ggrrrr I need a boyfriend by next xmas

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  • Puck78Puck78 Posts: 737
    are you sure you really want to spend time with that awful kind of people? ;)
    ok sorry for this big rant, but worst. office party. ever. Why does everything have to be so dominated by couples? So I work in a little branch office across the river from our big corporate headquarters. Tonight was the big corporate party in a huge fancy hotel with tons of people, but since I'm in this little office I only knew the 12 or so people from my office and their partners. I am the only person in my office who is single. So first of all, I have to add a chair to the table, so everyone is all squished in eating their dinner and complaining about it. It's like hello, I know I am an odd-numbered person, I cannot help it. I'll just eat my food standing in the ladies room if you prefer. So then after dinner, I get up to actually go to the ladies room. I come back and everyone is gone. I can't find ANYONE from my office. By this point they have started the dancing on the other end of the ballroom. I take a walk over there because at this point I don't know whatelse to do besides look around at the architecture (which I usually take time to do when I am in a place like that) and I see that everyone from my office is dancing. But even though it is fast dance music, they aren't dancing together, they're dancing only with their partners. I wasn't sure what to do with myself- I would have sat there and gotten drunk but they were only serving beer and wine, neither of which I can drink a lot of. So I just kinda hung out for about an hour, kinda walking around looking at stuff, wondering if any if anyone is going to stop dancing so I'll have people to talk to, but they didn't, so I just left.

    the real kicker- I spent $50 on cab rides over there and back (I couldn't take the T because I got all dressed up and wore dress shoes and stuff). It was so boring! I can't believe I spent all that money on it. I'm really glad I didn't buy a new dress or anything.

    I'm never going to one of those things alone again. and I am a big proponent of going anywhere alone. I've never had this problem at any of the other office parties I've ever gone to.

    sorry, I know this is just like a big rant but I just got home and I really pissed and no one is up to complain to...
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  • brainofPJbrainofPJ Posts: 2,361
    i'll go with you to the next party.


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  • smarcheesmarchee Windsor, Ontario Posts: 14,539
    oh I have been there, to the Office Xmas party single.

    It sucked.

    One time I went with a couple and hot-boxed his car in the parking lot, and then went back for the rest of the evening. That made it more fun, but that was a while ago. I have made excuses and skipped out a couple of them when I was single.
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  • AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    Welcome to my world! :( <sigh>
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  • xavier mcdanielxavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,300
    nothing beats going to friends weddings single when anyone you ask to go with is unable to make it..
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  • roarroar Posts: 1,116
    nothing beats going to friends weddings single when anyone you ask to go with is unable to make it..

    but weddings aren't really the best first dates, either. tends to be a teency bit awkward/intimidating.
  • xavier mcdanielxavier mcdaniel Somewhere in NYC Posts: 9,300
    roar wrote:
    but weddings aren't really the best first dates, either. tends to be a teency bit awkward/intimidating.

    true, in my instances i asked a number of women i was friends with and they just couldn't make it those days, so i wound up going solo.
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  • JOEJOEJOEJOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,580
    sponger wrote:
    Just remember, half of the people at that party are probably in relationships or married simply because they are afraid of being in a situation like yours. What's worse is that some of them even go on to have children. Eventually, when they realize they were never really in love to begin with, they go through a messy divorce which normally traumatizes their children and perpetuates a cycle of useless, destructive relationships for generations to come.

    Give yourself a pat on the back for knowing better.

    That was quite the journey down the slippery slope, Debbie Downer!
    :)
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  • spongersponger Posts: 3,159
    JOEJOEJOE wrote:
    That was quite the journey down the slippery slope, Debbie Downer!
    :)

    Statistically, the slope is rather adhesive.
  • ok sorry for this big rant, but worst. office party. ever. Why does everything have to be so dominated by couples? So I work in a little branch office across the river from our big corporate headquarters. Tonight was the big corporate party in a huge fancy hotel with tons of people, but since I'm in this little office I only knew the 12 or so people from my office and their partners. I am the only person in my office who is single. So first of all, I have to add a chair to the table, so everyone is all squished in eating their dinner and complaining about it. It's like hello, I know I am an odd-numbered person, I cannot help it. I'll just eat my food standing in the ladies room if you prefer. So then after dinner, I get up to actually go to the ladies room. I come back and everyone is gone. I can't find ANYONE from my office. By this point they have started the dancing on the other end of the ballroom. I take a walk over there because at this point I don't know whatelse to do besides look around at the architecture (which I usually take time to do when I am in a place like that) and I see that everyone from my office is dancing. But even though it is fast dance music, they aren't dancing together, they're dancing only with their partners. I wasn't sure what to do with myself- I would have sat there and gotten drunk but they were only serving beer and wine, neither of which I can drink a lot of. So I just kinda hung out for about an hour, kinda walking around looking at stuff, wondering if any if anyone is going to stop dancing so I'll have people to talk to, but they didn't, so I just left.

    the real kicker- I spent $50 on cab rides over there and back (I couldn't take the T because I got all dressed up and wore dress shoes and stuff). It was so boring! I can't believe I spent all that money on it. I'm really glad I didn't buy a new dress or anything.

