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No one ever plans on it... it just happens. By the time you realize it... many Summers have come and gone.
Don't fall into that trap... your past is in the past and cannot be changed. Don't forfiet your future by doing nothing in your present because of the regrets in your past. Keep all of your options open... don't hunt for love... let love grow.
yeah thanks.
I'm not really a "love hunter" it would be nice if it could grow somewhere near me
Good for you! Getting back in the game and meeting new people and having a new relationship / s is the surest way to putting him behind you and it doesn’t hurt to treat yourself a little also!
haha well I don't think there's much chance of new relationship happening anytime soon, like in the next 10 years, but at least I'm going away and meeting new friends (which is something he would never do by the way!)
haha well I don't think there's much chance of new relationship happening anytime soon, like in the next 10 years, but at least I'm going away and meeting new friends (which is something he would never do by the way!)
well mostly two reasons I guess 1) I've been having an impossible time of seeing myself as someone who is attractive enough to get anyone since around the time I left him last year and 2) if I can manage to change that, I just don't know how to meet the type of guys I want to date.
With respect, it sounds like you need to focus on yourself for a while -- do things that make YOU happy. If you happen to meet someone doing one of those things, you start on a good footing because you have something in common.
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well mostly two reasons I guess 1) I've been having an impossible time of seeing myself as someone who is attractive enough to get anyone since around the time I left him last year and 2) if I can manage to change that, I just don't know how to meet the type of guys I want to date.
First of all you shouldn't put those kinds of restrictions on yourself....life has a funny way of turning out completely different than you have might ever expected. Just get out there, and see what happens. That's all you can do. Have fun at the show(s) though and enjoy the PJ Population!
With respect, it sounds like you need to focus on yourself for a while -- do things that make YOU happy. If you happen to meet someone doing one of those things, you start on a good footing because you have something in common.
First of all you shouldn't put those kinds of restrictions on yourself....life has a funny way of turning out completely different than you have might ever expected. Just get out there, and see what happens. That's all you can do. Have fun at the show(s) though and enjoy the PJ Population!
haha this just always strikes me as funny: where is "out" and "there"?
p.s. I totally agree about life not turning out the way you expect .
well mostly two reasons I guess 1) I've been having an impossible time of seeing myself as someone who is attractive enough to get anyone since around the time I left him last year and 2) if I can manage to change that, I just don't know how to meet the type of guys I want to date.
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Classic mistakes.
If you cannot see anything good in yourself... no one else will. Besides, do you really want a relationship with a guy that only likes you because of your looks?
Thinking an outward change (appearance) is what's needed... well, it all depends on what you look like now. Are you hideous? Like, Elephant Man hideous? Do you emmit foul odors? Do you dress like you live on the street? Does your hair resemble a crow's nest? Then, yeah, an over haul is required.
Try widening your scope. The pickest women I know are all single and complain about no good men being out there. They aren't prize catches themselves and miss out on good, decent men who get snagged up by women and get classified as one of the 'good ones that are taken'.
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Hail, Hail!!!
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Classic mistakes.
If you cannot see anything good in yourself... no one else will. Besides, do you really want a relationship with a guy that only likes you because of your looks?
Thinking an outward change (appearance) is what's needed... well, it all depends on what you look like now. Are you hideous? Like, Elephant Man hideous? Do you emmit foul odors? Do you dress like you live on the street? Does your hair resemble a crow's nest? Then, yeah, an over haul is required.
Try widening your scope. The pickest women I know are all single and complain about no good men being out there. They aren't prize catches themselves and miss out on good, decent men who get snagged up by women and get classified as one of the 'good ones that are taken'.
I see good in myself. It's just been hard for me to imagine dating without sexy clothes and underwear and stuff. my friend said the same thing, that if I date someone the way I look now, I'll know he really likes me. But I guess sex has just always been a key part of dating for me.
I guess I sounded a little weird when I said "the kind of men." I didn't mean that in any type of snobbish way. I actually don't really have a type per se. I just mean like, someone who does something for me. there's not any like, criteria.
haha this just always strikes me as funny: where is "out" and "there"?
p.s. I totally agree about life not turning out the way you expect .
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Out there means out there. How many interesting men do you meet in your living room?
And when you are out there... don't act like you don't want to be bothered. I never understand why women complain about men not coming up to meet them when they make themselves look and act like they don't want to be bothered by us.
Allen Fieldhouse, home of the 2008 NCAA men's Basketball Champions! Go Jayhawks!
Hail, Hail!!!
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Out there means out there. How many interesting men do you meet in your living room?
And when you are out there... don't act like you don't want to be bothered. I never understand why women complain about men not coming up to meet them when they make themselves look and act like they don't want to be bothered by us.
Oh I hope no interesting men think I look like I don't want to be bothered!
