we already have at least three things in common...
we live in Seattle...
we are Pearl Jam fans...
the whole 'short term relationships in grocery lines' is where I shine socially as well
trivia every wednesday @ Fado... and I'm sure you'd be welcome to join us at a 'housewarming' in West Seattle on Friday
why don't you two arrange to meet in a grocery store first and see how that goes?
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
So, I started seeing a therapist and today she ordered me to make friends and/or join some sort of group or class or something.
I find this hilarious because just before I left to see her I received my latest book:
Party of One, The Loners' Manifesto - by Anneli Rufus
I'm still excited about my book.
I think to meet my therapist's orders, I'm going to start going to park work parties.
Oh, and if there is another Pearl Jam meet-up in the Seattle area, will somebody please come drag me out of my apartment and force me to go? I have been within feet of a Pearl Jam meet-up and have never had the guts to introduce myself to anybody.
I'm quiet and shy. If Jamainiac wasn't my girlfriend, I'm sure I'd go days without talking.
I'm sure we can have lots of uncomfortable silences!
Kidding....mostly....
You should try Fado (Irish Pub) on Wednesday nights (6:30pm'ish). 7 times out of 10 there's someone from the Message Pit there. Just look for the Alkiholics. (As in Alki Beach.....we're not a bunch of alcoholics.)
I'm quiet and shy. If Jamainiac wasn't my girlfriend, I'm sure I'd go days without talking.
I'm sure we can have lots of uncomfortable silences!
Kidding....mostly....
You should try Fado (Irish Pub) on Wednesday nights (6:30pm'ish). 7 times out of 10 there's someone from the Message Pit there. Just look for the Alkiholics. (As in Alki Beach.....we're not a bunch of alcoholics.)
Fado’s is less than a mile (DOWNHILL) from my apartment. I usually try to get drunk UPHILL from my apartment, so the walk home is easier, but...
I will definitely give Fado’s a try. Thanks! <Insert great big smile HERE>
why don't you two arrange to meet in a grocery store first and see how that goes?
Helen has a point here. Jams, Sennin – Where do you shop. Whole Foods anyone?
Everybody, thank you all so much for your kind, supportive words. You all are AWESOME!
BTW - I had to edit out emoticons, 'cause of the stupid board limits. Helen, both of yours went, because your humor translates well even without them. <Add another smile here>
Walking can be a real trip
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"We've laid the groundwork. It's like planting the seeds. And next year, it's spring." - Nader
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Prepare for tending to your garden, America.
Fado’s is less than a mile (DOWNHILL) from my apartment. I usually try to get drunk UPHILL from my apartment, so the walk home is easier, but...
I will definitely give Fado’s a try. Thanks! <Insert great big smile HERE>
Helen has a point here. Jams, Sennin – Where do you shop. Whole Foods anyone?
Everybody, thank you all so much for your kind, supportive words. You all are AWESOME!
BTW - I had to edit out emoticons, 'cause of the stupid board limits. Helen, both of yours went, because your humor translates well even without them. <Add another smile here>
thank you... I thought of you earlier when I was out having a cigarette and this cute guy came over smoking too. My mind went blank and we both kinda stood there looking at the ground. Talking about how cold it is only lasts a few seconds and then you're like 'hmmmmm.... hmmmmmm...hmmmmm' and I was kinda mumbling some shit til he finished the cigarette and said 'see ya around sometime' (part of the mumbling was that we're finished on this job next week) :eek:
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Fado’s is less than a mile (DOWNHILL) from my apartment. I usually try to get drunk UPHILL from my apartment, so the walk home is easier, but...