    I'm never going to one of those things alone again. and I am a big proponent of going anywhere alone. I've never had this problem at any of the other office parties I've ever gone to.

    sorry, I know this is just like a big rant but I just got home and I really pissed and no one is up to complain to...

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  • ...and pay that little bit extra for the naked massage at the end ;)
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  • AmentsChickAmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    Last Christmas, I gave you my heart
    But the very next day, You gave it away
    This year, to save me from tears
    I'll give it to someone special

    Last Christmas, I gave you my heart
    But the very next day, You gave it away
    This year, to save me from tears
    I'll give it to someone special

    Once bitten and twice shy
    I keep my distance but you still catch my eye
    Tell me baby do you recognise me?
    Well it's been a year, it doesn't surprise me

    (Happy Christmas!) I wrapped it up and sent it
    With a note saying "I Love You" I meant it
    Now I know what a fool I've been
    But if you kissed me now I know you'd fool me again

    Chorus

    (Oooh. Oooh Baby)

    A crowded room, friends with tired eyes
    I'm hiding from you and your soul of ice
    My God I thought you were someone to rely on
    Me? I guess I was a shoulder to cry on
    A face on a lover with a fire in his heart
    A man undercover but you tore me apart
    Oooh Oooh
    Now I've found a real love you'll never fool me again

    Chorus

    A face on a lover with a fire in his heart
    (Gave you my heart)
    A man undercover but you tore me apart
    Next year
    I'll give it to someone, I'll give it to someone special
    special
    someone
    someone
    I'll give it to someone, I'll give it to someone special
    who'll give me something in return
    I'll give it to someone
    hold my heart and watch it burn
    I'll give it to someone, I'll give it to someone special
    I've got you here to stay
    I can love you for a day
    I thought you were someone special
    gave you my heart
    I'll give it to someone, I'll give it to someone
    last christmas I gave you my heart
    you gave it away
    I'll give it to someone, I'll give it to someone
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  • roar wrote:
    just bring a date with you next time...or even just a fun friend--guy or girl. you don't have to bring a boyfriend.
    With our company, you're ONLY allowed bring your partner :eek: well they're not strict on that but it's the rules. That's shit. However it's very very sociable. I've been the past few years on me own and half the people there are on their own and the couples are mainly really sociable.

    That's shit and extremely ignorant gtd.
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  • I'm not doing anything for new years. I'm tired of the pressure that you HAVE to do something on new years. well you know what? I have 3 friends that live in this state and they all have independent plans, so I'm just gonna say fuck convention and I'm gonna go to the movies or something.
    what pressure? :confused: I don't mean to be rude but if it's because you have nothing to do, there's no point blaming everyone else and having an attitude about it cos then you're never gonna feel good about yourself... how about sitting in and doing a Bridget Jones, sometimes that can actually be fun... or how about asking one of your friends if you can go along?
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • I usually like office parties! that's the problem!
    the beer, wine, and food were all very nice, but I don't I'm sorry, I don't enjoy standing in a humungous ballroom full of people all by myself once the dinner is over.
    in that situation, I woulda went out, bought a bottle of sambuca, downed it, came back and stood in the middle of the dancefloor ranting and raving about how shite my love life is right now :D somebody'd talk to ya then... even if it's just to ask you to leave :o
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • intodeepintodeep Posts: 7,240
    ok sorry for this big rant, but worst. office party. ever. Why does everything have to be so dominated by couples? So I work in a little branch office across the river from our big corporate headquarters. Tonight was the big corporate party in a huge fancy hotel with tons of people, but since I'm in this little office I only knew the 12 or so people from my office and their partners. I am the only person in my office who is single. So first of all, I have to add a chair to the table, so everyone is all squished in eating their dinner and complaining about it. It's like hello, I know I am an odd-numbered person, I cannot help it. I'll just eat my food standing in the ladies room if you prefer. So then after dinner, I get up to actually go to the ladies room. I come back and everyone is gone. I can't find ANYONE from my office. By this point they have started the dancing on the other end of the ballroom. I take a walk over there because at this point I don't know whatelse to do besides look around at the architecture (which I usually take time to do when I am in a place like that) and I see that everyone from my office is dancing. But even though it is fast dance music, they aren't dancing together, they're dancing only with their partners. I wasn't sure what to do with myself- I would have sat there and gotten drunk but they were only serving beer and wine, neither of which I can drink a lot of. So I just kinda hung out for about an hour, kinda walking around looking at stuff, wondering if any if anyone is going to stop dancing so I'll have people to talk to, but they didn't, so I just left.

    the real kicker- I spent $50 on cab rides over there and back (I couldn't take the T because I got all dressed up and wore dress shoes and stuff). It was so boring! I can't believe I spent all that money on it. I'm really glad I didn't buy a new dress or anything.

    I'm never going to one of those things alone again. and I am a big proponent of going anywhere alone. I've never had this problem at any of the other office parties I've ever gone to.

    sorry, I know this is just like a big rant but I just got home and I really pissed and no one is up to complain to...

