granted, however - let me play devil's advocate a little bit here:
suppose with me for a second, that your weight gain and your acne actually influcenced your feelings of sensuality and created a feeling in you of not feeling attractive...that would in turn make you adjust your sexual desires and needs...it may be a very "oprah-ish" statement but you must feel desirable in order to desire...so once again, I humbly suggest that they are not "coincidences" but the one leading to the other...regardless of having an available man present, if you felt fat and pimply (I do NOT mean that in a mean spirited way...I am merely suggesting that the mirror was NOT what you wanted to see) you may not be feeling like having him near your face, or near your body since it is not something that you are happy with.
well, at any rate - you believe what you want to believe about yourself...I hope that soon you believe that you are worth owning not as a future you..."with a little weight off, with clear skin, after I get on a diet etc.," but but as you are NOW...
and the interest in men and sex will come when you are desirable to yourself.
I see what you are saying, it could even be partially part of my case, I don't know. but even if it were true, it doesn't really change anything. I'm still not interested in dating, so people should just stop hounding me about it.
GTD, ring the doctor's surgery and see if you can get an earlier appointment. Ask to be slotted into a cancellation if you can.
Write a list of all the stuff you need to talk to your doctor about and make sure you go through the list with your doctor.
Don't worry about which came first, (chicken or egg) when it comes to desire or hormonal problems affecting your desire, I suspect that once you've had some investigations done by your doctor that you will have a much clearer picture about what is going on with you and armed with some knowledge of what is going on you can sort out a better situation for yourself.
With regard to the friends attempting to set you up, well friends will do that DESPITE your protestations, I guess it's just something we all have to learn to live with. You know how you're feeling right now and what you are interested in and what you are not interested in. Just smile at them and do your own thing anyway.
the pill also throws off your hormones which could lead to other conditions ... i would look into your conditions further and humbly suggest looking to solutions that aren't from the pharmaceuticals ...
I know, I was against using the pill for years and years. nothing worked, it just kept getting worse. finally I gave in and I have half the pain, and I only gain a good 5 lbs instead of 10. I'm terrified of going off.
I know, I was against using the pill for years and years. nothing worked, it just kept getting worse. finally I gave in and I have half the pain, and I only gain a good 5 lbs instead of 10. I'm terrified of going off.
I see what you are saying, it could even be partially part of my case, I don't know. but even if it were true, it doesn't really change anything. I'm still not interested in dating, so people should just stop hounding me about it.
That is true, if you are not interested, they should respect your decisions...however, as a friend, if someone that I knew underwent a change physically...and also made a manifesto regarding dating that seemed to be a change from their previous position, I would try to get her out of it...and that would include a bit of cajoling...
as for it not changing anything if it is true - I have to disagree. knowing this about yourself, CAN lead to you accepting your current status.
I would like to take a moment to apologize about "turning into your looks" but it just seemed that your down on yourself statement in this thread made me perk up. believe me, I have been there. I did not think I was ever anything enough...it was always going to be a little tweaking and THEN I would like myself...and that sucked.
So, I don't think it is about your friends not accepting your decision so much as their acting as your friends and refusing to let you shortchange yourself.
accept that proactive isn't working for you. accept that you are overweight. if you are otherwise healthy, just accept the size you ARE, and then dress yourself to your current size, accept your current size we are not all meant to be small boned, small sized and starving to remain so. We don't all have flawless skin, and perfect hair...but we all have our moments, and loving ourselves shows in our walk and in the way we value ourselves...
accept yourself...it is a changed you...but your essences is still there...it is still YOU...and you are still living, and thinking and feeling you are not a robot. you are a human...realized, and developing.
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So, I don't think it is about your friends not accepting your decision so much as their acting as your friends and refusing to let you shortchange yourself.
well I think this is the problem, I think they think it is just that. but I tried to explain it isn't. and even if it is, it isn't so easily changeable and it makes me feel worse when they persist.
accept that proactive isn't working for you. accept that you are overweight. if you are otherwise healthy, just accept the size you ARE, and then dress yourself to your current size, accept your current size we are not all meant to be small boned, small sized and starving to remain so. We don't all have flawless skin, and perfect hair...but we all have our moments, and loving ourselves shows in our walk and in the way we value ourselves...
I accepted all this stuff a long long time ago...my smallest weight when I was barely eating (due to medications and hormones- it seems like my entire appetite/weight is completely controlled by these things) and doing triathlons I weighed 155, and I could barely sustain that. I'm big underneath, and I accept that. but I gained 40lbs of fat in like 2 months. and then the acne is not an issue of perfect skin...it's having relatively fine skin and then all of a sudden having my entire face explode, for no reason. everyone says "go on the pill!" I'm already on it!!
yeah I guess, I usually do...I think it's just bothering more today because I'm sensitive to things today anyway...but it just reminds me of how not normal I am and then it gets me thinking about it...
