people over like say 24...

GreenTeaDisease

Do you still get crushes?

the 'girl problems' thread reminded me of all the crushes I had back in college. You know that feeling, maybe it's a friend, maybe it's an acquaintance, maybe it's someone you just see around...your heart stops beating or starts beating really fast, whenever you talk to them you sound like an idiot and your leg twitches...

I haven't had these feelings for 9 years. I haven't felt anything like this toward guys I've dated throughout my 20s. Are people capable of feeling like this past a certain age, or is it really a youth thing? even in grad school, where it was more like college and there were a lot of people around to "choose" from, I didn't really get like this. there was one guy I sort of did, but I gave up on him pretty quickly and got over it faster than I ever would have 8 years ago. What's the deal?

Linda

hell i do.....

urbanhippie

I have a crush on my b/f :D

decides2dream

i'll be turning 40 this year, and i absolutely still get crushes. and hell yes, i am happily married and so in love ith my husband, and yet...still get crushes. to me, crushes are perfectly normal and healthy at ANY age, or any degree of single/commited....merely dictates if you act on them or not.

Solat13

Yep, and I still act like an idiot around them or are too shy to say anything ... lol.

NY PJ1

Nahhhhhhhhhh

Linda

NY PJ1 wrote:

Nahhhhhhhhhh

nahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh???????

right....:D

Sian-of-the-dead

I'm 24 and I had a HUGE crush on a friend of mine... now he's my boyfriend and the crush hasn't stopped

I think it's perfectly normally and healthy to get crushes whatever your age. It's just lust. EVEN the incessant talking about the person and weird mannerisms when in their presence is normal as you get older. It's just part of the process.
Why shouldn't it be considered a crush? You still fancy them like you would if you were 17, so in my eyes, you're having a crush

Linda

chiefojibwa wrote:

yes, people over your arbitrary age of 24 still have feelings and are still human.

gd right we are!!!!!

GreenTeaDisease

ok, there is something definitely wrong with me then!

I don't get it, I USED to feel it, there was one guy in college I literally would have done anything for, I was convinced he was 100% perfect for me. I thought about him ALL the time. and there were others that were close to that. but it was like I graduated from college and poof, no one does anything for me. And for the past 6th months or so, I have ZERO interest in men at all, it's like I don't even care that they exist. this current situation is definitely the most extreme it's been, but I just figured that past a certain age, it's all just about procreating, and if you don't want to procreate it's your natural inclination to just not be interested.

there was this one guy in another program at my university I went to for grad school...I thought he was cute, and one day he said something that totally made me think he was into me. after that I felt kinda crushy- I kept putting on makeup before that class and trying to come up with excuses to talk to him...but once I found out that I probably read into it wrong, I just dropped it, had no interest at all.

foxymop_stupidmop

I get crushes all the time. All the time. It's kind of embarrassing. I wish I didn't. My crushes go unrequited and last for years, possibly forever.

It's a curse.

Nothing beats the feeling, though. Quite a rush.

GraySaturday

I'm 24 and 1/2 so I can play

I totally think people can get crushes at any age! Hell my mom has a new crush all the time

It'll happen when you find someone of interest. Maybe you're just not surrounded by the types of people that interest you so you're less likely to feel that spark.

decides2dream

i think you just think too much.





and this is coming from someone who 'thinks too much'....although i've gotten better at it.

i don't think there's anything *wrong* with not having crushes, and i also thought you've mentioned a lot of this you think is tied into your meds, etc......so finding your *life balance* overall, will probably do wonders for you, overall, on all fronts.


i'd say it's a lot healthier for you to stop thinking in the attitude of right and wrong all the time. everyone is different.

Linda

ok.....

will you please, please, PLEASE stop saying that there is something wrong with you!!!!

just go with the flow and live a little, woman!!!!!

eyedclaar

I fall in lust several times every day. However, I blame the hot women for being so hot.

Heineken Helen

GraySaturday wrote:

I'm 24 and 1/2 so I can play

I totally think people can get crushes at any age! Hell my mom has a new crush all the time

It'll happen when you find someone of interest. Maybe you're just not surrounded by the types of people that interest you so you're less likely to feel that spark.

exactly... you don't HAVE to have one at all times... you might forget about crushes for years and then suddenly someone comes along and you're a retarded schoolgirl again :rolleyes:

Although I used to be capable of MAKING myself have a crush on someone... cos it's a fab feeling

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

Although I used to be capable of MAKING myself have a crush on someone... cos it's a fab feeling

I think that's what I did with that guy from class. I mean don't get me wrong, he had awesome hair, glasses, a really defined back, a hot accent, and was SUPER smart, but I think I kinda talked myself into him.

_Crazy_Mary_

decides2dream wrote:

i'll be turning 40 this year, and i absolutely still get crushes. and hell yes, i am happily married and so in love ith my husband, and yet...still get crushes. to me, crushes are perfectly normal and healthy at ANY age, or any degree of single/commited....merely dictates if you act on them or not.

I have to say I completely agree with you. I love having crushes and it's flattering when someone has a crush on me. I just have to be a good girl and not act on my crush.

GreenTeaDisease

Heineken Helen wrote:

exactly... you don't HAVE to have one at all times... you might forget about crushes for years and then suddenly someone comes along and you're a retarded schoolgirl again :rolleyes:

for 9 years?

mariposa

I still do get crushes...but I don't know...I find that it's not the same anymore or it doesn't have the same effect or rush on me. I guess I just "mellowed" out?

decides2dream

_Crazy_Mary_ wrote:

I have to say I completely agree with you. I love having crushes and it's flattering when someone has a crush on me. I just have to be a good girl and not act on my crush.

exactly!
it's fun and awesome....and hell, may even add a bit more *spark* with your companion too!