Could you date a musician...

CityMouse

...If you weren't really into their music?

just curious.

AmentsChick

Well ... depends? How bad is it? Country, no....

LONGRD

Well, John still loved Yoko didn't he?

CityMouse

AmentsChick wrote:

Well ... depends? How bad is it? Country, no....

good point.

I guess I mean could you fall in love with the person if you weren't in love with their music?

and what if you just didn't want to hear their music all the time?

AmentsChick

CityMouse wrote:

good point.

I guess I mean could you fall in love with the person if you weren't in love with their music?

and what if you just didn't want to hear their music all the time?

I'm sure Jill gets sick of hearing Even Flow. :cool:

decides2dream

CityMouse wrote:

...If you weren't really into their music?

just curious.

probably not. i find most musicans practice, practice, practice...incessantly...at home.....so yea, if i didn't enjoy it, i would probably go mad.


for the record my husband is a musician, not originals though....and overall we have very, very similar tastes in music, probably one of our biggest bonding factors. he's an awesome bass player and sure, sexy too ...but hell yea, if he were playing top 40 BS or country.......:eek: even now, with similar tastes his band plays some songs i really don't enjoy and when he practices them too much, i let him know.



and sure, you could fall in love with the person. live with them? maybe not.

CityMouse

AmentsChick wrote:

I'm sure Jill gets sick of hearing Even Flow. :cool:

yeah...exactly my point as to why eddie vedder should have gone for me instead...;)

Phantom Pain

AmentsChick wrote:

I'm sure Jill gets sick of hearing Even Flow. :cool:

Especially since Eddie has it as his ringtone

L-O-S-E-R

decides2dream

Phantom Pain wrote:

Especially since Eddie has it as his ringtone

L-O-S-E-R

that made me laugh!

AmentsChick

Phantom Pain wrote:

Especially since Eddie has it as his ringtone

L-O-S-E-R

Yeah, now THAT'S loser-ish for sure. :rolleyes:

CityMouse

decides2dream wrote:

probably not. i find most musicans practice, practice, practice...incessantly...at home.....so yea, if i didn't enjoy it, i would probably go mad.


for the record my husband is a musician, not originals though....and overall we have very, very similar tastes in music, probably one of our biggest bonding factors. he's an awesome bass player and sure, sexy too ...but hell yea, if he were playing top 40 BS or country.......:eek: even now, with similar tastes his band plays some songs i really don't enjoy and when he practices them too much, i let him know.



and sure, you could fall in love with the person. live with them? maybe not.

yeah I grew up in a musical household...totally get what you are saying there.

but I was thinking more in terms of their original stuff, their "art" if you will. is it an extension of themselves that is so connected to them it can't be separated?

smarchee

the lyric from a song by mid-1990s Canadian alternative rock band Pluto comes to mind.....

"my girlfriend is in a band
I'm her, number 1 fan"

decides2dream

CityMouse wrote:

yeah I grew up in a musical household...totally get what you are saying there.

but I was thinking more in terms of their original stuff, their "art" if you will. is it an extension of themselves that is so connected to them it can't be separated?

well again, i don't know. i am a visual artist, although have not really been doing much as of late. i think my husband can love me and not my art.


i REALLY think is just how much of it encompasses your life? how much will it be a part of, or infringe upon, the relationship? whether a musican, a writer, painter, etc.....really anything that is a BIG passion in your life, depends how much it is INVOLVED in your relationship, and also how much of an appreciation your partner has for it, or not.


to me, it's far better for all involved if there is a shared love there. however, i imagine it's possible for it to be tolerated w/o real appreciation, although would be difficult. to me, better to find a better match.


so sure, if it's your ART...your love...your passion, it would be very important imo to love the musician and the music.


btw - even w/o original work...there is art, and passion and love, in technique. besides, you still have to listen to it.

eyedclaar

decides2dream wrote:

probably not. i find most musicans practice, practice, practice...incessantly...at home.....so yea, if i didn't enjoy it, i would probably go mad.


for the record my husband is a musician, not originals though....and overall we have very, very similar tastes in music, probably one of our biggest bonding factors. he's an awesome bass player and sure, sexy too ...but hell yea, if he were playing top 40 BS or country.......:eek: even now, with similar tastes his band plays some songs i really don't enjoy and when he practices them too much, i let him know.



and sure, you could fall in love with the person. live with them? maybe not.

Yes, my poor wife. We have band practice at my house... and by that I mean we smoke too much herb, drink too much booze, and make way too much noise. She must be a saint.

genie

CityMouse wrote:

...If you weren't really into their music?

just curious.

sure, why not? as long as they like the same genre of music i like, and as long as they don't screw groupies, then i'm cool with that.

Rhinocerous Surprise

Could a musician date someone who didn't like their music?

CityMouse

decides2dream wrote:

well again, i don't know. i am a visual artist, although have not really been doing much as of late. i think my husband can love me and not my art.


i REALLY think is just how much of it encompasses your life? how much will it be a part of, or infringe upon, the relationship? whether a musican, a writer, painter, etc.....really anything that is a BIG passion in your life, depends how much it is INVOLVED in your relationship, and also how much of an appreciation your partner has for it, or not.


to me, it's far better for all involved if there is a shared love there. however, i imagine it's possible for it to be tolerated w/o real appreciation, although would be difficult. to me, better to find a better match.


so sure, if it's your ART...your love...your passion, it would be very important imo to love the musician and the music.


btw - even w/o original work...there is art, and passion and love, in technique. besides, you still have to listen to it.

Well this is the thing-- I'm sure if you're like some of my girlfriends and couldn't care less about music and have no appreciation for it, then you could probably be with any musician, no problem.

But all of us here are pretty big music fans, no? For me, rock music has driven my entire life (and is really my true love before any man) so would someone's music be large part of my feelings toward them...???

eyedclaar

Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:

Could a musician date someone who didn't like their music?

Kidrock always seems to have a date so it must be possible.

CityMouse

Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:

Could a musician date someone who didn't like their music?

Another good point. But would they tell them if they didn't like it?

AmentsChick

eyedclaar wrote:

Kidrock always seems to have a date so it must be possible.

That was funny!!!

CityMouse

AmentsChick wrote:

That was funny!!!

it was indeed.