Why do girls find it so hard to apologize?

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  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    when i am wrong, i apologize...pure and simple. oftentimes even when i am not 'wrong'...but behaved like an ass, i apologize for my behavior. i expect the same from those in my life, male and female alike. so perhaps whoever you reference simply does not share your pov, and thus does not see themselves as being wrong? seems the more likely scenario...and gender has nothing to do with it.
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  • Allie
    Allie Posts: 2,908
    saveuplife wrote:
    (I know this is a generalization, but I'd really like to know the answer from those who do fit into this character trait.)

    I don't have any problem apologizing.
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  • emily18
    emily18 Posts: 489
    i completely overuse the phrase "i'm sorry"
  • stonedponey
    stonedponey Posts: 47
    emily18 wrote:
    i completely overuse the phrase "i'm sorry"

    i'm just never sorry for anything i do. think before you(generalising) act and there's no need to apologise.
  • Wobbie
    Wobbie Posts: 31,410
    Maybe the thread starter really wondered why women find it hard to aplogize to other women(?). Cuz there definitely is a difference between (most) men and women in that guys get over stuff with friends that would never be forgiven among women. My wife teaches 3rd grade and would back me up, that this grudge-holding starts early and oftentimes never ends. She'll say to me "I can't believe you said that." And I'll say, "don't worry, he'll get over it." Guys can be genuinely pissed at a buddy one day and OK the next. Like the old Bud commercial - "I love you, man!" :p
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  • Whizbang
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    my personal opinion on this is that people in general find it hard to apologize because that means they have to admit they were wrong, that they have some flaw. Generally, people do not like looking themselves in the mirror and admitting their own faults. And let's face it, if you can't admit it to yourself, how are you ever going to apologize for your actions? People like to wear rose colored glasses when looking at themselves...it makes it easier to place blame elsewhere....anywhere but pointing the finger at themselves. I'm far from perfect and the hardest apologies I've had to say were the ones where I took a hard look at myself and didn't like the woman I saw. Apologizing for what I did didn't make everything better but it certainly went a long way to self-acceptance.
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  • beachdweller
    beachdweller Posts: 1,532
    riffrandall wrote:
    It's not just girls! Most PEOPLE can't apologize.

    That's generally a trait of people who think they are not responsible for anything that happens in their life. They're the types that thing life happens TO them and not BECAUSE of them.

    actually it's a U S trait to not take responsibility isn't it?
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  • jamie uk
    jamie uk Posts: 3,812
    imalive wrote:
    Maybe the thread starter really wondered why women find it hard to aplogize to other women(?). Cuz there definitely is a difference between (most) men and women in that guys get over stuff with friends that would never be forgiven among women. My wife teaches 3rd grade and would back me up, that this grudge-holding starts early and oftentimes never ends. She'll say to me "I can't believe you said that." And I'll say, "don't worry, he'll get over it." Guys can be genuinely pissed at a buddy one day and OK the next. Like the old Bud commercial - "I love you, man!" :p



    that's pretty true about guys.
    I have no problem apologising if I am wrong, I think it's the least you can do.
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  • in_hiding79
    in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    jamie uk wrote:
    that's pretty true about guys.
    I have no problem apologising if I am wrong, I think it's the least you can do.


    I'm like that too and I'm a girl!! :D
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  • jamie uk
    jamie uk Posts: 3,812
    in_hiding79 wrote:
    I'm like that too and I'm a girl!! :D


    it's a good trait to posess.
    If you're wrong and you realise, you should apologise. I mean, who wouldn't?
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  • comebackwoman
    comebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    What drives me crazy is when someone realizes they're wrong, but rather than admitting it, they go out of their way to find any angle that will prove they were right...or they get into the whole semantics game or break things down to technicalities. Just accept you messed up and move on.
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  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    comebackgirl wrote:
    What drives me crazy is when someone realizes they're wrong, but rather than admitting it, they go out of their way to find any angle that will prove they were right...or they get into the whole semantics game or break things down to technicalities. Just accept you messed up and move on.


    i had a friend like that.... ;):)
  • comebackwoman
    comebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    cutback wrote:
    i had a friend like that.... ;):)
    me too - had being the operative word ;):p
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