I will definitely give Fado’s a try. Thanks! <Insert great big smile HERE>
urban...here is your assignment: fado's wednesday nights, 6:30 pm. give it a go! you will have a BLAST with jams and sennin....and perhaps make future plans, more friends...and then who knew? whole flock of people to hang with, and perhaps a choice few new, close friends. :cool:
thank you... I thought of you earlier when I was out having a cigarette and this cute guy came over smoking too. My mind went blank and we both kinda stood there looking at the ground. Talking about how cold it is only lasts a few seconds and then you're like 'hmmmmm.... hmmmmmm...hmmmmm' and I was kinda mumbling some shit til he finished the cigarette and said 'see ya around sometime' (part of the mumbling was that we're finished on this job next week) :eek:
Ugh! I am not good at small talk. In my current position I have 1.5hr long appointments with (mostly) strangers. There are long stretches of quiet time during these appointments where we are just waiting for other folks to come back with decisions. Sometimes it's so quiet I have to excuse myself. I usually say I'm going to check on something for them or some BS like that. But really, I'm just escaping the silence. :eek:
I do have to laugh thinking you had a hard time coming up with something to say. It seems so unlike the impression I get from you here. He must be really cute.
Walking can be a real trip
***********************
"We've laid the groundwork. It's like planting the seeds. And next year, it's spring." - Nader
***********************
Prepare for tending to your garden, America.
urban...here is your assignment: fado's wednesday nights, 6:30 pm. give it a go! you will have a BLAST with jams and sennin....and perhaps make future plans, more friends...and then who knew? whole flock of people to hang with, and perhaps a choice few new, close friends. :cool:
and do remember, NY awaits too.
*imagines world with future plans and flocks of people*
*feels faint*
*starts to hyperventilate*
Just Kidding.
I like beer and I like Pearl Jam fans, so Fado's seems like a good fit.
I think dreams is in cahoots with my therapist.
Walking can be a real trip
***********************
"We've laid the groundwork. It's like planting the seeds. And next year, it's spring." - Nader
***********************
Prepare for tending to your garden, America.
You should try Fado (Irish Pub) on Wednesday nights (6:30pm'ish). 7 times out of 10 there's someone from the Message Pit there. Just look for the Alkiholics. (As in Alki Beach.....we're not a bunch of alcoholics.)
Oh I know that place! I used to love to go there when I lived in Seattle! I didn't know it was a pit hangout! Next time I go back I'll have to stop by!
Fado’s is less than a mile (DOWNHILL) from my apartment. I usually try to get drunk UPHILL from my apartment, so the walk home is easier, but...
I will definitely give Fado’s a try. Thanks! <Insert great big smile HERE>
Helen has a point here. Jams, Sennin – Where do you shop. Whole Foods anyone?
I have to get up at 5:45 most mornings....so getting drunk at Fado on a Wednesday night is rare. Only when we get visitors from afar does that happen.
Sometimes Whole Foods, sometimes at the new QFC near the Needle. We went to the Met Market the other day....it's ok. Mostly QFC and Pike Place though. We're down on Elliott, so Pike Place is only a couple blocks away. But I don't talk to people in lines, that's Jams.
I stand there silent most times, trying to avoid eye contact. I really like grocery shopping though.
I have to get up at 5:45 most mornings....so getting drunk at Fado on a Wednesday night is rare. Only when we get visitors from afar does that happen.
Sometimes Whole Foods, sometimes at the new QFC near the Needle. We went to the Met Market the other day....it's ok. Mostly QFC and Pike Place though. We're down on Elliott, so Pike Place is only a couple blocks away. But I don't talk to people in lines, that's Jams.
I stand there silent most times, trying to avoid eye contact. I really like grocery shopping though.
If I get drunk on weeknight, I think I'm risking waking up drunk. :eek: Still it's amazing how much steeper hills seem even after a couple of beers.
You guys have an awesome shopping selection at your end of town. I usually end up at the Harvard Market QFC. Too many damn hills to go anywhere else.
