Ex partners on Facebook

yellowled24

I am currently LMAO at my husbands ex girlfriend from HIGH SCHOOL! She has been trying to be his friend, and mine for a while but I explained nicely that I didnt think it neccessary to be friends with her, but wished her well and that she looked like she had a lovely family etc.

Now, a few months on, she is still trying to be hubbys friend, and is trying to be friends with our friends on there, and accuses me of not being able to move on...wtf??? Im not the one trying to be friends with my ex :?

So, here's the question...who here has some ex stories, whether you are the one looking, or re kindling, or annoying ex'es of your partner etc....

By the way, im not phased by this chick, I am rather amused by it all

arq

Some ex's love to resuscitate, I hate that, after years some appear from nowhere and start to ask how is everything and simple little things, WTF, ex's are not friends, well depends how everything ended, but anyway it's kind of weird because they know stuff about you nobody knows, and that kind of connection makes things weird, my ex tried to contact me through facebook and it was a pain, give access to someone on facebook open the door for someone to look at your pictures, friends and family.

The Juggler

great topic. i am not on facebook or anything. but i do wonder what the ex from college is up to. so if i did have a facebook i'd be tempted to look her up...however the current girlfriend would not be a fan of that.

its amazing to step back and think about how the internet has really changed our lives in so many weird ways like this isnt it?!

ps---yellowled, for some reason i always kind of thought you were a dude on the old board. lol

arq

The Jeagler wrote:

great topic. i am not on facebook or anything. but i do wonder what the ex from college is up to. so if i did have a facebook i'd be tempted to look her up...however the current girlfriend would not be a fan of that.

its amazing to step back and think about how the internet has really changed our lives in so many weird ways like this isnt it?!

ps---yellowled, for some reason i always kind of thought you were a dude on the old board. lol

Yes, sometimes one can wonder what happened to the ex but sometimes is not healthy, and the internet doesn't help.

Corey Lynn

my x found me on my space and facebook. He wrote that he sorry that he was an asshole in the past and that he has many regrets from the way that things ended. He is single and seems somewhat miserable. I hope he is able to get his shit together someday...but, it was nice to have some closure and know that he realized that he fucked up : )

iamsam_pj

i think my ex would know how bad of an idea it'd be if he tried to contact me!! i wouldn't be mean to him or anything...i'm over that...but it'd be weird given the circumstances surrounding our breakup. i've never really sought out info on him, though i've run across a couple of pics online. i'm still friends with his sister and they showed up on her myspace page.

arq

imasam_pj you live in a very interesting place

iamsam_pj

arq wrote:

imasam_pj you live in a very interesting place

this is true i "live" in tampa (unfortunately)...but my heart is in orlando!! i was wondering if anyone would catch that.

soulsinging

yellowled24 wrote:

I am currently LMAO at my husbands ex girlfriend from HIGH SCHOOL! She has been trying to be his friend, and mine for a while but I explained nicely that I didnt think it neccessary to be friends with her, but wished her well and that she looked like she had a lovely family etc.

Now, a few months on, she is still trying to be hubbys friend, and is trying to be friends with our friends on there, and accuses me of not being able to move on...wtf??? Im not the one trying to be friends with my ex :?

So, here's the question...who here has some ex stories, whether you are the one looking, or re kindling, or annoying ex'es of your partner etc....

By the way, im not phased by this chick, I am rather amused by it all

I think you're probably reading too much into this. People "friend" mere acquaintances on facebook, it's not like it requires any sort of close personal bond of friendship. I have 200 friends or something on there... I actually speak to maybe a dozen. So she probably thinks you're rejecting her because you're jealous or scared. She'd probably be surprised to hear you take so seriously the commitment of facebook friendship.

That said, I have an ex I stalk every now and again. It's hard because you have to switch networks and stuff. But we're not friends on there because I couldn't handle it after we broke up, it was fucking with my head to see pictures of her and the guy she left me for. Of course, that's what I see when I stalk...

haffajappa

there's a girl my bf used to work with that makes me weary.
she seems nice and all, and its not like i dont trust my bf or anything... but she seems to be all on top of things when it comes to his facebook. he tried to deny her friend requests for a long time but finally accepted it... later he had changed his privacy settings. the other night i changed it back to his friends being able to post on his wall (he didn't have a phone for a couple weeks and facebook was my only way of getting a hold of him) ...no joke, less than 12 hours later she was up and posting on his wall - she must have looked at his page every day! another time i was out and my bf called me, he was like, hey guess who saw you? he told me the girl did... and i was like oh that's weird how does she know about me, he said he told her... i said, you showing people my picture or something? he paused and was like, holy shit... no i didnt...

i've never met her and she's never seen me.

ohhh the joys of facebook i guess!

yellowled24

The Jeagler wrote:

great topic. i am not on facebook or anything. but i do wonder what the ex from college is up to. so if i did have a facebook i'd be tempted to look her up...however the current girlfriend would not be a fan of that.

its amazing to step back and think about how the internet has really changed our lives in so many weird ways like this isnt it?!

ps---yellowled, for some reason i always kind of thought you were a dude on the old board. lol

Hilarious!!

