Why do I (or any other guy) get really nervous when talking to a hott girl?

HailHailVitalogyHailHailVitalogy Posts: 5,409
edited April 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
Like...I have hott friends that are girls and we just talk and laugh and I'm fine. But why is there nothing to talk about when you meet a girl whos gorgeous and extremely nice? Not just that, but why do we get nervous and all the sudden its like 30 degrees warmer in the room.

Curse you gorgeous women!
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  • cause you see them like friends ! when I see a hot guy I couldn't speak to him cause I feel so nervous too but don't worry! you already overcome it!(I hope so..!).be yourself
    "You're the eve of my destruction in the garden of fears"
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    Like...I have hott friends that are girls and we just talk and laugh and I'm fine. But why is there nothing to talk about when you meet a girl whos gorgeous and extremely nice? Not just that, but why do we get nervous and all the sudden its like 30 degrees warmer in the room.

    Curse you gorgeous women!


    That happens to us girls too....;) It's all a part of nerves!!
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
  • given2fly10given2fly10 Posts: 485
    hott girls are so not my thing, to fake and all. give me a cute nerdy girl anyday of the week
    And he still gives his love, he just gives it away, The love he receives is the love that is saved, And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, A human being that was given to fly

    no bed=no brian

    coke sucks
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    hott girls are so not my thing, to fake and all. give me a cute nerdy girl anyday of the week


    Hmmmmm........such an ass kisser you are!!! ;)
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
  • LindaLinda Posts: 1,656
    hott girls are so not my thing

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.........!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D
    i'm not happy yet.....
  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    Linda wrote:
    HAHAHAHAHAHAHA.........!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D


    my thoughts exactly!


    why assume a 'hott' girl is fake? some girls/women just really ARE, with little to no effort...truly HOT. same with men.


    and as already mentioned, b/c you're interested in them! that simple. men and women, we fumble and falter some when in the presence of someone we truly find 'hot'...attractive...interesting. ya know, basically anyone who you may want to jump their bones. :D
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  • Like...I have hott friends that are girls and we just talk and laugh and I'm fine. But why is there nothing to talk about when you meet a girl whos gorgeous and extremely nice? Not just that, but why do we get nervous and all the sudden its like 30 degrees warmer in the room.

    Curse you gorgeous women!
    Cause you wanna get laid.
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  • decides2dreamdecides2dream Posts: 14,977
    Cause you wanna get laid.


    :D
    the reason behind MOST of human nature!
    Stay with me...
    Let's just breathe...


    I am myself like you somehow


  • CosmoCosmo Posts: 12,225
    Like...I have hott friends that are girls and we just talk and laugh and I'm fine. But why is there nothing to talk about when you meet a girl whos gorgeous and extremely nice? Not just that, but why do we get nervous and all the sudden its like 30 degrees warmer in the room.

    Curse you gorgeous women!
    ...
    It's simple... we are scouring our memory banks looking for a way to say, "I want to fuck you"... and actually having a chance that it'll happen.
    Problems is... we have extremely limited vocabularies and the mouth can't act on it's own as the brain frantically searches for the words.
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  • given2fly10given2fly10 Posts: 485
    my thoughts exactly!


    why assume a 'hott' girl is fake? some girls/women just really ARE, with little to no effort...truly HOT. same with men.


    and as already mentioned, b/c you're interested in them! that simple. men and women, we fumble and falter some when in the presence of someone we truly find 'hot'...attractive...interesting. ya know, basically anyone who you may want to jump their bones. :D
    cause most i've come across cant hold a convo for then 5 minutes and just want the attention cause of there looks and for me to like them. i love a girl thats real and smart and can hold a convo.theres nothing better then talking to a girl for 4 hours and enjoying it.yes it does work both ways that i'll agree with
    And he still gives his love, he just gives it away, The love he receives is the love that is saved, And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, A human being that was given to fly

    no bed=no brian

    coke sucks
  • Dylan StoneDylan Stone Posts: 1,145
    Like...I have hott friends


    My question is...What's up with this HOTT spelling?

    If I know a hot dude...he is just that...a hot dude.

    Hott?
  • LONGRDLONGRD Posts: 6,036
    Because I have an erection from their hottness :)
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  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    LongRd. wrote:
    Because I have an erection from their hottness :)


    THIS WAS THE BEST POST EVER!!!! :p
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 30,193
    the hotter the dummer i say, anyway we probably get nervous because any intelligent thoughts have gone down to our little head and we end looking like total dicks ...
    jesus greets me looks just like me ....
  • hott girls are so not my thing, to fake and all. give me a cute nerdy girl anyday of the week

    What if a cute nerdy girl IS a hott girl in your opinion.. why must we categorise people?
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  • given2fly10given2fly10 Posts: 485
    What if a cute nerdy girl IS a hott girl in your opinion.. why must we categorise people?
    well yes a cute nerdy girl is hot in my opinon. but i think the op was talking bout the typical blonde hair, big boobs, nice ass type of girl. i hate labels to. but society and hollywood has made us categorise things sadly enough
    And he still gives his love, he just gives it away, The love he receives is the love that is saved, And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, A human being that was given to fly

    no bed=no brian

    coke sucks
  • stickfig13stickfig13 Posts: 1,532
    Girls get the same feelings....

