Personally, I'd rather the opinion of a developmental psychologist than my mother.
weren't you the one that said degrees and studying didn't mean shit and people can learn just fine on their own? now here you are saying any behavioral psych knows more about raising kids than a mom who's done it... you're aware those shrinks you worship so blindly all have degrees?
weren't you the one that said degrees and studying didn't mean shit and people can learn just fine on their own? now here you are saying any behavioral psych knows more about raising kids than a mom who's done it... you're aware those shrinks you worship so blindly all have degrees?
He did say his mother. We might finally be getting into some terroritory here on what makes Ahnimus click.
tell me how this works: You have a grievance counsellor who is working with people who have lost both thier parents. You are working in a group, there are about 15 people in this group, all have lost both their parents. I ask the counsellor " Have you lost anyone close to you?" She replies " No, but a friend of mine lost her grandmother last year and that was hard on her, I could tell."
I never went back. I just couldn't get past that and there fore wouldn't care about anything she had to say.
I feel some things you can only teach through life experiences.
ive got to kinda side with you on this one. when i was in rehab, it was very clear which counselors had been addicted and which ones had only studied it in a book. i couldn't take the latter very seriously. there are some experiences simply too personal to be understood by someone who hasn't been through it. that does not mean they cannot be very helpful by offering sympathy or a friendly ear. but if they get on a high horse and start telling you what you need to do instead of simpy trying to guide you to your own solution, i can see that not working.
He did say his mother. We might finally be getting into some terroritory here on what makes Ahnimus click.
Probably not, though.
ive already heard enough of his story to know what makes him tick and im just glad he lives on the other side of the continent from me. i dont wanna be his neighbor when they start digging up the bodies.
tell me how this works: You have a grievance counsellor who is working with people who have lost both thier parents. You are working in a group, there are about 15 people in this group, all have lost both their parents. I ask the counsellor " Have you lost anyone close to you?" She replies " No, but a friend of mine lost her grandmother last year and that was hard on her, I could tell."
I never went back. I just couldn't get past that and there fore wouldn't care about anything she had to say.
I feel some things you can only teach through life experiences.
wow.
yeah, good call.
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i had a counselor once who just really couldn't relate to what i was going thru. she downplayed things...belittled my fears and talked down to me...and basically told me a combination of antidepressants was the answer to ALL my problems that i had brought on myself. i wouldn't have pissed on her if she was on fire let alone trust her with anymore of me.
the one i replaced her with: amazing. she specifically counsels people in my position (and their families). while she hasn't had my problem personally, she trained in that area n that's all she's done for 20 years so she understands the total mind fuck a diagnosis does. she is SO good, i really don't need her anymore (and i did it antidepressant free)...but i keep her around for 'emergencies'.
so yeah, i agree counseling works best when the counselor has experience...whether it be life experience or from mass time spent in that particular area (your grief counselor doesn't sound like she has either). and of course, you have to click with the person too. if you don't like the person how can you lay trust on them and give them pieces of you usually kept hidden?
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weren't you the one that said degrees and studying didn't mean shit and people can learn just fine on their own? now here you are saying any behavioral psych knows more about raising kids than a mom who's done it... you're aware those shrinks you worship so blindly all have degrees?
He did say his mother. We might finally be getting into some terroritory here on what makes Ahnimus click.
Probably not, though.
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ive got to kinda side with you on this one. when i was in rehab, it was very clear which counselors had been addicted and which ones had only studied it in a book. i couldn't take the latter very seriously. there are some experiences simply too personal to be understood by someone who hasn't been through it. that does not mean they cannot be very helpful by offering sympathy or a friendly ear. but if they get on a high horse and start telling you what you need to do instead of simpy trying to guide you to your own solution, i can see that not working.
ive already heard enough of his story to know what makes him tick and im just glad he lives on the other side of the continent from me. i dont wanna be his neighbor when they start digging up the bodies.
wow.
yeah, good call.
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So you spend alot of time feeling guilty then, eh?
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the one i replaced her with: amazing. she specifically counsels people in my position (and their families). while she hasn't had my problem personally, she trained in that area n that's all she's done for 20 years so she understands the total mind fuck a diagnosis does. she is SO good, i really don't need her anymore (and i did it antidepressant free)...but i keep her around for 'emergencies'.
so yeah, i agree counseling works best when the counselor has experience...whether it be life experience or from mass time spent in that particular area (your grief counselor doesn't sound like she has either). and of course, you have to click with the person too. if you don't like the person how can you lay trust on them and give them pieces of you usually kept hidden?