wedding rings

suffragette

why don't men who are mrried wear rings?

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You mean the married men you are attracted to?

aNiMaL

The engagement ring, the wedding ring, the church bells ring, then the suffering.

suffragette

No, just wondering for various reasons. Personally, I'm attracted to my husband, who wears his wedding ring.

urbanhippie

My ex husband NEVER wore either the engagement ring I bought him, nor his wedding ring. He said it was pointless and got in the way at work.

I always wore both of mine until I lost a lot of weight and they no longer fitted me. It seems kind of pointless getting them altered now, so I'm going to save them for our daughter and she can have them changed to fit her.

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well, maybe men who don't wear their wedding ring are allergic to it?
maybe they lost it?
maybe it itches them?
maybe their job is working with equipment that makes it dangerous to
wear rings?
maybe they forgot it on the bedside table of the hooker they spent
the night with?
maybe they hocked it because they were strapped for cash?
Maybe they never exchanged rings at their wedding?
maybe the ball & chain around their ankle is enough of a reminder
that they betrothed themselves to 1 woman till death do they part?

why do you think men don't wear wedding rings?

harmless_little_f***

urbanhippie wrote:

My ex husband NEVER wore either the engagement ring I bought him, nor his wedding ring. He said it was pointless and got in the way at work.

Pointless?

:eek:

Wonders. Never. Cease.

I don't think I ever took my wedding ring off.

CityMouse

my father has NEVER worn his wedding ring, not even on his wedding day! he's very easily made uncomfortable and a ring would drive him crazy (and it would too, I can't imagine him wearing anything constricting). I don't know why he even has one though, seems like it would have been a waste of money to buy it in the first place. Most younger men I know wear them though. I wish men who were engaged wore rings, it's not fair that girls have a "taken" sign on them but not guys. Do you know how many times I've been like "hey, you know so-and-so he's pretty cute, should I ask him out" and gotten "he's getting married next week" in response?

I like nice wedding rings though. I think it kinda sucks that people blow so much money on the stupid engagement ring they skimp on the wedding rings, which is much more important symbol and involves both parties.

Cateeto

A lot of people, at least the one's in my family, see a wedding band as a symbol of being "whipped" as stupid as that is and unfortunately I think a large percentage of guy's follow this train of thought. I personally think it's very attractive seeing a guy wear a wedding ring because it tells me exactly how much he cares for his wife, and nothing is more awesome than that.

Funny story.

My father-in-law does not wear his ring anymore, nor does my mother-in-law due to the fact that my father-in-law stopped wearing his. Why did he? Well, he's a bit insane, as Mr. Cateeto will tell you and he gets paranoid/angry over the stupidest shit. No one seems to remember the circumstances, as they were very small and insignificant, but the man got very pissed off and took his ring off and melted it into a small hunk of gold. He said he didn't care about the ring anymore. Neither did she.

Sad, sad tale.

CityMouse

Cateeto wrote:

A lot of people, at least the one's in my family, see a wedding band as a symbol of being "whipped" as stupid as that is.

yeah I think this sentiment is still alive and well. Also some men just find it down-right feminine to wear jewelry of any kind.

Indian Summer

Real men wear their wedding bands. My dad has worn his so long, he can't even take it off. The only time I ever take mine off is when I'm doing dirty work, in the dirt, or something mechanical...oily or whatnot.

Urban Hiker

My husband and I were together for four years before we got married, lived together for most of it. We weren't wearing rings, but we certainly weren't 'on the market'.

I hate having to wear a ring. It annoys the hell out of me when my fingers swell up on a long walk and when the doggie leash pinches it. But, since it still has social significance I wear it.

Sometime soon hubby and I are gonna get tats to replace the metal things.

myhook

I have been married 3 years and proudly wear my ring. I only take it off when I am at the gym or playing any sports.

DeLukin

I wear mine all the time.

urbanhippie

harmless_little_f*** wrote:

Pointless?

I think was kind of like his view of marriage....

He alway said marriage was pointless without commitment and that if you had commitment, what was the point of marriage....?

*shrug*

tybird

I always wear my white gold wedding ring...inscribed with "The Long Road Together" on the inside. :cool:

comebackwoman

CityMouse wrote:

my father has NEVER worn his wedding ring, not even on his wedding day! he's very easily made uncomfortable and a ring would drive him crazy (and it would too, I can't imagine him wearing anything constricting). I don't know why he even has one though, seems like it would have been a waste of money to buy it in the first place. Most younger men I know wear them though. I wish men who were engaged wore rings, it's not fair that girls have a "taken" sign on them but not guys. Do you know how many times I've been like "hey, you know so-and-so he's pretty cute, should I ask him out" and gotten "he's getting married next week" in response?

I like nice wedding rings though. I think it kinda sucks that people blow so much money on the stupid engagement ring they skimp on the wedding rings, which is much more important symbol and involves both parties.

I think there's more of a trend for guys to start wearing engagement rings. My fiance and I exchanged engagement rings...so we each wear one I don't wear any jewelry when I'm at home. It's weird, but as soon as I walk through the door I take off my rings and my watch. If I have them on at home it feels confining. I don't like to sleep, shower or workout with them on. I already lost a stone on a ring once...so I also want to reduce the wear and tear. But whenever I leave the house I put it on and would feel naked if I didn't! My fiance only takes his off when he showers. Otherwise it's always on.

suffragette

urbanhippie wrote:

I think was kind of like his view of marriage....