And I can be funny on the eye contact thing while I'm in the aisles shopping. I'm pretty sure I've walked right past one of my neighbors I talk to all of the time, because I never really looked directly at him. In my defense, I think I didn't recognize him, 'cause he was without his dog. Kind of a 'Clark Kent' effect. It was only on my way home that I was like, "Oh shit, I think I walked right past Schroeder's owner!" - Yeah, I don't actually know his name, just the dog's. hehe
Walking can be a real trip
***********************
"We've laid the groundwork. It's like planting the seeds. And next year, it's spring." - Nader
***********************
Prepare for tending to your garden, America.
i dont hate my "close"friends but goddamn we are lame. all we do is play video games,poker,get drunk & shit like that.
this summer i made some new friends who are more into productive stuff but all they do is go to the gym & dance clubs.
i dont think i've ever had any friends that are relative to my interest.that kind of friendship is hard to find.
in some ways your lucky. i am so confortable talking with everyone. my biggest problem is that when/if a women shows any interest in me i become so quiet that the women takes it that i am an asshole and then does not talk to me.
my old tharpist told me to break through these propblems by just acting the way i usally do. instead of listenning to her, what i have done is make an idea that it is better not to be in a relationship as it restricts my freedom.
now all my friend are married with children and i feel envious of them.
People demand freedom of speech to make up for the freedom of thought which they avoid."
- Soren Aabye Kierkegaard (1813-1855)
If you haven't got anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me."
- Alice Roosevelt Longworth (1884-1980)
I haven't been ordered, but I need more friends in boston. I only have like 2 friends I can actually hang out with here, and one of them has a boyfriend and the other one is dating someone and works all the time (and I don't have much in common with them). I have not a clue how one makes friends...I've tried all the usual classes/clubs/activities/friends of friends, etc, but I've never met anyone who actually translated into a hanging out buddy. All my friends are from college and grad school and scattered around the country. There are times when I just want to hang out and grab a drink or something but I have no one to call.
I mean how do you go from meeting someone at a party or where ever to actually feeling comfortable enough to hang out with them again? Plus as I get older, most of the people I meet seem to be married, and I don't really get how married people operate socially. I think making friends is even harder than dating. I don't understand how people meet people to date either, but at least there's match.com.
hey GTD, I live in MA but way far from Beantown. I did lived in Revere during 3rd grade.
i've lived in 6 different cities, 4 different states & 2 counties & i think it might be a reason why my social personality isnt good.
it's hard for me to open to people, especially new people.
Ugh! I am not good at small talk. In my current position I have 1.5hr long appointments with (mostly) strangers. There are long stretches of quiet time during these appointments where we are just waiting for other folks to come back with decisions. Sometimes it's so quiet I have to excuse myself. I usually say I'm going to check on something for them or some BS like that. But really, I'm just escaping the silence. :eek:
I do have to laugh thinking you had a hard time coming up with something to say. It seems so unlike the impression I get from you here. He must be really cute.
he wasn't gorgeous, but quite cute... but sometimes my mind just goes blank... and then when you struggle to think of something to say, all you think about is the struggle rather than actual words and it just makes it worse.
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
i dont hate my "close"friends but goddamn we are lame. all we do is play video games,poker,get drunk & shit like that.
this summer i made some new friends who are more into productive stuff but all they do is go to the gym & dance clubs.
i dont think i've ever had any friends that are relative to my interest.that kind of friendship is hard to find.
not in PJ land they're not. I never really had people who 'got me' til I started meeting people off this board. Well I always had friends but these ones are just different... I finally feel like I belong
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
I mean how do you go from meeting someone at a party or where ever to actually feeling comfortable enough to hang out with them again? Plus as I get older, most of the people I meet seem to be married, and I don't really get how married people operate socially. I think making friends is even harder than dating. I don't understand how people meet people to date either, but at least there's match.com.
I always think that friendships ARE relationships without the sex. I mean think about it! You have to find somebody... exchange numbers... bother to meet them again... hope they want to meet you again after that time... and take it from there... sometimes they even have to be maintained like relationships... falling outs can occur and either they're fixed or you go your separate ways.
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
So, I started seeing a therapist and today she ordered me to make friends and/or join some sort of group or class or something.
