people over like say 24...

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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    decides2dream wrote:
    well as ever, i think it's something you...your doctors...need to figure out. it DOES seem to figure pretty prominently in ANY discussion with you here, so there's really not much else to say on the subject of that, here.

    yeah I'm not expecting to really talk about that here. honestly though it's weird, I have told 5 doctors (2 general internests, a gyno, and 2 psychiatrists) that i have no interest in men. the psychs just put me on wellbutrin, but the others are like "oh well." they really don't seem to think that's a problem. I really don't think there are too many options when your reproductive system is as screwed up as mine.

    decides2dream wrote:
    beyond that.....i don't know, there are PLENTY of good-looking guys, EVERYwhere! on the train, at my job, the corner store, etc, etc. i usually take the same trains daily, i see a lot of *regulars*......at my firm over 5k people work in our office alone, so there's always people you see about, even within my own group. damn, i have eye candy from 23 and up, hahaha. local stores/restaurants i frequent, etc. our fave italian place, my husband had the cutest crush on one of the young waitresses. :p she was adorable, sweet, and yes....young. haha. ther'es one waiter i always refer to as 'mr. sensitive ponytail guy'....NOT b/c he looks or acts like that character....but yea, he's got a very cute ponytail and personality to boot. and sure, even here.....i've had a couple *crushes*...all harmless, good fun....most are good friends. so basically, i find most people if they think about it interact with MANy of the same people regularly, even if it's simply the cute barrista at starbucks every morning.

    weird, I never see any guys. maybe because I'm just not looking because I'm so not interested. and I RARELY see the same people around...I think the subway is a little different from trains in that respect. sometimes I see the same baristas and whatnot, but it's rare that there are males working places like that.

    trying to go with the flow...it's tough though when people are always asking me why I don't care that I'm not dating. my friends laughed at me when I told them I was asexual...so yeah, I get to thinking either there is something wrong with me, or other people are lying.
  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    I have crushes, still. (I'm 28.) And I still have a crush on my husband. :o

    My crushes now are not on actual people I met, because I don't meet very many new people these days. But I have crushes on people on tv and movies. My latest crush (that I realized last night) is on Harold Ford, Jr. *swoon* lol :D

    You have a crush on Elmo don't you??? ;)

    Come on, he's so cute, and red, and sweet.. hahaha.. (I know thats the sorta tv you're talking about) ;)

    I get odd crushed on people I haven't met. Like David Cook on idol.. umm.. hello!
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    trying to go with the flow...it's tough though when people are always asking me why I don't care that I'm not dating. my friends laughed at me when I told them I was asexual...so yeah, I get to thinking either there is something wrong with me, or other people are lying.


    this, in my opinion, is a big part of your problem.....stop living your life the others think you should....it took my friends years of me telling to basically fuck off before they finally realized to leave me alone and let me live my life the way i wanted....it's your life NOT theirs.....stop tying yourself up in knots over not being attracted to guys.....get your body and mind healthy and the rest should fall into place.....you need to stop living your life for your family and your friends.....just be yourself....
  • Brain of J.Lo
    Brain of J.Lo Posts: 3,259
    GraySaturday wrote:
    You have a crush on Elmo don't you??? ;)

    Come on, he's so cute, and red, and sweet.. hahaha.. (I know thats the sorta tv you're talking about) ;)

    I get odd crushed on people I haven't met. Like David Cook on idol.. umm.. hello!

    lol! No, no crush on Elmo. That's crazy talk!

    Now...SpongeBob Squarepants, on the other hand... *drool*

    :D;)
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    cutback wrote:
    this, in my opinion, is a big part of your problem.....stop living your life the others think you should....it took my friends years of me telling to basically fuck off before they finally realized to leave me alone and let me live my life the way i wanted....it's your life NOT theirs.....stop tying yourself up in knots over not being attracted to guys.....get your body and mind healthy and the rest should fall into place.....you need to stop living your life for your family and your friends.....just be yourself....

    well not being attracted to guys was sort of a big problem when I was with my boyfriend...

    right now I don't care, but I get worried that when I'm 50 I'm going to regret not caring about men through half my 20s and all of my 30s and 40s.
  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    yes.
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    GraySaturday wrote:
    You have a crush on Elmo don't you??? ;)

    Come on, he's so cute, and red, and sweet.. hahaha.. (I know thats the sorta tv you're talking about) ;)

    I get odd crushed on people I haven't met. Like David Cook on idol.. umm.. hello!

    I can see getting a crush on david cook, he's very like...real. though he has a really odd-shaped head and sometimes sings like scott stapp. he's still my favorite though.

    shoot, I forgot to vote last night.
  • the wolf
    the wolf Posts: 7,027
    decides2dream wrote:
    i think you just think too much.
    :)




    and this is coming from someone who 'thinks too much'....although i've gotten better at it. ;)

    i don't think there's anything *wrong* with not having crushes, and i also thought you've mentioned a lot of this you think is tied into your meds, etc......so finding your *life balance* overall, will probably do wonders for you, overall, on all fronts.


    i'd say it's a lot healthier for you to stop thinking in the attitude of right and wrong all the time. everyone is different. :)

    i agree with this post. i also over think things, but damn.......
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I can see getting a crush on david cook, he's very like...real. though he has a really odd-shaped head and sometimes sings like scott stapp. he's still my favorite though.

    shoot, I forgot to vote last night.


