Racial Slurrs .
josevolution
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i need some input on this people and please i need parents input ,my 13 yr old son today was called a few racial slurrs in school today. i'm spanish my wife american that makes him 1/2 chilean and he was born here he's in 6th grade, the names he was called were mexican nigger & spic and he reacted and 1 thing led to another he had to fight 1 of the kids and in turn got inschool suspension ,i'm livid this the second time he has complained to me about this kind of problem my ? what steps to take at this time if any, i did talk to the assistant principle today and i should say that the other kid who he fought with did get the same kind of inschool suspension .but not the kid who actually called him names since he wasn't the kid my son hit .........
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Don't be livid.. your son picks that up. Fighting is never the answer - though sometimes a fight can be hard to avoid. You have to help your son understand alot of things in this situation.. Look upon it as a good thing.. an opportunity to teach your son - and to communicate with him.
In my opinion, the racism involved is the smallest issue. these are kids doing what they do - while it is surely inappropriate 6th graders experiment with all kinds of insults... they are just kids learning - don't feel so much that you have to teach the other kids a lesson - focus on your sons learning - that is where you have the most influence
Sounds to me your son did the right thing. Someone called him a racially insensative name and he decked the kid. It's called standing up for yourself. It's called not getting pushed around. I'm willing to bet it will be the last time anyone calls him anything racially insensative, atleast while he's at school. It most certainly will boost his ego and gain some respect amongst his peers. Oh, and confidence.
Then again, I'm just a 24 year old nitwit. So anything I say can't be taken seriously. Just don't let folks tell ya he's going to turn into a thug and a murderer.
Also, I would be pretty ticked off myself over the kid who made the remarks getting off the hook. You should certainly let the school know "how you feel" about that.
"What I lack in decorum, I make up for with an absence of tact."
Camden 5-28-06
Washington, D.C. 6-22-08
insist that the slurer go through some sort of sensativity training.
They should try to educate him/her, and if that doesn't work, then they should suspend him!
Kids that age will make fun of each other over anything and everything. If he wasn't Hispanic, it would be his height or his weight or his hair or his nose or the clothes he wears or the way he runs or the house he lives in or the car his dad drives ......
I disagree with ThumbingMyWay32. I don't particularly care that the kid making the racist remarks got punched in the face. If you run around making remarks like that, eventually someone will hit you. But I don't think that's the last time anyone will do it. On the contrary, now they know it gets to him so it's a sore spot they can pick at. Unless he totally cleaned that kid's clock to the point where everyone is terrified, I think it's MORE likely to happen again because now they know how to push his buttons, and that's what middle school kids excel at.
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I didn't intend it to mean that he should run around punching every kid that makes fun of him. Rather I think kids at times need a reality check.
"Fighting is never the answer - though sometimes a fight can be hard to avoid. You have to help your son understand alot of things in this situation.. Look upon it as a good thing.. an opportunity to teach your son - and to communicate with him."
Essentially saying that he shouldn't be chided simply because of the fist fight. Sure, he doesn't need to be running around starting fights at the drop of a hat, but he should atleast get a firm hug for standing up to someone being a total prick. The first thing I would have thought about if some kid would have said that to me would have been my mother and father. And for that very reason, he would have probably received a swift knock to the jaw. I see a big difference in derogatory statements such as those and simply being called ugly, fat, short, stupid etc etc...
"What I lack in decorum, I make up for with an absence of tact."
Camden 5-28-06
Washington, D.C. 6-22-08
My daughter got suspended once for shoving some little brat who repeatedly flipped her skirt up after being asked to stop numerous times. I didn't feel that was deserving of punishment, so I took the day off and we made a holiday of it
The school should definitely be taking steps to control this situation. Racism (and sexism) should not be tolerated. The kid who set the whole thing off with his comments should absolutely have been suspended.
Don't be ashamed of giving your son that name. I believe that abu has the best idea on how to handle the situation. i would also talk to your son and reinforce in him that he should be proud of who he is and of his diverse heritage.
Yes, children will always pick on each other for this and that. But to call a child a spic and a Mexican nigger is so beyond wrong.
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all parties should probably be called to some seminar or discussion group as soon as posible and find out why the kid said it
i think things in usa will just get worse racially -maybe not
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I guess I would just teach him how to deal with the racism as you do. It's always gonna be out there in some form. It doesn't mean we need to accept it and tolerate it, but we also don't have to let it bother us so much that we have to fight. There should be a process for him to report it to a teacher at school, and if there isn't, that might be something you could push for.
As oppossed to what? The '60s?
I believe the country has come a very, very, very long way racially.
"What I lack in decorum, I make up for with an absence of tact."
Camden 5-28-06
Washington, D.C. 6-22-08
i didn't read through the whole thread, so maybe this has been said, but by fighting, he's going to help create a sterotype, then the kids'll start saying stuff like, well you know how they are, he's just hot tempered, and gets into fights etc
i think that the kid that called your kid names definetly should be punished.
once upon a time my mom got a call at work, she was a teacher, it was lunchtime, she was in the break room with the other teachers, so they transfer the call to the break room, my mom's away in a corner on the phone, and finds out that my bro got a suspension (he was in gr 6), my mom walks back to the other teachers, all upset, and the other teachers say 'is everything ok, what happened?' my mom says "my son just got suspended' (which she was very embarassed about), the other teachers say 'why' my mom says 'he called someone an asshole' the other teachers laugh and say "well, was he an asshole?' (at that school my mom was told to fuck off, and had a kid pee out the window onto the superintendent b/c my mom told him that he would have to wait to go to the bathroom). my point is that although fighting isn't great, your kid wasn't wrong, he got backed into a corner and reacted, something seriously needs to be done about that racist kid, because that ain't right. my question is where he learned those words
Albert Einstein
Of course, knowing when someone has to use the bathroom and when they don't is a lot like reading minds. But reguardless, it really got under my skin!
"What I lack in decorum, I make up for with an absence of tact."
Camden 5-28-06
Washington, D.C. 6-22-08
lol Sorry. I was responding to tara's story.
"What I lack in decorum, I make up for with an absence of tact."
Camden 5-28-06
Washington, D.C. 6-22-08