Can you hide your true self?

markymark550

CityMouse wrote:

This is true, but I think that, in the course of being around people every day, you "know" them anyway. You may not know all the "facts" about them, but you have an idea of their personality. I'm just throwing this out there because how many times have you had a completely different idea of a coworker when you first meet them versus months in?

I see your point there.

I guess it depends on how vibrant and active your work environment is. If you've got a subdued workplace and there isn't much conversation or chatting, you can (without even meaning to) conceal a lot of your personality. I'm sure that if I had a job where I had to be more outgoing, more of my personality would show, whether I wanted it to or not.

decides2dream

Rhinocerous Surprise wrote:

The real answer to the original question: not if you're a serial nudist.

Urban Hiker

Depending on the situation, I'll exaggerate certain aspects of my personality while subduing others. I think most of us do that. Duh.

Anywho. I've had a LOT of people get the "first" impression that I am an extrovert. I smile a lot, laugh really loud, I can be very assertive....
But, I'm not. I am an introvert. However, after years of being the new kid when growing up and doing customer service type gigs as an adult, I can play extrovert when needed.
People who try to initiate a friendship based on the first impression are up for disappointment.

My smile also hides my venomous tongue. The looks I get when I finally let loose in front of people are classic.

I don't think I really hide my true self. It's all me, just some of it seems a little contradictory.

smarchee

this thread provided the opportunity for my brain to remind me of that Cindy Lauper song that goes...."I see your true colours........" da da da

argh

small town beck

smarchee wrote:

this thread provided the opportunity for my brain to remind me of that Cindy Lauper song that goes...."I see your true colours........" da da da

argh

Cyndi Lauper rocks!! I saw her in Montreal a few years ago... I mean she is no ABBA

smarchee

small town beck wrote:

ABBA

EVIL !!!!

small town beck

smarchee wrote:

EVIL !!!!

Maybe I will call you from Mammia Mia tomorrow, just so you can hear it


*sorry d2d, not meaning to hijack*

smarchee

small town beck wrote:

Maybe I will call you from Mammia Mia tomorrow, just so you can hear it


*sorry d2d, not meaning to hijack*

call BLOCK

ok, no more hijacking too

decides2dream

smarchee wrote:

this thread provided the opportunity for my brain to remind me of that Cindy Lauper song that goes...."I see your true colours........" da da da

argh

THIS made me laugh!

small town beck wrote:

*sorry d2d, not meaning to hijack*

you're just being your true self.
and sure...take it to PMs. haha.

comebackwoman

The true essence of who I am always comes through...and it's not something I would want to hide from anyone. However, there are only a select few people who truly know all and everything about me and my life. I choose what I feel comfortable sharing with certain people based on the type of relationship I have with them and how comfortable I feel with them. That's just good judgment IMO. I'm usually good at reading other people also...and seeing through their various masks - recognizing false bravado or when someone is covering up pain or even false friendliness. I think this is a necessary part of being able to do my job well. However I usually honor whatever someone is showing at any given time and recognize that there's probably a reason for it...and I don't necessarily need to know the reason.

Swan

I don’t think a person ever shows who they really are, sure we get to see most of whom people are but I’ve always found that most people will hold back a little no matter how well you know them.

This excludes couples who have been together for a long time. I think my wife is the only person who completely knows me, but we’ve been together for 10 years now.

clark_kent

decides2dream wrote:

i think eventually...it does come out. real life and even online....i think in time you *see* or recognize someone for who they are. quite honestly, if someone could hide their true nature to such a degree i would find that rather unhealthy and a wee bit scary .....but i think for most of us, we do want to be *known* for who we are inside, and in time, can't keep up the charade and reveal ourselves.

thoughts?
agree, disagree.....?

the neighbors of most serial killers would say yes.

manipulatedliving

I think it does come out, but if you try really hard, then people won't even be able to guess what sex you are *pearljamjen*

AmentsChick

Yes. Watch Dexter.

saveuplife

I don't know. I think that's a good question. I think it's great to be genuine. But, I definetly don't think many people are today. I'd be lying if I said that I am all the time.

This is definetly something I'd like to improve on. Sincerity and transparency are underrated qualities in a person.

pearljamjen

manipulatedliving wrote:

I think it does come out, but if you try really hard, then people won't even be able to guess what sex you are *pearljamjen*

haha I know your sex! I saw it another thread!

clark_kent

AmentsChick wrote:

Yes. Watch Dexter.

that show is fascinating.

AmentsChick

clark_kent wrote:

that show is fascinating.

If anyone would know about hiding your 'true self' ... clark kent would know!

manipulatedliving

pearljamjen wrote:

haha I know your sex! I saw it another thread!

DAMN! *slaps on fake mustache and glasses*


You saw nothing.

Lizard

i cannot really hide my true self.