Ex partners on Facebook

Cateeto

My god! The amount of stalker stories! It makes me tremble with the thought of having a facebook... But I just dig it too much I love social networking sites and find them a great way to interact with people, but the ex factor can be quite a creepy one. Luckily I have only one ex as a friend and he's treated me decently. I like the private features so not just anyone can look at your profile, but then there's the fact that people can read you comments to mutual friends and so forth... It's just best not to think about these things! It can make your mind spin!

So no crazy ex stories from me yet... But crazy psychos have unfortunately stalked me like crazy on my social networking sites. I suppose it comes with the territory :( What is with people?

soulsinging

Cateeto wrote:

So no crazy ex stories from me yet... But crazy psychos have unfortunately stalked me like crazy on my social networking sites. I suppose it comes with the territory :( What is with people?

Broken hearts make people kinda crazy. I could write 2 albums saying my ex is a worthless cunt and people would call me a sensitive, tortured artist... I pop onto facebook every now and again to see how a woman I once loved is doing these days and I'm a dangerous psychotic stalker.

FoxyMop

yellowled24 wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

I think you're probably reading too much into this. People "friend" mere acquaintances on facebook, it's not like it requires any sort of close personal bond of friendship. I have 200 friends or something on there... I actually speak to maybe a dozen. So she probably thinks you're rejecting her because you're jealous or scared. She'd probably be surprised to hear you take so seriously the commitment of facebook friendship.

Nah, im not reading too much into it, because im not one of those people who have 200 friends on FB, I have maybe 50?
I need to be pretty ontop of my friends list, because my hubby and I have two kids and I like to know that only my good friends can access info about me and the kids etc...plus, ive always been alot more about quality or quantity...

And the whole way she went about it was in poor taste...it was absolutely fine the first time, but then she kept sending my hubby friend requests and we would ignore them and she would keep on trying....then today - she commented on my friends status after I had, when she has NEVER done that in the past, and mad a big hoo haa about how shes expecting another baby and shes so damn happy with her perfect life that she could just pinch herself...and even the mutual friend messaged me and said "Whats the deal? Is she doing this to piss you off?"

I'm a pretty social person but I would have to agree with you, (hell, look at my sig). MySpace is not nearly as invasive as Facebook is, where people can find you via your friends even if you keep your alma mater and other info unlisted.

I friended a few ex'es and my friend's ex'es and she started getting harassed by the wife of the ex that made a comment on her profile. Drama! It's like high school again sometimes on here.

Children being involved... I 100% agree with you. I hate the idea of some freaky strangers having access to my kid/family, so I try to keep it on the downlow as much as possible. I've been thinking about weeding out my FB friends for awhile... thanks for reminding me the good reasons why I should

FoxyMop

Cateeto wrote:

My god! The amount of stalker stories! It makes me tremble with the thought of having a facebook... But I just dig it too much I love social networking sites and find them a great way to interact with people, but the ex factor can be quite a creepy one. Luckily I have only one ex as a friend and he's treated me decently. I like the private features so not just anyone can look at your profile, but then there's the fact that people can read you comments to mutual friends and so forth... It's just best not to think about these things! It can make your mind spin!

So no crazy ex stories from me yet... But crazy psychos have unfortunately stalked me like crazy on my social networking sites. I suppose it comes with the territory :( What is with people?

Remember the crazy pizza delivery boy stalker from the old Pit? I hope he didn't make it on to this board :evil: :(

fanch75

soulsinging wrote:

I could write 2 albums saying my ex is a worthless cunt and people would call me a sensitive, tortured artist...

What would Buckcherry do?

AmentsChick

fanch75 wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

I could write 2 albums saying my ex is a worthless cunt and people would call me a sensitive, tortured artist...

What would Buckcherry do?

woah. Fanch...is it really you?!!!

soulsinging

fanch75 wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

I could write 2 albums saying my ex is a worthless cunt and people would call me a sensitive, tortured artist...

What would Buckcherry do?

Probably bust into her bf's place, kick his ass, do lines of coke off his unconscious body, then run a train on each of her best friends while she watched.

But they don't have to worry about passing the character and fitness portion of the bar exam

patrickredeyes

I just started on FB and plan on keeping it simple. Just a few friends and family to keep in touch with.

BinFrog

Facebook recently suggested to my fiance that she may know my ex. Mind you, it didn't ask me to be friends with her, just my fiance. Too funny.

yellowled24

BinFrog wrote:

Facebook recently suggested to my fiance that she may know my ex. Mind you, it didn't ask me to be friends with her, just my fiance. Too funny.

LOL

Thats funny

Cateeto

FoxyMop wrote:

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Remember the crazy pizza delivery boy stalker from the old Pit? I hope he didn't make it on to this board :evil: :(

Dude, I hope not. Talk about creeeeeeeeeepy! Imagine if he showed up on your "People you may know" facebook feed. Now THAT would be scary!

Or worse, showing up at your door delivering pizza... Eek! The internet is full of a lot of creepos, but luckily a lot of us have good heads on our shoulders

Hartydog

I had an ex reconnect with me. But as I'm single currently there is nobody to possibly take it the wrong way. And this girl and I ended on good terms.

