Whats wrong whit ex-boyfriends??
esther1977
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I really really really hate mine at the moment. Finally after almost 2 years after my break up i find a new b-friend and things going nice and smooth, well so far we're been dating for 2 weeks. My stupid ex got the guts to tell me that he still loves me and wants me back. Now my new -b-friend dumped me cause he got in the way!! Hope it makes any sense im really pissed
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i'm not laughing at you directly, but rather at the situation. he must have a serious set of berries between his legs to do something like that. i'm recently dumped, as i'm sure you all know, and am a bit jaded right now when it comes to women.
but me...i would NEVER go crawling back to my girlfriend especially after 2 years. if anything, she is the one that is going to have to come back to me. and if ijust happen to be with another girl at the time, i'd tell her to get lost.
And if the other guy broke up with you because you started talking to an ex, than the new guy probably wasn't too interested.
Mine calls me at least 2x a week to tell me he cares still.. and I keep telling him that I dont feel the same, that altho I like him as friend, that's as far as the caring goes. good luck with your ex..
after sharing feelings, and sometimes intimate moments,that are more than a "freindly" level, it is tough for guys to accept the "i like you as a friend" line.
don't whine about your ex, whine about your current bf. the fact that an ex resurfaced should have no bearing on your relationship. it sounds to me like he was looking for an excuse to leave you anyway. unless you told him you still have feelings for the ex.
maybe you should stop leading him on by answering the phone and telling him you still want to have him in your life as a friend. guys cannot be just friends with exes... period. that's the way it goes. i know it's really easy for you women to just turn off your feelings for a guy on a dime, but we don't. any contact you have with him he is hoping he will say something to bring you back. he will never be your friend.
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what that line means is......
"i will no longer be fucking you....Now i may be fucking some of your friends.....hell i may be fucking ALL of your friends....I may even be banging you brother.....and if i get get drunk enough i may even sleep with your sister.......
but i will no longer be fucking you"
and thats all that bullshit line means................
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
in a nutshell...i think you have finally deciphered the true meaning of those words. but i think you can add in..."i still want to be friends with you so that i can continue to hurt you whilst fucking your friends..."
actually...
IT IS "YOU" WHO HAS FINALLY DECIPHERED THESE WORDS..........
i havent had a girl tell me that horseshit fucking line in over 20 years...
thank fucking god.....
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
ha ha 20 years from now, i hope i can say the same.
but we can both take credit for cracking the code!
but if you do....
when she says......"can we still be friends???"
look her right in the eye and say...."SURE!!! but can i still keep fucking your sister????"
Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
it's more insidious than that. the intention is not sadistic, it's selfish. the goal is not to hurt you, the goal is to keep you hanging around and lined up for a fallback if all of her friends end up married and she can't land another, better guy than you, in which case she will ask you to take her back. she will do this regardless of the damage it does to you. you're plan b, the backup, just in case. THAT is why she wants to stay friends, not becos she values you or feels she would miss you if you weren't.
haha, same old, same old, i think i've heard this advice before. but i'm definitely not arguing with you dear. in this situation i think you're right.
i don't know what happened between Earthgirl and one of her exes, but i think she also cares for him, it's just she doesn't think they are compatible together. If it's a violent, or destructive, or spark has has gone relationship then it's better to end it, but it doesn't mean she doesn't like him.
oh, maaan just read few other replies on your thread, i hope you don't take any notice of those guys. ( between me and you they're just sad )
what i don't understand is this: how can your ex-boyfriend ruin your relationship with the new guy?? if you started noticing that he was butting in then why didn't you change your mob. number?? or have you changed your mob. number and he was stalking you?
basically what did your ex do? did he call you or stalk you?
No it was my b-day party( well what a party) and we where at a pub, he was there, and just out of the blue he told me this. I walked away but then i text me . My new (well now old) did see this. In the morning when i was drinking my coffee (big hangover) ask me what he told me, but i didn't even had to tel him he figured it al out.
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and im with the guys on the ex thing. why do i want to talk to you when all it will cause is misery and inferiority complexes?
the one ex i stayed friends with is a great guy and we are waay better friends than lovers in the first place and the break up really was mutual coz we didnt want to stay in a relationship when we went to university.
Though I'll admit it still felt awkward when i told him bout me and the bf planning to move in together...and we left a massive gap of no contact after we broke up. So there are ups and downs to it.
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oh, i see. that sucks. But you did walk away, so your new boyfriend should've seen that you don't love your ex. i'm sorry for you, don't worry you'll find someone else
still applies though about him letting your past together go for the sake of yuor happiness, as the mother of his child, this should be his priority anyway,
it can get really complicated with kids involved because it takes a stong person to be able to enter into a relationship realising that their needs will be second to a childs. some people are so selfish its untrue.
i was with a guy whose ex was pregnant (he didnt tell me until we were quite serious) and in the end i walked away from the situation because i didnt feel i could stand in the way of them having a go at patching it up. it seemed to me that they still loved each other. I dont think they are together now but they talk and his little girl is gorgeous.
and on a different level, its hard to feel you can create a bond stronger than having a kid together when you first meet someone who has that history, though of course, not everyone thinks like that.
ah-ha... now the whole story. you made it sound like you had not heard from your ex in 2 years. now we hear you have a kid together. didn't the new guy know that? even so, your ex was drunk and feeling mopey and probably jealous. your current bf is over-reacting. unless you were dodgy about it. sounds to me like you might still have feelings about your ex and want it both ways.
do you see him regularly or something? the best thing you can do is ignore him, yes. talking to him only gives him vain hope.
exactly...the worst words a guy can hear from a girlfriend or ex-girlfriend is "i like you better as a friend." especially after a serious relaitonship has already taken place. there is not 1 rational guy in this world that would be ok with being friends after he has been dumped because the girl thinks of him as a friend.
any guy that says they are ok with it is lying.
things may work out to be friendly after some time but its not something that is going to blossom into a great friendship immediately.
that doesn't mean you have to answer his phone calls twice per week to listen to him spout off about still loving you and wanting to be with you again.