Why do I (or any other guy) get really nervous when talking to a hott girl?

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  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    tish wrote:
    Because you are insecure? Young? Lack confidence?


    Not true at all!!!!
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  • if you make them laugh or giggle right away it will help your nerves

    Unless they are laughing at you :p

    I guess it's difficult to explain, i get the same feeling if I talk to a gorgeous girl i get so damn nervous :eek: but what can you do, girls have the winning hand when it comes to decide whether they want to go on chatting or get lost :o

    And I don't know why, but also it's getting quite complicated to talk to girls these days...don't be so hard on us!! :D
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  • given2fly10given2fly10 Posts: 485
    Unless they are laughing at you :p
    thats a given with me :p
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  • Jeremy1012Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    hott girls are so not my thing, to fake and all. give me a cute nerdy girl anyday of the week
    Agreed. 9/10 times, a cute girl > a hot girl.


    In fact, my preference is slightly forlorn, vulnerably beautiful french girls with short-ish brown/black hair but we're getting too bogged down in details here.
    "I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
  • JOEJOEJOEJOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,608
    There is a lot of uncertainty when it comes to talking with people of the opposite sex.....both people may have intentions that are 180 degrees apart!

    You may be talking to your future spouse, or you may be luring someone to come home with you (voluntarily, I hope!), so the stakes may be high!

    There is also the slight chance that you may not think you are in the same league as the hot girl, so hence, you get nervous!
  • urbanhippieurbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    Jeremy1012 wrote:
    Agreed. 9/10 a cute girl > a hot girl.


    In fact, my preference is slightly forlorn, vulnerably beautiful french girls with short-ish brown/black hair but we're getting too bogged down in details here.
    Cos theres one of them on every street.. ;)

    Nothing too specific then J? :D
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  • Cos theres one of them on every street.. ;)

    Nothing too specific then J? :D

    I tend to like women who live in industrialised towns but are tree huggers at heart.. ^^^^^ ;)
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  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    GTFLYGIRL wrote:
    My question is...What's up with this HOTT spelling?

    If I know a hot dude...he is just that...a hot dude.

    Hott?

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  • urbanhippieurbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    eyedclaar wrote:
    Phew. I was starting to think I was the only one who didn't graduate from Paris Hilton's sKooL O' WordZ.
    Hott is hotter than hot ;)
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  • OffHeGoes29OffHeGoes29 Posts: 1,240
    I don't get nervous around hot chicks................especially when you're this bad ass.
    BRING BACK THE WHALE
  • mca47mca47 Posts: 13,297
    Like others have said, I think that most simply can't think straight when they are around hot chicks. So many thoughts come crashing together all at once that it's hard to filter out the good ones/right ones and we then become flustered.

    This is why I believe really hot chicks often go for dim-witted douche bags.
    They don't have this mental mechanism that triggers the response most guys have when around really hot chicks. So instead of being confused by so many thoughts, they have a better shot at saying exactly what they want.

    There it is. The next time you see a really hot chick (who's probably dragging around her douche-sack boyfriend) you can take comfort in knowing that he's a simple-minded idiot...
    Wait a minute, I suppose you CAN'T take comfort in that cause he banging a super hot chick...

    Fuck, life isn't fair.
    LOL!

    :D
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    mca47 wrote:
    Like others have said, I think that most simply can't think straight when they are around hot chicks. So many thoughts come crashing together all at once that it's hard to filter out the good ones/right ones and we then become flustered.

    This is why I believe really hot chicks often go for dim-witted douche bags.
    They don't have this mental mechanism that triggers the response most guys have when around really hot chicks. So instead of being confused by so many thoughts, they have a better shot at saying exactly what they want.

    There it is. The next time you see a really hot chick (who's probably dragging around her douche-sack boyfriend) you can take comfort in knowing that he's a simple-minded idiot...
    Wait a minute, I suppose you CAN'T take comfort in that cause he banging a super hot chick...

    Fuck, life isn't fair.
    LOL!