Although I do have an ex who I have blocked on Facebook. I don't want that girl any where near me.

yellowled24

Cateeto wrote:

FoxyMop wrote:

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Remember the crazy pizza delivery boy stalker from the old Pit? I hope he didn't make it on to this board :evil: :(

Dude, I hope not. Talk about creeeeeeeeeepy! Imagine if he showed up on your "People you may know" facebook feed. Now THAT would be scary!

Or worse, showing up at your door delivering pizza... Eek! The internet is full of a lot of creepos, but luckily a lot of us have good heads on our shoulders

update me on this pizza man!!??

BrinkofForever

*gets out electroshock paddles to revive thread*

CLEAR!!

Funny thread. I recently ran Facebook's email tool, where it imports your mail contacts from gmail, yahoo ect...and I got a wicked surprise. One of my exes, who has an email address I set up for her a few years ago, popped up with a new last name (of the jerk she cheated on me with). The weird thing is though, that it was pretty much what I call a 'stalker profile'... where someone sets up a profile with only basic information and no headshot for the sole purpose of stalking other people. The only thing that stood out was the fact that she had joined MY GEOGRAPHICAL NETWORK, which, as I found out in my settings, would give her unblocked access to my profile. :shock:
Granted she could be stalking one of the other 300,000 people in the Columbus Network. Perhaps it would be best to just block her.
But since we're on the topic of stalking... I found my first girlfriend's profile the other day. We split on good terms and I haven't heard from her in 19 years or so. I'm not looking to rekindle anything, but I really do wonder what she's been doing with her life and how things turned out. The problem is, if I shoot her a message, she'll obviously know that I 'searched' her name at some point, as we have no mutual friends and live in different states. I just worry that I'll give her that creepy-stalker vibe..which wouldn't be good.

RW81233

this is a good thread...i don't find anything wrong with catching back up with someone. you can always just send a message with the friend request that says something like you were reminiscent and genuinely wondered what was up. If she doesn't like it then she won't answer if she does then you're fine. I've talked to a bunch of old friends like that on facebook just to find out where people ended up.

bee_boy

Cateeto wrote:

FoxyMop wrote:

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Remember the crazy pizza delivery boy stalker from the old Pit? I hope he didn't make it on to this board :evil: :(

Dude, I hope not. Talk about creeeeeeeeeepy! Imagine if he showed up on your "People you may know" facebook feed. Now THAT would be scary!

Or worse, showing up at your door delivering pizza... Eek! The internet is full of a lot of creepos, but luckily a lot of us have good heads on our shoulders

Who is this guy?

dcfaithful

yellowled24 wrote:

Cateeto wrote:

FoxyMop wrote:

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Remember the crazy pizza delivery boy stalker from the old Pit? I hope he didn't make it on to this board :evil: :(

Dude, I hope not. Talk about creeeeeeeeeepy! Imagine if he showed up on your "People you may know" facebook feed. Now THAT would be scary!

Or worse, showing up at your door delivering pizza... Eek! The internet is full of a lot of creepos, but luckily a lot of us have good heads on our shoulders

update me on this pizza man!!??

Here I am ladies!!!!



Just kidding, I have no idea who this pizza guy is, but he sounds like a CREEP!!! My girlfriend and I met on the net...I was suprised to find out that she was actually a truly good hearted and beautiful person...until we moved in together... did I say that? j/k.

Back on topic....ahem, FUCK FACEBOOK!

WaveCameCrashin

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Facebook is something that upsets me at times.
For example, people you went to school with and never talked to in school adding you.
If you never talked to me in school why now, morons.
And worse is work colleagues tracking you down.
I'm only on it to chat to my cousin overseas!

Yeah man I couldnt agree with you more. Im like dude... :? I didnt even like you when we went to school togeather. The one that really took the cake was when this guy sent me a friend request and he was the same ass hole that stole my Al Merrick. I was like you gotta be freakin kidding me. :shock:

bee_boy

prfctlefts wrote:

The one that really took the cake was when this guy sent me a friend request and he was the same ass hole that stole my Al Merrick

Stealing an Al Merrick deserves death. :evil:

Holtzmn

Cateeto wrote:

Dude, I hope not. Talk about creeeeeeeeeepy! Imagine if he showed up on your "People you may know" facebook feed. Now THAT would be scary!

Someone worse could show up on your people you may know-


http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/ ... t/col/tenn

March 26, 2009 | Dear Cary,

Recently while I was on Facebook, the man who date-raped me in college showed up as "people you might know." Apparently a mutual friend has him as a Friend, at least virtually. I never filed charges, never told people for years afterward, and didn't even think of it as rape until five years ago. But now that I think about it, it infuriates me that he was able to victimize me without consequences. I don't want to bring legal action, or shame him publicly, but I do want him to understand what he did was wrong. I'd like an apology. I think I could easily forgive him if an apology was offered. We were both young. Mistakes are made. That doesn't make it OK.

Should I attempt to contact him, or just let bygones be bygones? Honestly, I could take it or leave it. My only worry is that he will think date rape is OK. (I was extremely drunk, and threw up for hours, and went in and out of consciousness while he had sex with me. He watched me throw up, and then still tried to have sex with me.) I've had a long path recovering from this incident and prior childhood abuse, and I'd hate to think he was still doing the same thing to other women.

All I want to know is that he knows what he did was wrong, and is sorry for it. But is it worth contacting him, if the answer may be "no" or "I don't know what you're talking about"? I worry the attempt of getting a response will be more trouble, emotionally speaking, than the satisfaction of closure from the right answer.

Want Him to Know