why don't they get it!!!

DaytimeDilemma

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I know, that's why I didn't comment on it originally.

I reveal because I have no other place to do it. I can't talk to anyone, and it eats at me as I sit alone all day.

You sit alone all day?


Your friends just invited you on a ski trip.


Keyword being friends.

GreenTeaDisease

DaytimeDilemma wrote:

You sit alone all day?


Your friends just invited you on a ski trip.


Keyword being friends.

I'm in a tiny office by myself for 10 hrs or more each day. yes I sit alone all day.

I can't talk to my friends about anything important.

Allie

Non single friends are always trying to 'help' like that, that's kind of what they do.

DaytimeDilemma

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I'm in a tiny office by myself for 10 hrs or more each day. yes I sit alone all day.

I can't talk to my friends about anything important.

then I wouldn't consider them friends. acquantancies more so

in_hiding79

What you need to do is have the best time at this ski trip and dance, drink some yummy wine, do some fun skiing, and just smile because you're alive and even though say you're not healthy, you can work, you can drive, you have friends. Seriously, who cares is you have acne and you weigh more then you should ?? There is someone out there for YOU and only YOU and GTD, you really need to look in the mirror and tell yourself to be happy and to smile. You sound extremley down and I'm concerned...

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

next weekend my two friends and I are going on a ski trip with lots of people whom we don't know. we are making plans via email and one of my friends goes, "well I think there will be single guys there for GTD." I've told her 1000 times: I am not attracted to men anymore! (I'm not attracted to women either, for those of you who are wondering). I'm just not, I have completely lost any desire to ever be with a guy again, in any sort of romantic/sexual/dating capacity. I don't know WHY this happened, all I know is it did (and I'm kind of luckily it did, because given that I weigh over 200 lbs and have a face full of acne, it would suck if I wanted to date and couldn't).

wow gtd, therein lies your answer and you know it. You so image obsessed that you've put on a little weight and got some spots that you now consider yourself completely undesirable... this translates into your feelings towards men/women. I've been here before when I've had low self esteem, I lost interest in men/women because I 'knew' I was better off alone and nobody'd want me.

However I expect you to come back with an answer of how high your self esteem actually is and how I'm wrong and how this means nothing and you're not going to do anything about it :( GET HELP! NO more excuses!

Heineken Helen

polaris wrote:

the pill also throws off your hormones which could lead to other conditions ... i would look into your conditions further and humbly suggest looking to solutions that aren't from the pharmaceuticals ...

I've tried saying this before... the pill made me fucking suicidal. Its also well known that it can lead to weight gain... gtd I wouldn't be so quick to assume the pill is your ONLY answer.

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I know, that's why I didn't comment on it originally.

I reveal because I have no other place to do it. I can't talk to anyone, and it eats at me as I sit alone all day.

of course you have people you can talk to... therapy's always available... call the samaritans. Your issues aren't physical and you know it, you've accepted this for a long time and yet you're still making the same complaints and still doing nothing about it. If you WANT to do something about it, there are always places to go and people to talk to... but your constant complaining about the SAME issues make me think that you like the drama and don't actually want to do anything about it at all. You have good friends, they have your best interests at heart, but do they have to listen to the same stuff? Cos if they do you will soon have another complaint I'm afraid.

And I say ALL of the above in your own best interest. You're going nowhere with your attitude the way it is.

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

of course you have people you can talk to... therapy's always available... call the samaritans. Your issues aren't physical and you know it, you've accepted this for a long time and yet you're still making the same complaints and still doing nothing about it. If you WANT to do something about it, there are always places to go and people to talk to... but your constant complaining about the SAME issues make me think that you like the drama and don't actually want to do anything about it at all. You have good friends, they have your best interests at heart, but do they have to listen to the same stuff? Cos if they do you will soon have another complaint I'm afraid.

And I say ALL of the above in your own best interest. You're going nowhere with your attitude the way it is.

I do have a physical problem, I know I do, but that's not the issue at hand. I'm going to the doctor tuesday to hopefully change medications and look into larger hormonal issues such as pcos that may be causing acne, weight, hair growth, lethargy, sweating, and loss of sexual interest.

I was more upset than usual and somewhat overreacted to my friend's comment yesterday because I was premenstrual. so I'm sorry if I overloaded anyone with drama. I was crying inexplicably ALL DAY yesterday- this is what happens to me. it's been happening for so long I'm just used to it at this point. cry all day without being able to stop, or feel suicidal, or feel rage and anger, or feel utter panic and then suddenly feel absolutely fine. I can't help it. my pmdd meds have stopped working and they may be a large part of all my physical and mental problems, which is why I am going to the doctor. I'm sorry if no one here understands this condition, but it is real and that's just the way it is. I have little control over what I say or do in these situations.

edvedder913

Get_Right wrote:

you might be thinking about it too much

just say " whatever" and go with the flow (sorry bad choice of words!)

you are f&^%ing hilarious my friend

_Crazy_Mary_

A ski trip! How fun! Skiing can burn 350-450 calories an hour

Heineken Helen

GreenTeaDisease wrote:

I was more upset than usual and somewhat overreacted to my friend's comment yesterday because I was premenstrual. so I'm sorry if I overloaded anyone with drama. I was crying inexplicably ALL DAY yesterday- this is what happens to me. it's been happening for so long I'm just used to it at this point. cry all day without being able to stop, or feel suicidal, or feel rage and anger, or feel utter panic and then suddenly feel absolutely fine. I can't help it. my pmdd meds have stopped working and they may be a large part of all my physical and mental problems, which is why I am going to the doctor. I'm sorry if no one here understands this condition, but it is real and that's just the way it is. I have little control over what I say or do in these situations.

I've told you before that I felt like that... then I came off the pill and within a couple of weeks I went back to normal and have never felt like that since... and that was 4 or 5 years ago... now I'm VERY wary of medication cos I know what it can do to you. I could have ended up killing myself when all I needed to do was stop fucking around with my hormones... they're not something to mess with.