I find this hilarious because just before I left to see her I received my latest book:
Party of One, The Loners' Manifesto - by Anneli Rufus
I'm still excited about my book.
I think to meet my therapist's orders, I'm going to start going to park work parties.
Oh, and if there is another Pearl Jam meet-up in the Seattle area, will somebody please come drag me out of my apartment and force me to go? I have been within feet of a Pearl Jam meet-up and have never had the guts to introduce myself to anybody.
I'm so lame.
a while ago i had a fortune cookie given to me and my work colleague. my work colleague read out her's which was "you will become a great manager" or something along those lines.
i didn't want to read out mine, cause it hit home completely for me it said "you will only make friends, when you want them" or something very similar to this. i was fucking shocked, how the fuck did this cookie knew my problem??
hehe, anyway my point is you should find friends for yourself, not because of recommendation from your therapist. the real reason why you don't want to go to meet ups is because you didn't hit the rock bottom ( as they say ) .
don't worry this day will come.
oh and another advice, to hell with work colleagues......erm....i mean if you get on with them then fine go out, but if they are indifferent to you then don't go to all their bullshit "work parties"
Ah dear, I just went out for a cigarette and was about half way through when he came out again well I wasn't gonna make a fool of meself twice in two days so I pretended I was finished and just came back in :eek:
The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
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Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
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I'm a snob who keeps to myself.
I'm quiet and shy. If Jamainiac wasn't my girlfriend, I'm sure I'd go days without talking.
I'm sure we can have lots of uncomfortable silences!
Kidding....mostly....
You should try Fado (Irish Pub) on Wednesday nights (6:30pm'ish). 7 times out of 10 there's someone from the Message Pit there. Just look for the Alkiholics. (As in Alki Beach.....we're not a bunch of alcoholics.)
Fado’s is less than a mile (DOWNHILL) from my apartment. I usually try to get drunk UPHILL from my apartment, so the walk home is easier, but...
I will definitely give Fado’s a try. Thanks! <Insert great big smile HERE>
Helen has a point here. Jams, Sennin – Where do you shop. Whole Foods anyone?
Everybody, thank you all so much for your kind, supportive words. You all are AWESOME!
BTW - I had to edit out emoticons, 'cause of the stupid board limits. Helen, both of yours went, because your humor translates well even without them. <Add another smile here>
***********************
"We've laid the groundwork. It's like planting the seeds. And next year, it's spring." - Nader
***********************
Prepare for tending to your garden, America.
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
urban...here is your assignment: fado's wednesday nights, 6:30 pm. give it a go! you will have a BLAST with jams and sennin....and perhaps make future plans, more friends...and then who knew? whole flock of people to hang with, and perhaps a choice few new, close friends. :cool:
and do remember, NY awaits too.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
Ugh! I am not good at small talk. In my current position I have 1.5hr long appointments with (mostly) strangers. There are long stretches of quiet time during these appointments where we are just waiting for other folks to come back with decisions. Sometimes it's so quiet I have to excuse myself. I usually say I'm going to check on something for them or some BS like that. But really, I'm just escaping the silence. :eek:
I do have to laugh thinking you had a hard time coming up with something to say. It seems so unlike the impression I get from you here. He must be really cute.
***********************
"We've laid the groundwork. It's like planting the seeds. And next year, it's spring." - Nader
***********************
Prepare for tending to your garden, America.
*imagines world with future plans and flocks of people*
*feels faint*
*starts to hyperventilate*
I like beer and I like Pearl Jam fans, so Fado's seems like a good fit.
I think dreams is in cahoots with my therapist.
***********************
"We've laid the groundwork. It's like planting the seeds. And next year, it's spring." - Nader
***********************
Prepare for tending to your garden, America.
Oh I know that place! I used to love to go there when I lived in Seattle! I didn't know it was a pit hangout!
I have to get up at 5:45 most mornings....so getting drunk at Fado on a Wednesday night is rare. Only when we get visitors from afar does that happen.
