help me decipher this e-mail

Drowned Out

sponger wrote:

I don't have a phone number. Otherwise I would've called her.

You guys think I should e-mail her even though she's married now? She had this huge wedding Savannah Georgia and her catholic faith would not approve of a divorce.

A marriage proposal should be done face to face...you should have found a way to see her before taking that step.
It wouldn't hurt to contact her, but I would be WAY less direct with your advances....and I would def not get your hopes up for anything more than a brief convo or two.

sponger

Yes I know marriage proposals should be done face to face. It's just that she lives 2 hrs away and whenever I dropped her an e-mail over the years she was always in a relationship.

I had no doubt in my mind that I wanted to her marry, so I thought I'd just throw it out there so I could get it over and done with.

Drowned Out

sponger wrote:

Yes I know marriage proposals should be done face to face. It's just that she lives 2 hrs away and whenever I dropped her an e-mail over the years she was always in a relationship.

I had no doubt in my mind that I wanted to her marry, so I thought I'd just throw it out there so I could get it over and done with.

ya, but man...we're talking marriage here. If you're trying to sweep a girl off her feet that you haven't seen in years, you better put a little effort into it! A two hour drive/bus ride shouldn't be a big deal for a marriage proposal...

Motown322

Is this thread for real????? "She was two hours away" and "always had a boyfriend" and wanted to "throw it out there so I could get it over and done with"... sounds pretty romantic... every young lady's dream proposal.

Email marriage proposal = Wrong Call #1
Emailing her again = Wrong Call #2

She's married... the last email (IMO) was a blow-off... chalk this one up to live and learn.

sponger

Motown322 wrote:

the last email (IMO) was a blow-off...

I agree. Thank you for your opinion.

brain of c

she wants you more than you want her.

sponger

Drowned Out wrote:

A two hour drive/bus ride shouldn't be a big deal.

For the record, I do not ride the bus. But I don't think there's anything wrong with riding the bus. In fact, I think it's good for the environment.

LONGRD

Dude, no offense but I think she's moved on in her life and I think you should to.

LONGRD

Motown322 wrote:

Is this thread for real????? "She was two hours away" and "always had a boyfriend" and wanted to "throw it out there so I could get it over and done with"... sounds pretty romantic... every young lady's dream proposal.

Email marriage proposal = Wrong Call #1
Emailing her again = Wrong Call #2

She's married... the last email (IMO) was a blow-off... chalk this one up to live and learn.

It's the new modern romance.
emails, chats and webcams

GraySaturday

sponger wrote:

For the record, I do not ride the bus. But I don't think there's anything wrong with riding the bus. In fact, I think it's good for the environment.

She probably digs guys who take the bus..

Just kidding.. but it seems like there was a reason it ended, and maybe a snap marriage proposal was taken as nothing more then a joking way to break the ice and reconnect via email. If I got a marriage proposal via email from an old boyfriend, I would write back, but I wouldn't take it seriously. That being said, once I wrote back and never heard from that person ever again, I would totally chalk it up to a joke, and be annoyed at myself that I wrote back in the first place, because I'd feel like you were mocking me.

But that is just me. I say if she is married and its been that long, then its time to chalk it up to a loss, and move on.

sponger

GraySaturday wrote:

She probably digs guys who take the bus..

Just kidding.. but it seems like there was a reason it ended, and maybe a snap marriage proposal was taken as nothing more then a joking way to break the ice and reconnect via email. If I got a marriage proposal via email from an old boyfriend, I would write back, but I wouldn't take it seriously. That being said, once I wrote back and never heard from that person ever again, I would totally chalk it up to a joke, and be annoyed at myself that I wrote back in the first place, because I'd feel like you were mocking me.

But that is just me. I say if she is married and its been that long, then its time to chalk it up to a loss, and move on.

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Yes but would you have responded in the way that she responded? Would you have mentioned stuff about being embarrassed by the period of time during which you were seeing said guy?

SENROCK

LongRd. wrote:

It's the new modern romance.
emails, chats and webcams

it most DEFINITELY is!!!
add in there-flights and long drives too!!!

GraySaturday

sponger wrote:

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Yes but would you have responded in the way that she responded? Would you have mentioned stuff about being embarrassed by the period of time during which you were seeing said guy?

Well she was embarrassed about her teen years. It wasn't a dig on you outright. I acted WAY different then I did as a teen, and sure there are things I look back on and I would never think to say some of the things, or act the way I did as a teenager. I don't take what she wrote to you, as her being embarrassed as to being with you, but just that some people look back and think, wow, I'm such a different person. I can't say I would have responded exactly like her, because A. I don't know her situation, and B. I don't know the relationship she had with you. But I would have sent back something of that nature. I took it to mean she was trying to break the ice, and be like, Hey buddy don't beat yourself up over the past, we were kids...

sponger

GraySaturday wrote:

I took it to mean she was trying to break the ice, and be like, Hey buddy don't beat yourself up over the past, we were kids...

Actually, that does make a lot of sense. I had apologized for being a "schmuck" in my e-mail. I guess that was her really fucked up way of forgiving me. It's not like her to speak in codes like that.

GraySaturday

sponger wrote:

Actually, that does make a lot of sense. I had apologized for being a "schmuck" in my e-mail. I guess that was her really fucked up way of forgiving me. It's not like her to speak in codes like that.

don't most women speak in code??

you're not the first guy to not understand a woman....

.....and not the last

sponger

GraySaturday wrote:

don't most women speak in code??

you're not the first guy to not understand a woman....

.....and not the last

pass the morphine please...heh heh j/k. I'll get over it..someday. She is such a bombshell now..so unbelievably beautiful...the man she is with does not deserve her no matter how rich and successful he is. Or maybe he does deserve her...

norm

sponger wrote:

A polite "get lost", right?

yep!! probably a little creeped out too.....2 years time and an email proposal? she probably thought you were drunk....no offense

Allie

wait, what is going here? You e-mailed this girl you knew back in the day, who is married to someone else, to ask her to marry you?
What's up with that?

I mean what do you expect an already married woman to say?

I don't like that you posted someone's e-mail response, I think that should stay private
and it's hard to gauge her response w/o seeing what you wrote.

having said all that, her response actually seems genuinely nice
but I can't get down w/home wrecking, (no offense)

I mean do you really still love her?

sponger

Allie wrote:

wait, what is going here? You e-mailed this girl you knew back in the day, who is married to someone else, to ask her to marry you?
What's up with that?

I mean what do you expect an already married woman to say?

I don't like that you posted someone's e-mail response, I think that should stay private
and it's hard to gauge her response w/o seeing what you wrote.

having said all that, her response actually seems genuinely nice
but I can't get down w/home wrecking, (no offense)

I mean do you really still love her?

She was not married at the time I wrote her.

And...privacy? Without knowing her name, e-mail address, or anything about her at all for that matter, I don't see what the problem is.

Do I still lover her? To put it plainly, I have not been able to stop thinking about her since I dumped her. I was really pissed off one night and I dumped her.

Since then, every woman I've been with over the last 13 years has been compared to her in my mind. I've been confronted twice by two separate women about my feelings about a lifetime commitment, and I had to say no because I still can't get this girl out of my mind.

sponger

cutback wrote:

yep!! probably a little creeped out too.....2 years time and an email proposal? she probably thought you were drunk....no offense

I appreciate your honesty.