help me decipher this e-mail

sponger

I went a friend's wedding a couple of years ago and it compelled me to e-mail my ex-g/f from my high school days and ask her to marry me. I had not seen or talked to her in years.

I did not respond to her response because I figured she was politely telling me to get lost. Also, she's devoutly catholic and I told her that I was still an atheist -hence her PS response.

Thank you for the nice email. Definitely made me
smile. It's nice to know that you think highly of me.
I consider my "teen years" to be a bit of an
emarassment. I wasn't the person I could have been, or
should have been. I too made some mistakes back then.
And was, at times, a royal pain in the ass. It's nice
to know that you could see a good person there,
despite the teen angst.

PS - There's nothing wrong with being an atheist

A polite "get lost", right?

meme

So this exchange happened two years ago?

sponger

meme wrote:

So this exchange happened two years ago?

Yes and she was just recently married and it made me remember this e-mail.

PearlJamaholic

i would send it to the fbi i tried to decode it and all i got was

"zombie plague"
"new york"
"kill all humans"
"world peace"

Lukin66

uhhhhhhhh, okay...

meme

sponger wrote:

Yes and she was just recently married and it made me remember this e-mail.

Well, this is kind of pointless now then, but I would have considered it a fairly reasonable response to a marriage proposal coming through email from someone I have not seen in years . I don't think she meant "leave me alone and don't contact me again". Perhaps you could have earned some face time to get reacquainted and marry her eventually

sponger

meme wrote:

Well, this is kind of pointless now then, but I would have considered it a fairly reasonable response to a marriage proposal coming through email from someone I have not seen in years . I don't think she meant "leave me alone and don't contact me again". Perhaps you could have earned some face time to get reacquainted and marry her eventually

Wow, that is not what I wanted to hear.

I figured she was saying that I embarrass her because I remind her of mistakes that she's made. And I thought if she wanted to pursue further conversation, that she would've asked me a question to keep the conversation going...such as, "how have you been?"

OneLove

sponger wrote:

Wow, that is not what I wanted to hear.

I figured she was saying that I embarrass her because I remind her of mistakes that she's made. And I thought if she wanted to pursue further conversation, that she would've asked me a question to keep the conversation going...such as, "how have you been?"

Aww, I'm sorry. I think she was trying to leave the door open.... Any idea if she was already with her husband at this time?

sponger

OneLove wrote:

Aww, I'm sorry. I think she was trying to leave the door open.... Any idea if she was already with her husband at this time?

have no idea. but thanks.

OneLove

sponger wrote:

have no idea. but thanks.

Well, you can't live in regret. You spoke from your heart, you would be happy about that (seriuosly, how many people here have the stones to do that?...it took guts on your part). As for the result, just have faith that it is the way it should be. You may not know why right now..and I know thats a tough pill to swallow.

sponger

OneLove wrote:

Well, you can't live in regret. You spoke from your heart, you would be happy about that (seriuosly, how many people here have the stones to do that?...it took guts on your part). As for the result, just have faith that it is the way it should be. You may not know why right now..and I know thats a tough pill to swallow.

That's the thing...it was extremely difficult to type out those words on my keyboard. I was almost trembling at the idea of what a fool I was making out of myself by proposing to a woman with whom I have not had a conversation since she was 17.

So, even the slightest indication of her lack of interest was all I needed for me to drop the idea entirely and crawl back into my shell for awhile.

Ah, well, such is life. Thanks again. Now I fight the urge to hit the reply button on that e-mail.

meme

sponger wrote:

Wow, that is not what I wanted to hear.

I figured she was saying that I embarrass her because I remind her of mistakes that she's made. And I thought if she wanted to pursue further conversation, that she would've asked me a question to keep the conversation going...such as, "how have you been?"

I'm sorry... I am not saying she was anxiously waiting for you to respond so she could come over and accept your proposal . It doesn't do you any good to dwell in the past at this point.

sponger

meme wrote:

I'm sorry... I am not saying she was anxiously waiting for you to respond so she could come over and accept your proposal . It doesn't do you any good to dwell in the past at this point.

She called it her "teen years." That sounds like minimalization to me.

OneLove

sponger wrote:

That's the thing...it was extremely difficult to type out those words on my keyboard. I was almost trembling at the idea of what a fool I was making out of myself by proposing to a woman with whom I have not had a conversation since she was 17.

So, even the slightest indication of her lack of interest was all I needed for me to drop the idea entirely and crawl back into my shell for awhile.

Ah, well, such is life. Thanks again. Now I fight the urge to hit the reply button on that e-mail.

I am probably a bad influence, but I think you should email her again. You obviously feel very strongly about this. Make sure if you do it, it is for the right reasons (sorry, can't help you there).

Truely, everything happens with relationships for a reason. If the two of you were ment to be together, you will, if everyone is more honest than scared.

It couldn't hurt to email her, tell her congratulations...etc.

Have you just never stopped thinking about her?

I feel for you man.... chicks are complicated creatures (I know because I am one).

sweetpotato

sponger wrote:

I went a friend's wedding a couple of years ago and it compelled me to e-mail my ex-g/f from my high school days and ask her to marry me. I had not seen or talked to her in years.

I did not respond to her response because I figured she was politely telling me to get lost. Also, she's devoutly catholic and I told her that I was still an atheist -hence her PS response.




A polite "get lost", right?

mmm, i'm thinking the email marriage proposal was a red flag to her that screamed, "LOSER". :rolleyes:

OneLove

meme wrote:

I'm sorry... I am not saying she was anxiously waiting for you to respond so she could come over and accept your proposal . It doesn't do you any good to dwell in the past at this point.

No, don't dwell in the past....but do live genuinely in the present. If that means emailing her again, then do it.

If this is an outside influence issue (i.e. you just broke up witha girl.. or whatever else made you think of her again)...then maybe its not a good idea.

OneLove

sweetpotato wrote:

mmm, i'm thinking the email marriage proposal was a red flag to her that screamed, "LOSER". :rolleyes:

Ok, maybe the email marriage purposal was a bit extreme.

sponger

I don't have a phone number. Otherwise I would've called her.

You guys think I should e-mail her even though she's married now? She had this huge wedding Savannah Georgia and her catholic faith would not approve of a divorce.

meme

sponger wrote:

She called it her "teen years." That sounds like minimalization to me.

I think you were overreacting. Sounds like a statement of fact to me.

SENROCK

sponger wrote:

I went a friend's wedding a couple of years ago and it compelled me to e-mail my ex-g/f from my high school days and ask her to marry me. I had not seen or talked to her in years.

I did not respond to her response because I figured she was politely telling me to get lost. Also, she's devoutly catholic and I told her that I was still an atheist -hence her PS response.




A polite "get lost", right?

the chick sort of left the door open for you in a way. you snoozed huh?

meme

sponger wrote:

I don't have a phone number. Otherwise I would've called her.

You guys think I should e-mail her even though she's married now? She had this huge wedding Savannah Georgia and her catholic faith would not approve of a divorce.

Are you just taking us for a ride?

No, I don't think you should email her, nor do I think it remotely likely that she would divorce the husband she just married to accept your second email marriage proposal.