    :D


    great post!! thanks for the laugh.....oh and for speaking the truth! :eek :D
  • patrickredeyespatrickredeyes Posts: 8,834
    cutback wrote:
    great post!! thanks for the laugh.....oh and for speaking the truth! :eek :D


    I was feeling the same and you said it perfect. lol :D
  • mca47mca47 Posts: 13,297
    cutback wrote:
    great post!! thanks for the laugh.....oh and for speaking the truth! :eek :D

    Hehehehe, I do what I can!


    :p
  • Jeremy1012Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    Cos theres one of them on every street.. ;)

    Nothing too specific then J? :D
    Hey, so I'm a dreamer :D is that a bad thing?

    Seriously, if you know anyone who looks like this, hook me up ;)
    http://www.eddog.com/ij/pics/rouge_wet_hair.jpg

    gotta be french though. well, no. I can make concessions.
    "I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
  • LBC1076LBC1076 Posts: 224
    Jeremy1012 wrote:
    Hey, so I'm a dreamer :D is that a bad thing?

    Seriously, if you know anyone who looks like this, hook me up ;)
    http://www.eddog.com/ij/pics/rouge_wet_hair.jpg

    gotta be french though. well, no. I can make concessions.

    I just saw her the other day, standing in front of a Wal-Mart in VIcksburg, MS.
  • Jeremy1012Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    LBC1076 wrote:
    I just saw her the other day, standing in front of a Wal-Mart in VIcksburg, MS.
    You bastard ;)
    "I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
  • elmerelmer Posts: 1,683
    Jeremy1012 wrote:
    Seriously, if you know anyone who looks like this, hook me up ;)
    http://www.eddog.com/ij/pics/rouge_wet_hair.jpg

    gotta be french though. well, no. I can make concessions.
    You must of seen or else have to see The Double Life of Veronique.
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  • Jeremy1012Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    elmer wrote:
    You must of seen or else have to see The Double Life of Veronique.
    An oil painting, though not an obvious beauty judging popular culture, you've acquired a fine tasty taste.
    I have indeed seen it. I also watched Kieslowski's Rouge tonight :) A very beautiful woman indeed, whether conventionally or not.
    "I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
  • elmerelmer Posts: 1,683
    Jeremy1012 wrote:
    I also watched Kieslowski's Rouge tonight
    Is jacob in that?

    I though some of his Decalogue films were the most haunting, maybe the grainy cinematography whether deliberate or not added to the sense of unease I felt watching, seemed more real.

    EDIT: suppose you mean one o fthe Three Colours.... now I think of it, never really got into those.
  • Jeremy1012Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    elmer wrote:
    Is jacob in that?

    I though some of his Decalogue films were the most haunting, maybe the grainy cinematography whether deliberate or not added to the sense of unease I felt watching, seemed more real.
    yeah she's in Rouge. I agree about the cinematography in the Dekalog. It was definitely intentiona I would think. Beautifully made films indeed.

    And to retain thread integrity, bugger me did Kieslowski pick some 'hott' women for his films :) Juliette Binoche in Bleu is amazing and there is the aforementioned Irene Jacob.
    "I remember one night at Muzdalifa with nothing but the sky overhead, I lay awake amid sleeping Muslim brothers and I learned that pilgrims from every land — every colour, and class, and rank; high officials and the beggar alike — all snored in the same language"
  • elmerelmer Posts: 1,683
    Jeremy1012 wrote:
    And to retain thread integrity, bugger me did Kieslowski pick some 'hott' women for his films :) Juliette Binoche in Bleu is amazing
    For sure. The scene that sticks from Bleu was where Binoche is in hospital and speaks to a nurse/doctor, the camera picks him up through the reflection from her eye. Really struck me at the time, wondered if this has been used before Kieslowki? In the Sopranos a similar technique was employed to a lesser aesthetic effect but straight away it reminded me of Binoche in that desolate(might be wrong here), silent hospital. Think it was where she discovers the unfortunate news.

    Oh, so I've well fell out of the thread topic here......Why do we feel nerves when approaching women we're desperate for? the courage to approach is the most important thing, if they're decent enough you won't come away feeling too bad anyhow. "Douche-bags"sometimes end up with beautys because they have no shame and a lesser sense of self-awareness, they keep trying and eventually......
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