Incident at Nashville with 2 idiots

Mquinn1019

If you are in the Facebook group then you might have seen this post already. If not then here’s a quick recap when heading back to our seats after getting a beer during Rats. I see my friend a few seats away talking to guys at the end of the row. He said one of the guys grabbed his ass and then he was confused and said why the f would you do that and the other guys friend said “cuz your sexy”
My buddy held restraint and didn’t punch him because he didn’t want us to get thrown out or arrested, but I wouldn’t have blamed him if he did. 

After posting this on the Facebook group a lot of women posted this has happened to them many times, which is just horrible. I also got comments from people saying he should have punched the guy. It was a weird situation and we were both in shock.
Sorry if I shouldn’t posted it here, but I wanted to spread the word that people can be assholes. To all the people this has happened to before my heart goes out to you. To Ten Club moderators if you can revoke their membership I would appreciate that. If not at least I tried thanks for reading.

mcgruff10

That’s absolutely terrible.  Ugh people suck.   

AlaG

If someone gropes you, you a have a legal right to punch them in the face and then some. Unfortunately this is a situation where people working the event might not have believed your friend and proceeded to kick out the wrong person.

That’s fucked up. Sorry this happened to him.

Falling Down

Disgusting. Party all you want, but keep your hands where they should. 

This being said, why did you leave for a beer during Rats? 

Mquinn1019

Yeah it was a shocking moment to say the least and I think that’s why my friend was worried about if he retaliated we would be the ones kicked out.

As for Rats sorry not the biggest fan of that one lol.

GlowGirl

AlaG said:

If someone gropes you, you a have a legal right to punch them in the face and then some. Unfortunately this is a situation where people working the event might not have believed your friend and proceeded to kick out the wrong person.

That’s fucked up. Sorry this happened to him.

I am really sorry to hear this happened. It feels so demeaning and such a violation. I can't tell you how many times I have wanted to punch a guy in the face for grabbing at me. A bouncer once lifted up a guy and physically tossed him out the door for grabbing me where Trump says it's ok to grab women and we would like it. It is not ok, and we don't like it!

TinaE

Oh man, that's disgusting!! I like to wear sturdier shoes to concerts. I probably would have "accidentally" stepped on the guy's toes...

CROJAM95

Some people should be recorded when drunk/high...then shown, I bet many would never drink again. Im always happy, chill....if i was aggressive or a douche, id check myself before i wreck myself

lotta assholes out there

Gern Blansten

That happened to my wife before....we were in a standing room only area and exited to go hang out at the back. Some guy grabbed her ass on the way by. With that many people around it is about impossible to even know who did it.

People are fucking weird

RatherStarved

Mquinn1019 said:

If you are in the Facebook group then you might have seen this post already. If not then here’s a quick recap when heading back to our seats after getting a beer during Rats. I see my friend a few seats away talking to guys at the end of the row. He said one of the guys grabbed his ass and then he was confused and said why the f would you do that and the other guys friend said “cuz your sexy”
My buddy held restraint and didn’t punch him because he didn’t want us to get thrown out or arrested, but I wouldn’t have blamed him if he did. 

After posting this on the Facebook group a lot of women posted this has happened to them many times, which is just horrible. I also got comments from people saying he should have punched the guy. It was a weird situation and we were both in shock.
Sorry if I shouldn’t posted it here, but I wanted to spread the word that people can be assholes. To all the people this has happened to before my heart goes out to you. To Ten Club moderators if you can revoke their membership I would appreciate that. If not at least I tried thanks for reading.

“I wanted to spread the word that people can be assholes”

This is news?

tusevun

He must work out

Mquinn1019

Jesus I’m sorry GlowGirl and Gern that this happened to your wife. People are definitely weird.

Yeah I know sadly this type of stuff happens all the time it’s just a shame and takes away from a fun night. 

MayDay10

Wrigley 2 in 2018 was really gropey and creepy in the GA area.  Very uncomfortable.


You retaliate there, you are basically agreeing to leave.  Security wont care, they will remove and/or arrest anyone involved unless you had like 20 people vouching for you... but unfortunately hardly anyone sees a fanny-grab.

JH6056

MayDay10 said:

Wrigley 2 in 2018 was really gropey and creepy in the GA area.  Very uncomfortable.


You retaliate there, you are basically agreeing to leave.  Security wont care, they will remove and/or arrest anyone involved unless you had like 20 people vouching for you... but unfortunately hardly anyone sees a fanny-grab.

