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Why do girls find it so hard to apologize?

saveuplifesaveuplife Posts: 1,173
edited August 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
(I know this is a generalization, but I'd really like to know the answer from those who do fit into this character trait.)
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  • NY PJ1NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    saveuplife wrote:
    (I know this is a generalization, but I'd really like to know the answer from those who do fit into this character trait.)


    because MOST (not all) are pieces of crap
  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    Because they are never wrong. Duh. You must not know much about women...
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  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    And who said misogyny was dead? :rolleyes:
    I can't wait for the rest of the woman hating contingent to pipe in.

    We can also ask the same question of men, can't we?
    Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
    And I don't feel right when you're gone away
  • Sian-of-the-deadSian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    If i'm wrong, I apologise...






    but I gotta be wrong first ;)

    (the first statement is actually correct, I believe it make's me a better person :))
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  • riffrandallriffrandall Posts: 685
    NY PJ1 wrote:
    because MOST (not all) are pieces of crap

    It's not just girls! Most PEOPLE can't apologize.

    That's generally a trait of people who think they are not responsible for anything that happens in their life. They're the types that thing life happens TO them and not BECAUSE of them.
    "If you're looking for someone to pull you out of that ditch, you're out of luck."
  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    eyedclaar wrote:
    Because they are never wrong. Duh. You must not know much about women...
    exactly! It's kind of hard to apologize if you're always right :)
    There's a light when my baby's in my arms :)
  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    riffrandall wrote:
    It's not just girls! Most PEOPLE can't apologize.

    That's generally a trait of people who think they are not responsible for anything that happens in their life. They're the types that thing life happens TO them and not BECAUSE of them.
    Riff keeping it real.
    That makes a lot of sense. Are you sure you should be posting here? :p
    Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
    And I don't feel right when you're gone away
  • NY PJ1NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    riffrandall wrote:
    It's not just girls! Most PEOPLE can't apologize.

    That's generally a trait of people who think they are not responsible for anything that happens in their life. They're the types that thing life happens TO them and not BECAUSE of them.


    im sorry i just hate females today
  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    TrixieCat wrote:
    And who said misogyny was dead? :rolleyes:
    I can't wait for the rest of the woman hating contingent to pipe in.

    We can also ask the same question of men, can't we?


    Absolutely, and I was joking for the record. My wife has no problem with an apology and neither do I.
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  • Black DiamondBlack Diamond Posts: 25,107
    comebackgirl wrote:
    exactly! It's kind of hard to apologize if you're always right :)
    When did my wife start posting? Honey, is that you? :p
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  • eyedclaareyedclaar Posts: 6,980
    NY PJ1 wrote:
    im sorry i just hate females today

    Even the pretty ones? You must not be feeling well at all.
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  • saveuplifesaveuplife Posts: 1,173
    I'm serious though. Are there any girls here, who can admit that they have trouble apologizing? If so, can you answer this question. I just don't get it, personally.
  • in_hiding79in_hiding79 Posts: 4,315
    because we are like Fonzie....it's hard!! :rolleyes:
    And so the lion fell in love with the lamb...,"
    "What a stupid lamb."
    "What a sick, masochistic lion."
  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Black Diamond wrote:
    When did my wife start posting? Honey, is that you? :p
    ;):p

    Some people can never apologize - even when they're dead wrong. Other people apologize even when something is clearly not their fault. Blame, guilt, shame...all very interesting things.
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  • riffrandallriffrandall Posts: 685
    TrixieCat wrote:
    Riff keeping it real.
    That makes a lot of sense. Are you sure you should be posting here? :p

    Yeah, probably not. ;)
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  • TrixieCatTrixieCat Posts: 5,756
    eyedclaar wrote:
    Absolutely, and I was joking for the record. My wife has no problem with an apology and neither do I.
    I know you were.

    And to the OP: Are you talking about one particular situation or what? I am not getting the question.
    Cause I'm broken when I'm lonesome
    And I don't feel right when you're gone away
  • Black DiamondBlack Diamond Posts: 25,107
    comebackgirl wrote:
    ;):p

    Some people can never apologize - even when they're dead wrong. Other people apologize even when something is clearly not their fault. Blame, guilt, shame...all very interesting things.

    Very astute! And I clearly fall into the second category.

    So, I apologize for making light of a serious subject. The important thing is to know that sometimes you have to apologize eventhough you may think you are right, the other person does not.
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  • PatrickBatemanPatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    see signature;)
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?
  • NY PJ1NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    eyedclaar wrote:
    Even the pretty ones? You must not be feeling well at all.


    i just hate the fact that some think they need to do nothing in life
  • comebackwomancomebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    Black Diamond wrote:
    Very astute! And I clearly fall into the second category.

