Ex partners on Facebook

Heineken Helen

Corey Lynn wrote:

my x found me on my space and facebook. He wrote that he sorry that he was an asshole in the past and that he has many regrets from the way that things ended. He is single and seems somewhat miserable. I hope he is able to get his shit together someday...but, it was nice to have some closure and know that he realized that he fucked up : )

well after seeing this thread last night, i typed in my exes name and there he was :shock: . I'm pretty tempted to send him a message getting him to explain himself... but I won't . People think if you do shit like that that you're not over the person... but I never got any kinda explanation and the whole thing was quite weird. I've ex FRIENDS though that I feel like doing the same thing.

Damn you and your thread I just hope I don't get drunk some night and start being abusive.

mfc2006

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Facebook is something that upsets me at times.
For example, people you went to school with and never talked to in school adding you.
If you never talked to me in school why now, morons.

so, so true.

it's cool to catch up with people that you were actually friends with...but it starts to be like the high school popularity thing all over again.

about the exes, i'm a firm believer that if you broke up with them for a good reason, you shouldn't be friends. i've had a couple of exes constantly try to reach me though fb & myspace and i just keep ignoring their requests. it's funny that it all seemed to change (amount of requests) once i got engaged, and then married.

smithnic

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Facebook is something that upsets me at times.
For example, people you went to school with and never talked to in school adding you.
If you never talked to me in school why now, morons.
And worse is work colleagues tracking you down.
I'm only on it to chat to my cousin overseas!

The exact reason why I'm not on the damn thing.

Cateeto

Oh Sairs... I'll have to write you a big email about an ex story. Knowing my luck they search this forum obsessively haha...

But yeah, that sounds crummy. She obviously can't let go. Most people would just take the hint that they shouldn't be involved in their exes' life... But if they're constantly trying to befriend the person, they obviously have issues from the past that need to be resolved. She's probably just hoping for some resolution from your hubby and you... And since it's not happening, she's trying harder. Good luck with that.

alexander supertramp

yellowled24 wrote:

Alexander Supertramp wrote:

guys ... all you just described is the story of small towns ... except here it happens in the local pub, or checkout line, instead of an online network - and you get to toss the dirty looks in person, not at a screen

dude, didnt you die in a bus, like, heaps of years ago?

So, you took the name!!!

well, what was i to do???

the other account actually works (cant post with it tho)
and as tempting as it is to be ... well, me ... i guess the time will come that ill badly want to be here ... sooooo, best behaviour

libragirl

I suppose you and your husband can block her.

Keiran

My father in law has his mistress on his friends list, picture and all. Now, my mother in law isn't into facebook (neither am I) so she is unaware of this situation. She's aware of the mistress but probably not the "friend" on facebook pic. I just can't get into putting that much accurate info about myself out there for others to access.

soulsinging

Keiran wrote:

My father in law has his mistress on his friends list, picture and all. Now, my mother in law isn't into facebook (neither am I) so she is unaware of this situation. She's aware of the mistress but probably not the "friend" on facebook pic. I just can't get into putting that much accurate info about myself out there for others to access.

Damn, where do you live that wives are cool with their husband having a mistress? How can I move there?

fanch75

yellowled24 wrote:

By the way, im not phased by this chick, I am rather amused by it all

Yeah right. I don't buy this idea that she's trying to friend you as well as your husband (why would she do that unless she's just socially regarded). You're green with jealousy and you probably check your husband's email & text messages without his knowledge.

adropinthepark

Keiran wrote:

My father in law has his mistress on his friends list, picture and all. Now, my mother in law isn't into facebook (neither am I) so she is unaware of this situation. She's aware of the mistress but probably not the "friend" on facebook pic. I just can't get into putting that much accurate info about myself out there for others to access.

My dad has a bunch of promiscuous looking women on his Myspace. I gave him crap about having me as 8th friend under these gals and he got defensive. So I thought I'd be all witty and I had one of his fave actors/comedians sign a printout copy of his Myspace page. :P
But, since his sugar momma doesn't know what kind of friends he has, he won't accept the autograph. :evil:

Oh, well. If I'd known his woman didn't know about the page, I wouldn't have bothered. It's more worthwhile to have somebody (other than family) paying for his lifestyle than to be higher up on his friends list. :roll:

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I have a couple of former flames as friends on Facebook. It's 'cause I'm nosy. Besides, things didn't end badly, they just sort of dissipated. Meh. It's kinda cool knowing that all is good in their lives.