I've been trying not to stay home after work for a while now. sometimes I do because I have to do chores or something, but I at least take a walk down to the square or something.
I see good in myself. It's just been hard for me to imagine dating without sexy clothes and underwear and stuff. my friend said the same thing, that if I date someone the way I look now, I'll know he really likes me. But I guess sex has just always been a key part of dating for me.
I guess I sounded a little weird when I said "the kind of men." I didn't mean that in any type of snobbish way. I actually don't really have a type per se. I just mean like, someone who does something for me. there's not any like, criteria.
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All you really need it to look nice. You don't need fancy clothes and underwear unless you are going to the opera and having sex that night. Or you normally dress in sexy clothes and underwear. Just don't show up in those dumpy sweats when we come to pick you up.
Allen Fieldhouse, home of the 2008 NCAA men's Basketball Champions! Go Jayhawks!
Hail, Hail!!!
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All you really need it to look nice. You don't need fancy clothes and underwear unless you are going to the opera and having sex that night. Or you normally dress in sexy clothes and underwear. Just don't show up in those dumpy sweats when we come to pick you up.
But maybe sexy underwear would be enough to make her feel sexy enough to "get out there."
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finding out that my ex-boyfriend is dating/sleeping with someone new feels like a huge weight just crushing me or something. I can't breathe and I kinda want to throw up.
We're still good friends and we never really broke up- broke up (I moved away) and I guess I've just felt like he was still my boyfriend all this time. (He also told me that he could not see himself ever dating again).
I feel like an idiot for feeling this way. Can anyone offer some words that might help?
edit: I feel it necessary to add how I found out: he told me this morning he was going for an STD screening. yeah.
oh...hhhmmm just thank yourself lucky that youre not with him and that he didnt bring it back to you.
Ex's are always tough to deal with and yours was just over a year. Go get some yerself some and "try" and ferget about this is a good idea.
Good luck
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sorry to change the subject from sexy underwear but
is it normal for me to feel like she must be making him so much more happy than I did?
Normal? I suppose. In the sense that it is a somewhat natural thought if you are leaning toward insecurity.
Which brings me back to my original point. If you can focus on YOURSELF -- making yourself happy -- you won't be focusing on what or who is making your ex boyfriend happy. I know it is easier said than done. But if you can master this, these thoughts won't haunt you.
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But maybe sexy underwear would be enough to make her feel sexy enough to "get out there."
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Off topic...
I was on a date with a gal... we had finished dinner and i asked her how she thought our date was going. She said, 'Ask me again... when i come back'. and got up and went to the restroom.
When she came back... I asked her again and she handed me her panties under the table.
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That was like, 20 some ott years ago... but, you know what? I'll never forget that date.
Allen Fieldhouse, home of the 2008 NCAA men's Basketball Champions! Go Jayhawks!
Hail, Hail!!!
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Off topic...
I was on a date with a gal... we had finished dinner and i asked her how she thought our date was going. She said, 'Ask me again... when i come back'. and got up and went to the restroom.
When she came back... I asked her again and she handed me her panties under the table.
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That was like, 20 some ott years ago... but, you know what? I'll never forget that date.
Nice. That's a good date!
I don't mean to hijack this thread though.
CityMouse, I guess my point is that doing little things for yourself is one way to start the road to getting over those thoughts you have. By the way, can I ask how old you are? I am 34, and I would say that I didn't really figure out how to not obsess on thoughts about exes until I was out of my 20's.
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sorry to change the subject from sexy underwear but
is it normal for me to feel like she must be making him so much more happy than I did?
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Yeah.. it's normal (and human) to feel that way. But, you also need to understand that what you feel and what the truth actually is are not always the same.
I know, it's easier said than done... but, you need to move on. Everyday you spend worrying about the past is a day of your life that is wasted. You cannot worry about 'Maybe you should have done this' or 'Should not have done that' because it doesn't matter.
Allen Fieldhouse, home of the 2008 NCAA men's Basketball Champions! Go Jayhawks!
Hail, Hail!!!
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Off topic...
I was on a date with a gal... we had finished dinner and i asked her how she thought our date was going. She said, 'Ask me again... when i come back'. and got up and went to the restroom.
When she came back... I asked her again and she handed me her panties under the table.
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That was like, 20 some ott years ago... but, you know what? I'll never forget that date.
So you're suggesting she "get out there" with no underwear?
Honestly though, I've been going through some of this myself lately. It's so easy to give or take advice. You just have to move on. It's not easy, some days are harder than others. Don't talk to him, if he calls you in like 2 months to see how you are doing, don't talk to him. You just have to leave him in your past. Easier said than done, I know. I agree with everyone who said "get out there", and I'll keep the underwear advice to myself.
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Breakups suck. You know you're over the hump when your first thought in the morning isn't how you feel like crying. Every day gets a little better than the last, and all of a sudden you realize you're actually OK.
