In my own honest opinion, it is really solely up to you two as a couple and your individual attitudes towards marriage. You say you've been together for two years and you don't have any desire to be with any other women ever. If you take a lot of time thinking about this and truly see yourself with the same person until the day you die, then yes, I would say you are ready for marriage... Just make sure the other half feels exactly the same, though I'm sure you two are together for that reason
My husband and I decided to get married after being together for five months. I got married when I was 20. He was a week away from turning 23. For us, nothing has changed like most people would assume. You will get those people who say you fall into the married rut and become boring, but it's truly what you make it. We've been married for a couple of years so far and have held no arguments and experiences some of the toughest of times together. You may have people who disagree with your age and decide to label you in their own "proper" ways by saying you don't know what you are doing, but never let them influence you. Do what feels right in your heart. In my own experience we've had tons of people like that in our life, but at the end of the day all that matters if that you're living the rest of your life with your one, true best friend and partner
I love this group of people and I value all your opinions because I know this place is filled with some good hearted and good minded souls.
I shouldn't have said it the way I did...I'm not scared because I don't feel comfortable...I guess I'm scared about being judged...which is something I've never been worried about except for this issue.
And I agree...there really is no rush, but like decides2dream said...why wait to flourish in something that you want? I guess there really is no right/wrong answer...just how I feel.
I have a tendency to put too much on my plate at once :? But someone mentioned children?!? Rest-assured, that will not be happening soon. Not only am I not prepared or ready to devote my time to that because I still have a lot of growing of my own to do, I don't want to risk divorce being in someone else's life. My dad left my mom when I was 11 and after that I swore to myself that whenever I get married...I'm doing my damndest to make sure it happens only once. No one should have to go through what kids go through in a divorce, or the husband and wife for that matter...
Seriously though, like I said...I value everyone's opinions, and I take it all to heart. With a subject like this, the best thing I can get is some good, from the heart advice.
Whenever it happens though, you guys can count on me posting a celebration thread!!!
Well, based on this, I stand very strong on my reply. You are, without a doubt not ready..just chill, live, experience and only then perhaps you'll know the true answer to the question....Though I would only hope it's not answered via the message pit..lol..for your sake and hers..
I love this pit, but I'm not THAT attached to it
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Well, based on this, I stand very strong on my reply. You are, without a doubt not ready..just chill, live, experience and only then perhaps you'll know the true answer to the question....Though I would only hope it's not answered via the message pit..lol..for your sake and hers..
I love this pit, but I'm not THAT attached to it
hahaha, yes. his post actually negates itself in it's 'advice' eh?
basically...'don't take advice from the internet in your real life decisions, but the advice i give is right, based soley on one post of yours....on the internet.'
Got married at 21.
Ended up good. Lots of fun being young and married.
Marriage is not for everyone so only do it if it feels right and you like hanging out together.
And, society grants monetary rewards for being married.
Got married at 21.
Ended up good. Lots of fun being young and married.
Marriage is not for everyone so only do it if it feels right and you like hanging out together.
And, society grants monetary rewards for being married.
i found that being married revoked all the rewards that society bestowed!
do not get married......................having a consistant person to engage with is over-rated, punching your clown and never knowing who your partner has been with, adds suspense in the sack.
you crazy-ass gecko!!
So I'll just lie down and wait for the dream Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
I was 20 and my wife was 19 when we got married. I knew somehow right from the start that no matter what happended she'd be there for me. We just had our 25th anniversary last week and have two fairly grown kids and we still regularly annoy the shit out of each other. We really grew up togther and it was fun most of the time.
I was 20 and my wife was 19 when we got married. I knew somehow right from the start that no matter what happended she'd be there for me. We just had our 25th anniversary last week and have two fairly grown kids and we still regularly annoy the shit out of each other. We really grew up togther and it was fun most of the time.
all of that made me smile, but most especially the part i bolded.
going on 17 years myself in 2 weeks! :shock:
and sans the children and the exact # of years, i'd say pretty much the same as you did.....;)
I have been married 7 years. I like it, I have a awesome daughter b/c of it. I dont want to get divorced.........................But...................WAIT!!!! I got married when I was 27, she was 24. All is fine except I like women! LOL!
WAIT WAIT WAIT!...........................THEN WAIT SOME MORE!!
Dont make me say I old you so in a few years.
Get em a Body Bag Yeeeeeaaaaa!
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
I have been married 7 years. I like it, I have a awesome daughter b/c of it. I dont want to get divorced.........................But...................WAIT!!!! I got married when I was 27, she was 24. All is fine except I like women! LOL!
WAIT WAIT WAIT!...........................THEN WAIT SOME MORE!!
Dont make me say I old you so in a few years.
In that case, why did you get married? Couldn't someone as easily be telling you "I told you so"?
I hope you don't find me condescending, because that's totally not how I'm meaning this...but...why do you say wait? I like women jsut as much as the next guy, don't get me wrong.