And if you're a short or wiry woman, "retaliation" also can feel like a very unwise risk. I've wanted to throw my drink at a jerk or hit them with a bottle so many times... but obviously I'd lose any fight that might result from that. It's maddening how much crap assholes in a GA pit or in a dark arena can get away with. I don't want sexual harassment to happen to anyone, male or female. But I gotta say, when it does happen to men, the outrage they feel and other men feel for them is enlightening, because this really DOES happen all the time to women and sometimes it sounds like guys had no idea it was so invasive or messed up until it happened to another guy. But it shouldn't happen to anyone, and all outrage about it is justified and needed.

cincybearcat

Gern Blansten said:

That happened to my wife before....we were in a standing room only area and exited to go hang out at the back. Some guy grabbed her ass on the way by. With that many people around it is about impossible to even know who did it.

People are fucking weird

That is such a low move by someone.  WTH....

bbiggs

Such obnoxious and unacceptable behavior. 

This is nowhere near as bad as what the OP describes, but in general, the lack of common courtesy in GA can be pretty bad.  I've been in GA for many, many shows, and I realize what comes with that.  However, when someone is physically pressing up against you and not budging, it drives me nuts.  I don't need someone touching my entire arm during the show.  Can they not feel that they're pressing up against another body?  I mean, c'mon.  Things are going to be tight, especially up close, but the smallest amount of personal space where you're not pressed up against a stranger's body for multiple hours is not too much to ask.  In Nashville, things were great.  People were cool and no sweaty arms pressed against me.  In St. Louis, it was awful.  Not only did I have a body touching mine for 5 hours, these two sloppy drunk, immature ladies kept pushing in front of people nearby, including me.

There are a lot of clowns in GA. 

GlowGirl

bbiggs said:

Such obnoxious and unacceptable behavior. 

This is nowhere near as bad as what the OP describes, but in general, the lack of common courtesy in GA can be pretty bad.  I've been in GA for many, many shows, and I realize what comes with that.  However, when someone is physically pressing up against you and not budging, it drives me nuts.  I don't need someone touching my entire arm during the show.  Can they not feel that they're pressing up against another body?  I mean, c'mon.  Things are going to be tight, especially up close, but the smallest amount of personal space where you're not pressed up against a stranger's body for multiple hours is not too much to ask.  In Nashville, things were great.  People were cool and no sweaty arms pressed against me.  In St. Louis, it was awful.  Not only did I have a body touching mine for 5 hours, these two sloppy drunk, immature ladies kept pushing in front of people nearby, including me.

There are a lot of clowns in GA. 

I did 4 GAs this tour, and I agree that St. Louis was the worst. For the other shows I felt like I had enough personal space, and not a lot of pushing or being pressed up too close to anyone. But St. Louis felt a bit more crowded, with people not respecting your spot. 

CROJAM95

Cali/West coast GA different world than East Coast

I did 3 total....LA1, SD, & MSG.....MSG was the most annoying, but not terrible. Common Sense goes a long way....but when you get in the MSG pit and some even bro with his "CREW" saying hello....oh yea BTW we just took a bunch of shrooms, they tend to bump into you more often than the rest of the people

PK Subban was rocking out near us...that was fun

Gern Blansten

bbiggs said:

Such obnoxious and unacceptable behavior. 

This is nowhere near as bad as what the OP describes, but in general, the lack of common courtesy in GA can be pretty bad.  I've been in GA for many, many shows, and I realize what comes with that.  However, when someone is physically pressing up against you and not budging, it drives me nuts.  I don't need someone touching my entire arm during the show.  Can they not feel that they're pressing up against another body?  I mean, c'mon.  Things are going to be tight, especially up close, but the smallest amount of personal space where you're not pressed up against a stranger's body for multiple hours is not too much to ask.  In Nashville, things were great.  People were cool and no sweaty arms pressed against me.  In St. Louis, it was awful.  Not only did I have a body touching mine for 5 hours, these two sloppy drunk, immature ladies kept pushing in front of people nearby, including me.

There are a lot of clowns in GA. 

We were seated at Nashville but in the crowd for Louisville. We were pretty far back though....great sound and great view of the screens...so I was surprised that this fucking moron was on my ass for about 20 minutes. He just kept bumping into me and, while there were a lot of people standing around, it wasn't like GA...I don't understand people like that. Maybe I'm too sensitive but it just bugs the shit out of me because I would notice if I was doing it and I would be conscious of possibly bothering someone.

PJ_Soul

Yes, it really sucks when this happens. I have been groped by strangers many times (and not just my butt). The problem for women is if you punch a guy, you could be putting yourself in much greater danger if the man is stronger and decides to punch back. So women don't always have too many options. I have called out men who did it to me, and once the other men in the crowd around me beat the shit out of the guy for me, which was lovely. I have also just gone straight to security when it's happened, and security WILL kick someone out who is accused of that. So if it ever happens again, don't start a fight. Just report them to security and have them ejected from the venue!

trees

Yes I apologize for the Men I meant, punks that did that if I was there I would have got a seating attendant and had them removed  .yeh I had some tall punk hit  me in the back of the head at pearl jam 20 .he knows who he is .and I think he is on hear .if i ever see him again he and I are going to have a talk about why