Sometimes Whole Foods, sometimes at the new QFC near the Needle. We went to the Met Market the other day....it's ok. Mostly QFC and Pike Place though. We're down on Elliott, so Pike Place is only a couple blocks away. But I don't talk to people in lines, that's Jams.
I stand there silent most times, trying to avoid eye contact. I really like grocery shopping though.
Maybe they're one in the same. :eek:
5:45? That would be sleeping in for me. I have to get up by 4:15 to take the dogs for a walk so they don't eat the couch. http://s16.photobucket.com/albums/b48/2dogs4cats/Timber%20Mess/?action=view¤t=TimberMess.jpg
If I get drunk on weeknight, I think I'm risking waking up drunk. :eek: Still it's amazing how much steeper hills seem even after a couple of beers.
You guys have an awesome shopping selection at your end of town. I usually end up at the Harvard Market QFC. Too many damn hills to go anywhere else.
And I can be funny on the eye contact thing while I'm in the aisles shopping. I'm pretty sure I've walked right past one of my neighbors I talk to all of the time, because I never really looked directly at him. In my defense, I think I didn't recognize him, 'cause he was without his dog. Kind of a 'Clark Kent' effect.
***********************
"We've laid the groundwork. It's like planting the seeds. And next year, it's spring." - Nader
***********************
Prepare for tending to your garden, America.
Holy crap!
this summer i made some new friends who are more into productive stuff but all they do is go to the gym & dance clubs.
i dont think i've ever had any friends that are relative to my interest.that kind of friendship is hard to find.
EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
my old tharpist told me to break through these propblems by just acting the way i usally do. instead of listenning to her, what i have done is make an idea that it is better not to be in a relationship as it restricts my freedom.
now all my friend are married with children and i feel envious of them.
- Soren Aabye Kierkegaard (1813-1855)
If you haven't got anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me."
- Alice Roosevelt Longworth (1884-1980)
I mean how do you go from meeting someone at a party or where ever to actually feeling comfortable enough to hang out with them again? Plus as I get older, most of the people I meet seem to be married, and I don't really get how married people operate socially. I think making friends is even harder than dating. I don't understand how people meet people to date either, but at least there's match.com.
i've lived in 6 different cities, 4 different states & 2 counties & i think it might be a reason why my social personality isnt good.
it's hard for me to open to people, especially new people.
EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
I always think that friendships ARE relationships without the sex. I mean think about it! You have to find somebody... exchange numbers... bother to meet them again... hope they want to meet you again after that time... and take it from there... sometimes they even have to be maintained like relationships... falling outs can occur and either they're fixed or you go your separate ways.
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
a while ago i had a fortune cookie given to me and my work colleague. my work colleague read out her's which was "you will become a great manager" or something along those lines.
i didn't want to read out mine, cause it hit home completely for me it said "you will only make friends, when you want them" or something very similar to this. i was fucking shocked, how the fuck did this cookie knew my problem??
hehe, anyway my point is you should find friends for yourself, not because of recommendation from your therapist. the real reason why you don't want to go to meet ups is because you didn't hit the rock bottom ( as they say
don't worry this day will come.
oh and another advice, to hell with work colleagues......erm....i mean if you get on with them then fine go out, but if they are indifferent to you then don't go to all their bullshit "work parties"
haha, as for music you should listen to Pantera "Cowboys from hell" and imagine yourself to be that cowboy
http://youtube.com/watch?v=FV2xVvJddxY
btw, Pantera is a great metal band!! i love to listen to their heavy music especially after listening to a lot of Pearl Jam and soft rock bands
hmm... are you really? i know someone like that.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
Verona??? it's all surmountable
Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
Wembley? We all believe!
Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
Chicago 07? And love
What a different life
Had I not found this love with you
most people love to talk
about themselves.
Keep the direction of the conversation
pointed his way,
you can just stand quietly + nod.
Cheers.
Dunno. This place feels odd today (though could just be me)