Its funny to think how many people think im a guy...I need an obviously feminine name like Daisy or something

I think its completely natural to wonder where the people of your past are at, and how they are going in life, but to be messaging and also messaging and trying to be friends with the ex's current partner, thats a bit too much - for me anyway...

That is what I explained to her, "Look, sorry, no offense, but I think it better to keep things as they are, but good luck to you, you look really happy etc" and then she's all at me for not being able to move on :?
Im thinking "Well, im not the one who looked him up AND is trying to have mutual friends, 15 years after the relationship ended".
And, they were goig out as 15 year olds, all that involves is losing your virginity and getting Maccas together....

yellowled24

soulsinging wrote:

I think you're probably reading too much into this. People "friend" mere acquaintances on facebook, it's not like it requires any sort of close personal bond of friendship. I have 200 friends or something on there... I actually speak to maybe a dozen. So she probably thinks you're rejecting her because you're jealous or scared. She'd probably be surprised to hear you take so seriously the commitment of facebook friendship.

Nah, im not reading too much into it, because im not one of those people who have 200 friends on FB, I have maybe 50?
I need to be pretty ontop of my friends list, because my hubby and I have two kids and I like to know that only my good friends can access info about me and the kids etc...plus, ive always been alot more about quality or quantity...

And the whole way she went about it was in poor taste...it was absolutely fine the first time, but then she kept sending my hubby friend requests and we would ignore them and she would keep on trying....then today - she commented on my friends status after I had, when she has NEVER done that in the past, and mad a big hoo haa about how shes expecting another baby and shes so damn happy with her perfect life that she could just pinch herself...and even the mutual friend messaged me and said "Whats the deal? Is she doing this to piss you off?"

Jearlpam0925

The Jeagler wrote:

great topic. i am not on facebook or anything. but i do wonder what the ex from college is up to. so if i did have a facebook i'd be tempted to look her up...however the current girlfriend would not be a fan of that.

its amazing to step back and think about how the internet has really changed our lives in so many weird ways like this isnt it?!

ps---yellowled, for some reason i always kind of thought you were a dude on the old board. lol

I hear that. I begrudgingly just started the facebook thing this past couple weeks...pretty weird...and kind of weary of keeping up with it. I just wanted a way to keep up with hook-ups so they stay current hook-ups...Though I am extremely curious to contacting my ex who I was pretty serious with for years, and then poof...that was it - kind of just drifted apart. I had a new crew of people I was hanging out with, moved into the city(Philly), she moved up to Manhattan...Ya know that strange feeling where you feel like you've lived more than one life? That's what it seems like now...Like in 'Scrooged' when Bill Murray sees his ex Karen Allen in the future...Yeah, sorta like that is what I expect. Also I see it as a nice, passive, non-confrontational way of contacting my half-sister that I've never met. Both are actions I'd like to take, but I'm just totally pussin out here...

faceintheclouds

facebook is nothin but trouble. in the past ie had quite the rocky relationship. and whe i see people that made it like that trying to be friends with the lady, well it drives me nuts.
down with gaycebook imo

Sprunkn7

My significant others Ex is on and she pops up with friends that I met through him. I just ignore anything with her name on it.
Easy

FinsburyParkCarrots

I'm facebook friends with my ex-girlfriends. I'm the John Derek of the social networking world. In fact, I encourage my old flames to commingle.

alexander supertramp

guys ... all you just described is the story of small towns ... except here it happens in the local pub, or checkout line, instead of an online network - and you get to toss the dirty looks in person, not at a screen

yellowled24

Alexander Supertramp wrote:

guys ... all you just described is the story of small towns ... except here it happens in the local pub, or checkout line, instead of an online network - and you get to toss the dirty looks in person, not at a screen

dude, didnt you die in a bus, like, heaps of years ago?

So, you took the name!!!

Thoughts_Arrive

Facebook is something that upsets me at times.
For example, people you went to school with and never talked to in school adding you.
If you never talked to me in school why now, morons.
And worse is work colleagues tracking you down.
I'm only on it to chat to my cousin overseas!

dangeringravity

this is funny. just last night i went in and deleted a bunch of people from my friends list who i don't talk to or don't remember! i find it usless to have 400 friends and only speak to 10 of them.

acoustic guy

THIS TOPIC IS PERFECT TO WHAT JUST HAPPENED YESTERDAY IN MY HOME!
My wife is not happy that old flames want to be friends and I usually accept them b/c most all of my X-girlfriends are infact my friends. I do see here point but its not a big deal IMO.