Have you ever seen the movie Swingers? It's pretty much dead on.
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So you're suggesting she "get out there" with no underwear?
Honestly though, I've been going through some of this myself lately. It's so easy to give or take advice. You just have to move on. It's not easy, some days are harder than others. Don't talk to him, if he calls you in like 2 months to see how you are doing, don't talk to him. You just have to leave him in your past. Easier said than done, I know. I agree with everyone who said "get out there", and I'll keep the underwear advice to myself.
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Not suggesting anything... just relating a past experience.
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And I know it's not easy to move on. I am trying to warn her to AVOID the landmines I have stepped on in my past. I have wasted many days of my life... I don't want her to go where I've been.
Allen Fieldhouse, home of the 2008 NCAA men's Basketball Champions! Go Jayhawks!
Hail, Hail!!!
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Not suggesting anything... just relating a past experience.
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And I know it's not easy to move on. I am trying to warn her to AVOID the landmines I have stepped on in my past. I have wasted many days of my life... I don't want her to go where I've been.
I know, I was joking, and I've wasted way too much time myself, good story though.
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Off topic...
I was on a date with a gal... we had finished dinner and i asked her how she thought our date was going. She said, 'Ask me again... when i come back'. and got up and went to the restroom.
When she came back... I asked her again and she handed me her panties under the table.
...
That was like, 20 some ott years ago... but, you know what? I'll never forget that date.
Any excuse to tell that story huh Cosmo!!!
I bet you could figure out a way to include this story in a Moving Train Thread about Israel and Palestine couldn't you!!!
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Off topic...
I was on a date with a gal... we had finished dinner and i asked her how she thought our date was going. She said, 'Ask me again... when i come back'. and got up and went to the restroom.
When she came back... I asked her again and she handed me her panties under the table.
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That was like, 20 some ott years ago... but, you know what? I'll never forget that date.
That would have caused a mess in my pants.
Anyway, when break ups first happen I swear the mind races like mad for a week or so and then little by little everything calms down. It's cliche but time does heal.
Oh and dates with others dudes would help as well.
Sometimes life don't leave you alone
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CityMouse, I guess my point is that doing little things for yourself is one way to start the road to getting over those thoughts you have. By the way, can I ask how old you are? I am 34, and I would say that I didn't really figure out how to not obsess on thoughts about exes until I was out of my 20's.
Oh I'm 30. The weird thing is, it's been a year (actually a year today!) and I haven't really felt that bad about it until now. I mean of course I had some crying and stuff when I first left, but it wasn't that bad, I think because I felt like he'd still always be there for me and stuff...but now, it's a little different.
So I went out and got absolutely hammered last night. I'm not sure how much I drank but I know I spent $45 and a guy bought me a drink, and then I think there was a shot in there somewhere...so I drank like $50+ of alcohol! It was unfortunate, because the guy who bought me the drink was...well...pretty awesome. So I was sober enough to know that he was...pretty awesome...but not sober enough to make a very good impression. I do have his business card, but no reason to get in touch. I think I just have to hope I run into him in the square (unless this chick I was with goes after him...she was totally moving in on my claim).
oh p.s. thanks everyone for being so supportive. I know I'm being a baby and stuff. Nice to hear your thoughts on the matter.
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yeah thanks.
I'm not really a "love hunter" it would be nice if it could grow somewhere near me
haha well I don't think there's much chance of new relationship happening anytime soon, like in the next 10 years, but at least I'm going away and meeting new friends (which is something he would never do by the way!)
well mostly two reasons I guess 1) I've been having an impossible time of seeing myself as someone who is attractive enough to get anyone since around the time I left him last year and 2) if I can manage to change that, I just don't know how to meet the type of guys I want to date.
With respect, it sounds like you need to focus on yourself for a while -- do things that make YOU happy. If you happen to meet someone doing one of those things, you start on a good footing because you have something in common.
I like to think that this is what I practice
haha this just always strikes me as funny: where is "out" and "there"?
p.s. I totally agree about life not turning out the way you expect
Classic mistakes.
If you cannot see anything good in yourself... no one else will. Besides, do you really want a relationship with a guy that only likes you because of your looks?
Thinking an outward change (appearance) is what's needed... well, it all depends on what you look like now. Are you hideous? Like, Elephant Man hideous? Do you emmit foul odors? Do you dress like you live on the street? Does your hair resemble a crow's nest? Then, yeah, an over haul is required.
Try widening your scope. The pickest women I know are all single and complain about no good men being out there. They aren't prize catches themselves and miss out on good, decent men who get snagged up by women and get classified as one of the 'good ones that are taken'.
Hail, Hail!!!
I see good in myself. It's just been hard for me to imagine dating without sexy clothes and underwear and stuff. my friend said the same thing, that if I date someone the way I look now, I'll know he really likes me. But I guess sex has just always been a key part of dating for me.