Steve Dunne

it's funny watching worlds collide on facebook...old flames especially. i agree it can get a bit weird, but again if you parted as friends and have connected since, then facebook can be a cool way to reconnect. but if things were left ugly, then it's a stalker scene.

thunderDAN

I closed my facebook account because one of my ex girls was being really creepy and writing weird comments of my photos and reading into everything. She would friend girls I was friends with just to check out their profiles; like girls I knew for a fact she never met before. So I would get my friends that are girls asking me "hey do you know _____ _____ she just friended me" then I would have to explain.

I also closed it because the one ex that I still have something for, I got tired of seeing pictures of her pop up. I haven't talked to her in a couple years but I always used to look at her profile trying to figure out what she was up to. When she first got on it I wouldn't friend her because I didn't want to see her because it would bother me- she friended me and it just got annoying seeing pictures of her pop up. I would look at her profile to try and figure out where she was living or who she was dating, and it really just brought me down knowing how creepy I was being- so I closed my account and haven't been back on.

So 2 cases of creepiness caused me to close the thing

soulsinging

thunderDAN wrote:

I closed my facebook account because one of my ex girls was being really creepy and writing weird comments of my photos and reading into everything. She would friend girls I was friends with just to check out their profiles; like girls I knew for a fact she never met before. So I would get my friends that are girls asking me "hey do you know _____ _____ she just friended me" then I would have to explain.

I also closed it because the one ex that I still have something for, I got tired of seeing pictures of her pop up. I haven't talked to her in a couple years but I always used to look at her profile trying to figure out what she was up to. When she first got on it I wouldn't friend her because I didn't want to see her because it would bother me- she friended me and it just got annoying seeing pictures of her pop up. I would look at her profile to try and figure out where she was living or who she was dating, and it really just brought me down knowing how creepy I was being- so I closed my account and haven't been back on.

So 2 cases of creepiness caused me to close the thing

Maybe I ought to consider the same. The ex I still have something for unfriended me because I was being an asshole and couldn't get over her. Even so, every now and again I go into nosey stalker mode and scope out her profile and pictures. She's still with the guy she left me for and seeing pictures of them traveling the world together and totally happy 2-3 years later always fucks with my head. It can't be healthy.

dunkman

some serious stalking going on in this thread.

:shock:

yellowled24

fanch75 wrote:

yellowled24 wrote:

By the way, im not phased by this chick, I am rather amused by it all

Yeah right. I don't buy this idea that she's trying to friend you as well as your husband (why would she do that unless she's just socially regarded). You're green with jealousy and you probably check your husband's email & text messages without his knowledge.

Um, okay :? think what you want but im telling the truth - she is the one that seached and requested the friendship...

Can I just repeat that I had NO WORRIES at all that she asked to be his friend, but when she got shitty and started accusing me of not being able to move on (wtf???) thats when I thought she had issues with it.
I know in alot of cases people are "friends" with ex's whether it be on FB or day to day life - and thats cool as, but for myself and my partner we didnt feel it was neccassary...and the fact that she went all shitty at us afterwards shows me she is the one who cant move on.

AND she has been adding our friends (or trying to) on FB, so we all have mutual friends, but she hasnt seen or spoken to these people in about 15 years and they hardly know her :?

gabers

My wife was getting a "do you want to be friends" prompt for my ex gilfriend. I guess since she's in my yahoo contact list and we all went to the same college she's been asked. So have I but I wouldn't dare add her as a friend. That would just be too weird. But my wife was asking me why she would have been requested to be this person's "friend"? Would I have to delete this ex from my yahoo contact list to stop these prompts?

yellowled24

gabers wrote:

My wife was getting a "do you want to be friends" prompt for my ex gilfriend. I guess since she's in my yahoo contact list and we all went to the same college she's been asked. So have I but I wouldn't dare add her as a friend. That would just be too weird. But my wife was asking me why she would have been requested to be this person's "friend"? Would I have to delete this ex from my yahoo contact list to stop these prompts?

Not sure? Would your wife get upset knowing your ex was on your contact list?

My hubby doesnt feel comfortable with me having male friends on my MSN chat window contacts list, so there's only female friends on there. I used to try and fight it, because I knew I would never do anything...but he still felt weird about it and I had to respect him and delete my male friends....

All good. Everyones different and I think it has alot to do with personal experiences...both my hubby and I have been cheated on in the past, and this chick that is trying to be "friends" with him was the one who cheated.