Yeah. I wouldn't worry about it. I'm sure your friends mean well, they just don't understand. That's not their fault. You can't blame them for that, they're still your friends though.
Sorry you feel like a robot. :( Hopefully we're making you feel better, not worse. And for the record, you're braver than I am.
Yeah. I wouldn't worry about it. I'm sure your friends mean well, they just don't understand. That's not their fault. You can't blame them for that, they're still your friends though.
Sorry you feel like a robot. :( Hopefully we're making you feel better, not worse. And for the record, you're braver than I am.
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next weekend my two friends and I are going on a ski trip with lots of people whom we don't know. we are making plans via email and one of my friends goes, "well I think there will be single guys there for GTD." I've told her 1000 times: I am not attracted to men anymore! (I'm not attracted to women either, for those of you who are wondering). I'm just not, I have completely lost any desire to ever be with a guy again, in any sort of romantic/sexual/dating capacity. I don't know WHY this happened, all I know is it did (and I'm kind of luckily it did, because given that I weigh over 200 lbs and have a face full of acne, it would suck if I wanted to date and couldn't). I'm just tired of my friendsmaking me feel bad because I don't want to date!!! why do they keep talking about me meeting guys ans stuff??? It's as if they think I'm lying or it's just something I'll get over or something. It is really upsetting me!
Damn, I could never "not" want a man!! I think I'm the exact opposite of you GTD!! I can't get enough...:)
I still have five to six weeks of waiting until I can be with my husband since my surgery....
You don't miss a man's arms around you, or the way his skin feels next to yours and the kissing??!?!?!?! :eek: I better move on to another thread!!
Have fun on your ski trip!!
And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
"What a stupid lamb."
"What a sick, masochistic lion."
thanks, yeah this post makes me feel a lot better. no I do not miss it. at all. in fact I don't even want to think about it.
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings at all...I was just wondering how you could be turned off by men!? I find it hard to believe even though it is true. You saying you don't miss any part of being with a man rather it's sex or just hugging makes me sad:(
And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
"What a stupid lamb."
"What a sick, masochistic lion."
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings at all...I was just wondering how you could be turned off by men!? I find it hard to believe even though it is true. You saying you don't miss any part of being with a man rather it's sex or just hugging makes me sad:(
I've always enjoyed hugging a lot but I can't picture it anymore, I don't *miss* it.
yeah I really loved that comment too. I feel like my health and everything is just falling apart and I get fat bottom girls make the rockin world go round...
yeah I really loved that comment too. I feel like my health and everything is just falling apart and I get fat bottom girls make the rockin world go round...
yeah I really loved that comment too. I feel like my health and everything is just falling apart and I get fat bottom girls make the rockin world go round...
I usually joke, but this time I am not.
If you reveal so much about yourself in an anonymous forum, people are going to make comments. This is a proven fact. To prevent this from happening, perhaps you need to limit what you reveal.
yeah I really loved that comment too. I feel like my health and everything is just falling apart and I get fat bottom girls make the rockin world go round...
your health? Don't you workout everyday?
How is your diet?
Get em a Body Bag Yeeeeeaaaaa!
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
yeah I really loved that comment too. I feel like my health and everything is just falling apart and I get fat bottom girls make the rockin world go round...
If you reveal so much about yourself in an anonymous forum, people are going to make comments. This is a proven fact. To prevent this from happening, perhaps you need to limit what you reveal.
I know, that's why I didn't comment on it originally.
I reveal because I have no other place to do it. I can't talk to anyone, and it eats at me as I sit alone all day.
your health? Don't you workout everyday?
How is your diet?
my health behavior is fine (I haven't been working out EVERY day but yes, generally I have very healthy habits). but I'm not healthy, there is something wrong with me. in fact it's keeping me from having healthier behavior. I feel like crap really, I want to be healthy again. it's tough working out every day and even eating right when you can't digest most food, you have horrible mood swings, you weigh 40-45 lbs more than you should, you can't wake up in the morning, you have zero energy, and all the medicine that you used to help you with other problems is now just making everything worse.
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how is that TMI???
I see what you are saying, it could even be partially part of my case, I don't know. but even if it were true, it doesn't really change anything. I'm still not interested in dating, so people should just stop hounding me about it.
Write a list of all the stuff you need to talk to your doctor about and make sure you go through the list with your doctor.
Don't worry about which came first, (chicken or egg) when it comes to desire or hormonal problems affecting your desire, I suspect that once you've had some investigations done by your doctor that you will have a much clearer picture about what is going on with you and armed with some knowledge of what is going on you can sort out a better situation for yourself.
