Why do girls find it so hard to apologize?

surfanddestroy

I will always apologize if I am in the wrong

saveuplife

TrixieCat wrote:

I know you were.

And to the OP: Are you talking about one particular situation or what? I am not getting the question.

I can provide an example. Bob is very busy with work and school. At the same time Bob is looking for a house with his wife Jill. Jill wants to get out of there apartment ASAP. Bob is OK with staying in the apartment and looking at a slower pace. Jill is not. Bob agrees to try to rush, if Jill will take on more of the workload (in looking for the house) because Bob just doesn't have time with work and school. Jill agrees. But, after a while she grows a bit upset at Bob for not putting more effort into the housing. Bob feels bad and tries to put in more effort. He increases the amount of time he spent looking. They agree on a place they like. He helps create the original offer. A few nights later, he spends three hours drafting a counter-offer that would be sent to a real estate agent to look over and forward to the seller's agent. Jill says that the draft is "excellent". Bob feels good about himself. Jill then gets a call from the real estate agent. This agent drafted a new counter-offer and reads it to the wife (Bob's not included). This new counter-offer had very very little of the info that Bob spent three hours the night before putting together. Jill agrees that the real estate agent should send the agent version out. Bob finds out later that he completely wasted his time the night before and is bumbed out. Jill does not apologize.

riffrandall

NY PJ1 wrote:

i just hate the fact that some think they need to do nothing in life

Well some girls are raised thinking their looks will get them through & that they don't, actually, need to do anything & that includes considering other people's feelings.

NY PJ1

riffrandall wrote:

Well some girls are raised thinking their looks will get them through & that they don't, actually, need to do anything & that includes considering other people's feelings.

ITS AMAZING what some of them think lol

u do nothing and ill work 2 jobs :rolleyes: fucking psycho's

pearljamjen

I agree with the person who said this can apply to both men and women. Personally, if I do something wrong, I will apologize. It isn't an easy thing to do sometimes, but I will always apologize if I'm in the wrong.

norm

saveuplife wrote:

I can provide an example. Bob is very busy with work and school. At the same time Bob is looking for a house with his wife Jill. Jill wants to get out of there apartment ASAP. Bob is OK with staying in the apartment and looking at a slower pace. Jill is not. Bob agrees to try to rush, if Jill will take on more of the workload (in looking for the house) because Bob just doesn't have time with work and school. Jill agrees. But, after a while she grows a bit upset at Bob for not putting more effort into the housing. Bob feels bad and tries to put in more effort. He increases the amount of time he spent looking. They agree on a place they like. He helps create the original offer. A few nights later, he spends three hours drafting a counter-offer that would be sent to a real estate agent to look over and forward to the seller's agent. Jill says that the draft is "excellent". Bob feels good about himself. Jill then gets a call from the real estate agent. This agent drafted a new counter-offer and reads it to the wife (Bob's not included). This new counter-offer had very very little of the info that Bob spent three hours the night before putting together. Jill agrees that the real estate agent should send the agent version out. Bob finds out later that he completely wasted his time the night before and is bumbed out. Jill does not apologize.

jill should apologize but this has nothing to do with her gender....this scenario can easily be reversed

PearlJamaholic

not once in my life have i heard my sister or my mom apologize for anything. maybe its heredity. but there was this girl i knew that was always like 'im sorry!!!' i think she meant it sometimes too, but her mom was also pretty nice and stuff, never said it sarcasticly though.

HOOKER

NY PJ1 wrote:

because MOST (not all) are pieces of crap

I agree

saveuplife

cutback wrote:

jill should apologize but this has nothing to do with her gender....this scenario can easily be reversed

I'll come clean,... I'm Bob.

True. Can def be reversed.

However, maybe it's the ladies I've been around.... but, it's very rare I see them apologize. Maybe it's me. Maybe it's my environment. I don't know. But, I wanted to know if anyone else has run into this problem.

Personally, I apologize a lot. Somewhat because I'm wrong a lot, but also because I "feel" bad.

I guess what I'm saying is the ladies I know seem to not "feel" (or sympathize) as much. I'm wondering why that is? Maybe it's Philly.

CityMouse

I certainly don't have a problem apologizing. I apologize for everything, including things I have no business apologizing for. I don't think it can be considered a gender thing at all.

sherm

riffrandall wrote:

Well some girls are raised thinking their looks will get them through & that they don't, actually, need to do anything & that includes considering other people's feelings.

you just described my last girlfriend exactly, not the easiest type of person to deal with

LeilaMoonTurtle

because they are girls not women

same as boys can't stop making stuff up

vedderfan10

What? I'm an apology slut!

But then in Canada, we seem to say sorry a lot during the day - like if you accidentally come close to bumping into someone going into Starbucks or when the drink is put on the counter and you both stand staring at it for a little while, but then both go to grab it at the same time. "Sorry!" "Sorry!"

norm

Vedderfan10 wrote:

What? I'm an apology slut!

But then in Canada, we seem to say sorry a lot during the day - like if you accidentally come close to bumping into someone going into Starbucks or when the drink is put on the counter and you both stand staring at it for a little while, but then both go to grab it at the same time. "Sorry!" "Sorry!"

but don't you say it "soorry", eh?

sherm

cutback wrote:

but don't you say it "soorry", eh?

This may sound strange but I love the way that word sounds with a canadian accent, of course thats only when its coming from a female. Maybe its because I don't hear it too often from females on this side of the border. Don't really know.

OffHeGoes29

Power of the "P". They know that deep down, they can leave your ass and find some other swinging cock out there in no time. Guys are easly replaced, girls are harder to come by.

They pretty much can do what ever the fuck they want, thats why they hate other women so much, because it threatens their power.

Then again....my theories maybe the reason I'm alone on a Friday night?
Then again....who needs a women when I got beer, PS3, and my guitar/wah pedal to keep me company....and of course my closest sidekick, my dog.

small town beck

Vedderfan10 wrote:

What? I'm an apology slut!

But then in Canada, we seem to say sorry a lot during the day - like if you accidentally come close to bumping into someone going into Starbucks or when the drink is put on the counter and you both stand staring at it for a little while, but then both go to grab it at the same time. "Sorry!" "Sorry!"

It is SO true!!

But yes I don't think it is a gender specific trait. If I am wrong I will apologize.

small town beck

TrixieCat wrote:

And who said misogyny was dead? :rolleyes:
I can't wait for the rest of the woman hating contingent to pipe in.

We can also ask the same question of men, can't we?

Misogyny? Here on the pit? :eek: Never :rolleyes: I especially love it when women hate on other women.

norm

small town beck wrote:

Misogyny? Here on the pit? :eek: Never : rolleyes: I especially love it when women hate on other women.

so do i....oh wait, that's a type of movie i like...nevermind...:eek:

paige_peach

Perhaps she doesn't think she did anything wrong and is waiting for an apology from you?