society that we live in, the myth is that men are the
sexual dominators while women suffer to a less significant role. The reality is is that women, sexually speaking are much more affluent orgasmically speaking than men ever will be.
So, basically, in a relationship, it is the woman who is sacrificing, orgasm for orgasm... unless you're a guy like me.
hate to burst your bubble gue but i can assure you, not all woman sacrifice.
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take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
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hate to burst your bubble gue but i can assure you, not all woman sacrifice.
well, that's what i was saying. wasn't it?
and i'm not taking anything away from the art of erotic love by quantifying orgasms. women, sometimes, i guess in my experience, don't always know what they have going for them in that department.
and i'm not taking anything away from the art of erotic love by quantifying orgasms. women, sometimes, i guess in my experience, don't always know what they have going for them in that department.
oops i misread what you were saying. i guess i got a bit distracted,
hmm... yes... sometimes they don't.
hear my name
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
and i'm not taking anything away from the art of erotic love by quantifying orgasms. women, sometimes, i guess in my experience, don't always know what they have going for them in that department.
Thats why vibrators were created. j/k.
Well at first I would have been thinking "wtf" but after my brain acknowledged what she wanted I would have jumped on it. Blame you're reaction on the weed, you will feel better about yourself.
In good relationships there really isn't that pressure that I know from my experience. It's all-access pretty much all of the time.
Oh it is, I can assure you.
But as I said, if it would always be my initiative, well, I would wonder whether it was only me that wanted it.
Peace
Dan
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"Every judgment teeters on the brink of error. To claim absolute knowledge is to become monstrous. Knowledge is an unending adventure at the edge of uncertainty." - Frank Herbert, Dune, 1965
I think there's a difference between sexual confidence and sexual aggressiveness.
One is attractive....the other isn't.
good point.
on the other hand, entering this arena in the late teens as most of us do, we are bound to encounter something like that and perhaps not really know the difference.
on the other hand, entering this arena in the late teens as most of us do, we are bound to encounter something like that and perhaps not really know the difference.
I agree
And maybe, this girl, who was not that much older than you I'm guessing, was confusing the two also.
What I'm trying to say is confidence, like passion, IS attractive. But sometimes, overt sexuality of this kind can be a turn off. Far better to be subtly alluring
And maybe, this girl, who was not that much older than you I'm guessing, was confusing the two also.
What I'm trying to say is confidence, like passion, IS attractive. But sometimes, overt sexuality of this kind can be a turn off. Far better to be subtly alluring
It was a strange crux of a moment, I guess. In retrospect, like I said, I wish I would have had the werewithal to grasp the situation. She was 20, her sister, my gf, was 15. I had just turned 16.
Strange days.
I mean, I don't think her sis would have minded all that much.
If I had my head on straight... it could have been a pleasant situation.
It was a strange crux of a moment, I guess. In retrospect, like I said, I wish I would have had the werewithal to grasp the situation. She was 20, her sister, my gf, was 15. I had just turned 16.
Strange days.
I mean, I don't think her sis would have minded all that much.
If I had my head on straight... it could have been a pleasant situation.
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A: Kind of.
Q: What are you leaving out?
A: I'd rather not say.
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yah, i just dont know how old you are, so figured we could stretch the term theoretically. i think youre right though, money often does play a factor in such personalities, since otherwise single women at that age are typically working too much or raising families for said sexual predation(s). i have seen exceptions though.
anyway, nice thread,... should be interesting to see what some other dudes have to say on the matter. [im guessing most are gonna go with "you shoulda fucked her que", but ya never can tell for sure],...
aight, im well beyond the state where im in need of passing out. ciao.
to dust i guess,
forgotten and absorbed into the earth below,..
LMAO!!
but no gue, you love me cause you dont know me.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
I even said i shoulda f***** her. But that's only because I was sixteen and not a whole lot more matters at that point. I wasn't any moralist by any stretch at that age. I wasn't scared off because she was my girlfriend's older sister, either, or that I had a girlfriend. I was just simply scared off by her approach. And the weed may have been making me feel tweakish.
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Well, i love you in a cyber sense. I am understanding of your forays into different kinds of thinking. Maybe because I do it myself.
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i didnt think there was any sense in cyber space.
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I do think there is a human being typing at the keyboard for every post that is submitted here.