    I've been in the same situation before unfortunately. Being single sucks at times like that.

    Oh well what can you do.
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  • DanimalDanimal Posts: 2,000
    well, I don't have any guy friends in boston anymore, and I only have a few girlfriends here, and I asked them if they wanted to come but they were very much opposed.

    I knew you were from Boston once you said the T! Hhahahaha.

    Cheer up kid! You can take me next year and we can make fun of all your co-workers!
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  • what pressure? :confused: I don't mean to be rude but if it's because you have nothing to do, there's no point blaming everyone else and having an attitude about it cos then you're never gonna feel good about yourself... how about sitting in and doing a Bridget Jones, sometimes that can actually be fun... or how about asking one of your friends if you can go along?

    well I don't know, maybe it is an american thing, but if you don't *do* something on New Years, people think you are a loser. Even my parents will be very ashamed of me if I don't have anything to do (they are very "popular" people, going back to when they were kids.) Everyone is always scrambling for New Years plans, trying to pick the best event, etc.

    Well my friends are doing things with their partners. One of the three is going away. Another one is going to a very fancy dress up event which I could go to I suppose but 1) since she is going with her boyfriend and I won't know anyone else there, it is likely to be a repeat of this office party and 2) I only have one dress that fits anymore and I feel self conscious wearing it because it isn't that pretty.
  • well I don't know, maybe it is an american thing, but if you don't *do* something on New Years, people think you are a loser. Even my parents will be very ashamed of me if I don't have anything to do (they are very "popular" people, going back to when they were kids.) Everyone is always scrambling for New Years plans, trying to pick the best event, etc.

    Well my friends are doing things with their partners. One of the three is going away. Another one is going to a very fancy dress up event which I could go to I suppose but 1) since she is going with her boyfriend and I won't know anyone else there, it is likely to be a repeat of this office party and 2) I only have one dress that fits anymore and I feel self conscious wearing it because it isn't that pretty.
    Hmmm... well surely there's something better than going to the cinema? How about organising a night of pampering yourself? Stock up on some really really fancy stuff, rent some dvd's, have some wine in... and just phone everyone at new years eve? Or not! Refuse to answer the phone :) while you sing auld lang syne at the top of your lungs to yourself.

    Look on the positive side of it gtd, it's the only way anything good will come from it.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Hmmm... well surely there's something better than going to the cinema? How about organising a night of pampering yourself? Stock up on some really really fancy stuff, rent some dvd's, have some wine in... and just phone everyone at new years eve? Or not! Refuse to answer the phone :) while you sing auld lang syne at the top of your lungs to yourself.

    Look on the positive side of it gtd, it's the only way anything good will come from it.

    oh I see it as positive...I'm just afraid of the backlash, especially from my parents.
  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    well I don't know, maybe it is an american thing, but if you don't *do* something on New Years, people think you are a loser. Even my parents will be very ashamed of me if I don't have anything to do (they are very "popular" people, going back to when they were kids.) Everyone is always scrambling for New Years plans, trying to pick the best event, etc.

    Well my friends are doing things with their partners. One of the three is going away. Another one is going to a very fancy dress up event which I could go to I suppose but 1) since she is going with her boyfriend and I won't know anyone else there, it is likely to be a repeat of this office party and 2) I only have one dress that fits anymore and I feel self conscious wearing it because it isn't that pretty.

    Who cares what people think?

    If anything, New Year's is THE night to stay in if you ask me. Too many drunk crazies out on the road.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

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  • know1 wrote:
    Who cares what people think?

    If anything, New Year's is THE night to stay in if you ask me. Too many drunk crazies out on the road.

    I care what people think because I'm going to have to hear about it for like the next ten years.
  • oh I see it as positive...I'm just afraid of the backlash, especially from my parents.
    are you telling the truth? ;) cos that's not how you made it sound earlier. Fuck the backlash... fuck everyone else and their stupid fucking ideas :)
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • are you telling the truth? ;) cos that's not how you made it sound earlier. Fuck the backlash... fuck everyone else and their stupid fucking ideas :)

    easier said then done when you've got parents who call you every friday and saturday make sure you're "out."
  • DanimalDanimal Posts: 2,000
    easier said then done when you've got parents who call you every friday and saturday make sure you're "out."

    No offense but that is kinda weird. I think my parents wished I stayed in! Wanna trade?
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  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    I care what people think because I'm going to have to hear about it for like the next ten years.

    If they're that hung up on what YOU did or didn't do on New Year's that you'll hear about it for 10 years, then they're IDIOTS.

    But I think you're exaggerating... at most it you'll hear about it the first day back at work.
    The only people we should try to get even with...
    ...are those who've helped us.

    Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
  • know1 wrote:
    If they're that hung up on what YOU did or didn't do on New Year's that you'll hear about it for 10 years, then they're IDIOTS.

    But I think you're exaggerating... at most it you'll hear about it the first day back at work.

    my parents are that hung up on what I did or didn't do or new years, trust me.
  • DerrickDerrick Posts: 475
    Office Holiday parties usually suck, even if you are coupled.
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