I agree, I do not want to settle either, but eventually when you get past up by all the people who you want you will either have to accept being single or settle, so either way you are screwed
not really. life is what you make it. if you end up single then maybe you were meant to be single, but you can still have an exciting life! i say to live life to the fullest and if/when i find the right one, i'll know and it will be worth the wait. also, being single helps you to know more about yourself. i've talked to friends of mine that say sometimes it's hard, when you're in a relationship, to stay true to yourself. that's not always the case, but at least you know that while you're single you can be as selfish as you want.
No need to be void, or save up on life...
You got to spend it all
I totally know what you mean about being alone and having to deal with stuff.
I've had alot of situations thrown at me and it would be so nice to have someone there to soften the blow. Just to relax and tell me it will be ok. Friends are there for you but sometimes you need just a little bit more.
Ok well I feel depressed now. LOL
aw, don't be depressed! i think there are advantages either way - single or in a relationship.
No need to be void, or save up on life...
You got to spend it all
it is just too bad that for some life will never be completely fulfilled either do to not finding that person or finding someone you just settled for. But, that is why there are winners and losers in life, some of us are just born losers.
it is just too bad that for some life will never be completely fulfilled either do to not finding that person or finding someone you just settled for. But, that is why there are winners and losers in life, some of us are just born losers.
this is the time when you need to make yourself look at the glass and say it's half-full not half-empty. i hate when people tell me this, but in this moment you have to choose to see yourself differently. you are not a failure, and if you end up single the rest of your life, then you are the one who chooses misery or a fulfilled life. don't let someone else (who doesn't want to be with you) define you.
No need to be void, or save up on life...
You got to spend it all
this is the time when you need to make yourself look at the glass and say it's half-full not half-empty. i hate when people tell me this, but in this moment you have to choose to see yourself differently. you are not a failure, and if you end up single the rest of your life, then you are the one who chooses misery or a fulfilled life. don't let someone else (who doesn't want to be with you) define you.
excellent attitude.
and really, this:
if you end up _________the rest of your life, then you are the one who chooses misery or a fulfilled life. don't let someone/thing else.........define you.
married, single, divorced, cohabitating, parent or childless.....it STILL is always a CHOICE to be miserable or fulfilled. having someone or something in your life won't determine that for you. YOU do!
as in, don't let societal 'norms' determine what is right for you, either.
if you end up _________the rest of your life, then you are the one who chooses misery or a fulfilled life. don't let someone/thing else.........define you.
married, single, divorced, cohabitating, parent or childless.....it STILL is always a CHOICE to be miserable or fulfilled. having someone or something in your life won't determine that for you. YOU do!
as in, don't let societal 'norms' determine what is right for you, either.
yes! you summed it up perfectly!
also, you can't say some people are born losers. watch this video and if it doesn't change your perspective, i don't know what will: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xUQeUsqQuVc
this seems to bring me back to the right perspective everytime.
No need to be void, or save up on life...
You got to spend it all
if you end up _________the rest of your life, then you are the one who chooses misery or a fulfilled life. don't let someone/thing else.........define you.
married, single, divorced, cohabitating, parent or childless.....it STILL is always a CHOICE to be miserable or fulfilled. having someone or something in your life won't determine that for you. YOU do!
as in, don't let societal 'norms' determine what is right for you, either.
nice, dreamy.
I died. I died and you just stood there. I died and you watched. I died and you walked by and said no. I'm dead.
it is just too bad that for some life will never be completely fulfilled either do to not finding that person or finding someone you just settled for. But, that is why there are winners and losers in life, some of us are just born losers.
um wow i really don't know where to begin with all this
you believe that unless you are coupled with another human being you are deficient as a human?
bullshit!!
you are who you are by the choices you make in your life....you choose to find someone to share you life with....it is not a requirement for living.....i have chosen not to have a wife/gf and i am happy with that decision because i feel it is the best choice for me.....if people have a problem with that..well that's THEIR problem, not mine
a question to those who say "I am happy being single:" you do not think life would be better if you were in love? If someone handed you love, you wouldnt take it? Those people who are desirable have those options, people who are not do not have those options. I do not believe it when people say they are "happy being single." To me it is just a excuse to not scratch below the surface to figure out why you are undesirable to others.
a question to those who say "I am happy being single:" you do not think life would be better if you were in love? If someone handed you love, you wouldnt take it? Those people who are desirable have those options, people who are not do not have those options. I do not believe it when people say they are "happy being single." To me it is just a excuse to not scratch below the surface to figure out why you are undesirable to others.
DUH! I love being in a relationship and if I met an amazing man I wouldn't hesitate to be in one. But, to say I'm unhappy because I'm NOT in one would be ridiculous! I have wonderful friends, family, hobbies...why would I base my happiness solely on one person? That's just crazy talk...not to mention unhealthy!!
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Here is the thing, that whole "be happy with yourself" is a bunch of crap. Why are we here??? To associate with others, to have children, to make those "connections" with others. If the others think you are, for a lack of a better term, a "loser," then you will not be able to fulfill what living is about and you can not be happy with yourself if you are undesirable to others and thus not able to make "connections"
Why does living just have to be about that? If that's the case I see myself in a dead end life.
