my life is falling apart...

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  • pearljamgirl07
    pearljamgirl07 Posts: 792
    Indian Summer wrote:
    I think you should attend the rehab thing with him. Maybe this could be the start of "fixing" your relationship. Don't give up on him yet. Best wishes.

    exactly maybe he reconsider and returns to you...
    be strong and be patience
    "You're the eve of my destruction in the garden of fears"
  • jbalicki10
    jbalicki10 Posts: 517
    Drop That Zero And Get Yourself A Hero!!!!!!
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Indian Summer wrote:
    I have two brothers who are pharmacist, they both hate their jobs, the older has been in it for 15+ years and is completely miserable and depressed. But they both refuse to walk away from it because the money is too good. I feel bad for them.....I understand the stress you're husband is under.

    Good luck.
    Retail pharmacy sucks you in... yes the money is good... but like you said the stress is unbelievable! It was never his first choice... and I think that gets to him even more. He is in the same situation where he basically refuses to walk away from it because of the money. I've always wanted him to do what he wanted with his degree... which is teach at a college level... but the drop in pay bothers him. I'm guessing with the addiction it will come to a time when he will HAVE to(which I think is now... but again he disagrees) get out of retail.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • sponger
    sponger Posts: 3,159
    Tell him that you want to be his new drug of choice.
    reigning champion

    http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=272825
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    sponger wrote:
    Tell him that you want to be his new drug of choice.
    i wish it was that easy.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • LONGRD
    LONGRD Posts: 6,036
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    i wish it was that easy.
    Punch him the face and smack some sense into him! :p
    PJ- 04/29/2003.06/24,25,27,28,30/2008.10/27,28,30,31/2009
    EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    LongRd. wrote:
    Punch him the face and smack some sense into him! :p
    i've thought about that too!
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • justjoshingu
    justjoshingu Posts: 538
    im actually finishing my last year in pharmacy school and the thing we learn day 1 is that pharmacists are very likely to fall into abuse. cause of ease, and cause of stress.

    i dont know if this will help but i'll try.
    i would get some help for yourself before going to any of his things. if you arent strong enough then it can drag u in. those programs sometimes are harder on the family member than on the actual addicted person.

    it sucks that he did all this and i think its important that you know that being hurt is ok. being angry is ok. hating him is ok. loving him is ok. being miserable with out him is ok. being happy without him is ok. i've seen a lot of really terrible things but am always amazed how resiliant the human mind and spirit is.

    same for him. yes its an addiction and a disease. but that shouldnt be a crutch. you cant blame him for having it. but you can blame him for not fighting it. if someone walked into the er with a knife sticking out of their chest then you would expect that they should want it taken out.

    and yes it will linger forever like a ghost, but lots and lots of people fight addiction and get over it and live normal lives. lots. i've known people that were on coke 15 years since they were ten years old. and have been clean 5. friends and family watch out for her, and she still stuggles but she has done it. and has a husband now and a baby and is doing good.
    i dont know if when all is said and done if your husband will come back. he might he might not. focus on what you want and try for it. if it doesnt work out then you know you tried.

    i'll keep you in my prayers.
    mean people suck!
    but nice people sw****w

  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    justjoshingu wrote:
    im actually finishing my last year in pharmacy school and the thing we learn day 1 is that pharmacists are very likely to fall into abuse. cause of ease, and cause of stress.

    i dont know if this will help but i'll try.
    i would get some help for yourself before going to any of his things. if you arent strong enough then it can drag u in. those programs sometimes are harder on the family member than on the actual addicted person.

    it sucks that he did all this and i think its important that you know that being hurt is ok. being angry is ok. hating him is ok. loving him is ok. being miserable with out him is ok. being happy without him is ok. i've seen a lot of really terrible things but am always amazed how resiliant the human mind and spirit is.

    same for him. yes its an addiction and a disease. but that shouldnt be a crutch. you cant blame him for having it. but you can blame him for not fighting it. if someone walked into the er with a knife sticking out of their chest then you would expect that they should want it taken out.

    and yes it will linger forever like a ghost, but lots and lots of people fight addiction and get over it and live normal lives. lots. i've known people that were on coke 15 years since they were ten years old. and have been clean 5. friends and family watch out for her, and she still stuggles but she has done it. and has a husband now and a baby and is doing good.
    i dont know if when all is said and done if your husband will come back. he might he might not. focus on what you want and try for it. if it doesnt work out then you know you tried.

    i'll keep you in my prayers.

    thank you for this....it is helpful :)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • Fahka
    Fahka Posts: 3,187
    oh man this sucks :(


    Im really sorry to hear that. I'm gonna say something cliche but it helps to hear the truth sometimes. You are NOT alone. Stuff like this happens all the time to perfectly awesome people. Just know that no matter what happens, i swear there is a reason behind it! The bumpiest roads lead to the grandest places
  • MerkingBoy
    MerkingBoy Posts: 249
    Kick his ass to the curve and be with a real man like me.
    I'll treat reeeeeeeal good, girl! :cool:
  • sponger
    sponger Posts: 3,159
    This thread is a guilty pleasure for me.
    reigning champion

    http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=272825
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    sponger wrote:
    This thread is a guilty pleasure for me.
    why is that?
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • MerkingBoy
    MerkingBoy Posts: 249
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    why is that?
    He likes seeing a woman in pain. Sicko!

    Me, on the other hand, I like seeing a woman in looooooove...
    with me. :cool:
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    MerkingBoy wrote:
    He likes seeing a woman in pain. Sicko!

    Me, on the other hand, I like seeing a woman....:cool:
    oh wow....it's time for me to call it a night....don't get my thread locked!!!!
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • MerkingBoy
    MerkingBoy Posts: 249
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    oh wow....it's time for me to call it a night....don't get my thread locked!!!!
    Don't worry about the thread. Worry about when the next time you'll have some sweet lovin' from a real man. :cool:
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    LeatherMandi wrote:
    oh man this sucks :(


    Im really sorry to hear that. I'm gonna say something cliche but it helps to hear the truth sometimes. You are NOT alone. Stuff like this happens all the time to perfectly awesome people. Just know that no matter what happens, i swear there is a reason behind it! The bumpiest roads lead to the grandest places
    thank you for this....it's very supportive. I appreciate that.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • sponger
    sponger Posts: 3,159
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Why is that?

    ...because my miserable, lonely existence makes so much more sense now.
    reigning champion

    http://forums.pearljam.com/showthread.php?t=272825
  • LONGRD
    LONGRD Posts: 6,036
    Wow, this thread has taken a life of it's own.

    hope you're at peace soon. :)
    PJ- 04/29/2003.06/24,25,27,28,30/2008.10/27,28,30,31/2009
    EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
  • given2fly10
    given2fly10 Posts: 485
    MerkingBoy wrote:
    Don't worry about the thread. Worry about when the next time you'll have some sweet lovin' from a real man. :cool:
    well it DEF wont be from you. real man arent freaking creepy people
    And he still gives his love, he just gives it away, The love he receives is the love that is saved, And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, A human being that was given to fly

    no bed=no brian

    coke sucks

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