Heineken Helen

yellowled24 wrote:

gabers wrote:

My wife was getting a "do you want to be friends" prompt for my ex gilfriend. I guess since she's in my yahoo contact list and we all went to the same college she's been asked. So have I but I wouldn't dare add her as a friend. That would just be too weird. But my wife was asking me why she would have been requested to be this person's "friend"? Would I have to delete this ex from my yahoo contact list to stop these prompts?

Not sure? Would your wife get upset knowing your ex was on your contact list?

My hubby doesnt feel comfortable with me having male friends on my MSN chat window contacts list, so there's only female friends on there. I used to try and fight it, because I knew I would never do anything...but he still felt weird about it and I had to respect him and delete my male friends....

All good. Everyones different and I think it has alot to do with personal experiences...both my hubby and I have been cheated on in the past, and this chick that is trying to be "friends" with him was the one who cheated.

:shock: woah, you can't have male friends? :oops: Now I understand why you don't want his ex contacting him. I met TWO of my bf's ex's in a chip shop one night... at the same time. He got quite uncomfortable and embarrassed but I thought it was funny and quite cute. BUT I know I'd certainly find it embarrassing bumping into two of my ex's at the same time when I'm with my boyfriend... even if I'm NOT with him

yellowled24

Heineken Helen wrote:

:shock: woah, you can't have male friends? :oops: Now I understand why you don't want his ex contacting him. I met TWO of my bf's ex's in a chip shop one night... at the same time. He got quite uncomfortable and embarrassed but I thought it was funny and quite cute. BUT I know I'd certainly find it embarrassing bumping into two of my ex's at the same time when I'm with my boyfriend... even if I'm NOT with him

I can have male friends! Just not on MSN chat windows etc....and its more out of respect for him, because I know how uncomfortable it makes him feel Trust me! We've had some MASSIVE fights about this subject, and it was only after I saw how much he was affected by his Mums infedelity, that I kinda took a step back and looked at the situation

I wouldnt feel comfortablw with him in an instant chat message room thingy with girls I hadnt met or didnt know when I wasnt home - so it kinda goes both ways
We are both quite similar like that - but I do have male friends, although, come to think of it - none of my OWN from my life before I met my hubby, prolly coz I dated all my male friends in the past

That wouldve been amusing at that Fish and Chip shop Helen Was your boyf red in the face?

Heineken Helen

yellowled24 wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

:shock: woah, you can't have male friends? :oops: Now I understand why you don't want his ex contacting him. I met TWO of my bf's ex's in a chip shop one night... at the same time. He got quite uncomfortable and embarrassed but I thought it was funny and quite cute. BUT I know I'd certainly find it embarrassing bumping into two of my ex's at the same time when I'm with my boyfriend... even if I'm NOT with him

I can have male friends! Just not on MSN chat windows etc....and its more out of respect for him, because I know how uncomfortable it makes him feel Trust me! We've had some MASSIVE fights about this subject, and it was only after I saw how much he was affected by his Mums infedelity, that I kinda took a step back and looked at the situation

I wouldnt feel comfortablw with him in an instant chat message room thingy with girls I hadnt met or didnt know when I wasnt home - so it kinda goes both ways
We are both quite similar like that - but I do have male friends, although, come to think of it - none of my OWN from my life before I met my hubby, prolly coz I dated all my male friends in the past

That wouldve been amusing at that Fish and Chip shop Helen Was your boyf red in the face?

well he introduced them to me... cos they came up to him and a minute later he said 'cmon let's go out for a cigarette' so I figured he didn't like them and then he told me, it was pretty funny.

I can certainly see where you're coming from about him talking to girls you don't know on msn. I've had friends who had problems with that before so I know what it's like... he's seen me chatting to guys before and just asks 'who's that?' and I tell him and he gets back to watching tv or whatever... but I've never sensed he has any kinda problem with it. He's plenty of female friends who he often chats to but I've made male friends since I got here and if I'm chatting to them he may chat to us for a minute or may not the only time he took over was when I was kinda in trouble and cornered by some guy who was drunk and getting quite agressive, I was trying to calm him down but then he came over and one of my male friends took me away. So I just left him to deal with it but he's quite a pacifist so was explaining to the guy why this may not be a topic I want to be discussing... but the guy was too drunk.

Anyway, that's kinda verged off topic :oops: and I'm not sure what it has to do with anything