I don't have a significant other, and I don't even have a best friend. And I actually kind of like it that way. Everyone around me knows pieces about me and they're close to me, but nobody significant yet. I'm too young for that, and I might think I always am.
My life right now that fulfills me are my dogs, and my nephews. I take my nephew to wrestling because nobody else can stand watching that fake crap, and he gets me into it and it's a great time. We can get up and go any time. I go to the beach with my dogs, and let them be free and see how happy they are with a change of scenery other than the back yard or our jogs. I like spending the time that I do get to have with my three buddies, one of which is married, the other engaged, and the other getting ready to get engaged. So when one of them becomes free for a night I can break up whatever I'm doing in a five minute phone call and meet them somewhere.
My significant other right now is that I don't have one. Nothing that ties me down, nothing to worry about, and all my time can be used to how I see it best fit. There's so much that I like to do and so much that I want to do. But having that significant other also takes up so much work and time itself.
So what makes me happy is that I can spread my time around easilly while I still can and that's what makes me happy. It's all what you find fulfilling in life. Sure there's rough patches, but there also is when you're with a significant other as well.
It's your life, and you find your own reasons to live. If someone wants to share that with you and you want to share that with them, consider yourself lucky. But if that's your purpose, then it seems to me you're playing into a role that others want to see you fit into rather than just finding what fulfills you.
Lonliness sucks, but you gotta learn to embrace it. It's something that's not going to leave.
DUH! I love being in a relationship and if I met an amazing man I wouldn't hesitate to be in one. But, to say I'm unhappy because I'm NOT in one would be ridiculous! I have wonderful friends, family, hobbies...why would I base my happiness solely on one person? That's just crazy talk...not to mention unhealthy!!
thanks m....you said it better than i could.....:)
a question to those who say "I am happy being single:" you do not think life would be better if you were in love? If someone handed you love, you wouldnt take it? Those people who are desirable have those options, people who are not do not have those options. I do not believe it when people say they are "happy being single." To me it is just a excuse to not scratch below the surface to figure out why you are undesirable to others.
If someone handed me millions of dollars I sure as hell wouldn't turn it down, but I'm very happy even though I'm not rich. A relationship (or money) doesn't make or break your happiness.
I am not saying it determines if you are happy or not, I am saying that at some point in your life you will feel unfulfilled if you do not have someone to come home to...some point you will. And to know that there is a good chance that it will never happen, makes you question part of who you are. Why do so many other people have the ability to attract a mate while you do not, that doesnt make you question a part of you???
I am not saying it determines if you are happy or not, I am saying that at some point in your life you will feel unfulfilled if you do not have someone to come home to...some point you will. And to know that there is a good chance that it will never happen, makes you question part of who you are. Why do so many other people have the ability to attract a mate while you do not, that doesnt make you question a part of you???
how old are you? maybe now is just not the right time for you.
No need to be void, or save up on life...
You got to spend it all
I am not saying it determines if you are happy or not, I am saying that at some point in your life you will feel unfulfilled if you do not have someone to come home to...some point you will. And to know that there is a good chance that it will never happen, makes you question part of who you are. Why do so many other people have the ability to attract a mate while you do not, that doesnt make you question a part of you???
i have the ability to attract a "mate" but i have CHOSEN not to at this point in my life....perhaps someday i will change my mind....
I think by the time you hit 31 you have a good idea of what kind of person you are and what you will have and not have
31? Are you kidding me?
A friend of mine was so against significant others his whole life, and said he'd never get married. Was never looking for it, and always lived the greatest life. Until he turned 42 when someone came around and completely changed his mind just because of who she was. He's now 44 and getting married this summer.
A friend of mine was so against significant others his whole life, and said he'd never get married. Was never looking for it, and always lived the greatest life. Until he turned 42 when someone came around and completely changed his mind just because of who she was. He's now 44 and getting married this summer.
AGE HAAAAAS GOT NOTHING TO DOOOOO WITH IT MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS!
Seriously, I'm so sick of all this strain people put on age. Now there are some things that age does come into play with...ie biological and medical issues that come with it.
As far as happiness and who/what you get along with? Age has got nothing to do with it for adults.
I had a friend trying to talk me into finding a girl and getting married...I told him I'm 25, I don't need to focus on that and he says "you're not getting any younger! And all the good ones are getting scooped up."
People use age as an excuse/or for proof to serve their point far too often. It's just not as relevant as often as people like to think it is.
AGE HAAAAAS GOT NOTHING TO DOOOOO WITH IT MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS!
Seriously, I'm so sick of all this strain people put on age. Now there are some things that age does come into play with...ie biological and medical issues that come with it.
As far as happiness and who/what you get along with? Age has got nothing to do with it for adults.
I had a friend trying to talk me into finding a girl and getting married...I told him I'm 25, I don't need to focus on that and he says "you're not getting any younger! And all the good ones are getting scooped up."