With regard to the friends attempting to set you up, well friends will do that DESPITE your protestations, I guess it's just something we all have to learn to live with. You know how you're feeling right now and what you are interested in and what you are not interested in. Just smile at them and do your own thing anyway.
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Hold on to the thread
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I know, I was against using the pill for years and years. nothing worked, it just kept getting worse. finally I gave in and I have half the pain, and I only gain a good 5 lbs instead of 10. I'm terrified of going off.
have you seen a naturapath?
a couple times back in college.
as for it not changing anything if it is true - I have to disagree. knowing this about yourself, CAN lead to you accepting your current status.
I would like to take a moment to apologize about "turning into your looks" but it just seemed that your down on yourself statement in this thread made me perk up. believe me, I have been there. I did not think I was ever anything enough...it was always going to be a little tweaking and THEN I would like myself...and that sucked.
So, I don't think it is about your friends not accepting your decision so much as their acting as your friends and refusing to let you shortchange yourself.
accept that proactive isn't working for you. accept that you are overweight. if you are otherwise healthy, just accept the size you ARE, and then dress yourself to your current size, accept your current size we are not all meant to be small boned, small sized and starving to remain so. We don't all have flawless skin, and perfect hair...but we all have our moments, and loving ourselves shows in our walk and in the way we value ourselves...
accept yourself...it is a changed you...but your essences is still there...it is still YOU...and you are still living, and thinking and feeling you are not a robot. you are a human...realized, and developing.
here's GTD in a nutshell
well I think this is the problem, I think they think it is just that. but I tried to explain it isn't. and even if it is, it isn't so easily changeable and it makes me feel worse when they persist.
I accepted all this stuff a long long time ago...my smallest weight when I was barely eating (due to medications and hormones- it seems like my entire appetite/weight is completely controlled by these things) and doing triathlons I weighed 155, and I could barely sustain that. I'm big underneath, and I accept that. but I gained 40lbs of fat in like 2 months. and then the acne is not an issue of perfect skin...it's having relatively fine skin and then all of a sudden having my entire face explode, for no reason. everyone says "go on the pill!" I'm already on it!!
Yeah. I wouldn't worry about it. I'm sure your friends mean well, they just don't understand. That's not their fault. You can't blame them for that, they're still your friends though.
Sorry you feel like a robot. :( Hopefully we're making you feel better, not worse.
braver?
...For telling us what's up.
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The best time to Love is Now.
I'm never as good as when you're there.........
you get to a point where it's just easier that way...
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Damn, I could never "not" want a man!! I think I'm the exact opposite of you GTD!! I can't get enough...:)
I still have five to six weeks of waiting until I can be with my husband since my surgery....
You don't miss a man's arms around you, or the way his skin feels next to yours and the kissing??!?!?!?! :eek: I better move on to another thread!!
Have fun on your ski trip!!
"What a stupid lamb."
"What a sick, masochistic lion."
thanks, yeah this post makes me feel a lot better. no I do not miss it. at all. in fact I don't even want to think about it.
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt your feelings at all...I was just wondering how you could be turned off by men!? I find it hard to believe even though it is true. You saying you don't miss any part of being with a man rather it's sex or just hugging makes me sad:(
"What a stupid lamb."
"What a sick, masochistic lion."
I've always enjoyed hugging a lot but I can't picture it anymore, I don't *miss* it.
GTD is "GreenTeaDisease"!!!
"What a stupid lamb."
"What a sick, masochistic lion."
I just burst out laughing! hahahahahahahahahaha
No offence GTD
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
yeah I really loved that comment too. I feel like my health and everything is just falling apart and I get fat bottom girls make the rockin world go round...
Welcome to the internet.
I usually joke, but this time I am not.
If you reveal so much about yourself in an anonymous forum, people are going to make comments. This is a proven fact. To prevent this from happening, perhaps you need to limit what you reveal.
your health? Don't you workout everyday?
How is your diet?
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
they do.
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I know, that's why I didn't comment on it originally.
I reveal because I have no other place to do it. I can't talk to anyone, and it eats at me as I sit alone all day.
What about a guy as a friend who you are attracted too?
Sweep the Leg Johnny.
fair enough
my health behavior is fine (I haven't been working out EVERY day but yes, generally I have very healthy habits). but I'm not healthy, there is something wrong with me. in fact it's keeping me from having healthier behavior. I feel like crap really, I want to be healthy again. it's tough working out every day and even eating right when you can't digest most food, you have horrible mood swings, you weigh 40-45 lbs more than you should, you can't wake up in the morning, you have zero energy, and all the medicine that you used to help you with other problems is now just making everything worse.