Heineken Helen

Corey Lynn wrote:

my x found me on my space and facebook. He wrote that he sorry that he was an asshole in the past and that he has many regrets from the way that things ended. He is single and seems somewhat miserable. I hope he is able to get his shit together someday...but, it was nice to have some closure and know that he realized that he fucked up : )

well after seeing this thread last night, i typed in my exes name and there he was :shock: . I'm pretty tempted to send him a message getting him to explain himself... but I won't . People think if you do shit like that that you're not over the person... but I never got any kinda explanation and the whole thing was quite weird. I've ex FRIENDS though that I feel like doing the same thing.

Damn you and your thread I just hope I don't get drunk some night and start being abusive.

mfc2006

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Facebook is something that upsets me at times.
For example, people you went to school with and never talked to in school adding you.
If you never talked to me in school why now, morons.

so, so true.

it's cool to catch up with people that you were actually friends with...but it starts to be like the high school popularity thing all over again.

about the exes, i'm a firm believer that if you broke up with them for a good reason, you shouldn't be friends. i've had a couple of exes constantly try to reach me though fb & myspace and i just keep ignoring their requests. it's funny that it all seemed to change (amount of requests) once i got engaged, and then married.

smithnic

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Facebook is something that upsets me at times.
For example, people you went to school with and never talked to in school adding you.
If you never talked to me in school why now, morons.
And worse is work colleagues tracking you down.
I'm only on it to chat to my cousin overseas!

The exact reason why I'm not on the damn thing.

Cateeto

Oh Sairs... I'll have to write you a big email about an ex story. Knowing my luck they search this forum obsessively haha...

But yeah, that sounds crummy. She obviously can't let go. Most people would just take the hint that they shouldn't be involved in their exes' life... But if they're constantly trying to befriend the person, they obviously have issues from the past that need to be resolved. She's probably just hoping for some resolution from your hubby and you... And since it's not happening, she's trying harder. Good luck with that.

alexander supertramp

yellowled24 wrote:

Alexander Supertramp wrote:

guys ... all you just described is the story of small towns ... except here it happens in the local pub, or checkout line, instead of an online network - and you get to toss the dirty looks in person, not at a screen

dude, didnt you die in a bus, like, heaps of years ago?

So, you took the name!!!

well, what was i to do???

the other account actually works (cant post with it tho)
and as tempting as it is to be ... well, me ... i guess the time will come that ill badly want to be here ... sooooo, best behaviour

libragirl

I suppose you and your husband can block her.

Keiran

My father in law has his mistress on his friends list, picture and all. Now, my mother in law isn't into facebook (neither am I) so she is unaware of this situation. She's aware of the mistress but probably not the "friend" on facebook pic. I just can't get into putting that much accurate info about myself out there for others to access.

soulsinging

Keiran wrote:

My father in law has his mistress on his friends list, picture and all. Now, my mother in law isn't into facebook (neither am I) so she is unaware of this situation. She's aware of the mistress but probably not the "friend" on facebook pic. I just can't get into putting that much accurate info about myself out there for others to access.

Damn, where do you live that wives are cool with their husband having a mistress? How can I move there?

fanch75

yellowled24 wrote:

By the way, im not phased by this chick, I am rather amused by it all

Yeah right. I don't buy this idea that she's trying to friend you as well as your husband (why would she do that unless she's just socially regarded). You're green with jealousy and you probably check your husband's email & text messages without his knowledge.

adropinthepark

Keiran wrote:

My father in law has his mistress on his friends list, picture and all. Now, my mother in law isn't into facebook (neither am I) so she is unaware of this situation. She's aware of the mistress but probably not the "friend" on facebook pic. I just can't get into putting that much accurate info about myself out there for others to access.

My dad has a bunch of promiscuous looking women on his Myspace. I gave him crap about having me as 8th friend under these gals and he got defensive. So I thought I'd be all witty and I had one of his fave actors/comedians sign a printout copy of his Myspace page. :P
But, since his sugar momma doesn't know what kind of friends he has, he won't accept the autograph. :evil:

Oh, well. If I'd known his woman didn't know about the page, I wouldn't have bothered. It's more worthwhile to have somebody (other than family) paying for his lifestyle than to be higher up on his friends list. :roll:

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I have a couple of former flames as friends on Facebook. It's 'cause I'm nosy. Besides, things didn't end badly, they just sort of dissipated. Meh. It's kinda cool knowing that all is good in their lives.