    So, I apologize for making light of a serious subject. The important thing is to know that sometimes you have to apologize eventhough you may think you are right, the other person does not.
    I've been guilty of that too. If I hurt someone in some way I will apologize...and if something I've done/said is misinterpreted I will clarify and explain my intention. I won't take responsibility for someone else's feelings though. There are some people who always feel as though they've been "wronged" in some way.
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  • surfanddestroysurfanddestroy Posts: 2,786
    I will always apologize if I am in the wrong :)
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  • saveuplifesaveuplife Posts: 1,173
    TrixieCat wrote:
    I know you were.

    And to the OP: Are you talking about one particular situation or what? I am not getting the question.

    I can provide an example. Bob is very busy with work and school. At the same time Bob is looking for a house with his wife Jill. Jill wants to get out of there apartment ASAP. Bob is OK with staying in the apartment and looking at a slower pace. Jill is not. Bob agrees to try to rush, if Jill will take on more of the workload (in looking for the house) because Bob just doesn't have time with work and school. Jill agrees. But, after a while she grows a bit upset at Bob for not putting more effort into the housing. Bob feels bad and tries to put in more effort. He increases the amount of time he spent looking. They agree on a place they like. He helps create the original offer. A few nights later, he spends three hours drafting a counter-offer that would be sent to a real estate agent to look over and forward to the seller's agent. Jill says that the draft is "excellent". Bob feels good about himself. Jill then gets a call from the real estate agent. This agent drafted a new counter-offer and reads it to the wife (Bob's not included). This new counter-offer had very very little of the info that Bob spent three hours the night before putting together. Jill agrees that the real estate agent should send the agent version out. Bob finds out later that he completely wasted his time the night before and is bumbed out. Jill does not apologize.
  • riffrandallriffrandall Posts: 685
    NY PJ1 wrote:
    i just hate the fact that some think they need to do nothing in life

    Well some girls are raised thinking their looks will get them through & that they don't, actually, need to do anything & that includes considering other people's feelings.
    "If you're looking for someone to pull you out of that ditch, you're out of luck."
  • NY PJ1NY PJ1 Posts: 9,533
    riffrandall wrote:
    Well some girls are raised thinking their looks will get them through & that they don't, actually, need to do anything & that includes considering other people's feelings.

    ITS AMAZING what some of them think lol

    u do nothing and ill work 2 jobs :rolleyes: fucking psycho's
  • pearljamjenpearljamjen Posts: 13,578
    I agree with the person who said this can apply to both men and women. Personally, if I do something wrong, I will apologize. It isn't an easy thing to do sometimes, but I will always apologize if I'm in the wrong.
  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    saveuplife wrote:
    I can provide an example. Bob is very busy with work and school. At the same time Bob is looking for a house with his wife Jill. Jill wants to get out of there apartment ASAP. Bob is OK with staying in the apartment and looking at a slower pace. Jill is not. Bob agrees to try to rush, if Jill will take on more of the workload (in looking for the house) because Bob just doesn't have time with work and school. Jill agrees. But, after a while she grows a bit upset at Bob for not putting more effort into the housing. Bob feels bad and tries to put in more effort. He increases the amount of time he spent looking. They agree on a place they like. He helps create the original offer. A few nights later, he spends three hours drafting a counter-offer that would be sent to a real estate agent to look over and forward to the seller's agent. Jill says that the draft is "excellent". Bob feels good about himself. Jill then gets a call from the real estate agent. This agent drafted a new counter-offer and reads it to the wife (Bob's not included). This new counter-offer had very very little of the info that Bob spent three hours the night before putting together. Jill agrees that the real estate agent should send the agent version out. Bob finds out later that he completely wasted his time the night before and is bumbed out. Jill does not apologize.


    jill should apologize but this has nothing to do with her gender....this scenario can easily be reversed
  • PearlJamaholicPearlJamaholic Posts: 2,019
    not once in my life have i heard my sister or my mom apologize for anything. maybe its heredity. but there was this girl i knew that was always like 'im sorry!!!' i think she meant it sometimes too, but her mom was also pretty nice and stuff, never said it sarcasticly though.
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  • HOOKERHOOKER Posts: 1,443
    NY PJ1 wrote:
    because MOST (not all) are pieces of crap
    I agree
    Nice to know you.
  • saveuplifesaveuplife Posts: 1,173
    cutback wrote:
    jill should apologize but this has nothing to do with her gender....this scenario can easily be reversed

    I'll come clean,... I'm Bob. ;)

    True. Can def be reversed.

    However, maybe it's the ladies I've been around.... but, it's very rare I see them apologize. Maybe it's me. Maybe it's my environment. I don't know. But, I wanted to know if anyone else has run into this problem.

    Personally, I apologize a lot. Somewhat because I'm wrong a lot, but also because I "feel" bad.

    I guess what I'm saying is the ladies I know seem to not "feel" (or sympathize) as much. I'm wondering why that is? Maybe it's Philly.
  • CityMouseCityMouse Posts: 1,010
    I certainly don't have a problem apologizing. I apologize for everything, including things I have no business apologizing for. I don't think it can be considered a gender thing at all.
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