    I want to bang his brains out... (I guess thats a bit of a crush no?) hahaha

    I liked his Baba.. Oh man.. With him its odd, I feel like he would totally date me if we met. HAHAHA. wow.. whats wrong with me???
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    GraySaturday wrote:
    I want to bang his brains out... (I guess thats a bit of a crush no?) hahaha


    I liked his Baba.. Oh man.. With him its odd, I feel like he would totally date me if we met. HAHAHA. wow.. whats wrong with me???
    yeah I would say that's a crush.

    I liked his baba too...not a great song to chop up like that but that's what's cool about him, he does whatever he wants. I like his beard.

    haha he would probably date me too, back in my better-looking days. no one would date me now...

    I don't think there's anything wrong with you for having a crush on david cook :). In fact, I wish I could feel like that, even for someone on american idol.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    the wolf wrote:
    i agree with this post. i also over think things, but damn.......

    well I mean, if you had absolutely no feelings for the opposite sex for a long time, and had had no strong feelings for a much longer time than that, wouldn't you start to think about it?
  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    well I mean, if you had absolutely no feelings for the opposite sex for a long time, and had had no strong feelings for a much longer time than that, wouldn't you start to think about it?


    Do you think maybe you don't like men anymore? Or maybe you never really liked them and (well I mean you did when you were younger) but now that you're maturing and learning more about yourself, that you're just not into guys?

    Have you ever been attracted to a woman?


    this sounds so afterschool special, but I mean it seriously.. I mean you sound like you are trying to force yourself to like guy, but why? You shouldn't make yourself feel anything to prove it to anyone.
  • chiquimonkey
    chiquimonkey Posts: 9,337
    cutback wrote:
    this, in my opinion, is a big part of your problem.....stop living your life the others think you should....it took my friends years of me telling to basically fuck off before they finally realized to leave me alone and let me live my life the way i wanted....it's your life NOT theirs.....stop tying yourself up in knots over not being attracted to guys.....get your body and mind healthy and the rest should fall into place.....you need to stop living your life for your family and your friends.....just be yourself....
    took the words right outta my brain...i might develop a crush on you just for saying it :p haha

    and in answer to the original question, hell yeah...i'm an old bat but still can have a crush or two :)
  • iluvcats
    iluvcats Posts: 5,153
    I'm 90 and I have a crush on Adrian Brody. I love his movies.
    9/98, 9/00 - DC, 4/03 - Pitt., 7/03 - Bristow, 10/04 - Reading, 10/05 - Philly, 5/06 - DC, 6/06 - Pitt., 6/08 - Va Beach, 6/08 - DC, 5/10 - Bristow, 10/13 B'more
    8/08 - Ed solo in DC, 6/09 Ed in B'more,
    10/10 - Brad in B'more
  • Lukin66
    Lukin66 Posts: 3,063
    I see a lot of people through my work, and I develop a crush everyday....and yes, all with the capacity to make me a giggly little girl, lol
    deep, deep blue of the morning
    gets to me every time
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    GraySaturday wrote:
    Do you think maybe you don't like men anymore? Or maybe you never really liked them and (well I mean you did when you were younger) but now that you're maturing and learning more about yourself, that you're just not into guys?

    Have you ever been attracted to a woman?


    this sounds so afterschool special, but I mean it seriously.. I mean you sound like you are trying to force yourself to like guy, but why? You shouldn't make yourself feel anything to prove it to anyone.

    no I've never been interested in women. and I really mean that. I've had women interested in me, but totally wasn't into the idea. trust me, everyone asks when I say I'm not into men, so I've revisited the issue in my considerations. I think I can say for a fact, that no, that is not the case.

    I think you misunderstand though, I'm not really trying to force myself to like anyone. As I said, no one would date me now anyway, and there's no one to meet, and I don't care if I'm single, so it's probably a good thing that I'm not interested. As for what other people think, I think they'd be happier if I *were* into women than just being asexual. people at least understand that. But really I don't really care what other people think, it just gets you thinking when you realize that you are different from other people. I do care more about what my future self will think though.

    also as far as crushes go...I used to be interested in men, but still didn't have any crushes between 22 and 28.
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    Crushes are fun.
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    absolutely!!!!!!!!!!!
  • rearviewmiror
    rearviewmiror Posts: 894
    Life does not end at 24. In fact I have found it to be better.
    9/7/98, 8/3/00, 9/4/00, 4/15/03, 7/1/03, 9/28/04, 9/29/04, 5/24/06, 5/25/06, 6/17/08, 6/22/08, 6/28/08, 6/30/08, 5/17/10, 10/15/13, 10/16/13.
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    rearviewmiror wrote:
    Life does not end at 24. In fact I have found it to be better.

    oh I didn't say "life ended". god, nothing even close to that crossed my mind.

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