My sister walks the long road...

jlew24asu

I'm very sorry for your loss. my thoughts and prayers and with you. stay strong.

sweetpotato

it's very sad and i'm sure very painful for everyone who loved her. more than anyone, tho, her children have been deeply hurt. they will need lots of love and support and not a small amount of counseling at some point.

this song always catches me in my throat.


"Goodbye"

Occured to me the other day
You've been gone now a couple years
well, I guess it takes while
For someone to really disappear
And I remember where I was
When the word came about you
It was a day much like today
the sky was bright, and wide, and blue

And I wonder where you are
And if the pain ends when you die
And I wonder if there was
Some better way to say goodbye

Today my heart is big and sore
it's tryin' to push right through my skin
I won't see you anymore
I guess that's finally sinking in
'Cause you can't make somebody see
By the simple words you say
All their beauty from within
Sometimes they just look away

But I wonder where you are
And if the pain ends when you die
And I wonder if there was
Some better way to say goodbye

-patty griffin

jhpyeman

so sad .... sorry for the loss

dcfaithful

I've been having a difficult time lately thinking about my sister and all. How i miss her so so much...
It's 12:16 am right now, and I'm in bed with my girl, my dog, and I have to go to work tomorrow. I should be happy, and I am...but I'll never recover from the feeling of having something missing, and I struggle with revisiting my neice, nephews and my brother in-law in the wake of my sister.

All of your words, tributes, and sympathy has brought me to tears again...

I find it compelling to see compassion from people whom have never met myself, or my sister who to many of you is truly a stranger.
This is why I love and will never leave the Pearl Jam family, you guys are the best. Thanks for all the support you've left me. I'll be able to sleep at peace tonight.

-Dave

Commy

so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what that would be like. but yeah man, if I can do something to help you out I'll do it. she's better off I think.


peace.

Heineken Helen

dcfaithful wrote:

I've been having a difficult time lately thinking about my sister and all. How i miss her so so much...
It's 12:16 am right now, and I'm in bed with my girl, my dog, and I have to go to work tomorrow. I should be happy, and I am...but I'll never recover from the feeling of having something missing, and I struggle with revisiting my neice, nephews and my brother in-law in the wake of my sister.

All of your words, tributes, and sympathy has brought me to tears again...

I find it compelling to see compassion from people whom have never met myself, or my sister who to many of you is truly a stranger.
This is why I love and will never leave the Jamily, you guys are the best. Thanks for all the support you've left me. I'll be able to sleep at peace tonight.

-Dave

I'm so sorry Dave :( There's no 'understanding' or 'getting over' something like this. I hope one day that emptiness will be filled and can turn to fond memories though. I really can't imagine what you're going through.

dcfaithful

It's coming up on two years now, and if I could go back those two years to do anything to change what happened...I would.

I still come back to this thread to read all the posts whenever I'm thinking too hard about my sister and how much she is missed. Nothing can compare to the sound of her laughter...I still laugh just thinking abuot the sound of it...

Everyone here is wonderful. For everyone that has reached out and wrote something on this, just trying to be there for someone, thank you. A lot of people go through years in their life not believing that they've ever helped somebody through soemthing but everyone here as made a collective effort to help me find the courage to brave this subject, and I hope everyone that's posted on this subject knows that.

You guys are all friends and even though we really don't know one another, your thoughts are enough for me.

Thanks!

Heatherj43

What a wonderful tribute to your sister. It says a lot about her, and you too. Addiction is a tough disease and very few survive.
Someday, someway they will find a way, 'til then we can only pray. Pray for a cure. Pray for the day. Pray for the day a cure will come our way.
Thank you for sharing this with us. Many of us need to hear this. Many of us are addicted also. We need to be reminded that it is not only us that suffer.
For anyone who is also suffering, there are 12 step programs that do work if you work the program. Give it a shot. Not only for you, but your loved ones too.
Again, thank you for sharing this with us. My thoughts are with you, your family and your sister.
Love to you, Heather

LONGRD

dcfaithful wrote:

Hi everybody, I was just hoping I could get some people together to just drop a line, spin a record, and show some respects for a lost gem. Nicole Lee Clark (my sister), took her own life on June 27th, 2007.