I guess I sounded a little weird when I said "the kind of men." I didn't mean that in any type of snobbish way. I actually don't really have a type per se. I just mean like, someone who does something for me. there's not any like, criteria.
Out there means out there. How many interesting men do you meet in your living room?
And when you are out there... don't act like you don't want to be bothered. I never understand why women complain about men not coming up to meet them when they make themselves look and act like they don't want to be bothered by us.
Hail, Hail!!!
ok, I guess I'm already "out there"
Oh I hope no interesting men think I look like I don't want to be bothered!
I've been trying not to stay home after work for a while now. sometimes I do because I have to do chores or something, but I at least take a walk down to the square or something.
All you really need it to look nice. You don't need fancy clothes and underwear unless you are going to the opera and having sex that night. Or you normally dress in sexy clothes and underwear. Just don't show up in those dumpy sweats when we come to pick you up.
Hail, Hail!!!
But maybe sexy underwear would be enough to make her feel sexy enough to "get out there."
is it normal for me to feel like she must be making him so much more happy than I did?
Ex's are always tough to deal with and yours was just over a year. Go get some yerself some and "try" and ferget about this is a good idea.
Good luck
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Normal? I suppose. In the sense that it is a somewhat natural thought if you are leaning toward insecurity.
Which brings me back to my original point. If you can focus on YOURSELF -- making yourself happy -- you won't be focusing on what or who is making your ex boyfriend happy. I know it is easier said than done. But if you can master this, these thoughts won't haunt you.
Off topic...
I was on a date with a gal... we had finished dinner and i asked her how she thought our date was going. She said, 'Ask me again... when i come back'. and got up and went to the restroom.
When she came back... I asked her again and she handed me her panties under the table.
...
That was like, 20 some ott years ago... but, you know what? I'll never forget that date.
Hail, Hail!!!
Nice. That's a good date!
I don't mean to hijack this thread though.
CityMouse, I guess my point is that doing little things for yourself is one way to start the road to getting over those thoughts you have. By the way, can I ask how old you are? I am 34, and I would say that I didn't really figure out how to not obsess on thoughts about exes until I was out of my 20's.
Yeah.. it's normal (and human) to feel that way. But, you also need to understand that what you feel and what the truth actually is are not always the same.
I know, it's easier said than done... but, you need to move on. Everyday you spend worrying about the past is a day of your life that is wasted. You cannot worry about 'Maybe you should have done this' or 'Should not have done that' because it doesn't matter.
Hail, Hail!!!
So you're suggesting she "get out there" with no underwear?
Honestly though, I've been going through some of this myself lately. It's so easy to give or take advice. You just have to move on. It's not easy, some days are harder than others. Don't talk to him, if he calls you in like 2 months to see how you are doing, don't talk to him. You just have to leave him in your past. Easier said than done, I know. I agree with everyone who said "get out there", and I'll keep the underwear advice to myself.
Have you ever seen the movie Swingers? It's pretty much dead on.
Not suggesting anything... just relating a past experience.
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And I know it's not easy to move on. I am trying to warn her to AVOID the landmines I have stepped on in my past. I have wasted many days of my life... I don't want her to go where I've been.
Hail, Hail!!!
I know, I was joking, and I've wasted way too much time myself, good story though.
Any excuse to tell that story huh Cosmo!!!
I bet you could figure out a way to include this story in a Moving Train Thread about Israel and Palestine couldn't you!!!
6/7/2003 (***1/2)
7/9/2006 (****1/2)
7/13/2006 (**** )
4/10/2008 EV Solo (****1/2)
6/25/2008 MSG II (*****)
10/1/2009 LA II (****)
10/6/2009 LA III (***** Cornell!!!)
That would have caused a mess in my pants.
Anyway, when break ups first happen I swear the mind races like mad for a week or so and then little by little everything calms down. It's cliche but time does heal.
Oh and dates with others dudes would help as well.
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Oh I'm 30. The weird thing is, it's been a year (actually a year today!) and I haven't really felt that bad about it until now. I mean of course I had some crying and stuff when I first left, but it wasn't that bad, I think because I felt like he'd still always be there for me and stuff...but now, it's a little different.
So I went out and got absolutely hammered last night. I'm not sure how much I drank but I know I spent $45 and a guy bought me a drink, and then I think there was a shot in there somewhere...so I drank like $50+ of alcohol! It was unfortunate, because the guy who bought me the drink was...well...pretty awesome. So I was sober enough to know that he was...pretty awesome...but not sober enough to make a very good impression. I do have his business card, but no reason to get in touch. I think I just have to hope I run into him in the square (unless this chick I was with goes after him...she was totally moving in on my claim).
oh p.s. thanks everyone for being so supportive. I know I'm being a baby and stuff. Nice to hear your thoughts on the matter.