why don't they get it!!!

GreenTeaDisease
GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
edited March 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
next weekend my two friends and I are going on a ski trip with lots of people whom we don't know. we are making plans via email and one of my friends goes, "well I think there will be single guys there for GTD." I've told her 1000 times: I am not attracted to men anymore! (I'm not attracted to women either, for those of you who are wondering). I'm just not, I have completely lost any desire to ever be with a guy again, in any sort of romantic/sexual/dating capacity. I don't know WHY this happened, all I know is it did (and I'm kind of luckily it did, because given that I weigh over 200 lbs and have a face full of acne, it would suck if I wanted to date and couldn't). I'm just tired of my friendsmaking me feel bad because I don't want to date!!! why do they keep talking about me meeting guys ans stuff??? It's as if they think I'm lying or it's just something I'll get over or something. It is really upsetting me!
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  • moxie
    moxie Posts: 80
    Big girls need love too.

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  • upina2001
    upina2001 Indiana Posts: 764
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    (and I'm kind of luckily it did, because given that I weigh over 200 lbs and have a face full of acne, it would suck if I wanted to date and couldn't).


    maybe they are trying to boost your self-confidence.

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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    upina2001 wrote:
    maybe they are trying to boost your self-confidence.

    I was just explaining why I haven't really minded my lack of interest in men. it's actually worked out pretty well because the two coincided with each other.
  • The Champ
    The Champ Posts: 4,063
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I am not attracted to men anymore! (I'm not attracted to women either, for those of you who are wondering). I'm just not, I have completely lost any desire to ever be with a guy again, in any sort of romantic/sexual/dating capacity

    Judging by the above, you should definitely consider seeing the doc prior to your physical appointment..
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  • tybird
    tybird Posts: 17,388
    Trick #1 is not to get angry, frustrated, loud or mean about the subject when it is raised. A simple "whatever" or "umkay" will do. The more you fight, the more that they will try.
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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    The Champ wrote:
    Judging by the above, you should definitely consider seeing the doc prior to your physical appointment..

    well it is one of the things I plan to discuss. but even if is either 1)due to my medication and if it is I'll just have to deal with it because I'm never going off the pill or 2) a medical problem of some sort why don't they get it??? why do they still have to make me feel bad about it!
  • DaytimeDilemma
    DaytimeDilemma Posts: 2,008
    Dude, just chill out. Your friends are trying to help you is all.



    I mean it's meeting guys with friends or posting on a Pearl Jam message board all day long.


    Which seems healthier to you?
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    tybird wrote:
    Trick #1 is not to get angry, frustrated, loud or mean about the subject when it is raised. A simple "whatever" or "umkay" will do. The more you fight, the more that they will try.

    I feel like this is what I have been doing...it's very frustrating. at this last comment I just wrote back and said "I'm not interested in meeting any single men."
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    DaytimeDilemma wrote:
    Dude, just chill out. Your friends are trying to help you is all.



    I mean it's meeting guys with friends or posting on a Pearl Jam message board all day long.


    Which seems healthier to you?


    well I have to sit a computer at work all day, with no other outlet when something upsets me (and I'm premenstrual, so everything's been making me upset/cry the past 2 days anyway).

    but how would it help? it's like they're just not thinking...
  • tybird
    tybird Posts: 17,388
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I feel like this is what I have been doing...it's very frustrating. at this last comment I just wrote back and said "I'm not interested in meeting any single men."
    Tell 'em you're only interested in married men....;) :D:p I would just quit saying it or reminding them of the fact....say it once, and then live it.
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  • DaytimeDilemma
    DaytimeDilemma Posts: 2,008
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    well I have to sit a computer at work all day, with no other outlet when something upsets me.

    but how would it help? it's like they're just not thinking...



    Just be thankful you have friends who are there trying to get you to meet people.


    Or you can just be content with being a cat lady and sit around and feed your cats and the neighborhood kids talk about how you are the crazy cat lady with all the cats.
  • Get_Right
    Get_Right Posts: 14,167
    id save your energy for something more positive

    they are only trying to help

    be glad you have friends that care
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    DaytimeDilemma wrote:
    Just be thankful you have friends who are there trying to get you to meet people.


    Or you can just be content with being a cat lady and sit around and feed your cats and the neighborhood kids talk about how you are the crazy cat lady with all the cats.

    I can't ever be the cat lady. I'm deathly allergic to cats. (which is sad, cuz I really want a little black one with white boots)

    and I am crazy, at least at certain times of the month like today. it's probably all the medication to control the monthly craziness that is causing the problem in question in the first place!
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Get_Right wrote:
    id save your energy for something more positive

    they are only trying to help

    be glad you have friends that care

    I feel like they are like sticking it to me or something though...I don't know I can't explain it.
  • JOEJOEJOE
    JOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,829
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    well it is one of the things I plan to discuss. but even if is either 1)due to my medication and if it is I'll just have to deal with it because I'm never going off the pill or 2) a medical problem of some sort why don't they get it??? why do they still have to make me feel bad about it!

    Seems like you let them make you feel bad about it.
  • Get_Right
    Get_Right Posts: 14,167
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I feel like they are like sticking it to me or something though...I don't know I can't explain it.

    you might be thinking about it too much

    just say " whatever" and go with the flow (sorry bad choice of words!)
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Get_Right wrote:
    you might be thinking about it too much

    just say " whatever" and go with the flow (sorry bad choice of words!)

    yeah I guess, I usually do...I think it's just bothering more today because I'm sensitive to things today anyway...but it just reminds me of how not normal I am and then it gets me thinking about it...
  • Get_Right
    Get_Right Posts: 14,167
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    yeah I guess, I usually do...I think it's just bothering more today because I'm sensitive to things today anyway...but it just reminds me of how not normal I am and then it gets me thinking about it...

    you are normal

    its the world thats f*cked!
    :D
  • failedpersephone
    failedpersephone Posts: 3,424
    I don't think the two things (you described) "coincided" I think that the one lead to the other and it's a way of protecting yourself from being hurt and being rejected based on appearance.

    your friends are trying to lift you from a funk...you may not recognize it as a funk, but if they are close/good friends you might want to trust their judgment on the changes you have been experiencing.

    They are trying to help you...and they mean well. It is not necessarily a healthy thing to proclaim that you are done with ANY and ALL socializations with men.

    but I am sure you are going to have a response to each of my points indicating that I am WAY off...and of course I am, since I do not know you...this is strictly my opinion based on what you have projected in this thread.

    I wish you health and happiness, and hope that you don't continue to get knee-jerky based on your premenstrual hormonal changes and ostracize or wig out on your friends based on their attempts to include you in socializing practices.
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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    failedpersephone wrote:
    I don't think the two things (you described) "coincided" I think that the one lead to the other and it's a way of protecting yourself from being hurt and being rejected based on appearance.

    they did though. it was actually all around the time I met my last boyfriend- christmas 2006. I had a boyfriend for almost a year and even though I felt very close to him I just wasn't as into it as I thought it should be. they did coincide. I'm not trying to "make myself feel better"- not in the least. I'm very surprised at how little interest I have in men, but in many ways I am very happy that I don't because I couldn't get them now if I tried (it just upsets me because I'm afraid it's a physiological problem of some sort). In fact, I TRY to get myself to be interested in men or sex, and I can't- I don't like thinking about it, it seems unnatural to me or something. I don't really feel like human at all anymore, just kind of a robot.

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