I used to think of this place in different terms, more objectively I guess, for lack of a better word.
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and how do you think now?
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i just need to say
er, i just said that i think there is a human being at the end of every post.
no matter how absurd, really. people get to know themselves in this sort of forum, whether you believe it or not.
i used to think, words are just words. people will make of them what they will, no problem of mine. in the past here in the message pit, i didn't attach the idea that those words might mean something to someone in any sort of real time kind of sense. it's just a message board, and that's true, philosophically speaking, however, in time i've found it is better to acknowledge the person you are replying to is as much flesh and blood as yourself. you know?
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hmm well i know that everything i say on the pit is a faithful representation of me as a person. if i dont believe something or mean what i say then why bother. and i dont post anything just for shock value. i dont lie in real life so why would i not be truthful on the pit?
so consequently i believe, perhaps naively, that others act the same.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
the language has its limits, so much can be told by those pretending to be somebody else, even if they aren't aware that that's what they're doing. that is to say, honesty comes through even in a forum such as this. we're not always perfectly honest all of the time, regardless of how hard we try. in this forum of language as life our weaknesses show and we strengthen our language, hopefully, as to ourselves and its inherit change.
Q: Dude, you're so full of shit.
A: no i'm not.
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As for women taking the sexual initiative in a relationship, I just love that. For one thing, it feels a bit uncomfortable being the one always pressuring for it, and secondly, nothing helps you feel more wanted and loved than when you get jumped suddenly.
Peace
Dan
"Every judgment teeters on the brink of error. To claim absolute knowledge is to become monstrous. Knowledge is an unending adventure at the edge of uncertainty." - Frank Herbert, Dune, 1965
Right, right, i understand that completely.
I think this is more a question for the newly initiated and the opportunities that arise in this way. And for the hardcore christian moralists who seem to deny that this sort of thing exists in their circles, or that if it does it is about devil-women, and abstinence.
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In good relationships there really isn't that pressure that I know from my experience. It's all-access pretty much all of the time.
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except when otherwise stated. which i guess is covered by your 'pretty much all'.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
In the male dominated society that we live in, the myth is that men are the
sexual dominators while women suffer to a less significant role. The reality is is that women, sexually speaking are much more affluent orgasmically speaking than men ever will be.
So, basically, in a relationship, it is the woman who is sacrificing, orgasm for orgasm... unless you're a guy like me.
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hate to burst your bubble gue but i can assure you, not all woman sacrifice.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
and i'm not taking anything away from the art of erotic love by quantifying orgasms. women, sometimes, i guess in my experience, don't always know what they have going for them in that department.
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oops i misread what you were saying. i guess i got a bit distracted,
hmm... yes... sometimes they don't.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
Thats why vibrators were created. j/k.
Well at first I would have been thinking "wtf" but after my brain acknowledged what she wanted I would have jumped on it. Blame you're reaction on the weed, you will feel better about yourself.
But as I said, if it would always be my initiative, well, I would wonder whether it was only me that wanted it.
Peace
Dan
"Every judgment teeters on the brink of error. To claim absolute knowledge is to become monstrous. Knowledge is an unending adventure at the edge of uncertainty." - Frank Herbert, Dune, 1965
and by confident I don't mean dominate either
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horsefeathers.
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One is attractive....the other isn't.
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oh i know there's definitely a difference...though it's too bad that men are typically too self-centered to bother to notice the difference
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good point.
on the other hand, entering this arena in the late teens as most of us do, we are bound to encounter something like that and perhaps not really know the difference.
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I agree
And maybe, this girl, who was not that much older than you I'm guessing, was confusing the two also.
What I'm trying to say is confidence, like passion, IS attractive. But sometimes, overt sexuality of this kind can be a turn off. Far better to be subtly alluring
Wembley 18/06/07
If there was a reason, it was you.
O2 Arena 18/09/09
It was a strange crux of a moment, I guess. In retrospect, like I said, I wish I would have had the werewithal to grasp the situation. She was 20, her sister, my gf, was 15. I had just turned 16.
Strange days.
I mean, I don't think her sis would have minded all that much.
If I had my head on straight... it could have been a pleasant situation.
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A: Kind of.
Q: What are you leaving out?
A: I'd rather not say.
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