    Plenty of girls in this world....

    Use Humor to point to the fact that you're nervous. It will break the ice a bit.
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  • Get_RightGet_Right Posts: 13,296
    because conciously and subconciously, we are worried that we might look funny, or do or say something that will jeopardize our chances of getting sex from a hot woman. Even though its just an everyday encounter and sex is not part of the equation (most of the time).
  • I get that way with guys, too but not just from looks...there has to be chemistry. :)
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  • well yes a cute nerdy girl is hot in my opinon. but i think the op was talking bout the typical blonde hair, big boobs, nice ass type of girl. i hate labels to. but society and hollywood has made us categorise things sadly enough

    I didn't realise America had such a narrow definition of 'hot'.
    'We're learning songs for baby Jesus' birthday. His mum and dad were Merry and Joseph. He had a bed made of clay and the three kings bought him Gold, Frankenstein and Merv as presents.'

    - the great Sir Leo Harrison
  • hott girls are so not my thing, to fake and all. give me a cute nerdy girl anyday of the week
    i dont mean hott but like girls that are exactly your type or someone you are interested in
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  • given2fly10given2fly10 Posts: 485
    i dont mean hott but like girls that are exactly your type or someone you are interested in
    my bad, i read that wrong. just go up to them and say a funny line. if you make them laugh or giggle right away it will help your nerves
    And he still gives his love, he just gives it away, The love he receives is the love that is saved, And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, A human being that was given to fly

    no bed=no brian

    coke sucks
  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    Like...I have hott friends that are girls and we just talk and laugh and I'm fine. But why is there nothing to talk about when you meet a girl whos gorgeous and extremely nice? Not just that, but why do we get nervous and all the sudden its like 30 degrees warmer in the room.

    Curse you gorgeous women!

    it's very simple you want to be liked by them but don't know what she will like or how to act to be liked...........and all that goings on in your head makes you stressed in turn making you nervous.

    btw, i'm a girl and i'd have a difficult time being with a gorgeous guys........erm...apart from one time, when for some unknown reason i was with my male friend who was talking to his good looking male friend and i was talking easily with him too.....i just simply couldn't give a fuck :D
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    well yes a cute nerdy girl is hot in my opinon. but i think the op was talking bout the typical blonde hair, big boobs, nice ass type of girl. i hate labels to. but society and hollywood has made us categorise things sadly enough


    I think he meant just whomever you think is hot in your opinion!!
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
  • given2fly10given2fly10 Posts: 485
    I think he meant just whomever you think is hot in your opinion!!
    see above post by me. :)
    And he still gives his love, he just gives it away, The love he receives is the love that is saved, And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, A human being that was given to fly

    no bed=no brian

    coke sucks
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    see above post by me. :)


    hehehehe

    I missed it...sorry!! I'm such a goofball!! :o
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
  • geniegenie Posts: 2,222
    genie wrote:
    it's very simple you want to be liked by them but don't know what she will like or how to act to be liked...........and all that goings on in your head makes you stressed in turn making you nervous.

    btw, i'm a girl and i'd have a difficult time being with a gorgeous guys........erm...apart from one time, when for some unknown reason i was with my male friend who was talking to his good looking male friend and i was talking easily with him too.....i just simply couldn't give a fuck :D

    actually i think i know answer to this one, i'm not looking for a boyfriend right this minute, so although he was hot and all, i just remembered how much freedom means to me :D
  • given2fly10given2fly10 Posts: 485
    hehehehe

    I missed it...sorry!! I'm such a goofball!! :o
    awww dont be :o. you NERD :)
    And he still gives his love, he just gives it away, The love he receives is the love that is saved, And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky, A human being that was given to fly

    no bed=no brian

    coke sucks
  • SpunkieSpunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 6,763
    Like...I have hott friends that are girls and we just talk and laugh and I'm fine. But why is there nothing to talk about when you meet a girl whos gorgeous and extremely nice? Not just that, but why do we get nervous and all the sudden its like 30 degrees warmer in the room.

    Curse you gorgeous women!

    Because you are insecure? Young? Lack confidence?
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    I am definitely a nerd!!
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
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