She was a beautiful person, with a unbeatable soul. A loving wife and mother to four kids. She is survived by her husband, two brothers and her four kids (ages 12, 7 and twins age 2.)

My sister meant so much to me and is responsible for getting me into Pearl Jam, a band that has stolen my heart. She looked past her own misery to help others deal with theirs, she struggled with substance abuse for years but she will struggle no more.

I love and miss you Nicole.

Nicole Lee Clark
April 19th, 1977 - June 27th, 2007

Wow. I'm sorry.

Fifthelement

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

melodious

Sending renewal and peaceful thoughts for you and your family. It's amazing to me how our relationships with community boards provide so much strength and support.

love, melody

pearljgirl2010

I just happened upon your thread...and I hope you're doing ok. I'm glad you had had the opportunity to know your sister--I'm sure she gave you so many awesome memories and stories, which you get to have forever. When you're feeling down, try to think of something silly from when you two were little...and smile--she helped shape who you are now

dcfaithful

Bumping just to say:

Thanks again and again and again to all who've posted in this thread...still missing my sister but I come back and read this thread all the time when I'm down about it.

Thank you. You're all some of the best people. I absolutely love being a part of this board.



EDIT: Also, I dont' know why this is in AMT...shouldn't it be in AET? :?

WaveCameCrashin

I know we don't know each other,but Im very sorry for the loss of your sister. I couldn't imagine loosing mine. Im sure it's very hard around the hollidays. I hope it get's better for you and your family.

dcfaithful

prfctlefts wrote:

I know we don't know each other,but Im very sorry for the loss of your sister. I couldn't imagine loosing mine. Im sure it's very hard around the hollidays. I hope it get's better for you and your family.

Thanks a lot.

Time is the best medicine. I struggled for a long time with my anger towards her, but I realized that wasn't a good way to remember her. I've since then really done my best to understand what she must have been going through.

Holidays are okay...the fact of the matter is is that no one wants to bring up my sister, or even really remember her....no one chooses to talk about her, even the good memories...and it pisses me the fuck off. I finally spoke my mind about this year and to my surprise, my mom agreed with me 100%.

Pretty shitty how people think that just cause someone has a life long struggle and has decided to use drugs for an escape that they are no longer worthy of love, recognition or even respect...really shows how shallow and judging some people can be. No one is better than anyone else...the sooner these people realize that, the better...for their own sake.

g under p

dcfaithful wrote:

Bumping just to say:

Thanks again and again and again to all who've posted in this thread...still missing my sister but I come back and read this thread all the time when I'm down about it.

Thank you. You're all some of the best people. I absolutely love being a part of this board.



EDIT: Also, I dont' know why this is in AMT...shouldn't it be in AET? :?

dcfaithful I don't know how I missed this thread over the the years but I'd like to say I'm so sorry to hear about your sister. Stay strong for yourself and for her children, I hope they're dealing well with their mother's loss. It's a terrible loss no matter what age you are and it matters none what board you posted this, we all can feel sympathy in your loss.

Peace be with you and your family. Stay Human

Pepe Silvia

sorry about your and your families loss

gimmesometruth27

i am also sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. i think i missed this thread when you created it... i hope you and her children are hanging in there ok. that feeling of loss never goes away, but as you are realizing now, with time things do get a little easier. i hope that you see parts of your sis in her children, and that that will bring back good memories.

Wobbie

Wow, Dave..... I just stumbled upon this for the first time too .

Not much I can say other than I'm real sorry for your loss... just wanted to return some of the compassion you've shown me in the recent past. I can totally understand your anger, sadness and all the rest but you seem to be handling it better than most. Why? Probably because forgiveness is one of your strong suits. :thumbup:

Not really sure how you cope, but you do. We'll raise a toast to Nicole later this year.

Starfall

Her spirit must have been profoundly pained to have taken her own life. I shall hold her in my thoughts and prayers tonight.