He alway said marriage was pointless without commitment and that if you had commitment, what was the point of marriage....?

*shrug*

if my husband thought his wedding ring was "pointless," he'd be my exhusband.

rings are a symbol. probably an anachronistic symbol, but a symbol nonetheless. for me, it has nothing to do with a man being "taken"; it has more to do with how proud I am that I'm in love (finally) with a good man who's proud too. pride in the name of love.

urbanhippie

suffragette wrote:

if my husband thought his wedding ring was "pointless," he'd be my exhusband.

rings are a symbol. probably an anachronistic symbol, but a symbol nonetheless. for me, it has nothing to do with a man being "taken"; it has more to do with how proud I am that I'm in love (finally) with a good man who's proud too. pride in the name of love.

He IS my ex

Trailer

I've never heard of men not wearing their wedding rings just because they don't like it One of my brazillian friends married this girl just so he could get a green card, and he'll take it off if he's going out to the bars... but he's a serial cheater! If his wife found out about it, she would be pissed!! Girls just throw themselves at him because of his accent:rolleyes: If I got married though, I would never take it off... just like my dad:)

nocode23

I proudly wear mine every day!:)

GraySaturday

My husband always wears his wedding ring...

I've never mentioned it. I never said he HAD TO, or commanded him to wear it.. He likes it I guess. He picked it out, its very original with metal and concrete and little itty bity screws. Its very "industrial" looking. He's an architect, so it fits him well.

RolandTD20Kdrummer

It's a subliminal yearning to be single again...

before the tentacles unleashed...

know1

I've done pretty good wearing mine in the short time I've been married, but I probably won't wear it a lot longer. I just can't stand jewelry and it bothers me on my hand. I'll probably wear it when we go out together, but probably not much other than that...but it's due to comfort.

panthergirl

my husband (of 21 years) doesn't wear his (it was silver and totally bent out of shape)
i'll probably get him a new one (white gold) at some point.
my dad (married to my mom for 49 years!) hasn't worn his since the first year they got married.

decides2dream

my husband hasn't worn his wedding band probably since our first year of marriage. it used to bother me, a lot....mostly b/c when we were getting married and i asked if he would wear a wedding ring he said yes, that he would never take it off, he'd be so happy to be my husband, etc. it was quite touching. i realize now, he DId mean it, just didn't realize how annoying he would find wearing a ring. he never wears jewelry, never had, never will. he wears a watch to work, that's it. if i ask, he'll put on his ring when we go out for a special occasion, but that's it.


funny thing, really, neither one of us EVEr wear our 'wedding bands'...not the ones we exchanged when we got married anyway. i designed our rings, and they are beautiful, but a bit too wide, and my ring too wide and thick, also yellow and white gold, not my thing anymore. bought hubby a very thin, plain silver band years later....maybe $20...and that's what he wears when he wears a ring. hahaha. me, hubby bought me a beautiful platinum and diamond band maybe 5 years ago, and that's what i wear alll the time. however, i like to wear jewelry, especially rings....and yes, i like to wear a symbol of his love. i no longer take the fact that he doesn't wear a ring as a 'bad' thing at all anymore, i realize he proves his love and dedication to me every day, no ring is necessary for that.

StateOfLoveBoatCptn.

I did when I was

saveuplife

suffragette wrote:

why don't men who are mrried wear rings?

Great great question. I wear mine all the time.

I noticed that at my old job, all these married men would not wear their wedding rings. It got me thinking about it.

I think we all know the answer why someone would not want to wear a ring.

decides2dream

saveuplife wrote:

Great great question. I wear mine all the time.

I noticed that at my old job, all these married men would not wear their wedding rings. It got me thinking about it.

I think we all know the answer why someone would not want to wear a ring.

HA!
i call bullshit.
one can cheat, or not, just as easily with or without a wedding band on. most who do not wear a wedding band are quite forthcoming of the fact that they ARE married. not wearing a ring is the least of concerns for that imho of course.

harmless_little_f***

urbanhippie wrote:

I think was kind of like his view of marriage....

He alway said marriage was pointless without commitment and that if you had commitment, what was the point of marriage....?

*shrug*

OHH I see.. kinda like 'Music is pointless without guitars, and if you have guitars, what's the point of music?'

:rolleyes:

saveuplife

decides2dream wrote:

HA!
i call bullshit.
one can cheat, or not, just as easily with or without a wedding band on. most who do not wear a wedding band are quite forthcoming of the fact that they ARE married. not wearing a ring is the least of concerns for that imho of course.

I disagree. I think it would be a lot easier for a girl to decide to hook up with a guy who does not have a wedding ring on (and guys know this). Going one step further, I think it would be a lot more likely for a girl to approach/flirt with a guy without a wedding ring (and guys know this). Does that mean the guy needs to respond? Absolutely not. However, it may be his intention to get hit on or to make it easier to flirt. It's a generalization. This does not mean your husband does this.

I know first hand that my wife's single girlfriends always look for a ring on guys that they think are attractive. Some of these girls will approach these guys too (if the guy has no ring and they have had a few too many and built up some liquid courage).

If I know this, other guys know this, including cheat-on-the-wife a-hole guys.