now all i have to wait on is him paying his credit card. he says he wants to do that before we look at homes.
this damn thing has come full circle.
i'm pretty sure he has enough funds saved plus extra to pay it off now.
which was the case when i asked him to pay it off in the first place. a few years ago. he had the money and didn't pay it off. i asked him to move out. well that.....and because he was jobless for 8 months.
why can't he pay it off now?
(that'll be the next talk we have)
Good I'm glad, I knew it'd all come full circle.
That's good that you'll be having that talk with him. Baby steps is all it takes for a situation like that, and once he realizes he can get the ball rolling, it should get easier from there.
Sometimes it is hard for a person to let go of their money, especially when they have bad spending habits and worked so hard to save it up, even if it is going towards paying off a cause that will better his standing. It'll just take a little more time on his part.
I'm really hoping this continues to turn out for you and get much better.
Sometimes it is hard for a person to let go of their money, especially when they have bad spending habits and worked so hard to save it up, even if it is going towards paying off a cause that will better his standing. It'll just take a little more time on his part.
good insight thanks.
It’s kind of aggravating to me when things are in cycles like that.
But oh well, I guess that’s life.
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And I thought it was the opposite…
Things you find cute will become annoying over time.
Yes, I’m not perfect. I get the point you’re trying to make.
I wasn't trying to point out that you're not perfect (that would DEFINITELY be pot calling kettle black ) :( sorry, I hope ya didn't think I was having a go. Just trying to make you look a bit deeper into it.
Anyway, I hope whatever you decide works out for you . Don't take any crap from either of them, k?
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number 2. Words are just words. I would just give it back with more words and/or fists... But every couple of months is better then someone who would shit you off 24/7
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yes, but words can damage more than a bruise. ....somewhat. bruises heal.
like just last night i had a dream about my dad. i freaking hate those. they bug the hell outta me. so many years have gone by and the hurt is still there. if it wasn't there i'm guessing i wouldn't have dreams about him. .....and yes i haven't spoken to him in years either.
brian has never hurt me in the way my parents have.
lets just sees what he says when i ask him to pay off his credit card NOW.
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number 2. Words are just words. I would just give it back with more words and/or fists... But every couple of months is better then someone who would shit you off 24/7
that's how I was thinking...but then again and I probably already said this, Im used to verbal abuse..that is probably sad but it's true. I live w/someone who can be very verbally abusive and it really hurts but I usually give it back when they do it.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
I hold grudges. It’s been two weeks now since mom blew up and I’m still holding on to it. it’s not good. Yes, I’ve told her how she hurt me. But still I’m angry about it. I just know she’s going to do it again. Maybe that’s why I can’t move on. I hate that I hold grudges. But it’s either that, or let my guard down and get hurt again and again.
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sure, no ones perfect and all that. i KNOW i am no picnic to live with at all. that said, while i know verbal abuse is one of my weaknesses, i don't think i am THAT bad really. although my husband might say otherwise. honestly, though.......why choose either? if it comes down to weighing someone out in such a way.....what's the incentive to be with em? i tend to look at all the reason i WANT to be with someone, not the reason i don't. if i am weighing ou the negatives, well that's my sign i don't see the relationship as a positive equation anymore and time to move on. even with really heavy negative things, if i find i STILL think the person as a WHOLE is worth it, i stay. if i am nit-picking logical details, obviously my heart is no longer there....time to go......that's just me.
I hold grudges. It’s been two weeks now since mom blew up and I’m still holding on to it. it’s not good. Yes, I’ve told her how she hurt me. But still I’m angry about it. I just know she’s going to do it again. Maybe that’s why I can’t move on. I hate that I hold grudges. But it’s either that, or let my guard down and get hurt again and again.
I tend to hold grudges too..and I know it's bad but it's just how I am. Im very sensitive. It's no good for relationships...I would fight with my ex and he would be ready to move on and I would shut him out. Ive made mistakes but I don't think I deserve what I got, Im not a bad person.
These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
i've been hashing it out for months. the other day i was talking to my girlfriend and she helped me to see it boiled down to those characteristics.
then i posted it here to see what you good people thought.
what I often do is decide for DEFINITE one way or the other... and simply see which one makes me feel the best . Like say choose A and think 'right that's what I'm going to do' and if you find yourself thinking 'BUT... ' then choose B... and see which choice you feel the most content with... rather than living in choosing world.
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Good I'm glad, I knew it'd all come full circle.
That's good that you'll be having that talk with him. Baby steps is all it takes for a situation like that, and once he realizes he can get the ball rolling, it should get easier from there.
Sometimes it is hard for a person to let go of their money, especially when they have bad spending habits and worked so hard to save it up, even if it is going towards paying off a cause that will better his standing. It'll just take a little more time on his part.
I'm really hoping this continues to turn out for you and get much better.
good insight thanks.
It’s kind of aggravating to me when things are in cycles like that.
But oh well, I guess that’s life.
Anyway, I hope whatever you decide works out for you
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
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yes, but words can damage more than a bruise. ....somewhat. bruises heal.
like just last night i had a dream about my dad. i freaking hate those. they bug the hell outta me. so many years have gone by and the hurt is still there. if it wasn't there i'm guessing i wouldn't have dreams about him. .....and yes i haven't spoken to him in years either.
brian has never hurt me in the way my parents have.
lets just sees what he says when i ask him to pay off his credit card NOW.
that's how I was thinking...but then again and I probably already said this, Im used to verbal abuse..that is probably sad but it's true. I live w/someone who can be very verbally abusive and it really hurts but I usually give it back when they do it.
sure, no ones perfect and all that. i KNOW i am no picnic to live with at all.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
definitely the OCD debter- as long as they pay their share. Having debt doesn't mean you don't pay your bills!
good point.
makes me seem desperate that way i'm choosing huh.
both have really good characteristics too. Guess I just took the ugly characteristics to choose from. Not very fair on my part.
that's brian to a tee.
he pays bills. i need to get him to try and save up for 'play money' not put it on the credit card.
it's fair. roommates are tough, you have to be a little cynical and think about the reality you're getting into.
thanks.
i'm all about the reality. hahaha!
i've been hashing it out for months. the other day i was talking to my girlfriend and she helped me to see it boiled down to those characteristics.
then i posted it here to see what you good people thought.
I tend to hold grudges too..and I know it's bad but it's just how I am. Im very sensitive. It's no good for relationships...I would fight with my ex and he would be ready to move on and I would shut him out. Ive made mistakes but I don't think I deserve what I got, Im not a bad person.
there's this saying......
forgive but don't forget.
i understand it. but it's extremely hard for me to do.
Verona??? it's all surmountable
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Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
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