question for the parents.....

SPEEDY MCCREADY

is it ok for you to smoke dope with your child,niece,nephew.....if this child is under the age of 18????

just curious....i have a friend of mine who i think is so fucking out of line that it sickens me.....

but i am curious to what others think....

the child in question is 17.....

Drowned Out

there is no black and white answer to this question.
I don't think it's a good idea.
But would I think a friend was so out of line that they sickened me over it? nah...

Lizard

i think it is pretty effed up and pretty damn black and white too.

(I have 2 sons: 16 and 19)

Drowned Out

I should clarify that the grey area is determined by the kid's maturity and the other things going on in their lives.

I know a lot of people that would give their kids a beer or glass of wine at that age without the social stigma and venom that is about to be spewed in this thread...

SPEEDY MCCREADY

Drowned Out wrote:

there is no black and white answer to this question.
I don't think it's a good idea.
But would I think a friend was so out of line that they sickened me over it? nah...

smoking dope with your daughter who is 17 ............

just kinda sickens me.....

when/if i become a parent and the day comes when i light up some illegal drugs to smoke with my 17 year old daughter.....

i hope to god someone takes a fucking baseball bat to my head.....because i would fucking deserve it.....

Drowned Out

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

smoking dope with your daughter who is 17 ............

just kinda sickens me.....

when/if i become a parent and the day comes when i light up some illegal drugs to smoke with my 17 year old daughter.....

i hope to god someone takes a fucking baseball bat to my head.....because i would fucking deserve it.....

Deal

DeLukin

I have to agree that it's pretty black and white. There is no way a parent should participate in that kind of thing. Maybe turn a blind eye or not be too judgemental if they experiment on their own, but I definitely don't think it's a good idea to help your kid break the law or get into something that could lead to major problems down the road.

Jeanie

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

is it ok for you to smoke dope with your child,niece,nephew.....if this child is under the age of 18????

just curious....i have a friend of mine who i think is so fucking out of line that it sickens me.....

but i am curious to what others think....

the child in question is 17.....

I'm not a parent Speedy, but I struggle when my niece comes outside to talk to me or be around me when I'm smoking cigarettes. I don't want her anywhere near me when I'm smoking but I don't want to make a big deal out of it either, which could backfire making it seem mysterious and cool to her. A problem that is becoming a reality because her Nana gives her lolly cigarettes and even make believe lights them for her. :mad:
I also had a friend who had no problem buying her 16 teenage son alcohol, including a slab for his 17th birthday. She has no problem with him drinking as long as he's home and he doesn't drive. I spent one evening at a party at their house and after seeing how there is no effort to stop him drinking underage and there was even encouragement to a degree, I have to say I'm still feeling guilty for just being at the party and getting drunk myself in his presence and I'm not the parent. I can't then see me ever wishing to smoke MJ with my niece or anybody else that is underage, and I certainly wouldn't be encouraging it but it would depend on the circumstances, like whether or not I knew the age of the people I was smoking with.

Drowned Out

I have to chuckle that people mention the age of consent as any kind of guideline, when it's illegal for everyone. If you are concerned about giving the wrong impression, age shouldn't make a difference. The only reason I think age matters is for development...but like I said, I don't see half the social stigma to a toke off a joint that I do with a glass of wine, which is hypocritical. That said, neither is a good idea.

tybird

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

smoking dope with your daughter who is 17 ............

just kinda sickens me.....

when/if i become a parent and the day comes when i light up some illegal drugs to smoke with my 17 year old daughter.....

i hope to god someone takes a fucking baseball bat to my head.....because i would fucking deserve it.....

I agree with you.......it's truly fucking sad what your friend is doing.

g under p

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

smoking dope with your daughter who is 17 ............

just kinda sickens me.....

when/if i become a parent and the day comes when i light up some illegal drugs to smoke with my 17 year old daughter.....

i hope to god someone takes a fucking baseball bat to my head.....because i would fucking deserve it.....

It's sort of like having sex with your 1st cousin, some do it but it's just not a very good idea. Something just not right about doing that.

There's no age limit on it either, I could be 60 and daughter could be 30 I STILL wouldn't do it. At that stage I would be thinking of the grandchildren.

I hope it all works out for ya.

Peace

lalalalaaaaaaaa

If I smoked weed, then I would yeah. I'd rather do that than appear as a hypocrite to my daughter. Showing kids that you're a hypocrite does a lot more damage to them than weed will. I know that when I realized my parents were hypocritical about lots of stuff, our relationship was never the same after that.

Pearler

can you ask the friend to get me a $50.00 bag please ?

somebodyelsessky2020

it's screwed up imo.

Drowned Out

Saturnal wrote:

If I smoked weed, then I would yeah. I'd rather do that than appear as a hypocrite to my daughter. Showing kids that you're a hypocrite does a lot more damage to them than weed will. I know that when I realized my parents were hypocritical about lots of stuff, our relationship was never the same after that.

That's a good point. I found out one of my parents was hiding mj use from me when I was about 16, after years of being lectured against it. It made me more rebellious and curious about drugs in general. I have two kids and I struggle with how to deal with this when they get older.

Later in life (mid-20's) this parent finally admitted it and pulled one out for us to share... I see it as no different than having a couple drinks while enjoying each other's company.

brain of c

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

is it ok for you to smoke dope with your child,niece,nephew.....if this child is under the age of 18????

just curious....i have a friend of mine who i think is so fucking out of line that it sickens me.....

but i am curious to what others think....

the child in question is 17.....

fuck no.

josevolution

no my son is 13 and i can't see me lighting up with him at no age, maybe share a beer when he turns 18 but by then he most likely will have allready tried both by himself ,remember folks when you first tried smoking ,drinking it was most likely with friends ........

QuarterToTen

totally irresponsible behavior to smoke dope in front of your child at any age, especially teenagers.
parents are supposed to be role models. under no circumstances would i ever considered this to be acceptable.
what a shame.

i feel sorry for the kid.

Nothingman54

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

is it ok for you to smoke dope with your child,niece,nephew.....if this child is under the age of 18????

just curious....i have a friend of mine who i think is so fucking out of line that it sickens me.....

but i am curious to what others think....

the child in question is 17.....

I would never smoke with my child. I used to smoke with my mom when I was 18 or so and I have a friend or 2 that their parents did the same thing and they have the best relationships. I have never seen parent and son more close. But I would not smoke with my kid......well if he was 30 or so and said hey dad lets smoke a fattie and then I may. Just because its lillegal dosnt mean it wrong or bad.

soulsinging

pushing it on them is not cool. but if the kid's already a smoker, i see no harm in in having a few tokes with him.

Nothingman54

soulsinging wrote:

pushing it on them is not cool. but if the kid's already a smoker, i see no harm in in having a few tokes with him.

I agree.