But, I'm with the best woman out there...now, of course I haven't met EVERY woman...but I don't need to. That's how great she is...I didn't even know there was a side of me that would want to be with just one person, but she brought it out it me. Living together, I think the first 6 months were the hardest part, but we pulled through and now, each day, we're stronger and stronger...
So, I guess my question is to you, from one woman loving guy to another is, what would I be waiting for?
and please don't take it as if I don't appreciate your input, because I do.
7/2/06 - Denver, CO
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2
But, I'm with the best woman out there...now, of course I haven't met EVERY woman...but I don't need to. That's how great she is...I didn't even know there was a side of me that would want to be with just one person, but she brought it out it me. Living together, I think the first 6 months were the hardest part, but we pulled through and now, each day, we're stronger and stronger...
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This statement alone is enough to know that you are ready for marriage. When someone can bring a part of you out that tells you that you wouldn't want to be with any other woman and that you are indeed ecstatic to be where you are, then that's all the completeness in the world that you need. You seem to know that hardships happen with any relationship, but the point is that you are willing and have pulled through some of them. You put successful effort into your relationship and notice that a strengthening strength comes from that continually. This is more than can be said about most individuals. In my mind if you are tossing around the idea of marriage and can really see a future with it while seeing all of the flaws, then you are ready.
You could wait and you could have a long engagement, but sometimes you just know what you want. Everyone is different and has their own needs. In the end though, everyone knows what they really want.
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My husband and I decided to get married after being together for five months. I got married when I was 20. He was a week away from turning 23. For us, nothing has changed like most people would assume. You will get those people who say you fall into the married rut and become boring, but it's truly what you make it. We've been married for a couple of years so far and have held no arguments and experiences some of the toughest of times together. You may have people who disagree with your age and decide to label you in their own "proper" ways by saying you don't know what you are doing, but never let them influence you. Do what feels right in your heart. In my own experience we've had tons of people like that in our life, but at the end of the day all that matters if that you're living the rest of your life with your one, true best friend and partner
Best of luck to ya!
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I love this pit, but I'm not THAT attached to it
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2
hahaha, yes. his post actually negates itself in it's 'advice' eh?
basically...'don't take advice from the internet in your real life decisions, but the advice i give is right, based soley on one post of yours....on the internet.'
good stuff!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
Ended up good. Lots of fun being young and married.
Marriage is not for everyone so only do it if it feels right and you like hanging out together.
And, society grants monetary rewards for being married.
you crazy-ass gecko!!
Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
all of that made me smile, but most especially the part i bolded.
going on 17 years myself in 2 weeks! :shock:
and sans the children and the exact # of years, i'd say pretty much the same as you did.....;)
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
WAIT WAIT WAIT!...........................THEN WAIT SOME MORE!!
Dont make me say I old you so in a few years.
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
In that case, why did you get married? Couldn't someone as easily be telling you "I told you so"?
I hope you don't find me condescending, because that's totally not how I'm meaning this...but...why do you say wait? I like women jsut as much as the next guy, don't get me wrong.
But, I'm with the best woman out there...now, of course I haven't met EVERY woman...but I don't need to. That's how great she is...I didn't even know there was a side of me that would want to be with just one person, but she brought it out it me. Living together, I think the first 6 months were the hardest part, but we pulled through and now, each day, we're stronger and stronger...
So, I guess my question is to you, from one woman loving guy to another is, what would I be waiting for?
and please don't take it as if I don't appreciate your input, because I do.
6/12/08 - Tampa, FL
8/23/09 - Chicago, IL
9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
9/03/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 1
9/04/11 - East Troy, WI - PJ20 - Night 2
But, I'm with the best woman out there...now, of course I haven't met EVERY woman...but I don't need to. That's how great she is...I didn't even know there was a side of me that would want to be with just one person, but she brought it out it me. Living together, I think the first 6 months were the hardest part, but we pulled through and now, each day, we're stronger and stronger...
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This statement alone is enough to know that you are ready for marriage. When someone can bring a part of you out that tells you that you wouldn't want to be with any other woman and that you are indeed ecstatic to be where you are, then that's all the completeness in the world that you need. You seem to know that hardships happen with any relationship, but the point is that you are willing and have pulled through some of them. You put successful effort into your relationship and notice that a strengthening strength comes from that continually. This is more than can be said about most individuals. In my mind if you are tossing around the idea of marriage and can really see a future with it while seeing all of the flaws, then you are ready.
You could wait and you could have a long engagement, but sometimes you just know what you want. Everyone is different and has their own needs. In the end though, everyone knows what they really want.
http://thriftstorenightmares.blogspot.com/
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=599947572
~Wild is my love~
That was the scariest thing about getting married for me since I do not believe it's right to live together if you're not married and we didn't.
...are those who've helped us.
Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.