People use age as an excuse/or for proof to serve their point far too often. It's just not as relevant as often as people like to think it is.
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not really. life is what you make it. if you end up single then maybe you were meant to be single, but you can still have an exciting life!
You got to spend it all
aw, don't be depressed!
You got to spend it all
Nah I'm fine actually.
I'm alive and I have a great family and frends.
this is the time when you need to make yourself look at the glass and say it's half-full not half-empty. i hate when people tell me this, but in this moment you have to choose to see yourself differently. you are not a failure, and if you end up single the rest of your life, then you are the one who chooses misery or a fulfilled life. don't let someone else (who doesn't want to be with you) define you.
You got to spend it all
excellent attitude.
and really, this:
if you end up _________the rest of your life, then you are the one who chooses misery or a fulfilled life. don't let someone/thing else.........define you.
married, single, divorced, cohabitating, parent or childless.....it STILL is always a CHOICE to be miserable or fulfilled. having someone or something in your life won't determine that for you. YOU do!
as in, don't let societal 'norms' determine what is right for you, either.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
yes! you summed it up perfectly!
also, you can't say some people are born losers. watch this video and if it doesn't change your perspective, i don't know what will: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xUQeUsqQuVc
this seems to bring me back to the right perspective everytime.
You got to spend it all
LOL! SHUT UP!! IT's not Jill!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! punk! :rolleyes:
nice, dreamy.
um wow i really don't know where to begin with all this
you believe that unless you are coupled with another human being you are deficient as a human?
bullshit!!
you are who you are by the choices you make in your life....you choose to find someone to share you life with....it is not a requirement for living.....i have chosen not to have a wife/gf and i am happy with that decision because i feel it is the best choice for me.....if people have a problem with that..well that's THEIR problem, not mine
good, glad to hear it
You got to spend it all
DUH! I love being in a relationship and if I met an amazing man I wouldn't hesitate to be in one. But, to say I'm unhappy because I'm NOT in one would be ridiculous! I have wonderful friends, family, hobbies...why would I base my happiness solely on one person? That's just crazy talk...not to mention unhealthy!!
Why does living just have to be about that? If that's the case I see myself in a dead end life.
I don't have a significant other, and I don't even have a best friend. And I actually kind of like it that way. Everyone around me knows pieces about me and they're close to me, but nobody significant yet. I'm too young for that, and I might think I always am.
My life right now that fulfills me are my dogs, and my nephews. I take my nephew to wrestling because nobody else can stand watching that fake crap, and he gets me into it and it's a great time. We can get up and go any time. I go to the beach with my dogs, and let them be free and see how happy they are with a change of scenery other than the back yard or our jogs. I like spending the time that I do get to have with my three buddies, one of which is married, the other engaged, and the other getting ready to get engaged. So when one of them becomes free for a night I can break up whatever I'm doing in a five minute phone call and meet them somewhere.
My significant other right now is that I don't have one. Nothing that ties me down, nothing to worry about, and all my time can be used to how I see it best fit. There's so much that I like to do and so much that I want to do. But having that significant other also takes up so much work and time itself.
So what makes me happy is that I can spread my time around easilly while I still can and that's what makes me happy. It's all what you find fulfilling in life. Sure there's rough patches, but there also is when you're with a significant other as well.
It's your life, and you find your own reasons to live. If someone wants to share that with you and you want to share that with them, consider yourself lucky. But if that's your purpose, then it seems to me you're playing into a role that others want to see you fit into rather than just finding what fulfills you.
Lonliness sucks, but you gotta learn to embrace it. It's something that's not going to leave.
thanks m....you said it better than i could.....:)
how old are you? maybe now is just not the right time for you.
You got to spend it all
i have the ability to attract a "mate" but i have CHOSEN not to at this point in my life....perhaps someday i will change my mind....
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damn straight!
How can you just disregard Norman so easily? :(
31? Are you kidding me?
A friend of mine was so against significant others his whole life, and said he'd never get married. Was never looking for it, and always lived the greatest life. Until he turned 42 when someone came around and completely changed his mind just because of who she was. He's now 44 and getting married this summer.
Age has got nothing to do with it.
hey i love normie.....but "mate"? :eek:
say it brother!!! amen!!
AGE HAAAAAS GOT NOTHING TO DOOOOO WITH IT MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS!
Seriously, I'm so sick of all this strain people put on age. Now there are some things that age does come into play with...ie biological and medical issues that come with it.
As far as happiness and who/what you get along with? Age has got nothing to do with it for adults.
I had a friend trying to talk me into finding a girl and getting married...I told him I'm 25, I don't need to focus on that and he says "you're not getting any younger! And all the good ones are getting scooped up."
People use age as an excuse/or for proof to serve their point far too often. It's just not as relevant as often as people like to think it is.
Age is just a number.
if i am single for the rest of my life, i'm be glad to not have to deal with that bullshit again.
That's all I ever say. And that's it's man-made! That always gets me in with the 'more experienced' ladies at the bar.