PJ fans in 12 step Recovery

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  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    mickeyrat said:
    XVII
    Congratulations Mickey.  Here’s to XVII more!  
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  • F Me In The Brain
    F Me In The Brain this knows everybody from other commets Posts: 31,823
    Congratulations,  your commitment is amazing.
    The love he receives is the love that is saved
  • Loujoe
    Loujoe Posts: 11,759
    Way to go!! My bud just celebrated close to 60 years sober. Big time AA active all those years.
  • Poncier
    Poncier Posts: 17,894
    mickeyrat said:
    XVII
    Excellent.
    This weekend we rock Portland
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,532
    Loujoe said:
    Way to go!! My bud just celebrated close to 60 years sober. Big time AA active all those years.

    do a twice a year conference. the summer one this fella shows up been sober since 57 or 58 when he was 21 years old.....


    17 years is the longest continuous sobriety in my entire life. first drink/drunk at 13, regular drinker by 16.......
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  • GlowGirl
    GlowGirl New York, NY Posts: 12,122
    mickeyrat said:
    XVII
    Congrats!!  That is awesome. 
  • Hobbes
    Hobbes Pacific Northwest Posts: 6,438
    Congrats, mick! You rock!
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,915
    Nothing but respect for you Mickey and all who manage to keep winning against alcohol 


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • Halifax2TheMax
    Halifax2TheMax Posts: 42,366
    You know Hedo is proud of you too, right? Don’t forget that.
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  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,532
    edited April 2023
    Halifax2TheMax said:
    You know Hedo is proud of you too, right? Don’t forget that.

    her absence in here is noticed. and not just today.although its felt a little deeper....
    Post edited by mickeyrat on
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    Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
    you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
    memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
    another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,532
    Little unexpected gift of the AA program. Walk out of my house to go to work this evening and there's six Patrol officers and one sergeant Milling about at the end of my neighbor's driveway. I asked if everything's all right they respond oh yeah. Then without a care in the world I get in my truck and leave.

    See the thing is, when you're trying to live right when no one's looking , you're not worried about when people are.....
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    Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
    you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
    memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
    another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,915
    I like that. I now drive without any fear of police or any wrong doing from drinking the day before. And I drive in the evening whenever I want. Sober has lots of plus points


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,521
    have had two meetings at AFM (Addictions Foundation of Manitoba). not sure yet where this is going to take me. 
    By The Time They Figure Out What Went Wrong, We'll Be Sitting On A Beach, Earning Twenty Percent.




  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,915
    Keep it up mate. Any help is good help


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • Poncier
    Poncier Posts: 17,894
    HughFreakingDillon said:
    have had two meetings at AFM (Addictions Foundation of Manitoba). not sure yet where this is going to take me. 
    Best of luck with whatever you want to accomplish and remember there are plenty of us here to talk (type) to if you feel the need.
    This weekend we rock Portland
  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,521
    Poncier said:
    HughFreakingDillon said:
    have had two meetings at AFM (Addictions Foundation of Manitoba). not sure yet where this is going to take me. 
    Best of luck with whatever you want to accomplish and remember there are plenty of us here to talk (type) to if you feel the need.
    thanks!
    By The Time They Figure Out What Went Wrong, We'll Be Sitting On A Beach, Earning Twenty Percent.




  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,532
    What are you looking to address hugh?
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    Not today Sir, Probably not tomorrow.............................................. bayfront arena st. pete '94
    you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
    memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
    another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,521
    mickeyrat said:
    What are you looking to address hugh?
    I'm a weekend warrior. Drink to excess every weekend (about a 40 of whiskey every friday/saturday evenings). Usually alone watching tv or listening to music or whatever. We have two teenage girls who see their dad eventually "fall asleep" watching tv. 

    I always rationalized it wasn't a problem because my trigger isn't stress or depression, and I don't "crave" it in the sense that everyone talks about in movies and tv. During the week I might have a beer or a glass of wine with dinner, and stop there, no issue. In my deepest pit of depression, I actually didn't touch the stuff. I like to drink when I'm in a good mood. When my wife stopped partying (when we had kids), I never stopped. 

    My sister's husband died of alcoholism about 8 years ago. Very quick progression from moderately problem drinker to homelessness and death (I actually always saw my sister as more of a problem than him-I guess cuz she can be a bitch when she drinks but it doesn't go farther than that). Another rationalization "I'm not (BIL)". 

    I don't abuse anyone, I'm not angry or say nasty things. I'm pretty normal, except obviously tipsy. 

    We talked to the kids about it last week, and while they knew what I was doing, they didn't think it was a problem of any kind. I told them it's not normal behaviour, and it's unlikely most of their friends' dads/parents do the same. 

    My intake meeting was fine. Filled out the forms of what my patterns are, etc. chatter with her for about an hour about life.Then I had my first counselor meeting on Monday. My wife's counselor told her that if I didn't want to completely abstain, I could do what it called "harm reduction". My counselor, after telling him about my progression over the years and my pattern, that it would be virtually impossible for me to succeed at that. And that I should go to an AA meeting that night, and this is how I think and this is what I do and this is what I'm going to do in the future, etc. 

    I'm like "woah, dude, slow down". One thing I don't like, is people putting me in a box. I know that I'm probably already in that box, but I don't like being told I'm there. I resist that in all facets of life. I know. it's a liability. I like to think I'm pretty self aware, for all my faults, I know there are things I obviously don't know, but I don't tell me what I'm "going to do" and that it's "beyond your control". I know the first step is acceptance and all that. I know it's an issue. But I like to think that maybe there are some things I can accomplish on my own? I don't know. 

    But as I said, I have a BIG problem with control. for the longest time, I thought (and to an extent, still think) it's my wife trying to control how I act and what I do. Yeah, I know what I'm doing isn't healthy, and not great for the kids to see. But she just goes so apeshit into everything; there's no grey; it's "you need to go to a 28 day in house program". I'm like "FUCK OFF, that's absurd". Does someone who can do Sober October of his own volition (and no friends or bets involved) with no issue need to be committed? Um, no. 

    So I'm not sure what to do. I start holidays this weekend and we'll be at the lake and happy hour is 3pm to midnight pretty much every day. I know there's no "right time" to quit, but if ever there a WRONGEST time, it's now. 
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  • lastexitlondon
    lastexitlondon Posts: 14,915
    I was a drinker when I was good or happy and I also didn't drink when at my worst mentally.  It really helped me being sober to not be so emotional and upset when I'm down. More rational now but ironically have health issues now and I'm sober WITH them so I feel proud but sad as I want to fly and move forward but alas I cannot at the moment. But good on you HFD make whatever changes you feel you want to. For you!


    this song is meant to be called i got shit,itshould be called i got shit tickets-hartford 06 -
  • Spunkie
    Spunkie i come from downtown. Posts: 7,095
    edited October 2023
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    Animals were hiding behind the Coral 
    Except for little Turtle
    I could swear he's trying to talk to me 
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